I'm here today to talk about single male bashing. I'm sick and tired of...
Ok, relax, un-boil the blood. I am just kidding
But seriously, I am a little lost (and maybe a bit nervous too) when it comes to the parties. I am a single male, and new to this, but maybe unlike others, I do have quite the interest in all of this and was looking for some advice on the parties or meet and greets. I guess I'm not sure what to expect or how to go about it and I am considering going to one of these gatherings but i don't want to be the guy sitting in the corner or getting weird looks b/c I'm by myself, or just end up at a sausage fest like a moron and get discouraged. So I guess what i am asking is how should I go about my first meet and greet/party. Am I even invited being single etc?
Ok, relax, un-boil the blood. I am just kidding
But seriously, I am a little lost (and maybe a bit nervous too) when it comes to the parties. I am a single male, and new to this, but maybe unlike others, I do have quite the interest in all of this and was looking for some advice on the parties or meet and greets. I guess I'm not sure what to expect or how to go about it and I am considering going to one of these gatherings but i don't want to be the guy sitting in the corner or getting weird looks b/c I'm by myself, or just end up at a sausage fest like a moron and get discouraged. So I guess what i am asking is how should I go about my first meet and greet/party. Am I even invited being single etc?
Hey Bro ~ You may want to check out the Home Page ~ On the left hand side about Two Thirds down the page ~ they have a whole bunch of questions that you may find helpful ?
Yea I have read all of the Q and A and rules etc. I understand all that. That doesn't really touch on what I am getting at here. I guess maybe I am looking for some personal accounts, experiences, and some sort of motivation or purpose i suppose. Otherwise, I may just skip that part, not know what i am missing (or not missing) and hope someone takes a chance on me lol.... I dunno
JDTRUCKA66 wrote:
Yea I have read all of the Q and A and rules etc. I understand all that. That doesn't really touch on what I am getting at here. I guess maybe I am looking for some personal accounts, experiences, and some sort of motivation or purpose i suppose. Otherwise, I may just skip that part, not know what i am missing (or not missing) and hope someone takes a chance on me lol.... I dunno
Someone takes a chance on you?
WHOA - you need to slow down a bit - actually a LOT.
If it's your expectation that might happen at your first M&G - you're gonna be REAL disappointed.
Go to a meet and greet, be yourself, and treat it as any other gathering of people you don't know but would like to.
In fact, totally forget it's a M&G comprised of folks in the Lifestyle - they're just people.
DON'T BE PUSHY, engage folks in casual conversation and let THEM warm up to YOU.
Don't be surprised if nothing gels the first time.
People in the Lifestyle are GREAT folks, but they don't jump someone's bones just because they show up at a M&G.
If you make contacts at your first M&G that lead to something - fine.
If not - there will be other M&Gs.
Through all the sites we are on we get ten plus emails a day from single guys that want to hook up with us. Most are degenerate, desperate dicks. There are only one in a hundred that we actually consider. Since you asked let us
tell you what we look for. This is only us and we are not saying this is for everyone, so for all those that get offended over our views. Get over it. It is our opinion and we are not trying to make it law.
Here is how we run single males
1. She is married to someone
2. That someone has ultimate veto power
3. If he doesn't like you in the least little bit you don't have a chance
4. You respect him he will respect you
5. In our relationship it is you and him making her feel amazing
6. In an email, acknowledge him. We are a couple.
7. At a party GO TO HIM FIRST - shake his hand, tell him how sexy his wife is.
8. Once he connects with you he may consider having you fuck his wife along with him.
8. Ask him if you and he would ever be able to get with her.
10. His ultimate pleasure is to have his wife have an amazing time.
11. If you think you are all that and are going to woo her. Think again. YOU AREN'T. He already has her heart and her soul.
12. The worst thing you can do is court her. She is married and only looking for an experience not a partner.
And here are our new things which have worked amazingly well
11. Bring a girl for him. Although this technically makes you NOT a single male it has worked amazingly. It tells him that you aren't just a selfish single male trolling for some cheap snatch, but are willing to view us as a couple and want to bring something for both of us.
12. If you are able to bring another female to the table it means two things. Number one. You are hot enough to have other girls that would join you. Number two. You get to be with her alone as he is with the girl that you brought.
We love those single males that try to please us instead of trying only to please themselves. A rare single male indeed.
So, all those that get offended like in so many other posts of ours. Please. this is how we run things. If you are a husband that wants to sit in the corner and jack off while your wife gets fucked. Great!!! That's your thing. It's just not ours. We expect more out of any single male we ultimately get with.
tell you what we look for. This is only us and we are not saying this is for everyone, so for all those that get offended over our views. Get over it. It is our opinion and we are not trying to make it law.
