My first post and it is a vent. Do you guys accept random friend requests? I have a feeling that 90% of random friend requests are from people just looking for photos. Isn't there an easier way to look at nude photos then coming here? I am amazed at the amount of friend requests we get where people must not be reading our profile.
Ending vent.
Ending vent.
LOL Read my profile. I feel your pain.
i read profiles and look at pics . dont accept friend requests from those that dont at least message me and say hello . plus i would like to know why there interested . some people are just looking for ego gratification by seeing who has the most friends .
I currently have 41 requests sitting in my que because they so obviously can't read. Well no thats not entirely true, there are at least 2 that will most likely get approved if i can ever get the Mr to look at them because we dont accept without consulting the other! 
So lets say there are currently 39 non readers in my friend request que! LOL
So lets say there are currently 39 non readers in my friend request que! LOL55 sitting in mine for the same reasons...lol..either can't read, out of state, no accompanying email, etc, etc....*sigh* same 'ol, same 'ol...I spell it out pretty clear in my profile...and I got tired of denying them just to have them sent again so as long as they sit there they can't send another...kisses...Naugh-Ty
I have a que too....normally I just deny and block them.
Im not a friend collector so if they can't/don't read and they send me a friend request I have no use for them. Period.
Im not a friend collector so if they can't/don't read and they send me a friend request I have no use for them. Period.
i am so new here.. i don't know how to go open getting to know people on here. It's sure a bitch being a single guy on a swinger site. the fakes and the creeps makes it hard for the good guys. I can see your point on not wanting to accept random invites.
as for me i am guilty of this...It's more easy to break the ice knowing that they accepted your request over putting all this thought into a email that may never be replied too. guess i am just lazy about it lol. But i am a happier note the few i meet and talked too was very nice. But ill keep that in mind for the future.. i don't want to be blocked.. i am too fun for that now
as for me i am guilty of this...It's more easy to break the ice knowing that they accepted your request over putting all this thought into a email that may never be replied too. guess i am just lazy about it lol. But i am a happier note the few i meet and talked too was very nice. But ill keep that in mind for the future.. i don't want to be blocked.. i am too fun for that now
I will never make an approval with no intro and email photo of both people or single lady involved in the lifestyle. Fair is fair My profile shows my current photo!
JUSTINCREDIBLE wrote:
i am so new here.. i don't know how to go open getting to know people on here. It's sure a bitch being a single guy on a swinger site. the fakes and the creeps makes it hard for the good guys. I can see your point on not wanting to accept random invites.
as for me i am guilty of this...It's more easy to break the ice knowing that they accepted your request over putting all this thought into a email that may never be replied too. guess i am just lazy about it lol. But i am a happier note the few i meet and talked too was very nice. But ill keep that in mind for the future.. i don't want to be blocked.. i am too fun for that now
You don't have to put your heart and soul into an introductory email. Just be yourself express your interest and put something in your email to verify that you actually read that person or couple's profile. Keep it brief and if they don't respond then move on. Trust me, as a single guy that has been on here for a bit over 3 years you don't want to get a rep as the guy sending blind friend requests. Also, it never hurts to attend some of the meet and greets and let people get to know you.
We have alot of friends we have yet to meet. We always read the profiles and of course we love the pics. Regretfully, we don't get to meet everyone as quickly as we would like. We have extremely limited time as we are balancing family work and business.We don't send a friend request if we don't want to meet you. We have had a few people remove us because we can't meet at the drop of a hat. All I can say is sorry, we want to meet you but, the timing has to be right.
Just be patient with us. We have foound that we like most people we get to meet.
Just be patient with us. We have foound that we like most people we get to meet.
Daises, since you are venting, let me help you understand where I am coming from. Here is the reason why we are so quick to add you as a friend.
first, most people only have one photo of them on their public album.My initial thought is, man I've seen so many tits and cocks on here, I wanna see some face. make sure i will be attracted to you before I go on to tell you that I am interested. So MORE PICS ON THE PUBLIC PROFILE PLEASE
also, it is also so hard not to want to be their friend when they save all the sexy pics for the private albums.
second, why do people care so much if they are friends or not friends on this site, you can easily delete it if you don't want them as friends, and you can see when they are online, and all the other perks... I say we all be friends, and all see each other naked, then no fuss eh?
Thanks for listenin
first, most people only have one photo of them on their public album.My initial thought is, man I've seen so many tits and cocks on here, I wanna see some face. make sure i will be attracted to you before I go on to tell you that I am interested. So MORE PICS ON THE PUBLIC PROFILE PLEASE
also, it is also so hard not to want to be their friend when they save all the sexy pics for the private albums.
second, why do people care so much if they are friends or not friends on this site, you can easily delete it if you don't want them as friends, and you can see when they are online, and all the other perks... I say we all be friends, and all see each other naked, then no fuss eh?
Thanks for listenin
I too have a friend request que. No message, I've never met them, never talked to you in chat... there are a lot of reasons why they could still be in my que.
I am with loganlover. At least post a pic of the neck down of both the man and woman. The wife gets so pissed when there is just the woman. We are in this for both of us not just one. We ask for a freinds request to to make sure there is an interest. If not there is no need to set up a meeting. And all it takes is a delete of the botton if you dont want them on your buddy list anymore.
I have ALWAYS asked permission to send a Friend Request, and that's only after we have gotten to somewhat KNOW (not KNOW in the Biblical sense) one another either through the Forums or the Chat Room.
And there are a lot of folks I've talked/communicated with that I HAVEN'T asked for friendship - far more, in fact.
