what do u guys think of having free passes ? any problems you have had or things you've run into using them?
Since I like to cook i will take a a kitchen pass damit it was meant COOK
I thought u said you like cock hahaha lol....typo lol
TATERTOT1982 wrote:
I thought u said you like cock hahaha lol....typo lol
roflmfao!!!!
The "free pass or kitchen pass" is pointless unless you know the couple whom has one and have spoken in person with the other half not with the "pass".... They are a few out there who will say they have a "pass" when they really don't... So they are good if you know what your getting into.... But for a first time thing I would have to PASS!!! Heather
we don't do hallpasses, solo play, or separate room play.
a lot of people love it. just not our thing.
a lot of people love it. just not our thing.
WHYNOTSAYHI wrote:
Since I like to cock i will take a a kitchen pass
psst. Either you mean you like to cook or you like to share your cock.
Either way.. I will vouch for your cooking skills and the use of your cock.
xox
T.
p.s. mmmm...need shrimp scampi again. oh. and dessert.
We give one another hall passes from time to time but, still prefer to play together. Our number one rule is that nobody gets left out. If he ain't playin, she ain't playin. No matter how much fun we have with others, we know who our number one is. We have been togetner for a long time and would not ruin it over a peice of ass. We have alot of guys that just want her to go play. Our only question to these guys is, " If they had a wife that they loved and cherrished, would they send them off into an strange situation with someone they have never met?" You would have to be a lunitic to alow that.
Really, our rule with couples is we don't play alone with them unless we have played with them at leaste once. If one or the other don't hit it off, at least we know the couple and may have some trust established.
As for the people who claim to have a hall pass and really don't, I hope you don't have kids that might get caught in the crossfire. This is fun but, not worth losing my family over. Just know if I have a hallpass, it's because you have met my wife and she trusts you. The same goes for her.
Really, our rule with couples is we don't play alone with them unless we have played with them at leaste once. If one or the other don't hit it off, at least we know the couple and may have some trust established.
As for the people who claim to have a hall pass and really don't, I hope you don't have kids that might get caught in the crossfire. This is fun but, not worth losing my family over. Just know if I have a hallpass, it's because you have met my wife and she trusts you. The same goes for her.
If as a couple you both know the person we see no problem with it, but we think a pass without both meeting someone first might cause some problems down the road. And Tam said someone needs to cook for her soon, it's his turn.
So a hall pass is a pass to play alone? Is there a difference between a hall or kitchen pass? I have no idea.<-----curiosa
TATERTOT1982 wrote:
So a hall pass is a pass to play alone? Is there a difference between a hall or kitchen pass? I have no idea.<-----curiosa
I think they are the same thing *shrugs*
The only "pass" we have is I can play with females alone...it happens once in a while but for the most part I like to share my girls with hubby too...he's such a good boy and deserves a little treat once in a while *giggles*
AYLA Thank you for such an informative and open minded post. We are both talking about it and reading all these posts, it's very helpful to get advice from someone who has tried it and succeeded.
AYLA5639 wrote:
This is the female half typing. I have a hall pass and have had one since my husband went to Afghanistan. I have to agree that it needs to be done with care. I try to keep my husband involved, I tell him everything about every person I meet or even just talk to.
We have not had many problems with it. I have been with single men from this site, through friends and just going out. Some have not been in the lifestyle and I personally have not noticed there being more problems with them versus someone in the lifestyle. I inform people of what I am looking for and what is acceptable behavior and what is not acceptable behavior. I have had a few people (lifestyle and vanilla) who have been disrespectful about it and have treated me like just something to be used. I have had some people who want more than I am willing to give them, such as a "relationship" or to get more intimate than I am comfortable with. However, these are things that even as a couple you could be faced with.
It has not caused any problems in our marriage. I keep the hubby informed enough that he can say if something is making him uncomfortable or he feels like it may be a bad idea or not the right person.