Here is how we run single males
1. She is married to someone
2. That someone has ultimate veto power
3. If he doesn't like you in the least little bit you don't have a chance
4. You respect him he will respect you
5. In our relationship it is you and him making her feel amazing
6. In an email, acknowledge him. We are a couple.
7. At a party GO TO HIM FIRST - shake his hand, tell him how sexy his wife is.
8. Once he connects with you he may consider having you fuck his wife along with him.
8. Ask him if you and he would ever be able to get with her.
10. His ultimate pleasure is to have his wife have an amazing time.
11. If you think you are all that and are going to woo her. Think again. YOU AREN'T. He already has her heart and her soul.
12. The worst thing you can do is court her. She is married and only looking for an experience not a partner.
And here are our new things which have worked amazingly well
11. Bring a girl for him. Although this technically makes you NOT a single male it has worked amazingly. It tells him that you aren't just a selfish single male trolling for some cheap snatch, but are willing to view us as a couple and want to bring something for both of us.
12. If you are able to bring another female to the table it means two things. Number one. You are hot enough to have other girls that would join you. Number two. You get to be with her alone as he is with the girl that you brought.
We love those single males that try to please us instead of trying only to please themselves. A rare single male indeed.
So, all those that get offended like in so many other posts of ours. Please. this is how we run things. If you are a husband that wants to sit in the corner and jack off while your wife gets fucked. Great!!! That's your thing. It's just not ours. We expect more out of any single male we ultimately get with.
Here is what works for us.
1- Respect, first and foremost. This involves talking to my husband and introducing yourself. He is my priority, my lover and my protector. You have to get through him first to get to me.
2- Don't treat me like a steak ready for devouring. I am a person with feelings, not only tits and ass. I can hold conversations about things other than sex.
3- Let us get to know you. After all, it's mostly about personality. If we like you and make a connection, we might invite you to share our bed.
4- Be gracious. Thank my husband for sharing me with you. Show some care and concern for his feelings.
5- If you are the one making the first move, be willing and ready to offer to pay for dinner or hotel room. If we initiate, we can discuss paying issues together.
6- We have kids, jobs and a social life, we are busy. I cannot and will not bend over backwards to accommodate your sex drive.
All that being said, we enjoy single men. If he treats us right, we/I will treat him right. The guys that have impressed me the most are those who have gone out of their way to talk to my husband, pay for any extracurricular activities with me, made me feel special (not just a sex toy) and thanked my husband for allowing them to spend time with me.
As for first time meetings, try chatting in the chat room first to make some friends. Once you get to know some people that will be going to the M&G, you can have them help you break the ice with other people. If you can, take a friend with you to the M&G. This shows that you can be social and might help people feel more relaxed around you. Don't be afraid to introduce yourself to people at parties. Good luck and I hope this helps.
1- Respect, first and foremost. This involves talking to my husband and introducing yourself. He is my priority, my lover and my protector. You have to get through him first to get to me.
2- Don't treat me like a steak ready for devouring. I am a person with feelings, not only tits and ass. I can hold conversations about things other than sex.
3- Let us get to know you. After all, it's mostly about personality. If we like you and make a connection, we might invite you to share our bed.
4- Be gracious. Thank my husband for sharing me with you. Show some care and concern for his feelings.
5- If you are the one making the first move, be willing and ready to offer to pay for dinner or hotel room. If we initiate, we can discuss paying issues together.
6- We have kids, jobs and a social life, we are busy. I cannot and will not bend over backwards to accommodate your sex drive.
All that being said, we enjoy single men. If he treats us right, we/I will treat him right. The guys that have impressed me the most are those who have gone out of their way to talk to my husband, pay for any extracurricular activities with me, made me feel special (not just a sex toy) and thanked my husband for allowing them to spend time with me.
As for first time meetings, try chatting in the chat room first to make some friends. Once you get to know some people that will be going to the M&G, you can have them help you break the ice with other people. If you can, take a friend with you to the M&G. This shows that you can be social and might help people feel more relaxed around you. Don't be afraid to introduce yourself to people at parties. Good luck and I hope this helps.
It sounds like you have to barter with couples. Bring something to trade with. You're want their wife they want you to give them something in return. Pay for sex, trade for sex, bend over backwards for sex, lie on a bed of nails for sex. You treat them like a god or better yet treat the husband like a god. Feed his ego and you'll have your foot in the door. haha, It sounds like an arranged marriage in some estranged African tribe.
YOU: "I want to marry your daughter. Here is 5 goats a pile of hay and some turnips."
Property Owner: "Deal. Here is my daughter." In this case, wife.
Remember, men have feelings too and can often be jealous of the attention their wives receive. Be mindful of that as well.
YOU: "I want to marry your daughter. Here is 5 goats a pile of hay and some turnips."
Property Owner: "Deal. Here is my daughter." In this case, wife.
Remember, men have feelings too and can often be jealous of the attention their wives receive. Be mindful of that as well.
