The more gatherings and parties we go to, the more we are noticing how many people (both men and women) don't wear their wedding rings. Is this just a LS thing, and they normally have them during their normal "life"? What are we missing? We thought the LS was more about the "couple", not acting single while out.
T&K
T&K
There are many reasons not to wear a wedding ring, I wear mine on a chain around my neck becuase of safty issues at one of my jobs. After 10+ years of wearing it on a chain it feels odd to place it on my finger. I do ALWAYS make it very clear that I am married though. Often I will not play unless the lady has actually talked to my wife even though I am allowed and encouraged to play alone.
I haven't really taken notice of those in the Lifestyle (I'll start), but I have noticed that more and more vanilla people I come in contact with are choosing to NOT wear their rings.
I have no idea why - and I haven't asked.
I have no idea why - and I haven't asked.
We don't wear ours cuz Mark's not into wearing a ring or jewelry of any sort and he'd forget too anyways. And mine broke about 4 years ago and we never got it replaced.
LadyJedi wears her's, I rarely wear mine. My reason was mainly safety and I have never worn it much except for the odd social occasion.
I concur on the safety aspect.
I know a guy who lost his finger because the transmission he was installing fell.
It crushed the ring and the ring severed his finger.
What would have happened to his hand and finger if he didn't have the ring on is anybody's guess.
I know a guy who lost his finger because the transmission he was installing fell.
It crushed the ring and the ring severed his finger.
What would have happened to his hand and finger if he didn't have the ring on is anybody's guess.
Well .... we are very proud to wear our wedding band. I agree with all that has been said about safety and everything else. I am sure there are reasons particular to a couple why they choose to wear one or not. But I think it says something about that couple and their relationship when they do wear it ... especially at a lifestyle get together.
We always wear ours...one night I didn't cuz I had taken them off to clean all my rings and forgot them...I felt naked all night without them 
After 22 years of marraige I don't wear mine because it needs to be fixed and Ryan hasn't worn a ring for years after he almost lost a finger at work.
I can see the not wearing them to work stuff...hubby is a carpenter and has had some close calls...but I don't understand not wearing them when you go out...I guess some people just aren't big jewelry wearers...but mine is more than just jewelry to me 
A wedding ring is a symbol as is a Catholic cross. You do not need either to be committed to the relationship they both represent. However mechanics, machinists, builders of all kinds, steel workers and more are all encouraged to do without jewelry of all kinds. Neck ties, scarves, loose clothing of any kind are all dangerous around these environments. While working on cars as a profession and as a personal necessary I have shorted the battery directly to frame more than once and scared the shit out of me. If it had been my wedding ring I would have had a trip to the hospital and maybe lost the finger. I have always known where the battery of an auto was. It is not easy to forget them. But it only takes one careless moment and it could be a ring to ground or caught somehow in a piece of machinery.
So if you wear a ring and forget to take it off and go out to work on your car, you have put yourself at risk for a symbol that should be in your heart and mind. My ring was kept in a drawer for thirty years but I never forgot I was married or pretended that I was not married. I can still use my fingers to count to ten.
So if you wear a ring and forget to take it off and go out to work on your car, you have put yourself at risk for a symbol that should be in your heart and mind. My ring was kept in a drawer for thirty years but I never forgot I was married or pretended that I was not married. I can still use my fingers to count to ten.
We get this question all the time. I don't think a ring makes you complete. we haven't worn ours since we were married. Yes we both have one, but don't need a ring to tell us or anyone that we are married. Yes I put one on when I got out for a girls night, but even that doesn't mean I am not going to be hit on all night long... The way you act in public will let people know who you are with and your true number one is.
NAUGHTYELFS wrote:CARRIERMAN wrote:i agree, my company bannded wearing them a couple of years ago but to me it just dosnt make since. we are always suppossed to have our golves on at all times anyway, if something can grab my ring through a leather glove and use the ring to mangle my hand the hand is gone anyway. just makes me feel like the saftey guys have to be hasseling you about something to feel like they are doing their job.
