This has haunted me for a long time. I have had several thousand views yet no contacts. This has been over some years but still.. I will admit my profile isn't verbose but still I can't figure out anything more than location.
This isn't another single male whine and I don't abuse the e-mail thing or harrass anyone because I don't work that way. I mean it's like almost there and several thousand times so.
I have seen hot couples that have been on the site for a long time and only a couple hundred views, so what's up with this?
This isn't another single male whine and I don't abuse the e-mail thing or harrass anyone because I don't work that way. I mean it's like almost there and several thousand times so.
I have seen hot couples that have been on the site for a long time and only a couple hundred views, so what's up with this?
The following is just my opinion.
1)Kudos for being open about being bi-sexual. I personally am not a hypocritical homaphobe (you know the type - where its ok for 2 women but if it's 2 men they get grossed out.) People like that disgust me. It's one thing to be straight, but it's another to be narrow minded. The fact that you are open about is says a lot about you. That rocks.
'Nuff said.
2)N/A for kissing and role playing? It's a yes, no, or maybe question. Either you will, you won't, or it depends on the situation.
3)I would leave the unemployment part out. Your ability to fuck is not dependent on your career or lack there of. Unless of course, unemployment is causing stress which in turn causes your ability to get an erection. Also, on the same topic, you say you want to find a swing partner or even marriage - which is totally understandable and cool (I personally want a regular partner so I can go do "couples things" at parties, along with couples swaps, too) but announcing you are having both working issues and $$$ issues isn't going to attract someone. While you aren't saying verbatim you want a sugar mama, it insinuates that anyone getting involved with you better be prepared to financially cover the cost of dates, hotels, and eventually living expenses if the relationship goes anywhere.
4)Talk more about YOU...what you can bring to the bed sexually. Also about who you are in general. Hobbies, interests, etc. Own who you are. I tell people up front that I am not body perfect. I have gravity, age, and etc working against me...however, I have skills and those are what keeps people interested. Sell yourself with no apologies.
I hope you find the advice you are looking for.
xox
Tammy
1)Kudos for being open about being bi-sexual. I personally am not a hypocritical homaphobe (you know the type - where its ok for 2 women but if it's 2 men they get grossed out.) People like that disgust me. It's one thing to be straight, but it's another to be narrow minded. The fact that you are open about is says a lot about you. That rocks.
'Nuff said. 2)N/A for kissing and role playing? It's a yes, no, or maybe question. Either you will, you won't, or it depends on the situation.
3)I would leave the unemployment part out. Your ability to fuck is not dependent on your career or lack there of. Unless of course, unemployment is causing stress which in turn causes your ability to get an erection. Also, on the same topic, you say you want to find a swing partner or even marriage - which is totally understandable and cool (I personally want a regular partner so I can go do "couples things" at parties, along with couples swaps, too) but announcing you are having both working issues and $$$ issues isn't going to attract someone. While you aren't saying verbatim you want a sugar mama, it insinuates that anyone getting involved with you better be prepared to financially cover the cost of dates, hotels, and eventually living expenses if the relationship goes anywhere.
4)Talk more about YOU...what you can bring to the bed sexually. Also about who you are in general. Hobbies, interests, etc. Own who you are. I tell people up front that I am not body perfect. I have gravity, age, and etc working against me...however, I have skills and those are what keeps people interested. Sell yourself with no apologies.
I hope you find the advice you are looking for.
xox
Tammy
That is fantastic advice Tammy and very well put!!!
Thanks so much Tammy. Your input is sincerely appreciated.
I have often felt that I should humble myself in presence of the barrage of attacks against single males who would "push" themselves onto others in a numbers game.
As for the money pit, I don't want to sell a bill of goods I can't deliver. To look at it another way, I don't have a boat or property where people could arrive and hang out. I am but an apartment dweller and I would be more than happy to pay my way if asked to meet someone. If I could not I would so indicate. I didn't think the indication of difficulty, as has happened to many would make me to be like a 'beach bum' ?? I'm just a regular guy trying to survive. None the less I will review.