Just because you talk with someone once - or exchange Forum banter - DOESN'T mean a request is in order.
I realize not everyone has the common sense to figure it out, but I can kinda sense when a request is appropriate and when it's NOT - and whether the other person will be receptive to it.
You get a feel for people.
And just as a point of information, a LOT of the peeps on my Friends list have requested that friendship without me having to ask.
It should be a mutual interest.
And it's all about respect.
Bottom line.
No room for discussion.
And there are a lot of folks I've talked/communicated with that I HAVEN'T asked for friendship - far more, in fact.
Just because you talk with someone once - or exchange Forum banter - DOESN'T mean a request is in order.
I realize not everyone has the common sense to figure it out, but I can kinda sense when a request is appropriate and when it's NOT - and whether the other person will be receptive to it.
You get a feel for people.
And just as a point of information, a LOT of the peeps on my Friends list have requested that friendship without me having to ask.
It should be a mutual interest.
And it's all about respect.
Bottom line.
No room for discussion.
As a single guy, I try to use the "Friend Request" as a means of finding out whether or not someone(s) might be interested. I travel a lot and enjoy meeting people in other areas. I have found it to be frustrating, to read a profile, make sure they have indicated they will meet single guys, compose an intorduction hit the send button, only to be told they are not meeting single guys or they are not accepting e-mails. Or to find out they are only looking for younger guys or to never get any type of response etc.
As far as "photos" are concerned, I don't first looke to se if they have private photos or not. I contact a profile based upon if I am going to be in that area, that they have indictaed a willingness to hear from single guys, and that there isn't anything else on the profile by which I can tell I do meet their desires ("hung 8+", BBC, etc.).
As far as "photos" are concerned, I don't first looke to se if they have private photos or not. I contact a profile based upon if I am going to be in that area, that they have indictaed a willingness to hear from single guys, and that there isn't anything else on the profile by which I can tell I do meet their desires ("hung 8+", BBC, etc.).
MRTUNG9 wrote:
As a single guy, I try to use the "Friend Request" as a means of finding out whether or not someone(s) might be interested. I travel a lot and enjoy meeting people in other areas. I have found it to be frustrating, to read a profile, make sure they have indicated they will meet single guys, compose an intorduction hit the send button, only to be told they are not meeting single guys or they are not accepting e-mails. Or to find out they are only looking for younger guys or to never get any type of response etc. As far as "photos" are concerned, I don't first looke to se if they have private photos or not. I contact a profile based upon if I am going to be in that area, that they have indictaed a willingness to hear from single guys, and that there isn't anything else on the profile by which I can tell I do meet their desires ("hung 8+", BBC, etc.).
As a single guy, I find using "Friend Request" just to find out if someone is interested or not to be VERY inappropriate behavior - the same inappropriate act that has precipitated NUMEROUS complaints, mostly about us single guys.
Can you figure out why?
If you want to know if someone is interested or not, e-mail them.
I agree that it's somewhat rude for someone to NOT respond to an e-mail, even if it's a NO, but that subject has been hashed out here MANY times with NO concensus or resolution.
We're not going to change the world - it is what it is.
The simple bottom line is simple: If they respond, saying they're not meeting single guys, I kinda sorta a little bit suspect that MAY have a tendency to mean they're not meeting single guys.
If you get NO response, then I kinda sorta a little bit suspect that MAY have a tendency to mean they're not interested in you.
Sorry to hear you find it "frustrating" that you go to all the trouble of "composing" an introduction and get shot down.
Rejection is everywhere in life - not just in the Lifestyle.
And no, I'm not trying to be a smartass to you MRTUNG69.
It's just that I've been in the Lifestyle, and on Swingular, long enough to have gotten a grasp on the reality of things.
Or, as someone recently told me (and it was merely THEIR opinion), I'm one of the few single makes who "gets it".
MRTUNG9 wrote:
As a single guy, I try to use the "Friend Request" as a means of finding out whether or not someone(s) might be interested. I travel a lot and enjoy meeting people in other areas. I have found it to be frustrating, to read a profile, make sure they have indicated they will meet single guys, compose an intorduction hit the send button, only to be told they are not meeting single guys or they are not accepting e-mails. Or to find out they are only looking for younger guys or to never get any type of response etc.
As far as "photos" are concerned, I don't first looke to se if they have private photos or not. I contact a profile based upon if I am going to be in that area, that they have indictaed a willingness to hear from single guys, and that there isn't anything else on the profile by which I can tell I do meet their desires ("hung 8+", BBC, etc.).
Are freakin kidding me? Do me a favor. Have some class. Introduce yourself first. Write that damn email. Unsolicited friends requests by people you have never talked to is tacky and that's putting it nicely. In plain english, only desperate fuctards send out friends requests without making an effort. And if you can't put some effort in an email, it makes people wonder how little effort you might put in other places...namely the bedroom.
SMDH.
In answer to your question, I have only had one email saying they didn't want to be friends with me and that was because they knew I was friends with someone else that they did not like. No biggie. That was up to them.
My standard rejection email goes like this....
"Friendship request denied for the following reason(s):
You either missed or disreguarded key information in my profile."
Those are people who don't send the introductory email that I plainly ask for in my profile, or they send me a sexually explicit and/or booty call...etc. Things that I'm very clear about in my profile. I'm also clear that I don't look at every friend as potential playmate. Some are just friends because I enjoy their personality but Im not actually sexually attracted to them.
I just don't understand that if a profile asks for an introduction, why do you think it doesn't apply and shouldn't be taken seriously.