AMMEND wrote:
It sounds like you have to barter with couples. Bring something to trade with. You're want their wife they want you to give them something in return. Pay for sex, trade for sex, bend over backwards for sex, lie on a bed of nails for sex. You treat them like a god or better yet treat the husband like a god. Feed his ego and you'll have your foot in the door. haha, It sounds like an arranged marriage in some estranged African tribe.
YOU: "I want to marry your wife. Here is 5 goats a pile of hay and some turnips."
Property Owner: "Deal. Here is my daughter." In this case, wife.
You got it. When I am offering my queen to you, you better respect that or go back to your dark hole and pleasure yourself.
AMMEND wrote:AMMEND wrote:
It sounds like you have to barter with couples. Bring something to trade with. You're want their wife they want you to give them something in return. Pay for sex, trade for sex, bend over backwards for sex, lie on a bed of nails for sex. You treat them like a god or better yet treat the husband like a god. Feed his ego and you'll have your foot in the door. haha, It sounds like an arranged marriage in some estranged African tribe.
YOU: "I want to marry your daughter. Here is 5 goats a pile of hay and some turnips."
Property Owner: "Deal. Here is my daughter." In this case, wife.
Remember, men have feelings too and can often be jealous of the attention their wives receive. Be mindful of that as well.
Well said!
VLADTHEIMPALER wrote:INVITESOME wrote:You got it. When I am offering my queen to you, you better respect that or go back to your dark hole and pleasure yourself.
[quote=AMMEND]It sounds like you have to barter with couples. Bring something to trade with. You're want their wife they want you to give them something in return. Pay for sex, trade for sex, bend over backwards for sex, lie on a bed of nails for sex. You treat them like a god or better yet treat the husband like a god. Feed his ego and you'll have your foot in the door. haha, It sounds like an arranged marriage in some estranged African tribe. YOU: "I want to marry your wife. Here is 5 goats a pile of hay and some turnips." Property Owner: "Deal. Here is my daughter." In this case, wife.
I personally wouldn't want to be with a couple where the two of them didn't feel this way about each other. If you really respect the relationship this is the attitude you should expect, accept and respect. Hell, I sound like Johnny Cochran there. LOL.[/quote]
We would get along. Cheers
I think he meant that in a good way invitesome. Lol. wow. I guess us singles should just go back to our dark holes and beat off
Every couple on here has been single. Why all the animosity?
Anyways, respect should always be there from both parties. You as a single male (JD) shouldn't have to offer all the respect if you get none in return. Remember, physical appearances only last so long. If your personality sucks than sex will suck anyways.
Just be yourself as long as you aren't a douche Good luck in coupleland.
I'll be in Vegas with the plastics
Every couple on here has been single. Why all the animosity? Anyways, respect should always be there from both parties. You as a single male (JD) shouldn't have to offer all the respect if you get none in return. Remember, physical appearances only last so long. If your personality sucks than sex will suck anyways.
Just be yourself as long as you aren't a douche
Good luck in coupleland. I'll be in Vegas with the plastics
TATERTOT1982 wrote:
I think he meant that in a good way invitesome. Lol. wow. I guess us singles should just go back to our dark holes and beat off
Anyways, respect should always be there from both parties. You as a single male (JD) shouldn't have to offer all the respect if you get none in return. Remember, physical appearances only last so long. If your personality sucks than sex will suck anyways.
Just be yourself as long as you aren't a douche
I'll be in Vegas with the plastics
That's why we said we would get along with Vlad. Singles and couples need to realize everyone is important. No dark hols, all we request is a respect for our relationship. We are in Vegas every month. What is the plastics? Sounds intriguing.
Oh all the models I work with That's what I call em. lol. Not that intriguing promise. BUt on the bright side I get to see lots of titties and ass in the locker room
That's what I call em. lol. Not that intriguing promise. BUt on the bright side I get to see lots of titties and ass in the locker roomI think Invite and ABC pretty much covered the best way for single guys to get along in the lifestyle.
It's not about the sex, it's about making the connection before you ever get to the sex.
It's not about the sex, it's about making the connection before you ever get to the sex.
So, invitesome, I need to shake your hand and compliment you for having such a beautiful wife and offer up Mrs. Daisy? I think that is such a cool way to go about hooking up with such a great couple.lol Oh wait, I am not a single guy. You are right though, most single guys seem to talk through the dude to get at the lady.(Some married guys as well)
I can say that Mrs. Daisy knows what she likes and any dude that joins us in our bed should first be cool to Mr. Daisy as he is allowing you to spend time with her. Show up with a cocky attitude and we will take you back to school. I am her #1 and she is my #1. Any dude that don't respect that is not a swinger, they are just a duchebag and will be kicked off the island.
Treat the Mr. with respect and make the Mrs cum hard and you may be asked to return.
I can say that Mrs. Daisy knows what she likes and any dude that joins us in our bed should first be cool to Mr. Daisy as he is allowing you to spend time with her. Show up with a cocky attitude and we will take you back to school. I am her #1 and she is my #1. Any dude that don't respect that is not a swinger, they are just a duchebag and will be kicked off the island.
