We are new here and have had a few people email. They don't have much detail on profile, maybe some fake info and are not verified. Do you trust them? Just curious as to when to know who's real and who's fake, lol.
The misses always checks for verification just to be safe...
I always check more than verification too...I look through pics, comments, etc...I won't ever just accept someone on my friends list, etc
No pics, no accompanying email, lots of N/A's, no comments, not verified, ages or info weird (like they're both 69...but we do have a couple that are good friends that both have that lol)
Ya....What Naughtygirl said. If I'm still a little unsure, I just ask my hubby to read it and he always says "add them". lol You know though, you can't always tell. I've taken 1 step forward and 5 steps back out the door before.
so you all know my profile is fake .. i am a 76 year old female with no teeth and psoriasis i love to have sex with sheep and or large mice . now that you know, would like to find someone real that likes to watch .
Hell, I'm not even a couple - and I'm verified.
The only problem with that is that not everyone can attend social events, and if no one will respond BECAUSE you aren't verified, it's hard to GET verified. We've been on here for years, and we've gotten to communicate with exactly 4 other couples in that time, and only once past the 'hi how are you' phase. Is our lack of verifaction really the reason why no one seems to want to have anything to do with us?
WYOFUN1 wrote:
The only problem with that is that not everyone can attend social events, and if no one will respond BECAUSE you aren't verified, it's hard to GET verified. We've been on here for years, and we've gotten to communicate with exactly 4 other couples in that time, and only once past the 'hi how are you' phase. Is our lack of verifaction really the reason why no one seems to want to have anything to do with us?
Doubtful.
Your location could have a bearing on it though.
We would agree with that to an extent, but there are several others in our town and nearby, and we even get the cold shoulder from the locals!
You can be verified by going to the chat room and getting on cam...
OR...If you're like us, we've been swinging for awhile, locally. We know a few from another site, but 99.9% of everyone on here lives in Utah. We do travel, but we aren't going to meet someone we haven't chatted with, or are above talking to anyone more than 50 miles away.
We've been members here longer than most of y'all, and we aren't verified by anyone on this site. Why not? Because it just really isn't a big deal. The 1 couple we did ask to verify us here also wasn't verified here. So that didn't work. LOL And it's just never been an "issue" for us.
We've even swapped emails back and forth with Admin over the years on a few different topics. And there are several members here who know us for various reasons. Most of them aren't verified, either. We live our lives according to a couple of wise sayings we've picked up from others along the way:
"Things are not always what they appear." It didn't take us long to realize that profiles on swinger sites were not terribly reliable.
"Don't believe everything you think." Assumption is the mother of all fuck-ups. And we all perceive things a bit differently. So what is a "fact?" Because someone is "verified" simply means that the person(s) with access to more than one profile on here vouched for that profile's "authenticity." It HELPS, but it isn't anything close to a guarantee.
It's easy enough to do our own "verification" if we are interested in someone based on what we see here.
We've even swapped emails back and forth with Admin over the years on a few different topics. And there are several members here who know us for various reasons. Most of them aren't verified, either. We live our lives according to a couple of wise sayings we've picked up from others along the way:
"Things are not always what they appear." It didn't take us long to realize that profiles on swinger sites were not terribly reliable.
"Don't believe everything you think." Assumption is the mother of all fuck-ups. And we all perceive things a bit differently. So what is a "fact?" Because someone is "verified" simply means that the person(s) with access to more than one profile on here vouched for that profile's "authenticity." It HELPS, but it isn't anything close to a guarantee.
It's easy enough to do our own "verification" if we are interested in someone based on what we see here.
242 wrote:
"Don't believe everything you think." Assumption is the mother of all fuck-ups. And we all perceive things a bit differently. So what is a "fact?" Because someone is "verified" simply means that the person(s) with access to more than one profile on here vouched for that profile's "authenticity." It HELPS, but it isn't anything close to a guarantee.
Absolutely. That's why VIP status and testimonials on their profile from credible people are two more things we look for. Without one or the other we usually decline friend requests and send a "no thank you" to their email wanting to meet us.