Oh and for the record, I have gotten back the proverbial nasty email back saying...
"you're a fucking bitch" (well duh)
"no big loss, you aren't even pretty" (think profile states I'm not Barbie)
"who the fuck do you think you are?" (someone who just told you no)
"you should be grateful I even contacted you" (I'd be even MORE grateful if you hadn't)
"do you know WHO I am and I can ruin you" (well the line forms over there, you have a few people who are trying to ruin me ahead of you. Go find your spot. Hey maybe if you work together you can all ruin me in one fail swoop.)
People who are genuinly interested in you will show it. Otherwise a quick click of a button says "to busy to actually talk to you but accept me anyway". Um. No.
My standard rejection email goes like this....
"Friendship request denied for the following reason(s):
You either missed or disreguarded key information in my profile."
Those are people who don't send the introductory email that I plainly ask for in my profile, or they send me a sexually explicit and/or booty call...etc. Things that I'm very clear about in my profile. I'm also clear that I don't look at every friend as potential playmate. Some are just friends because I enjoy their personality but Im not actually sexually attracted to them.
I just don't understand that if a profile asks for an introduction, why do you think it doesn't apply and shouldn't be taken seriously.
Oh and for the record, I have gotten back the proverbial nasty email back saying...
"you're a fucking bitch" (well duh)
"no big loss, you aren't even pretty" (think profile states I'm not Barbie)
"who the fuck do you think you are?" (someone who just told you no)
"you should be grateful I even contacted you" (I'd be even MORE grateful if you hadn't)
"do you know WHO I am and I can ruin you" (well the line forms over there, you have a few people who are trying to ruin me ahead of you. Go find your spot. Hey maybe if you work together you can all ruin me in one fail swoop.)
People who are genuinly interested in you will show it. Otherwise a quick click of a button says "to busy to actually talk to you but accept me anyway". Um. No.
I agree with Wildnsassy. Whats the big deal? I would venture to say a huge majority of couples and single girls for that matter act like fuctards. Everyone has their opinion and it is truly just that. So and so cant spell, so and so acts like an english professor, so and so has the balls to email me without an intro(which by the way we always do!) Don't like it, Don't respond. It all just gets dizzying. When it gets down to it, most of us get along great with most everyone we meet on here, but you surely would not know that from reading these forum posts.
We have mixed feelings about this. On one hand if someone says don't request my friendship without an intro email then it should be respected. But we are all guilty of skimming profiles, missing key info and sending friend requests because we see things in the public pics and the profile that interest us. Personally if i see something that catches my eye but there are no face pics in the public forum i don't know if there is genuine interest. I will send the friend request to look for faces in the private pics. Sometimes we find that we don't have any interest once we see faces and if we have sent an email it opens up communication with people and makes them think we are into them. We are ok with rejection but we don't enjoy doing the rejecting. We don't think it's such a big deal and the power is in the hands of the requested. Simply clicking deny is the easiest and nicest course of action. Happens to us and we lose no sleep over it. Also remember when someone requests your friendship they are putting themselves out there for you to see too. So ACCEPT or DENY...it's your call.
We have recently began to wonder about our own friend requests. We are "brand new" to this and although the info located on the Home page to help out the "newbies" is helpful, it doesn't explain everything about the lifestyle. It took me a whole week to figure out what a M & G was! lol.....I think it is all a personal preference really. In the beginning we accepted all friend requests together as a couple and then sent an email from the both of us thanking them for the request and then attaching a picture of the both of us. I started to wonder though that when I've been in chat or if I've sent an email, and I get NO response from the requester, its time to DELETE. That is OUR personal preference. We have only sent 3 friend requests ourselves, all the others have been sent to us. For us, being friends on Swingular doesn't necessarily mean we are going to "hook up", but I do think if you send a request and we accept, you should at least make some effort to get to know us expecially if we have made the effort ourselves. Thus, DELETE. We are "weeding out" our friend list. Good luck and go with what works for you! T-N-T
I stand by what I've said here and in other posts.
Both life AND the Lifestyle are all about manners and respect.
FUCK the majority.
I will continue to be what I believe is a gentleman and use the manners my mama taught me.
If that keeps me from making contacts here on Swingular and elsewhere in the Lifestyle - so be it.
If it means never getting layed again - so be it.
There comes a point where we all have to draw the line and make a conscious decision on whether or not to compromise ourselves.
I will NOT compromise what I believe to be right.
Right is right and wrong is wrong - there are no gray areas where integrity is concerned.
Both life AND the Lifestyle are all about manners and respect.
FUCK the majority.
I will continue to be what I believe is a gentleman and use the manners my mama taught me.
If that keeps me from making contacts here on Swingular and elsewhere in the Lifestyle - so be it.
If it means never getting layed again - so be it.
There comes a point where we all have to draw the line and make a conscious decision on whether or not to compromise ourselves.
I will NOT compromise what I believe to be right.
Right is right and wrong is wrong - there are no gray areas where integrity is concerned.
This is how I see it. When someone friend requests us, it usually means they looked at the profile and liked it. So in turn, I look at theirs. If I like what I see I accept their friend request. If things get going from there then woohoo, if not then w/e there is someone on my friend list I don't talk to.
I guess some people just like to be very exclusive with their friend list.
I guess some people just like to be very exclusive with their friend list.
We send random friend requests to ourselves, only to be rejected time and time again. Some day we hope we will accept and then we will be able to see our own private pics.
