Let us preface this by saying: We understand that we could come right out and ask another couple "Do you want to go back to our house/hotel room and fuck like wild animals?". That's not the question we are asking. For us one of our favorite parts of playing is the flirting, touching, and seduction that goes on during an evening out with another couple. The question is when you arrive and your destination after dinner or drinks or whatever, what are some good ways to initiate playing?
assuming, that all involved are KNOW to be in the lifestyle, a little flirting leading to kissing usually warms things up. Even if the kissing and some open touching starts between you and your partner in front of the other couple, if they are into it, they will usually follow suit, and go from there....
well again, assuming we know we are all in the lifestyle, and we all are back at a house or hotel, assume the signals have been read right
*taking notes*
I keep telling people I'm clueless. I don't know sex is happening until someone is naked. LOL
I keep telling people I'm clueless. I don't know sex is happening until someone is naked. LOL
what a great question instead of the blank stairs not know where to say yes or good night
WHYNOTSAYHI wrote:
what a great question instead of the blank stairs not know where to say yes or good night
ROFLMAO
sorry i don't normally get the giggles when you say something.
Well for us usually both females are bi (that's our favorite anyway) and we usually start off with girl on girl play then the guys join us when we're ready 
@BOOYA69-There are times, even when all are known to be lifestyle, when you need something to break the ice.
@ROCKYMTN2-Love it! Deal me in.
@NAUGHTYGIRL101-That's my favorite idea so far!
@ROCKYMTN2-Love it! Deal me in.
@NAUGHTYGIRL101-That's my favorite idea so far!
We tend to be pretty open and based on communication, etc...with each other and the couple, we all know before we get to that point whether or not we will all end up naked. In a foursome situation - it does seem that the women somewhat "dictate" when and what will happen, and I love to start things off. And as far as initiation, I (mrs.) am pretty confident and willing to initiate. I love to get real close, plant a hot, juicy kiss, and start the party.
Mmmmmm...Luscious, I love a confident woman. Unfortunately, there are just not enough of them out there! I do agree that most times everyone knows what's about to go down. I was just looking for suggestions for those times when it's not so apparent. There's always that make or break moment where someone has to take the reins.
NAUGHTYGIRL101 wrote:
Well for us usually both females are bi (that's our favorite anyway) and we usually start off with girl on girl play then the guys join us when we're ready
That's us...yep. Leave it to the girls! THEY know what to do! And yes...we too, tend to gravitate toward the bi ladies....THESE ladies have it going on...trust me!
Hmmm...Thinking we best get acquianted with a certain couple up north...
We have also used games...strip poker, most often..almost anything to break the ice a little..AND get clothes off...amazing how once the clothes are off...most start getting a little adventurous and just seem to know what to do next....
I think we have all been there. Its different each time. If things don't get started right away for what ever reason, we find that if we start doing something with each other, the other couple joins in.
CB & KB
CB & KB
CBUTAH wrote:
I think we have all been there. Its different each time. If things don't get started right away for what ever reason, we find that if we start doing something with each other, the other couple joins in. CB & KB
Yep...found that to be true, too!
There is a game that can be found on the Net its called "The Black Box Game". It has several types of cards that will start things going. They range from very slow easy, to very suggestive clothes come off quick. It is a game were every one wins by losing.
We always tend to initiate our encounters by playing with each other. The other cpl start the same way then the ladies move to each other and it goes from there. We do like the idea of games though. We will have to try that sometime.
We do it one of two ways... Strip poker always goes well. I mean who doesn't like to play cards. Also, we just hop into the hot tub, talk a bit, and my wife will end up taking her top off. Thankfully she isnt shy. That tends to get everyone moving in the right direction.. 
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)>Thank you for this subject the wife and I are going to a huge hotel take over party this weekend and all your answers are very help full.
We are considered the "Strip Phase Ten" couple. ) This is what we do with our couples (four green lights) to get to know them better, start the ball rolling and KEEP it rolling all night long...
- Wife switch from the beginning
- Teams are girls against the guys
- Only THREE articles of clothing per person (to be removed by your swinging partner)
- When one member of a team does NOT phase that round, they BOTH lose an article of clothing
- When everyone is naked, the play sessions begin. These are five minutes each.
- First is a kissy-feely round to get to know one another better.
- 2nd-4th are the "oral" rounds (guys go down on girls, girls go down on guys & 69)
- 5th-7th are the "intercourse" rounds (missionary, cowgirl and doggie)
- 8th-????? are the "group" rounds where various group scenarios are placed into a hat and the one who goes out, gets to pick.)
- All group scenarios will be agreed upon by ALL four members before being placed into the hat. (These are usually what each couple brings to the table...no surprises...only EROTIC FUN!) (FFM, MMF, foursome, naked Wii, oil massages and whatever you would like to do. ;o))
) This is what we do with our couples (four green lights) to get to know them better, start the ball rolling and KEEP it rolling all night long...- Wife switch from the beginning
- Teams are girls against the guys
- Only THREE articles of clothing per person (to be removed by your swinging partner)
- When one member of a team does NOT phase that round, they BOTH lose an article of clothing
- When everyone is naked, the play sessions begin. These are five minutes each.