T4REAL69 wrote:
Damn speaking of which I guess I should post some new pics...
Or you could just send them right to me
Doen't the VIP just mean verified in person? Guess maybe one day we can get someone to upgrade ours
INVITESOME wrote:
Absolutely. That's why VIP status and testimonials on their profile from credible people are two more things we look for. Without one or the other we usually decline friend requests and send a "no thank you" to their email wanting to meet us.
Neither of those is likely to appear on our profile, either. But I can understand how some folks would use them that way. We rarely go to swinger functions anymore. And we are pretty old school about the whole "don't kiss and tell" thing. So we're not likely to get the VIP anytime soon, and would delete any of those comments others post that tend to communicate "tapped that."
It can get a bit tricky to try and sort through all the BS, that's for sure. But the good old-fashioned ways still work best. And we have learned never to put any stock in what we see/read on the Internet until we have confirmed it for ourselves live and in person in a public place, at a friend's party, etc.
My only real points were: (1) we are real, long-timers, and unverified...so it does happen; and (2) you can "game" any system, so folks shouldn't put too much weight on the things found on websites. I think it's a safe bet that if you've been doing this for more than a year or two, you've been "surprised" at least once by on-line deception of some sort.
We joined this site and were verified online less then 3 days later by Admin.
The process is easy enough to do that if someone isn't verified we figure they are either too lazy to read the instructions and follow them, too ignorant to read the instructions and follow them, to new to know to look for the instructions, or most likely fake.
There are people who stay unverified on sites, but when Admin makes it as easy as they have it makes us wonder when we see people that aren't verified who have been on the site for any length of time.
Under "My Account" select "Get Verified" and there you will find:
How do I get Verified?
We offer three easy ways for you to get verified:
1. Email a picture of you and your spouse (or you by yourself if you're single) clearly holding a HAND WRITTEN sign with your Username, current date, and the word Swingular written in big, bold letters to the Administrator Profile. Use the attachment feature. Couples must be in the picture together embraced. Your face(s) must also be clearly visible.
2. If you have a webcam, you can request to be verified during a live webcam session. We currently utilize only two services for webcam sessions: MSN Messenger; Yahoo Messenger. Just contact us using the IM handle SWINGULAR ([email protected]; [email protected]) when you have the time to be verified.
3. Meet a VIP Verified Member, a Local Host, or a site administrator in person. Let them know you wish to be verified and they will verify you through your profile on the website.
The process is easy enough to do that if someone isn't verified we figure they are either too lazy to read the instructions and follow them, too ignorant to read the instructions and follow them, to new to know to look for the instructions, or most likely fake.
There are people who stay unverified on sites, but when Admin makes it as easy as they have it makes us wonder when we see people that aren't verified who have been on the site for any length of time.
Under "My Account" select "Get Verified" and there you will find:
How do I get Verified?
We offer three easy ways for you to get verified:
1. Email a picture of you and your spouse (or you by yourself if you're single) clearly holding a HAND WRITTEN sign with your Username, current date, and the word Swingular written in big, bold letters to the Administrator Profile. Use the attachment feature. Couples must be in the picture together embraced. Your face(s) must also be clearly visible.
2. If you have a webcam, you can request to be verified during a live webcam session. We currently utilize only two services for webcam sessions: MSN Messenger; Yahoo Messenger. Just contact us using the IM handle SWINGULAR ([email protected]; [email protected]) when you have the time to be verified.
3. Meet a VIP Verified Member, a Local Host, or a site administrator in person. Let them know you wish to be verified and they will verify you through your profile on the website.
MORGANCOUPLE wrote:
The misses always checks for verification just to be safe...
If that's anything like getting your oil checked - I feel violated. lol
We're very much real people even though we're not verified. We prefer to be more discreet than that. We do not find the club or party scenes attractive for us, no no real way of being V.I.P.s but that's alright with us. It's about a few quality experiences, not lots of average ones.