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
In answer to your question, I have only had one email saying they didn't want to be friends with me and that was because they knew I was friends with someone else that they did not like. No biggie. That was up to them.
My standard rejection email goes like this....
"Friendship request denied for the following reason(s):
You either missed or disreguarded key information in my profile."
Those are people who don't send the introductory email that I plainly ask for in my profile, or they send me a sexually explicit and/or booty call...etc. Things that I'm very clear about in my profile. I'm also clear that I don't look at every friend as potential playmate. Some are just friends because I enjoy their personality but Im not actually sexually attracted to them.
I just don't understand that if a profile asks for an introduction, why do you think it doesn't apply and shouldn't be taken seriously.
Oh and for the record, I have gotten back the proverbial nasty email back saying...
"you're a fucking bitch" (well duh)
"no big loss, you aren't even pretty" (think profile states I'm not Barbie)
"who the fuck do you think you are?" (someone who just told you no)
"you should be grateful I even contacted you" (I'd be even MORE grateful if you hadn't)
"do you know WHO I am and I can ruin you" (well the line forms over there, you have a few people who are trying to ruin me ahead of you. Go find your spot. Hey maybe if you work together you can all ruin me in one fail swoop.)
People who are genuinly interested in you will show it. Otherwise a quick click of a button says "to busy to actually talk to you but accept me anyway". Um. No.
Love this. Hopefully I will get a chance to actually meet you in person at one of the meet and greets. If I can summon the courage to approach you that is.
CARRIERMAN wrote:
I stand by what I've said here and in other posts. Both life AND the Lifestyle are all about manners and respect. FUCK the majority. I will continue to be what I believe is a gentleman and use the manners my mama taught me. If that keeps me from making contacts here on Swingular and elsewhere in the Lifestyle - so be it. If it means never getting layed again - so be it. There comes a point where we all have to draw the line and make a conscious decision on whether or not to compromise ourselves. I will NOT compromise what I believe to be right. Right is right and wrong is wrong - there are no gray areas where integrity is concerned.
I could not agree more. I think your posting here is right on the mark. I do not expect others to live by my standards of integrity or belief. But I must live by them.
We are pretty chill about things...We are not looking for just a collection of pics...if someone requests friendship and they seem interesting...and not a single mail...we usually approve...We have not actually chatted with everyone in our list, it seems like a easy way to keep track of people we would like to get to know better!
If I am interested I will usually send an email to them asking them to please read our profile concerning emails and friends requests. In our profile, we ask that interested parties please include an email with their request and a face pic if one is not available on their profile. I guess most people don't understand that a return email (even without an accepted friend's request) means we might be interested.
If they don't respond within a week, I delete them from our inbox. If they do respond with an email and/or picture, we consult each other and make a mutual decision on whether to accept their request and talk to them. We think that is fair.
We always send a short email with our requests even if it's "hey, we like your profile and would like to chat...please check ours out and let us know if you're interested". Short, sweet, and to the point.
If they don't respond within a week, I delete them from our inbox. If they do respond with an email and/or picture, we consult each other and make a mutual decision on whether to accept their request and talk to them. We think that is fair.
We always send a short email with our requests even if it's "hey, we like your profile and would like to chat...please check ours out and let us know if you're interested". Short, sweet, and to the point.
What she said!
GOLDENHANDZ77 wrote:
Love this. Hopefully I will get a chance to actually meet you in person at one of the meet and greets. If I can summon the courage to approach you that is.
LOL. As long as you know the secret handshake, you're in.
Actually the sad part is, I'm a little shy in person. Blueeyes is a big old loud mouth opinionated bitchy flirt. Tammy's knees knock every time she meets someone new.
But come say hi to me anyway. I don't bite...well unless you want me to.
INVITESOME wrote:
We send random friend requests to ourselves, only to be rejected time and time again. Some day we hope we will accept and then we will be able to see our own private pics.
ROFLMAO.
Thanks for the great giggle. And the good reminder that I might be taking myself a little *too* seriously.
SHYGAL1970 wrote:
If I am interested I will usually send an email to them asking them to please read our profile concerning emails and friends requests. In our profile, we ask that interested parties please include an email with their request and a face pic if one is not available on their profile. I guess most people don't understand that a return email (even without an accepted friend's request) means we might be interested. If they don't respond within a week, I delete them from our inbox. If they do respond with an email and/or picture, we consult each other and make a mutual decision on whether to accept their request and talk to them. We think that is fair. We always send a short email with our requests even if it's "hey, we like your profile and would like to chat...please check ours out and let us know if you're interested". Short, sweet, and to the point.
That's EXACTLY the way I do it.
AND, the way I feel it should be done.
Obviously, YOU "get it".
Surprising how many don't.
INVITESOME wrote:
We send random friend requests to ourselves, only to be rejected time and time again. Some day we hope we will accept and then we will be able to see our own private pics.
Hope for your sake, that day comes soon.
EVERYONE else is talking about how smokin HOT your private pics are.
Just wait til you see them.
We generally don't like to approve people's request for friendship if they also do not have something to look at also. Not fair that you can see us, and us not see you! WE kinda look at it like, HELLO_KITTY12984, and DAISIES. Guess some people take thier friend requests ALOT more seriously than others. WE thought that this was a more accepting, more laid back atmosphere. It is, just not as much as we thoght it would be. We have enjoyed everyone, and everything experienced on this adventure though. Look forward to more with the ones who can be patient anyway. WE love to be looked at, and also enjoy looking. Anyone interested?! Lol!