Treat the Mr. with respect and make the Mrs cum hard and you may be asked to return.
AMMEND wrote:
It sounds like you have to barter with couples. Bring something to trade with. You're want their wife they want you to give them something in return. Pay for sex, trade for sex, bend over backwards for sex, lie on a bed of nails for sex. You treat them like a god or better yet treat the husband like a god. Feed his ego and you'll have your foot in the door. haha, It sounds like an arranged marriage in some estranged African tribe. YOU: "I want to marry your daughter. Here is 5 goats a pile of hay and some turnips." Property Owner: "Deal. Here is my daughter." In this case, wife. Remember, men have feelings too and can often be jealous of the attention their wives receive. Be mindful of that as well.
You are not really paying for sex. You are paying for an evening out. If you take a single woman out you would, being male, be expected to pay for the evening, right! So don
SEAKINGHER wrote:
[quote=AMMEND]It sounds like you have to barter with couples. Bring something to trade with. You're want their wife they want you to give them something in return. Pay for sex, trade for sex, bend over backwards for sex, lie on a bed of nails for sex. You treat them like a god or better yet treat the husband like a god. Feed his ego and you'll have your foot in the door. haha, It sounds like an arranged marriage in some estranged African tribe. YOU: "I want to marry your daughter. Here is 5 goats a pile of hay and some turnips." Property Owner: "Deal. Here is my daughter." In this case, wife. Remember, men have feelings too and can often be jealous of the attention their wives receive. Be mindful of that as well.
You are not really paying for sex. You are paying for an evening out. If you take a single woman out you would, being male, be expected to pay for the evening, right! So don
Ammend, Yes my husband is the gatekeeper and has the final say. But after he says yes if I as the female think no way. Then you don't stand a chance. So you are so wrong in your scenario. I won't fuck anyway I don't want to. The great thing is, I have the final say on single women that want to get with him. Our relationship goes both ways.
Dear Ammend:
Everyone has their own social norms. I have mine and you have yours and I reserve the right to do what makes me feel good and will allow you to do your thing. I am completely aware of the change in social norms as to who pays. That does not mean that I have to buy into it. I
Everyone has their own social norms. I have mine and you have yours and I reserve the right to do what makes me feel good and will allow you to do your thing. I am completely aware of the change in social norms as to who pays. That does not mean that I have to buy into it. I
MALE TYPING!!!!!
For me, it is pretty simple to get past my gate:
1.) Do NOT use, do, say, etc. anything that is remotely disrespectful. This includes touching inappropriately, trying to steal a kiss, grabbing a tit or ass, etc. (YES, it has happened).
2.) Dress to impress! This does not mean a suit or tux, however, if you show up in shorts, a t-shirt and sneakers, it tells a lot about you. You may think it is showing you're laid back, to me it shows that you don't take the time to make yourself presentable, you won't take the time to please my lady.
3.) Do NOT talk to the tits, if you do, you won't be meeting them.
4.) Do NOT ignore me, I know you don't want to fuck me, and tough shit if you do, it ain't happening, but I possess veto power and will excercise it if I feel that you're a prick.
5.) Do NOT brag, nothing is a bigger turn off than someone who brags about their prowess. Because you met a lady once and she told you that you were the biggest dick, best lay, etc. does not make it so.
6.) Do NOT expect anything but a decent conversation, to expect otherwise will show and it'll ruin your chances. When I was single, I went into it expecting to be stood up, if they showed up I was delighted and anything beyond that was bonus.
7.) Bring condoms, whether they're profile says they want them or not. Bring urethane ones AND latex ones, people can be allergic to both. Make it abundantly clear that you intend to use said condoms, nothing shows respect like this, for all parties involved. If they don't want or need one to be used, that is between you and them.
8.) Offer to pay for drinks, personally, I won't allow it, however, it is nice to be offered it.
9.) Pay for the hotel if one is necessary. Do NOT pre-pay for one, it is FAR to presumptuous, unless it has been discussed previously.
10.) ALWAYS be honest, if you're single be single, married be married, 9" is 9", 4" is 4", we'll find it all out eventually anyway, so don't lie, it'll create bad mojo for you and a bad reputation. Don't say you love to eat pussy for hours on end, then do the old hucklebuck for 15 seconds and expect her to blow you for an hour.
11.) ALWAYS be able to perform, if you need Vitamin V, get it, don't come to the party with a limp dick.
12.) Understand your role in the situation, yes, you're a human being with feelings, desires, etc. however, in this situation, you're a toy, no different than a vibrator, make sure you understand this. To think we're there to please you is going to make your situation disappointing. YES, you will be pleasured, however, that's not the focus.
13.) Unless you're told to, do NOT grab her head and force her down on you, she knows how to do it, trust me.