I concur on the safety aspect. I know a guy who lost his finger because the transmission he was installing fell. It crushed the ring and the ring severed his finger. What would have happened to his hand and finger if he didn't have the ring on is anybody's guess.
Something grabbing your ring, or it coming in contact with something electrical and burning your finger off, are totally different scenarios from being crushed.
I have yet to see a pair of crush-proof gloves.
But then again, I've never seen a Unicorn either.
Sorry, but I'll endure the hassle of company policy if it means saving a part of my anatomy.
We wear our wedding bands & if we go out somewhere, we still have them on our fingers. If we wanted to be single, we would have stayed single.
I guess maybe ours have a little more meaning than most though...they were his grandparents rings that were married in 1942...so I have something that means a more than what you can just buy out of the store...kisses...Naugh-Ty
I think what the original poster had was why people wear rings all day long but when they go to a lifestyle event they take them off...
I can see not wearing them all the time but why would someone that wears it daily take it off when they go to a meet and greet? that just seems weird...
As and electrician and a auto mechanic I have seem many injuries due to a ring... one guy shorted a car battery with his gold watch.. now he has a permanent mark around his wrist where that watch was...
But back to the original post....
I can see not wearing them all the time but why would someone that wears it daily take it off when they go to a meet and greet? that just seems weird...
As and electrician and a auto mechanic I have seem many injuries due to a ring... one guy shorted a car battery with his gold watch.. now he has a permanent mark around his wrist where that watch was...
But back to the original post....
NASTY4U2 wrote:
Anyways, I wear mine because it will stop women from even trying.
lol...does that mean you don't want me flirting with you? Cuz I can just flirt with your wife if you'd like *giggles*
almost lost finger twice with it, used to carry around my neck until it layed on a hot wire and spraked. So i will take the warnings and leave it on the dresser. Her- still in a safe place from when we tiled the kitchen floor.
MR_TRIXIEE wrote:
I think what the original poster had was why people wear rings all day long but when they go to a lifestyle event they take them off... I can see not wearing them all the time but why would someone that wears it daily take it off when they go to a meet and greet? that just seems weird... As and electrician and a auto mechanic I have seem many injuries due to a ring... one guy shorted a car battery with his gold watch.. now he has a permanent mark around his wrist where that watch was... But back to the original post....
I did the same with my wedding band and now I don't wear it...it has a hole in it....but my finger is branded and there is no taking that off...lol
He hasn't worn his in quite a few years..after losing several when they flew off his finger in the cold, and breaking the last one it just seemed easier not to worry about it. After 17 years mine broke last spring and it just hasn't been top of our priority list yet to get replaced...We opted to replace it rather than try to repair since we didn't have the money to get the one we really wanted when we got married and have been talking of getting a new one anyway. Both of us know we are married and trust the other completely, so it isn't really an issue that we think about much. Before I broke mine I wore it all the time also...Whether we wear them or not has nothing to do with being in the lifestyle, we are in this as a couple and never make a secret of being married.
LOL. I bought a ring in a size 7 that is an emerald diamond ring right before my weight loss surgery. At that time my ring size was a 10. It was one of those "someday this will fit" goals I had. Within 6 months of my surgery it fit, so I started wearing it. But everyone thinks its a wedding ring (Trust me, none of my ex husbands ever gave me ring that nice.) and comments on how pretty it is. The not so good news is that its now a little big....so I need to get it resized.
But ring or no ring, I have noticed no one pays attention to my left hand or if they do, it sure has hell never stopped them before. ~shrug~
But ring or no ring, I have noticed no one pays attention to my left hand or if they do, it sure has hell never stopped them before. ~shrug~
Our rings were given to me by my mother who received them from her mother I was told to only give that ring to the women i planned to spend my life with...Well my first wife didn't get it but my current wife did and she wears it proud...
I also have a job were it could be dangerous to wear it but guess what, I don't care...I am so proud she is my wife and everyone should know it....I have had some close calls though i cut my middle finger right next to it and smashed my hand up good. When i was at the hospital they could not get it off to do the surgery on my finger so the doctor said we are going to have to cut your ring off....I told him if he did i would knock his teeth out....I don't care if other people wear theirs or not it makes no difference to me....But mine does mean something to me therefore i will always wear it proud..
