just wondering if anyone of you know that there are married "singles" on here? is this having an affair or exploring your sex life? it seems that the men are blocked and give the true single males a bad rap. the women seem to be welcome to explore their sex life openly. sort a double standard.
what do you think about it?
what do you think about it?
If you are married and trying the lifestyle on your own you are cheating. The Lifestyle is for couples that love and respect each other and do this together. We don't meet men or women, if attached, without their spouses and everyone knows everything.
If you are cheating you are not being honest and do not respect your spouse or yourself, so why in a Lifestyle where respect and honesty is everything would you think you would be welcomed? Not trying to offend here but speaking with honesty.
If you are cheating you are not being honest and do not respect your spouse or yourself, so why in a Lifestyle where respect and honesty is everything would you think you would be welcomed? Not trying to offend here but speaking with honesty.
i respect what you have to say, very good way to put it. i just meet a woman on a site once , saying she was single. when i got to meet her wish was married. she gave me the reason of exploring her sex life.
I wonder how her husband would have felt had he known?
Sex outside of a marriage without your spouses knowledge is cheating, no exceptions. Reguardless of how you justify it to yourself. Having your spouses approval ( our opinion) is quite different. BTW, someone explain to us why singles can call themselves ...Full Swap...swap? Exactly what are they offering to swap with?
Apache...of course you would not have a problem with cheating spouses, you are a single guy...LOL Too funny. Ask a woman that has had a cheating husband and then a failed marriage what she thinks about cheating...that is the real story.:v
if you are married,have a life parter, etc.. and you are swinging with out the others knowledge or mutual agreement, you are cheating !!!! :@ male or female !!!! Jo & larry
affairs may help some marriages, but i think that i that it does more damage...
i know of one person on here that is having way to much fun and will get caught with her actions...her hubby is a jerk, but she is getting out of control...but, like i said at the top, women are welcome to explore and fool around...
i know of one person on here that is having way to much fun and will get caught with her actions...her hubby is a jerk, but she is getting out of control...but, like i said at the top, women are welcome to explore and fool around...
"The Lifestyle is for couples that love and respect each other and do this together."
So who makes these rules? Cheating is cheating...that is true. But how do you know what goes on in other aspects of the lives of the couples you meet? Can someone be "banned" from the lifestyle? I think everyone has to do what they feel comfortable with, but we shouldn't say that someone else isn't a swinger because they live their life differently. The same way many of us try to say that a cheater or a single can't be swinger if their partner is unaware, that can be equated to a Christian saying that swingers can't be Christians because even if their spouse knows it is still sex out of wedlock. Or slim people saying fat people shouldn't be called swingers because they do not find them sexy. Anyone can be a swinger, it is just up to us as individuals or couples to choose who we wish to play with, and not be judgemental or condescending to those with whom we choose not to.
So who makes these rules? Cheating is cheating...that is true. But how do you know what goes on in other aspects of the lives of the couples you meet? Can someone be "banned" from the lifestyle? I think everyone has to do what they feel comfortable with, but we shouldn't say that someone else isn't a swinger because they live their life differently. The same way many of us try to say that a cheater or a single can't be swinger if their partner is unaware, that can be equated to a Christian saying that swingers can't be Christians because even if their spouse knows it is still sex out of wedlock. Or slim people saying fat people shouldn't be called swingers because they do not find them sexy. Anyone can be a swinger, it is just up to us as individuals or couples to choose who we wish to play with, and not be judgemental or condescending to those with whom we choose not to.
It is a double standard. We have meet several couples that would never consider a cheating guy, but would a cheating woman. I think some people ignore the double standard because of the Law of scarcity.
Married/relationship bound men that are exploring without their spouse are no different from Single men has been our experience.
If anyone Male or Female is having a sexual or emotional relationship without their primary partner's knowledge then they are cheating. It's not a matter of the quality or quantity or even if the partner had suspicions or not. It's a matter of trust which they are breaking by having a relationship that their partner would not approve of.
And yes the Law of Scarcity is accepted by many swingers in regard to a female wanting to explore.....including us.
Married/relationship bound men that are exploring without their spouse are no different from Single men has been our experience.
If anyone Male or Female is having a sexual or emotional relationship without their primary partner's knowledge then they are cheating. It's not a matter of the quality or quantity or even if the partner had suspicions or not. It's a matter of trust which they are breaking by having a relationship that their partner would not approve of.
And yes the Law of Scarcity is accepted by many swingers in regard to a female wanting to explore.....including us.