14.) If someone says to stop, stop, it doesn't matter that you're about to cum, stop immediately, something is wrong and needs to be handled, now, not in 3 strokes. Be prepared for it to end at any time, even if it is mid stroke, this can happen.
15.) Like when you're with your mother, wife, girlfriend, etc. do not recklessly eyeball other women, tonight it is about my lady, show the respect that she deserves.
16.) I am presenting you with a gift, the most valuable and perfect thing I possess (if someone can actually possess a person, but I think you know what I mean), treat it as such or you'll regret it.
17.) Be gentle, nothing is worse than having my gal call out in pain because you got a bit frisky with her nipples or clit.
18.) Listen to the verbal and physical cues from the lady, she'll let you know what is or is not working. Pay attention.
19.) Shave your cock and balls, if you want someone to play on the playground, you'd better mow the lawn. You expect her to be groomed, right? Why shouldn't you be groomed also?
20.) Have fun and be yourself. Don't try to be something or someone you're not, be yourself. If you're a crew member at Taco Bell, say so, don't try to play it off that you're an owner or manager or something, just be you. I recall a man who used to frequent a local swing club, he was quite popular, even though he didn't know how to dress. Why? Cause he told everyone he was an extreme fighter, he was very well built, had the face of a fighter, and looked the part with his style of dress. Someone who was heavily into extreme fighting came in the club and had never heard, seen, etc. of this guy, he's not been seen at the club since.
21.) READ THE PROFILE! If you don't fall into their desires, don't waste your time, if she wants a 30 year old, it doesn't matter that you're in excellent shape and 35, you're still 35! If they contact you, that's different, however, don't bother them. Now, if you saw someone online who wanted someone taller, shorter, younger, better built, etc. and didn't bother them, but see them out, say hello, you never know what may happen.
There's more I am missing, but this should assist you, at least if you ever wanted to meet us.
For me, it is pretty simple to get past my gate:
1.) Do NOT use, do, say, etc. anything that is remotely disrespectful. This includes touching inappropriately, trying to steal a kiss, grabbing a tit or ass, etc. (YES, it has happened).
2.) Dress to impress! This does not mean a suit or tux, however, if you show up in shorts, a t-shirt and sneakers, it tells a lot about you. You may think it is showing you're laid back, to me it shows that you don't take the time to make yourself presentable, you won't take the time to please my lady.
3.) Do NOT talk to the tits, if you do, you won't be meeting them.
4.) Do NOT ignore me, I know you don't want to fuck me, and tough shit if you do, it ain't happening, but I possess veto power and will excercise it if I feel that you're a prick.
5.) Do NOT brag, nothing is a bigger turn off than someone who brags about their prowess. Because you met a lady once and she told you that you were the biggest dick, best lay, etc. does not make it so.
6.) Do NOT expect anything but a decent conversation, to expect otherwise will show and it'll ruin your chances. When I was single, I went into it expecting to be stood up, if they showed up I was delighted and anything beyond that was bonus.
7.) Bring condoms, whether they're profile says they want them or not. Bring urethane ones AND latex ones, people can be allergic to both. Make it abundantly clear that you intend to use said condoms, nothing shows respect like this, for all parties involved. If they don't want or need one to be used, that is between you and them.
8.) Offer to pay for drinks, personally, I won't allow it, however, it is nice to be offered it.
9.) Pay for the hotel if one is necessary. Do NOT pre-pay for one, it is FAR to presumptuous, unless it has been discussed previously.
10.) ALWAYS be honest, if you're single be single, married be married, 9" is 9", 4" is 4", we'll find it all out eventually anyway, so don't lie, it'll create bad mojo for you and a bad reputation. Don't say you love to eat pussy for hours on end, then do the old hucklebuck for 15 seconds and expect her to blow you for an hour.
11.) ALWAYS be able to perform, if you need Vitamin V, get it, don't come to the party with a limp dick.
12.) Understand your role in the situation, yes, you're a human being with feelings, desires, etc. however, in this situation, you're a toy, no different than a vibrator, make sure you understand this. To think we're there to please you is going to make your situation disappointing. YES, you will be pleasured, however, that's not the focus.
13.) Unless you're told to, do NOT grab her head and force her down on you, she knows how to do it, trust me.
14.) If someone says to stop, stop, it doesn't matter that you're about to cum, stop immediately, something is wrong and needs to be handled, now, not in 3 strokes. Be prepared for it to end at any time, even if it is mid stroke, this can happen.
15.) Like when you're with your mother, wife, girlfriend, etc. do not recklessly eyeball other women, tonight it is about my lady, show the respect that she deserves.
16.) I am presenting you with a gift, the most valuable and perfect thing I possess (if someone can actually possess a person, but I think you know what I mean), treat it as such or you'll regret it.
17.) Be gentle, nothing is worse than having my gal call out in pain because you got a bit frisky with her nipples or clit.