CARRIERMAN wrote:INVITESOME wrote:
We send random friend requests to ourselves, only to be rejected time and time again. Some day we hope we will accept and then we will be able to see our own private pics.
Hope for your sake, that day comes soon.
EVERYONE else is talking about how smokin HOT your private pics are.
Just wait til you see them.
We like you.Well I have made friends just chatting in the forums joking around, being myself (as much as I can be in black and white text) and I think they like me in at least some way :P People should at least attempt some sort of intro or chat or something right? Whatever, I have accepted friend requests of people I haven't talked to before but I'm a single male so ofc I'm gonna do that! Haha...anyway..
I don't expect anything from anyone and really, except your virtual friendship!! So that being said...
I'm gonna send friend requests to every one of you that is in this thread with no note or intro except to say "I like turtles"
I don't expect anything from anyone and really, except your virtual friendship!! So that being said...
I'm gonna send friend requests to every one of you that is in this thread with no note or intro except to say "I like turtles"
Typically, when we receive a request we peruse the profile and see it's someone that it seems we would click with or have met in person. Often there aren't enough pics / information / description to even guess. Sometimes a letter along with the request helps, and sometimes saying hello along with a sparse profile doesn't make an difference at all.
We don't like declining friend requests, since we really have no idea who anyone is and we may end up being great friends in the future.. with benefits or not. We get out often and are always happy to accept a friend request of anyone we have met.
Truthfully we don't take our friends list too seriously. It's just a collection of people we have actually met or think we would like to meet eventually. We don't get offended if we get denied, or deleted. Everyone is looking for something different. We are happy to respect that.
We don't like declining friend requests, since we really have no idea who anyone is and we may end up being great friends in the future.. with benefits or not. We get out often and are always happy to accept a friend request of anyone we have met.
Truthfully we don't take our friends list too seriously. It's just a collection of people we have actually met or think we would like to meet eventually. We don't get offended if we get denied, or deleted. Everyone is looking for something different. We are happy to respect that.
INVITESOME wrote:CARRIERMAN wrote:Hope for your sake, that day comes soon. EVERYONE else is talking about how smokin HOT your private pics are. Just wait til you see them.
[quote=INVITESOME]We send random friend requests to ourselves, only to be rejected time and time again. Some day we hope we will accept and then we will be able to see our own private pics.
We like you.[/quote]Enough to send me a Friend Request? lol
LUV2RIDEHD wrote:
I am with loganlover. At least post a pic of the neck down of both the man and woman. The wife gets so pissed when there is just the woman. We are in this for both of us not just one. We ask for a freinds request to to make sure there is an interest. If not there is no need to set up a meeting. And all it takes is a delete of the botton if you dont want them on your buddy list anymore.
I love it! That's what this website is about right... putting yourself out on a limb, getting naked, and having fun
[quote=WILDNSASSY]So I do understand everyones point of views on the friend request but it got me thinking...there is a clear desire to have effort put into a friend request but how much effort is put into a friend denial. And if there is effort put in, say an email explaining why you do not want to be friends, I'm sure you run the risk of extremely offending someone and then having a nasty email sent back. quote]
I never thought about it that way... I think really they both deserve an explanation, I can't say I have sent one to anyone I have denied, but they do deserve that respect
I never thought about it that way... I think really they both deserve an explanation, I can't say I have sent one to anyone I have denied, but they do deserve that respect
INVITESOME wrote:
We send random friend requests to ourselves, only to be rejected time and time again. Some day we hope we will accept and then we will be able to see our own private pics.
ha ha ha ha ha hahahahahahahah
oh this is just awesome
you guys have way too much time on your hands. at the end of the day , who really gives a fuck. so many people here suffer from galactic pussy syndrome (that is you think your pussy is out of this world ). quit whinning about things. either do it or dont. i know im not all that and neither are some of you. dont get me wrong, there are some very sexy people here but beauty is just on the surface. attitude and personality are far more attractive than looks. reading theses post are the best way we decide our " friends "
JETFIRE63 wrote:
you guys have way too much time on your hands. at the end of the day , who really gives a fuck. so many people here suffer from galactic pussy syndrome (that is you think your pussy is out of this world ). quit whinning about things. either do it or dont. i know im not all that and neither are some of you. dont get me wrong, there are some very sexy people here but beauty is just on the surface. attitude and personality are far more attractive than looks. reading theses post are the best way we decide our " friends "
You've been a member for 5 years, have no pictures, and are not verified. Spoken like someone who just wants to see more explicit pictures.
spoken like a true idiot dark lady
you dont get it, it is not about the pics. by the way, many people are not verified. it does not make them less real. it just means we dont fly the same circles. as far as pics go, they are sent when they are wanted. not plastered on web sites. sorry, it,s just us. if you dont like it too bad.
you dont get it, it is not about the pics. by the way, many people are not verified. it does not make them less real. it just means we dont fly the same circles. as far as pics go, they are sent when they are wanted. not plastered on web sites. sorry, it,s just us. if you dont like it too bad.
I dunno..I'm a little on the shy side (although I am opening up more as time goes on) but even as shy as I may be, I always skip over profiles with no pics. I can't help but think that something is being hidden. True, I don't judge on looks alone personally, but I still have to have some sort of a visual of who I am talking to or about to talk to. Though this is a swinger sex site, you don't HAVE to post face or naked pics even. But I still think some sort of pic of the person(s) should be displayed. When I do searches and look through profiles guess what box I check? The one that says "photo only". Just me though. Doesn't mean I am just looking for naughty pics or w/e. For all I know, I am missing out on the hottest people by not choosing photo-less profiles but w/e. If you can't show even just a preview of what you might look like clothed or otherwise, then I probably will skip over you. Physical attraction is just as important as the rest. Lets not kid ourselves here..