Kisses.
I have often felt that I should humble myself in presence of the barrage of attacks against single males who would "push" themselves onto others in a numbers game.
As for the money pit, I don't want to sell a bill of goods I can't deliver. To look at it another way, I don't have a boat or property where people could arrive and hang out. I am but an apartment dweller and I would be more than happy to pay my way if asked to meet someone. If I could not I would so indicate. I didn't think the indication of difficulty, as has happened to many would make me to be like a 'beach bum' ?? I'm just a regular guy trying to survive. None the less I will review.
Kisses.
It's one thing to be humble....but another to be apologetic. And if someone wont' see you cuz you don't keep up with Jones then breath a sigh of relief. You just dodged a bullet. Who the fuck wants someone high maintenance.
But yes, women, in general do like to be "courted" and shown a good time. And when you are meeting someone new, meeting them in public for coffee and buying a cup of coffee for her is a cheap but gentlemanly thing to do. A woman with class and manners is not gonna order the most expensive thing on the menu UNLESS she is willing to go dutch or treat you instead. And it's 2010. Yes women do offer to pay occasionally. Me included. Especially if I ask the man out myself. If a man asks me, unless otherwise discussed, I expect him to pay and vice versa.
Oh and for the record, once you feel a rapport with a woman and/or couple, offer to entertain them at your apartment and cook for them. I'm sure they will offer to bring the wine or dessert. No pressure, little costs, and a relaxed atmosphere.
If someone is only impressed by your entertainment budget, then you need to drop them FAST. A pricey dinner date isn't what is gonna get you laid. Your personality and charm will.
But yes, women, in general do like to be "courted" and shown a good time. And when you are meeting someone new, meeting them in public for coffee and buying a cup of coffee for her is a cheap but gentlemanly thing to do. A woman with class and manners is not gonna order the most expensive thing on the menu UNLESS she is willing to go dutch or treat you instead. And it's 2010. Yes women do offer to pay occasionally. Me included. Especially if I ask the man out myself. If a man asks me, unless otherwise discussed, I expect him to pay and vice versa.
Oh and for the record, once you feel a rapport with a woman and/or couple, offer to entertain them at your apartment and cook for them. I'm sure they will offer to bring the wine or dessert. No pressure, little costs, and a relaxed atmosphere.
If someone is only impressed by your entertainment budget, then you need to drop them FAST. A pricey dinner date isn't what is gonna get you laid. Your personality and charm will.
Well I have to say I have no idea who has viewed me over the five year + period so I don't know how to percieve the presence that I portray, So do I really need to tweak? I think not, for reality has merit where persona has not.
So tell me, is there a reason you would not want to ask me to meet with you Tammy? What is it please.?
So tell me, is there a reason you would not want to ask me to meet with you Tammy? What is it please.?
HOOLIGANS wrote:
Another note: your forum posts are often 'too much info' and you probably get lookie-loo views due to those posts
Also another good point that we were just talking about....
Well, this is no Laughlin Matter!
Sent you a message . . .
Sent you a message . . .
WESEE wrote:
Well, this is no Laughlin Matter!
Sent you a message . . .
HAHA
DESERTSTONE wrote:
Well I have to say I have no idea who has viewed me over the five year + period so I don't know how to percieve the presence that I portray, So do I really need to tweak? I think not, for reality has merit where persona has not.
So tell me, is there a reason you would not want to ask me to meet with you Tammy? What is it please.?
1) distance. Im in utah.
2) the reasons I mentioned in my first reply to you.
But on other hand, I don't find you offensive for the most part - alto one of your forum posts was WAY TMI even for me. But all in all I find you harmless and easy going.
blueeyes ... great advice .
PARTY1981 wrote:
I agree. I wonder if blueeyes will critique my profile...
Only if you ask.
Otherwise, not my place. :*PARTY1981 wrote:
Ok, ok, I'm asking...
A+. Excellent profile. Pic included. Says alot about you and what you want.