18.) Listen to the verbal and physical cues from the lady, she'll let you know what is or is not working. Pay attention.
19.) Shave your cock and balls, if you want someone to play on the playground, you'd better mow the lawn. You expect her to be groomed, right? Why shouldn't you be groomed also?
20.) Have fun and be yourself. Don't try to be something or someone you're not, be yourself. If you're a crew member at Taco Bell, say so, don't try to play it off that you're an owner or manager or something, just be you. I recall a man who used to frequent a local swing club, he was quite popular, even though he didn't know how to dress. Why? Cause he told everyone he was an extreme fighter, he was very well built, had the face of a fighter, and looked the part with his style of dress. Someone who was heavily into extreme fighting came in the club and had never heard, seen, etc. of this guy, he's not been seen at the club since.
21.) READ THE PROFILE! If you don't fall into their desires, don't waste your time, if she wants a 30 year old, it doesn't matter that you're in excellent shape and 35, you're still 35! If they contact you, that's different, however, don't bother them. Now, if you saw someone online who wanted someone taller, shorter, younger, better built, etc. and didn't bother them, but see them out, say hello, you never know what may happen.
There's more I am missing, but this should assist you, at least if you ever wanted to meet us.
Good lord, telling people they are no better than a sex toy to be used? Shows the lack of respect in just that statement alone. I for one would NEVER be involved with a couple who didn't appreciate me and make me feel more special than just some bitch with a hole for them to fuck.
I am in the lifestyle to have fun. I respect all those who give me respect.
I don't need 21 rules to be with any couple. The only 21 I deal with is at work. Save the book of rules for school. Nooone is ssssssssssssssooooooooooooooo special they need a damn check list, now be unique and don't copy half of what other people already said. How bout going with the flow, if you like the single than awesome, if not move on.
But why assume all single males are scum of the earth, just because they are some bad ones. I'm pretty sure after being on this site a while, I've seen more couples I would never be with because there attitude is negative and depressing. Without them you wouldn't be getting your jollies off half the time.
What happened to the old days when you could just walk up and introduce yourself and handshake? Nice to meet ya.......... If anyone needs to be schooled in manners, sex and life than they are not ready to swing.
Peace and love.......
I am in the lifestyle to have fun. I respect all those who give me respect.
I don't need 21 rules to be with any couple. The only 21 I deal with is at work. Save the book of rules for school. Nooone is ssssssssssssssooooooooooooooo special they need a damn check list, now be unique and don't copy half of what other people already said. How bout going with the flow, if you like the single than awesome, if not move on.
But why assume all single males are scum of the earth, just because they are some bad ones. I'm pretty sure after being on this site a while, I've seen more couples I would never be with because there attitude is negative and depressing. Without them you wouldn't be getting your jollies off half the time.
What happened to the old days when you could just walk up and introduce yourself and handshake? Nice to meet ya.......... If anyone needs to be schooled in manners, sex and life than they are not ready to swing.
Peace and love.......
male half here
maybe i can put this in a nut shell, if your at a meet and greet, just party with these people just as if you were partying with a vinilla couple, your there with no expectations, your not hitting on anyone just enjoying that you are out with fun people, you never know they might just invite you to continue the party after the meet and greet, and if they don't, oh well. go to the next one, it will happen, just don't go with expectations, just because we swing, or like single males, that is going to happen, we have many single male freinds that we have not played with, but we are all aware that we are swingers, its just about going and having a good time.
maybe i can put this in a nut shell, if your at a meet and greet, just party with these people just as if you were partying with a vinilla couple, your there with no expectations, your not hitting on anyone just enjoying that you are out with fun people, you never know they might just invite you to continue the party after the meet and greet, and if they don't, oh well. go to the next one, it will happen, just don't go with expectations, just because we swing, or like single males, that is going to happen, we have many single male freinds that we have not played with, but we are all aware that we are swingers, its just about going and having a good time.
I'm here! Damn I missed the whole conversation! Thanks for the comments and advice everyone. I do appreciate it much. I do realize that this isn't the first time this subject has been discussed but I never claimed to be anything but new to this so thanks for the feedback. As for the parties, yes i was really just trying to find out more about them. I just didn't know how these things function. I understand every couple has certain things they look for etc. I just imagined it might be a bit awkward for the first time and just wanted to know what to expect. Some one said earlier that I need to slow down on the expecting. I wasn't trying to come across as though I expect to get laid my first time or whatever. I am well aware of this and is not what I was ever expecting. I just have never approached a couple so it's a bit different to me obviously than approaching single ladies, which I still do to I have gathered some useful information here though and I am glad some of you took the time to answer honestly so I suppose I will get out there and work on getting to one of these gatherings and hopefully, I can get to know some or all of you at some point Thanks everyone!