There are couples who, for whatever reason, are not as much in demand as other couples. This can result in non-verification. If you feel like feel that verification is the end -all and be -all when considering meeting another couple, you're going to miss out on a lot of nice people. Those considerations could be weight, age, countenance, or distance. We've been members here for about 4 years and were only recently verified. That doesn't mean that we were any less than we were before we were verified. My point is that while verification can be a useful tool, it shouldn't be your only considertion when exploring whether to meet another couple.
The best way that we have found to meet people from any site is to swap a couple of emails and/or chat with them a little bit. We'll usually give out a cell number to the other person or get theirs. Then it is MANDATORY that you meet us for lunch or dinner somewhere. Quite a bit can be learned from a casual dinner. We also never play on the first meeting. Of course, we are looking for friends, not bedpost notches.
Having used this method for a few years, we've found that it works quite well in weeding out the "EWWWWWW". Verifications are fine, but the people doing the verifying might not be looking for what you are.
Hope this helps!
Having used this method for a few years, we've found that it works quite well in weeding out the "EWWWWWW". Verifications are fine, but the people doing the verifying might not be looking for what you are.
Hope this helps!
JIMANDANNA wrote:
There are couples who, for whatever reason, are not as much in demand as other couples. This can result in non-verification. If you feel like feel that verification is the end -all and be -all when considering meeting another couple, you're going to miss out on a lot of nice people. Those considerations could be weight, age, countenance, or distance. We've been members here for about 4 years and were only recently verified. That doesn't mean that we were any less than we were before we were verified. My point is that while verification can be a useful tool, it shouldn't be your only considertion when exploring whether to meet another couple.
Just our way of trying to figure out who is who. Not saying it is for everyone, but we have to have some filtering criteria or we would get overwhelmed by emails/requests to meet/friend requests etc. We are sure there are some pretty nice people that don't want to get VIP or have testimonials which is fine, we just won't ever meet them. Our way of doing things, not trying to set rules.
NASTY4U2 wrote:
Florida actually has the most members on here. Utah is just the most active. And thats what I've noticed but also that is actually quoted by ADMIN
Woo hoo, go FL. Unfortunately, this doesn't make up for never being in the chat room....
T4REAL69 wrote:
Quite honestly I'd rather send myself!
Oh darlin, you name the date and the time!
COUNTRYBIKERS wrote:T4REAL69 wrote:
Quite honestly I'd rather send myself!
Oh darlin, you name the date and the time!
Oh God don't let me miss this appointment
On a side note, there are many of us that are VIP that can verify other members, all ya gotta do is ask...or the easiest is cam with admin
T4REAL69 wrote:Oh God don't let me miss this appointmentNAUGHTYGIRL101 wrote:Oh darlin, you name the date and the time!
[quote=COUNTRYBIKERS][quote=T4REAL69]Quite honestly I'd rather send myself!
On a side note, there are many of us that are VIP that can verify other members, all ya gotta do is ask...or the easiest is cam with admin [/quote]Oh Naughty sweetie I'd just as soon forget my name as fail to make you a part of the party
[/quote]Oh hun you have made me forget my name and many other things just thinking about you...mmmmmm
what the hell is this site new where is all the playing going on
@ ADAMEVE: We're a lot like you guys. We actually started the verification process some time back, but never followed through as life got in the way. (I have a very intrusive, judgmental ex-spouse.) So we really haven't been that active on the site for some time. Also, because we're in Boise and so much of the membership is centered in Utah, we just don't connect often with folks from Swingular. Mostly our LS activity is locally with folks we already know.
Side note: We were paying members of another site at one time that gave us more local contacts, but we haven't paid in there for awhile now. We love this site, and love that lifetime membership! It gives us a tie-in for when we do want to re-connect.
P.S. - If anyone wants to help us get verified, we're game. ;0)
Side note: We were paying members of another site at one time that gave us more local contacts, but we haven't paid in there for awhile now. We love this site, and love that lifetime membership! It gives us a tie-in for when we do want to re-connect.
P.S. - If anyone wants to help us get verified, we're game. ;0)