Brings out my inner cougar. ~shrug~
Im not the type to roar...I'm a purring kind of girl.
And you're welcome.
And you're welcome.
I would like to take this time to thank BLUEEYES and WESEE for the great advise both here in forum and e-mail. I will be updating my profile. -Rick
We've had our profile for almost two years and had very few people contact us. My perception is that if your not in UT or FL your pretty much outta luck.
Utah rocks!
take off the photos with dirty mirrors
FUNCOUPLE223 wrote:
We've had our profile for almost two years and had very few people contact us. My perception is that if your not in UT or FL your pretty much outta luck.
Florida is a GREAT place to visit this time of year.
We'll leave the light on for ya.
Photos deleted, thanks.
Ok Rick, it was me. I click on your profile when I'm bored lol I didn't realize it was so perplexing to you, ya want me to stop???
I didnt know that you could see who has viewed your profile where would i find that option?
Good job , Rick for being open to this discussion and your ability to listen and make a change. I wonder too, that after I make so many friend requests here that we only end up hearing from very few people. It is what is, but I appreciate someone who is willing to say what they think inorder to help me improve for a more desired outcome. We are all in this together and simple communication is very positive. Take Care- JJ
WHISKEYJR_W wrote:
I didnt know that you could see who has viewed your profile where would i find that option?
You can't see who has viewed your profile only how many times it has been viewed...you do this by clicking on your own name on one of your posts or somewhere in your settings....
DESERTSTONE wrote:
Well I have to say I have no idea who has viewed me over the five year + period so I don't know how to percieve the presence that I portray, So do I really need to tweak? I think not, for reality has merit where persona has not. So tell me, is there a reason you would not want to ask me to meet with you Tammy? What is it please.?
Hey there, I have viewed your profile and it just seems to be TMI, really! You are open and that is great, but really it's too much info, and with each person having their own likes and dislikes, less can be more sometimes...... just a thought.
Just lookers and no contact hah...well that happens to couples also. Nothing new. Consider this one. We are sorta new to this site, we mainly hang out on SLS, SZC and Swapper. After a little over 2 years our counter on SLS currently shows 17225 looks. Our e-mail totals of opened and answered are a little over 500. And it is tougher for single guys. So, don't give up...
Well, our profile has been on here for about a year now and we have yet to be contacted by anyone in our state(Indiana) and those we have contacted ourselves have led nowhere which is ok with us because we are currently not looking, but was pretty disappointing when we were searching. I only get on here now to read and/or post on the forum. Honestly, I haven't even looked at our profile on here in a long while. We met all of our friends through SLS.
SUMINDYFUN wrote:
Well, our profile has been on here for about a year now and we have yet to be contacted by anyone in our state(Indiana) and those we have contacted ourselves have led nowhere which is ok with us because we are currently not looking, but was pretty disappointing when we were searching. I only get on here now to read and/or post on the forum. Honestly, I haven't even looked at our profile on here in a long while. We met all of our friends through SLS.
Love to be 'In the Middle"
LOL
Blade
Maybe you should make a yearly trip to Utah 
We will all make it worth your time
Love Utah
We will all make it worth your time
Love Utah
GIRLSRYUMMY wrote:
Maybe you should make a yearly trip to Utah
on my bucket list ..lol
Blade
You look like my brother in law, sorry, never gonna happen, Majestic pics her brother, were out of the equasion..lol on a personal note, keep fishin!
FUNCOUPLE223 wrote:
We've had our profile for almost two years and had very few people contact us. My perception is that if your not in UT or FL your pretty much outta luck.
Swingular did start in florida and utah, and that seems to be where the most vocal members are from but the site is getting more and more members from other states everyday...so just be patient and you'll find some friends close to you
We have a standing joke in our house- when we get a hit on Swingular the first thing we ask the other person is UT or FL?! We travel all over the USA in our sweet RV so our locations changes a lot, sometimes every 3 weeks. I plan ahead and change my "location status" about 1 week out as to up the odds of finding that illusive fun couple that doesnt need "to be freinds first" inorder to just get together and have a good time. We are sure to send personal emails short in nature so the target couple knows we are serious and hopefully it prompte them to read our site stats as to help them better understand what we are after PRIOR to moving on. We have met a number of fun folks that have been great to chat with, but thus far, I just can't seem to find a willing lady to play with my longing clit. 