I have gathered some useful information here though and I am glad some of you took the time to answer honestly so I suppose I will get out there and work on getting to one of these gatherings and hopefully, I can get to know some or all of you at some point Thanks everyone!Ah, I felt compelled to start my post that way b/c of past threads I have seen on here LOL. I thought it was funny and besides, I thought maybe I would at least get more people to look at my thread and comment haha.
JD your cute , when it comes down to it. Thats really what people first judge you one. Your not disgusting so you stand a chance. Just go to the party to meet cool people. Done. I'm pretty sure if it's like the ones I been to. You will just have people coming to you also. Just dont put you dick in someones face like I got a face full of without wanting lol.Dick in face, not so niceIf all else fails. Flash and run.me too..... except I don't run
except I don't runTATERTOT1982 wrote:
me too.....
We can test your theory out on me k
TATERTOT1982 wrote:
Good lord, telling people they are no better than a sex toy to be used? Shows the lack of respect in just that statement alone. I for one would NEVER be involved with a couple who didn't appreciate me and make me feel more special than just some bitch with a hole for them to fuck. I am in the lifestyle to have fun. I respect all those who give me respect. I don't need 21 rules to be with any couple. The only 21 I deal with is at work. Save the book of rules for school. Nooone is ssssssssssssssooooooooooooooo special they need a damn check list, now be unique and don't copy half of what other people already said. How bout going with the flow, if you like the single than awesome, if not move on. But why assume all single males are scum of the earth, just because they are some bad ones. I'm pretty sure after being on this site a while, I've seen more couples I would never be with because there attitude is negative and depressing. Without them you wouldn't be getting your jollies off half the time. What happened to the old days when you could just walk up and introduce yourself and handshake? Nice to meet ya.......... If anyone needs to be schooled in manners, sex and life than they are not ready to swing. Peace and love.......
You hit the nail on the head TATERTOT1982 however single women don't have the same problem. Glad to see there are some people here that have plain common sense!!!
Love ya.
But I beg to differ yes we might not have the same exact problem, but we still get treated the same way. Do you think I have never walked away from a party where I was ignored or treated badly? Think again. I've had doors slammed in my face, told to leave or women just being rude to me when I come an introduce myself. I've also been told that I couldn't kiss, fuck or even look at their man. Ya so single m or f still have to deal with ignorant people. Not just males honey. There is a reason why I don't go to parties anymore. Just saying, bc Ia m a girl, does not make me special or give me a pass to get laid. Even though I know you think it does. Lol. It just makes it that much more hard to leave the house hahaha (if you had boobs and a va jay jay you wouldn't leave either)
TATERTOT1982 wrote:
But I beg to differ yes we might not have the same exact problem, but we still get treated the same way. Do you think I have never walked away from a party where I was ignored or treated badly? Think again. I've had doors slammed in my face, told to leave or women just being rude to me when I come an introduce myself. I've also been told that I couldn't kiss, fuck or even look at their man. Ya so single m or f still have to deal with ignorant people. Not just males honey. There is a reason why I don't go to parties anymore. Just saying, bc Ia m a girl, does not make me special or give me a pass to get laid. Even though I know you think it does. Lol. It just makes it that much more hard to leave the house hahaha (if you had boobs and a va jay jay you wouldn't leave either)
Honey, Vegas is a mean place...come here...you can kiss, fuck AND talk to my hubby and I'm sure as hell gonna do more than talk to ya!!
Kisses...Naugh-Ty*Edit* Oh I did have a thought in there somewhere...I think with the women it's more of a jealousy thing...you are freakin hot, cute, funny and I could see how it could make SOME women a little insecure
no baby, most of that was in Utah lol (couple of swingers on here , too). I'm always respectful ( I love women the mostest) and try and have fun. But I am thinking about deleting my account, not really gaining anything or meeting anyone decent. And people don't seem to read my profile. Whats the point, I always work when people come to Vegas anyways. Or I get what should we do or go in Vegas. I'm a tour guide now, but I work for free I guess. I'm in a bad mood sweets, lol, sorry.
TATERTOT1982 wrote:
no baby, most of that was in Utah lol (couple of swingers on here , too). I'm always respectful ( I love women the mostest) and try and have fun. But I am thinking about deleting my account, not really gaining anything or meeting anyone decent. And people don't seem to read my profile. Whats the point, I always work when people come to Vegas anyways. Or I get what should we do or go in Vegas. I'm a tour guide now, but I work for free I guess. I'm in a bad mood sweets, lol, sorry.
Oh hun I'm sorry...I really can't imagine being in your shoes...either of the single's really...it's definitely the minority of the lifestyle and I know people aren't always nice!!
Just take a break from the sight and I promise when we make it to Vegas I won't ask you what should we do...I'll just lock ya in the hotel room with me
Kisses sweetie
AYLA5639 wrote:
we can all stay at tot's place it will be cheaper, and the bed will be a lot more fun
Oh now I'm liking that idea!!