Thanks Lucky
I also have a job were it could be dangerous to wear it but guess what, I don't care...I am so proud she is my wife and everyone should know it....I have had some close calls though i cut my middle finger right next to it and smashed my hand up good. When i was at the hospital they could not get it off to do the surgery on my finger so the doctor said we are going to have to cut your ring off....I told him if he did i would knock his teeth out....I don't care if other people wear theirs or not it makes no difference to me....But mine does mean something to me therefore i will always wear it proud..
Thanks Lucky
I quit wearing my wedding ring about 25 years ago because I was doing electrical work. You don't wear metal object to stick your hands in an electrical panel. Anyhow, I had a wide band, my wife had a narrow band. After several years of marriage, her's wore thin so she started wearing mine. She'd always wanted a wide band anyhow.
So, it worked out nicely. She had her wide band and I didn't worry about making myself a path to ground.
Jim and Anna
So, it worked out nicely. She had her wide band and I didn't worry about making myself a path to ground.
Jim and Anna
I might add that we've been married for nearly 40 years. Wearing or not wearing a ring doesn't make a marriage.
im in a maintenance field and i used to try and wear my ring when not at work but i ended up loosing it taking it on and off so much. she always wears hers. we just haven't gotten around to buying me another one cuz its really not worth it so were just gonna buy another cheap ring just in case same as my last ring. i dont wanna snag it and loose my finger or have it conduct electricity into my body. and FYI her ring cost a whole shit load so if she doesn't wear it ill kick her ass lol
MIKESARA wrote:
almost lost finger twice with it, used to carry around my neck until it layed on a hot wire and spraked. So i will take the warnings and leave it on the dresser. Her- still in a safe place from when we tiled the kitchen floor.
i love it i did that with a watch of mine when we cemented the floor.
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Growing up, I worked in a jewelry store and saw the massive mark-up on this stuff - after 4 years in the industry and taking people
Growing up, I worked in a jewelry store and saw the massive mark-up on this stuff - after 4 years in the industry and taking people
DOGSOLDIER69 wrote:
"Rings" are unimportant to us....M's wife was killed in 94 & he still wears his for reasons known best to himself, & tho D & I have each been married (with rings) in the past, we niether of us plan to either marry again nor wear a "ring".......He HAS given us each a ring (pretty nice, pretty simple) to wear as suits us, & CAN avoid some hassles in certain circumstances.
Rings are fun as jewelry and seem to be pretty much whatever one wishes to make them otherwise....
My mom has a simple, plain gold band from her first marriage. She wears it on her right hand. She wears her current marriage ring on the left hand as is traditional. Although she has lost her big diamond ring about 3 times. I think she does it on purpose now cuz every time she loses it she gets a replacement with a bigger diamond. :P
JIMANDANNA wrote:
You don't wear metal object to stick your hands in an electrical panel.
Well now, you're no fun. :P
wife wears her ring but i've nevered owned one if i had my choice since you dont need a ring to prove your married its a personal choice she wears one i dont
We wear our rings. didnt even notice that others do not. That's kind of the cool thing about the lifestyle. If you were single and at a bar, you would be looking for that. In the LS, you can be married, single, in a relationship or not. Everyone is potentially available.
CB & KB
CB & KB
NASTY4U2 wrote:NAUGHTYGIRL101 wrote:lol...does that mean you don't want me flirting with you? Cuz I can just flirt with your wife if you'd like *giggles*
[quote=NASTY4U2] Anyways, I wear mine because it will stop women from even trying.
Well I'll let you slide, in more ways than one.[/quote]
pphheewww....I was gonna be awfully disappointed there for a moment *giggles* Kisses...Naugh-Ty
I don't wear my ring all the time (its bad for the prongs) but I do wear it when I go out... Jason only wears his when we go out cause he is an auto mechanic and then thats if he or I remember to put it on his finger!! XOXO Heather and Jason