Or rig already has plans to be in UT this spring...and we are REALLY looking forward to that trip!
Or rig already has plans to be in UT this spring...and we are REALLY looking forward to that trip!We hope to see YOU TWO in Yellowstone!
lol-- we are supposed to BE in FL right now, but plans changed and we had to attend a show here in Louisville...and its so cold my nipples are hard 24/7! Flordia sure sounds a lot better! One day will will make it your way as a number of our "friends" are in, guess where?!?!!? OMG!, yes! FL OR UT! lol! Hugs- JJ
24THEROAD wrote:
We have a standing joke in our house- when we get a hit on Swingular the first thing we ask the other person is UT or FL?! We travel all over the USA in our sweet RV so our locations changes a lot, sometimes every 3 weeks. I plan ahead and change my "location status" about 1 week out as to up the odds of finding that illusive fun couple that doesnt need "to be freinds first" inorder to just get together and have a good time. We are sure to send personal emails short in nature so the target couple knows we are serious and hopefully it prompte them to read our site stats as to help them better understand what we are after PRIOR to moving on. We have met a number of fun folks that have been great to chat with, but thus far, I just can't seem to find a willing lady to play with my longing clit.
Wait wait wait...did you say you can't find a lady willing to play with your clit...oh hun, you really haven't met the right girls yet have you...there is almost nothing sweeter than having my lips and tongue down there, flicking and sucking on your clit, lapping up your juices....
Ahhh shit, I better stop now, I have to go to town
Kisses...Naugh-Ty
WICKEDWANDA wrote:
Ok Rick, it was me. I click on your profile when I'm bored lol I didn't realize it was so perplexing to you, ya want me to stop???
DON'T STOP, you can click me any time you want!
Thanks!24THEROAD wrote:
Good job , Rick for being open to this discussion and your ability to listen and make a change. I wonder too, that after I make so many friend requests here that we only end up hearing from very few people. It is what is, but I appreciate someone who is willing to say what they think inorder to help me improve for a more desired outcome. We are all in this together and simple communication is very positive. Take Care- JJ
Thanks JJ for your input. It get's kinda lonely when I don't hear from anyone.
I would equate it to one of those rare happenings on the NATGEO channel when you're flipping through the channels and you see something that catches your eye. You stop on that channel and then realize it's the same ole show you've seen a million times. It's not interesting and you keep on channel surfing.
24THEROAD wrote:
lol-- we are supposed to BE in FL right now, but plans changed and we had to attend a show here in Louisville...and its so cold my nipples are hard 24/7! Flordia sure sounds a lot better! One day will will make it your way as a number of our "friends" are in, guess where?!?!!? OMG!, yes! FL OR UT! lol! Hugs- JJ
The red carpet's ready - cum on down.
I see this post and think, "Everyone loves a train wreck." Take it for what it is...
Mav
Mav
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
Im not the type to roar...I'm a purring kind of girl.
Being a big cat [Leo] your purring makes me want to roar at least a deep growl any way....
Still Lusting ...............RRRRRRRRR
MAVENX wrote:
I see this post and think, "Everyone loves a train wreck." Take it for what it is... Mav
GAWD I hate riddles.
Thanks MAV, but you showed up before all the rest.. what's the hurry?
click click click rick lol
Wanda, you're so good to me.. 
You have a beautiful ass and I want to plant my face in it!!!!!
You have a beautiful ass and I want to plant my face in it!!!!!
DOUBLEDDFOREVER wrote:
my ? is where is the who view list
You can't see "who" viewed your profile, you can only see how many....just click on your own name right here and you'll see your profile like everyone else does