If you are thinking about it then it should be discussed in depth with your spouse. This is something that is different for every couple, as long as you and your spouse feel ok with it then give it a try. We talked about it a lot before we decided on it, we discussed all possible problems with it and did not decide on it until we were both 100% confident it was the right thing for us. It should not take much time or energy from your spouse, I have had to work on that one a little. It can be difficult to balance it all out. I have met some AMAZING people with my hall pass and they understand that when my husband is home my hall pass terms may change. They also known that he comes first and always will when he is home or when he is away. I think it works well as long as communication and honesty are still there! Those are my feelings on it, I don't post often so I am hoping it turns out well
I am glad that you guys have found something that works for you...hope it continues too...I like to hear great success stories from everyone and that is some wonderful information for others
We both play separate as wanted or as it arrives but we give each other veto power every time, even if we have played with that person before because we both know things and emotions change all the time. Communication is the key and we have had no problems!
AYLA5639 wrote:
This is the female half typing. I have a hall pass and have had one since my husband went to Afghanistan. I have to agree that it needs to be done with care. I try to keep my husband involved, I tell him everything about every person I meet or even just talk to.
We have not had many problems with it. I have been with single men from this site, through friends and just going out. Some have not been in the lifestyle and I personally have not noticed there being more problems with them versus someone in the lifestyle. I inform people of what I am looking for and what is acceptable behavior and what is not acceptable behavior. I have had a few people (lifestyle and vanilla) who have been disrespectful about it and have treated me like just something to be used. I have had some people who want more than I am willing to give them, such as a "relationship" or to get more intimate than I am comfortable with. However, these are things that even as a couple you could be faced with.
It has not caused any problems in our marriage. I keep the hubby informed enough that he can say if something is making him uncomfortable or he feels like it may be a bad idea or not the right person.
If you are thinking about it then it should be discussed in depth with your spouse. This is something that is different for every couple, as long as you and your spouse feel ok with it then give it a try. We talked about it a lot before we decided on it, we discussed all possible problems with it and did not decide on it until we were both 100% confident it was the right thing for us. It should not take much time or energy from your spouse, I have had to work on that one a little. It can be difficult to balance it all out. I have met some AMAZING people with my hall pass and they understand that when my husband is home my hall pass terms may change. They also known that he comes first and always will when he is home or when he is away. I think it works well as long as communication and honesty are still there! Those are my feelings on it, I don't post often so I am hoping it turns out well
Wow, I hope I can end up finding someone someday I can have that open and honest relationship. Also, my regards to your husband being selfless and serving our country.
Thanks.....and loved your post...you should more often.We do the hall pass thing very rarely, only with people we know, and pretty much only when one of us is unavailable. On very rare occasions they have been given in order to fulfill someone's fantasy, but that's been for something really special (like a 40th B-day present for a very good friend).
As to Ayla, if a couple is committed being open when stationed several thousand miles apart is a good way to "let off steam" without cheating. We actually got in to the lifestyle because I was stationed in CA and points West while she was in college in AL. Knowing that we were both in highly sexually charged environments and just agreeing to allow the other to play with no strings attached made it much easier for us and meant that we honestly weren't cheating on each other. It also built up our trust, honesty, and communication in our relationship.
As to Ayla, if a couple is committed being open when stationed several thousand miles apart is a good way to "let off steam" without cheating. We actually got in to the lifestyle because I was stationed in CA and points West while she was in college in AL. Knowing that we were both in highly sexually charged environments and just agreeing to allow the other to play with no strings attached made it much easier for us and meant that we honestly weren't cheating on each other. It also built up our trust, honesty, and communication in our relationship.
TRIXIEE wrote:WHYNOTSAYHI wrote:
Since I like to cock i will take a a kitchen pass
WHOA!!!! I read that as u like cock .... OMG now THAT was funny!!!!!!!!!
LOL. No he likes to share his cock in the kitchen. mmmmmmmmmmmmm.
But for the record, he's a great cook. I think. Wait. I can't remember that far back. He needs to refresh my memory. *keeping a straight face while I type this*
We don't do hallpasses!!!