Thanks Tot for the compliment and the kind words Same goes for you though. You are beautiful as are the rest of you ladies I definitely don't slam doors in faces but the flash and run part sounds fun LOL. Tot, I come through Vegas often actually. I'm always up for stopping for a drink or whatever when I come through if I have time to stop and if you want to. If your busy, that's cool but if not and you have nothing to do then hey, I'll chill with you for awhile I come through Utah quite a bit as well so hopefully I can meet some of you up there as well. Actually I'm omw to Ogden right now coincidentally
Same goes for you though. You are beautiful as are the rest of you ladies I definitely don't slam doors in faces but the flash and run part sounds fun LOL. Tot, I come through Vegas often actually. I'm always up for stopping for a drink or whatever when I come through if I have time to stop and if you want to. If your busy, that's cool but if not and you have nothing to do then hey, I'll chill with you for awhile I come through Utah quite a bit as well so hopefully I can meet some of you up there as well. Actually I'm omw to Ogden right now coincidentally I love the hot pots in Ogden woo woo, naked outdoor fun and drunkness!!!! I miss Utah outdoors.... YES party at my place ladies and JD you can be my playmate too lol. Unless the ladies don't wanna share hehhehehe......
YES party at my place ladies and JD you can be my playmate too lol. Unless the ladies don't wanna share hehhehehe......I love the hot pots in Ogden woo woo, naked outdoor fun and drunkness!!!! I miss Utah outdoors.... YES party at my place ladies and JD you can be my playmate too lol. Unless the ladies don't wanna share hehhehehe......
YES party at my place ladies and JD you can be my playmate too lol. Unless the ladies don't wanna share hehhehehe......Sounds like MOST everyone likes to share around here, at least in this thread If not, I don't mind watching from the front row
If not, I don't mind watching from the front row TATERTOT1982 wrote:
I love the hot pots in Ogden woo woo, naked outdoor fun and drunkness!!!! I miss Utah outdoors....
Oh I don't know if I can share...hehehe...j/k...the more the merrier!!!!
Kisses...Naugh-Ty
TATERTOT1982 wrote:
no baby, most of that was in Utah lol (couple of swingers on here , too). I'm always respectful ( I love women the mostest) and try and have fun. But I am thinking about deleting my account, not really gaining anything or meeting anyone decent. And people don't seem to read my profile. Whats the point, I always work when people come to Vegas anyways. Or I get what should we do or go in Vegas. I'm a tour guide now, but I work for free I guess. I'm in a bad mood sweets, lol, sorry.
Good God girl. Don
One of the nice things about m&g's is getting the chance to putting faces to profiles and sometimes getting an idea of who you would like to get to know better. One thing about people in the lifestyle is that they are for the most part pretty friendly open people. As far as if you would be welcome just connect with the moderators of the evening and get on the list. (At least in thinking about 2 m&g's groups around here that we hear about, I don't think I have seen anything saying couples only for the upcoming evenings planned) Once your there, be yourself and make use of the information others have given on here.
Introduce yourself and make use of the chance to meet a few people and start up some connections. There is not a lot of talk on here from people in western Idaho but I give kudos to you already for the discussions you have joined in on and the comments you have made.
Oh and if you go and only have an okay time...don't give up on the m&g's. We don't get to all of them but it seems like when we do go there is always several people that we never saw before; along with the regulars. And in my opinion becoming a familiar face is a good idea--unless you really find that you didn't have any fun at all of course.
Introduce yourself and make use of the chance to meet a few people and start up some connections. There is not a lot of talk on here from people in western Idaho but I give kudos to you already for the discussions you have joined in on and the comments you have made.
Oh and if you go and only have an okay time...don't give up on the m&g's. We don't get to all of them but it seems like when we do go there is always several people that we never saw before; along with the regulars. And in my opinion becoming a familiar face is a good idea--unless you really find that you didn't have any fun at all of course.
Thanks kittybear Yea, this thread was actually helpful and a bit comforting as everyone who posted had good positive things to say, which is very encouraging. And I figured, I should at least get on the boards and cause some trouble and see what kind of crazy people are on this site
Yea, this thread was actually helpful and a bit comforting as everyone who posted had good positive things to say, which is very encouraging. And I figured, I should at least get on the boards and cause some trouble and see what kind of crazy people are on this site JDTRUCKA66 wrote:
Thanks kittybear
That right there is exactly how it's done...between the forums and chat, make yourself known, people will see what kind of personality you have and then when you do make it to a meet n greet they'll be able to put a face with the name and personality and that will be the beginnings of all your new friends...
Just do like the others have said and don't go with expectations of anything other than meeting a few people, having a couple drinks and having a good time...just from our conversations I know I don't have to tell you to be respectful to both (especially the hubby, you know the "gatekeeper" lmao)...it will be a little awkward at first, it is for everyone, but as soon as you get the first couple introductions over you'll be great
Kisses...Naugh-Ty