JD...very well said!!
Satchm069...on that note let me just say, I have plenty of public pics, the naughty ones are reserved for friends....I don't feel I should have to give someone access to my naughty ones in order to see the couple that they may have in their private because they won't put any in public...I have tried this before thinking it would work only to get to their private album and they have 2 faceless generic pics, yet they have access to ALL of me....
Nobody has to show their face or naughty stuff in their public album but it shows that you're making an attempt to put yourself out there...not hiding something...I have one faceless friend and he sent me pics long before he ever friend requested me....
Satchm069...on that note let me just say, I have plenty of public pics, the naughty ones are reserved for friends....I don't feel I should have to give someone access to my naughty ones in order to see the couple that they may have in their private because they won't put any in public...I have tried this before thinking it would work only to get to their private album and they have 2 faceless generic pics, yet they have access to ALL of me....
Nobody has to show their face or naughty stuff in their public album but it shows that you're making an attempt to put yourself out there...not hiding something...I have one faceless friend and he sent me pics long before he ever friend requested me....
DARKNLADYJEDI wrote:JETFIRE63 wrote:
you guys have way too much time on your hands. at the end of the day , who really gives a fuck. so many people here suffer from galactic pussy syndrome (that is you think your pussy is out of this world ). quit whinning about things. either do it or dont. i know im not all that and neither are some of you. dont get me wrong, there are some very sexy people here but beauty is just on the surface. attitude and personality are far more attractive than looks. reading theses post are the best way we decide our " friends "
You've been a member for 5 years, have no pictures, and are not verified. Spoken like someone who just wants to see more explicit pictures.
Have to agree...their profile is also filed out with nothing but n/a's and one sentence in the description section, no comments...this is the kind of profile I am leary of
naughty, while you have a indepth profile you dont need to be leary of of people with crappy profiles especially when they have not attempted to contact you. i have read countless posts of yours and chose long ago not to talk to you. semi attractive couple but not so attractive in the posts. just my impression.
while no explanation is really needed, we have not redone our profile since it was mostly lost in one of the site updates.there are many reasons for this, first and formost is we dont live for this site.next quite honestly it has not stopped us from meeting who we would like to meet. alot of the people here are so critical of others and have nothing good to say at all. all you want to do is bitch and moan about pics, friend requests, single males you name it.
be honest and admit the only reason this site is here is for sex and not much more.the part that really kills me is how so many " open minded people " are so judgemental.
sexy people loose the sex appeal when they let their mouth run.
while no explanation is really needed, we have not redone our profile since it was mostly lost in one of the site updates.there are many reasons for this, first and formost is we dont live for this site.next quite honestly it has not stopped us from meeting who we would like to meet. alot of the people here are so critical of others and have nothing good to say at all. all you want to do is bitch and moan about pics, friend requests, single males you name it.
be honest and admit the only reason this site is here is for sex and not much more.the part that really kills me is how so many " open minded people " are so judgemental.
sexy people loose the sex appeal when they let their mouth run.
First, I never said I was leary of YOUR profile, I said this type of profile.
Second, I'm glad you have never sent a friends request, saves me the trouble of denying and blocking!
It has been hashed over many times and the general consensus is if you don't take the time to tell someone a little about yourself then why should they give you the time of day.
As far as the bitching and moaning, this looked like a pretty grown up discussion until you came in with your insults...thanks for the personal attack by the way...just shows your personality and true colors to others
Kisses...Naugh-Ty (here for more than just sex)
Second, I'm glad you have never sent a friends request, saves me the trouble of denying and blocking!
It has been hashed over many times and the general consensus is if you don't take the time to tell someone a little about yourself then why should they give you the time of day.
As far as the bitching and moaning, this looked like a pretty grown up discussion until you came in with your insults...thanks for the personal attack by the way...just shows your personality and true colors to others
Kisses...Naugh-Ty (here for more than just sex)
JETFIRE63 wrote:
naughty, while you have a indepth profile you dont need to be leary of of people with crappy profiles especially when they have not attempted to contact you. i have read countless posts of yours and chose long ago not to talk to you. semi attractive couple but not so attractive in the posts. just my impression.
while no explanation is really needed, we have not redone our profile since it was mostly lost in one of the site updates.there are many reasons for this, first and formost is we dont live for this site.next quite honestly it has not stopped us from meeting who we would like to meet. alot of the people here are so critical of others and have nothing good to say at all. all you want to do is bitch and moan about pics, friend requests, single males you name it.
be honest and admit the only reason this site is here is for sex and not much more.the part that really kills me is how so many " open minded people " are so judgemental.
sexy people loose the sex appeal when they let their mouth run.
Guess you wrote the book on how to win friends and influence people...........
Oh and faceless people who had no sex appeal also lose everything they didn't have by running their mouths....
Well, I don't know what people expect on forums. Regardless if its a "sex site" or not, forums are just a place to bs and there are always assholes. I am one of those fyi..so get in line and come get some!(sarcasm see? ) I try to have a sense of humor about everything, even more so on a "sex site". Many don't see the sarcasm through words either b/c they simply don't have a sense of humor or maybe they lack forum experience? Seems like those without the pic or profile filled out are the ones with the problem but hey...if you have a "crappy" profile, I think it speaks to your personality and maybe that is crappy as well? Of course people would know otherwise if it wasn't a "crappy" profile. Mine isn't all that either, and I don't live on this site either but shit, i took the time to fill some stuff out, and attempted to tell a little about myself and put a pic or 2 up for people to see who they are talking to, although few do talk to me! (sarcasm again, but not really haha) But hey, you pay for your membership do with it what you like. I made some friends on here even if it's just an online relationship whatever. That's worth my money right there although I wouldn't mind if some of you chased after me with a ball and chain and forced me to do naughty things :P I don't judge people at all. But with no pic or info...I'd be hesitant to get to know you and even email back and forth with someone if only to be let down by what i would call unattractive. Just being truthful here but hey...I'm a single guy and I have no say on here! (sarcasm again)
Hey JD I like turtles...
JDTRUCKA66 wrote:
Well, I don't know what people expect on forums. Regardless if its a "sex site" or not, forums are just a place to bs and there are always assholes. I am one of those fyi..so get in line and come get some!(sarcasm see? ) I try to have a sense of humor about everything, even more so on a "sex site". Many don't see the sarcasm through words either b/c they simply don't have a sense of humor or maybe they lack forum experience? Seems like those without the pic or profile filled out are the ones with the problem but hey...if you have a "crappy" profile, I think it speaks to your personality and maybe that is crappy as well? Of course people would know otherwise if it wasn't a "crappy" profile. Mine isn't all that either, and I don't live on this site either but shit, i took the time to fill some stuff out, and attempted to tell a little about myself and put a pic or 2 up for people to see who they are talking to, although few do talk to me! (sarcasm again, but not really haha) But hey, you pay for your membership do with it what you like. I made some friends on here even if it's just an online relationship whatever. That's worth my money right there although I wouldn't mind if some of you chased after me with a ball and chain and forced me to do naughty things :P I don't judge people at all. But with no pic or info...I'd be hesitant to get to know you and even email back and forth with someone if only to be let down by what i would call unattractive. Just being truthful here but hey...I'm a single guy and I have no say on here! (sarcasm again)
JD hun, You are the BOMB! (even if you are the dreaded single male!) hehehe
Haha..oh yea...ya know I was really gonna do that but i thought everyone was gonna get mad at me if I did LOL.
JDTRUCKA66 wrote:
Haha..oh yea...ya know I was really gonna do that but i thought everyone was gonna get mad at me if I did LOL.
I think I like you...still...lol...now what did I do with my ball and chain *giggles*
I was thinking whips and chains (already got a ball and chain) ROFLMFAO! Holy shit I need sleep!
Mmmm...whips and chains...hehehe...come snuggle with me hun
And me!
COUNTRYBIKERS wrote:JDTRUCKA66 wrote:
Well, I don't know what people expect on forums. Regardless if its a "sex site" or not, forums are just a place to bs and there are always assholes. I am one of those fyi..so get in line and come get some!(sarcasm see? ) I try to have a sense of humor about everything, even more so on a "sex site". Many don't see the sarcasm through words either b/c they simply don't have a sense of humor or maybe they lack forum experience? Seems like those without the pic or profile filled out are the ones with the problem but hey...if you have a "crappy" profile, I think it speaks to your personality and maybe that is crappy as well? Of course people would know otherwise if it wasn't a "crappy" profile. Mine isn't all that either, and I don't live on this site either but shit, i took the time to fill some stuff out, and attempted to tell a little about myself and put a pic or 2 up for people to see who they are talking to, although few do talk to me! (sarcasm again, but not really haha) But hey, you pay for your membership do with it what you like. I made some friends on here even if it's just an online relationship whatever. That's worth my money right there although I wouldn't mind if some of you chased after me with a ball and chain and forced me to do naughty things :P I don't judge people at all. But with no pic or info...I'd be hesitant to get to know you and even email back and forth with someone if only to be let down by what i would call unattractive. Just being truthful here but hey...I'm a single guy and I have no say on here! (sarcasm again)
JD hun, You are the BOMB! (even if you are the dreaded single male!) hehehe
Whats better is I might be the dreaded single male dragging around a lot of chains. That's gonna get heavy after awhile. :P
Yeah i know how you truckers like your chains! OK my jokes are getting really bad now! GOODNIGHT! lol
COUNTRYBIKERS wrote:
Yeah i know how you truckers like your chains! OK my jokes are getting really bad now! GOODNIGHT! lol
Oh its fine..nothing wrong with bad jokes haha! Besides, no one else is up to chat with me! And I'm stranded in Texas cause we broke our transmission lol. Been here a week and going insane!
COUNTRYBIKERS wrote:
Yeah i know how you truckers like your chains! OK my jokes are getting really bad now! GOODNIGHT! lol
Oh its fine..nothing wrong with bad jokes haha! Besides, no one else is up to chat with me! And I'm stranded in Texas cause we broke our transmission lol. Been here a week and going insane!
Ok, JD to break the boredom go into the tv room in the truck stop and grab the remote and find the most annoying boring show you can then every time a commercial comes on flip thru the channels for 5 mins then go back to the original boring crap. Don't let go of the remote but keep talking and talking about how you know everything about everything. This will give you an entertaining saturday and your sure to make a LOT of friends....(or you can hit on one of the cute shower cleaning girls and have a nice shower
Point - Counter point...
We dont have a picture on here for our own reasons. The friends that we do have are people who already know us in person. People we have met at a party or public event. They already know what we look like and like us already. We have our membership here to remain informed of upcoming events and to stay in touch occasionally with old friends, who again already know us. Recently we had to change our profile name because our old one was lost into cyberspace somehow. We have sent out a couple of friend invites but have attached an email explaining who we are to our old friends since our "handle" changed.
Again, people are on here for a variety of reasons... Happy Holidays
We dont have a picture on here for our own reasons. The friends that we do have are people who already know us in person. People we have met at a party or public event. They already know what we look like and like us already. We have our membership here to remain informed of upcoming events and to stay in touch occasionally with old friends, who again already know us. Recently we had to change our profile name because our old one was lost into cyberspace somehow. We have sent out a couple of friend invites but have attached an email explaining who we are to our old friends since our "handle" changed.
Again, people are on here for a variety of reasons... Happy Holidays
KITTYBEAR4U wrote:
Ok, JD to break the boredom go into the tv room in the truck stop and grab the remote and find the most annoying boring show you can then every time a commercial comes on flip thru the channels for 5 mins then go back to the original boring crap. Don't let go of the remote but keep talking and talking about how you know everything about everything. This will give you an entertaining saturday and your sure to make a LOT of friends....(or you can hit on one of the cute shower cleaning girls and have a nice shower
Ok I tried this earlier today. Only thing is, I'm in a hotel room with my brother and he was sleeping when i did it. No one said anything about it but then I realized I was the only other one awake in the room LOL. And we managed to escape about an hour ago finally and actually headed to SLC
I really don't get the deal on having a que just because they didn't send an email. Getting Friend Requests are just saying either them or I are interested so WHY must they write an email saying the same thing?
OR, Is this another if your a Single Male you must kiss my ass and dazzle me before ill even think about acknowledging your request
Hilary
OR, Is this another if your a Single Male you must kiss my ass and dazzle me before ill even think about acknowledging your request
Hilary
HILSENSATION wrote:
I really don't get the deal on having a que just because they didn't send an email. Getting Friend Requests are just saying either them or I are interested so WHY must they write an email saying the same thing?
OR, Is this another if your a Single Male you must kiss my ass and dazzle me before ill even think about acknowledging your request
Hilary
Personally I don't mind, but there better be a damn pic! Doesn't have to be a naked pic or even a face pic. Just something showing me generally what you look like lol
I can't speak for anyone else here, but I will explain why I want an email of introduction.
1) I get several friends requests a day. Not bragging. Just luck of the draw. MOST of them come from unverified, no pics, empty profiles. Reading each and everyone takes time and I do read each one. With an email, I get a "feel" for the person(s) aside from their profile.
2) A email says that the person has taken the time to read MY profile and that they understand what I want, don't want, and are still interested.
3)I understand that my friends, sexual or not, will have access to my pics. I'm therefore more discerning who is viewing them. I like to "know" a bit about the people who have access to my private pics.
1) I get several friends requests a day. Not bragging. Just luck of the draw. MOST of them come from unverified, no pics, empty profiles. Reading each and everyone takes time and I do read each one. With an email, I get a "feel" for the person(s) aside from their profile.
2) A email says that the person has taken the time to read MY profile and that they understand what I want, don't want, and are still interested.
3)I understand that my friends, sexual or not, will have access to my pics. I'm therefore more discerning who is viewing them. I like to "know" a bit about the people who have access to my private pics.
I have the perfect solution to all the problems we are faced with daily here on the Swingular Springer Show: Countrybikers, since you volunteered, you bring the chains, and everyone else bring yourselves and whatever else you want and we will all sit around naked and discuss the issues at hand for as long as it takes to resolve them. And on the breaks, some of us can wander off and make new friends in the dressing rooms and the rest can argue out their issues and have a group hug at the end of it all
I am appalled at theinconcideration of some of the people on here, i have sent request to join there friends list and they dont even say not interesed or any thing just says friend request pending. i am an equine vet AND TRAVEL AROUND THE COUNTRY TRAINING RACE HORSES IN MY NEW 45 FT PREVOST MOTORHOME I Hve FEW CELEBERITYS as customers in calif and ariz.that treat and pay me very well i go to the major horse rases like the derby,or belmont to name a few and i have contacted people in my frinds list and stoped bi and a good time was had by all so wheb you reject those friend request you never know when you may have a visit from me so as my father always tells me you snooze you loose.............wanda
WICKEDWANDA4U wrote:
I am appalled at theinconcideration of some of the people on here, i have sent request to join there friends list and they dont even say not interesed or any thing just says friend request pending. i am an equine vet AND TRAVEL AROUND THE COUNTRY TRAINING RACE HORSES IN MY NEW 45 FT PREVOST MOTORHOME I Hve FEW CELEBERITYS as customers in calif and ariz.that treat and pay me very well i go to the major horse rases like the derby,or belmont to name a few and i have contacted people in my frinds list and stoped bi and a good time was had by all so wheb you reject those friend request you never know when you may have a visit from me so as my father always tells me you snooze you loose.............wanda
You are wonderful my dear and definitely the exception to my rule...but what about all the others from out of state, how are we to know these kinds of things if they're not said?
Blue, you make perfect sense...
Each person is entitled to treat their account how they see fit and I think it's wonderful when we can discuss the different views like adults
But I've been slammed enough so I'm done with this one lol
"But I've been slammed enough so I'm done with this one lol"
Is that even possible? :P
Is that even possible? :P
Reading these posts about the friend request thing has really helped me understand everyone elses view on how it works. So often we project our reality on everyone else and it can be hard to understand other peoples views when yours are what you beleive in. I will however continue to reject everyone elses reality and substitute my own.