- First is a kissy-feely round to get to know one another better.
- 2nd-4th are the "oral" rounds (guys go down on girls, girls go down on guys & 69)
- 5th-7th are the "intercourse" rounds (missionary, cowgirl and doggie)
- 8th-????? are the "group" rounds where various group scenarios are placed into a hat and the one who goes out, gets to pick.
) - All group scenarios will be agreed upon by ALL four members before being placed into the hat. (These are usually what each couple brings to the table...no surprises...only EROTIC FUN!) (FFM, MMF, foursome, naked Wii, oil massages and whatever you would like to do. ;o))
we own and know that there are many more games out there that help get things started. some from very mild to very wild. adam and eve would be one spot to start. at one point spencer gifts actually had a couple too!!! We have changed up monopoly too. i mean really how are you going to pay your rent when your money is gone..
Happy ice breaking
http://www.adameve.com/search.aspx?st=sex%20games
Happy ice breaking
http://www.adameve.com/search.aspx?st=sex%20games
There's an app for that! Wheel of foreplay. We have used it, it has a bunch of things you can do and works from light touching up to full on intercourse. We have played strip wii, massages, etc..
I'm kind of like a kid in the candy store, so of that awkward pause arrives, I'll announce the big elephant in the room, and say that we are comfortable (provided the mrs. is as well), and offer a massage to loosen things up. Games are fun because people do loosen up much easier when it's not just "Hey, wanna see my penis?" - which doesn't work too well in a restaurant, wait till you get home.
Other than that, just feel each other out on how to progress (pun fully intended)
I'm kind of like a kid in the candy store, so of that awkward pause arrives, I'll announce the big elephant in the room, and say that we are comfortable (provided the mrs. is as well), and offer a massage to loosen things up. Games are fun because people do loosen up much easier when it's not just "Hey, wanna see my penis?" - which doesn't work too well in a restaurant, wait till you get home.
Other than that, just feel each other out on how to progress (pun fully intended)
OHBABY wrote:CRASHERPUSSY wrote:
we play strip bowling on the wii when everyone is naked its go time
Now that would be a fun bowling session! Love that idea!
You can mix it up too, we have game party for the wii, and kinect, you can play darts, shuffleboard, plenty of things to get people naked while having fun!
CANDYCANEPA wrote:
We are considered the "Strip Phase Ten" couple.
- Wife switch from the beginning
- Teams are girls against the guys
- Only THREE articles of clothing per person (to be removed by your swinging partner)
- When one member of a team does NOT phase that round, they BOTH lose an article of clothing
- When everyone is naked, the play sessions begin. These are five minutes each.
- First is a kissy-feely round to get to know one another better.
- 2nd-4th are the "oral" rounds (guys go down on girls, girls go down on guys & 69)
- 5th-7th are the "intercourse" rounds (missionary, cowgirl and doggie)
- 8th-????? are the "group" rounds where various group scenarios are placed into a hat and the one who goes out, gets to pick.
- All group scenarios will be agreed upon by ALL four members before being placed into the hat. (These are usually what each couple brings to the table...no surprises...only EROTIC FUN!) (FFM, MMF, foursome, naked Wii, oil massages and whatever you would like to do. ;o))
Love this idea, gonna have to get me a phase 10 deck!
SPEXDEX wrote:CANDYCANEPA wrote:
We are considered the "Strip Phase Ten" couple.
- Wife switch from the beginning
- Teams are girls against the guys
- Only THREE articles of clothing per person (to be removed by your swinging partner)
- When one member of a team does NOT phase that round, they BOTH lose an article of clothing
- When everyone is naked, the play sessions begin. These are five minutes each.
- First is a kissy-feely round to get to know one another better.
- 2nd-4th are the "oral" rounds (guys go down on girls, girls go down on guys & 69)
- 5th-7th are the "intercourse" rounds (missionary, cowgirl and doggie)
- 8th-????? are the "group" rounds where various group scenarios are placed into a hat and the one who goes out, gets to pick.
- All group scenarios will be agreed upon by ALL four members before being placed into the hat. (These are usually what each couple brings to the table...no surprises...only EROTIC FUN!) (FFM, MMF, foursome, naked Wii, oil massages and whatever you would like to do. ;o))
Love this idea, gonna have to get me a phase 10 deck!
We usually play with our "Masters Edition Phase Ten"...which is in the tin can. It's the same as regular PT, but includes an addition set of four, ten card phases. This way each player can shuffle the phases up and be on a different one. When you phase the card goes in the top of the tin can that comes with.
) We find PT to be a very addicting game, just like sex. Combine the two with a hot couple and yer in for one hell of a night! ;o) Cheers!we love all the intavation everyone has come up with alot of great ideas the one we use and has worked for us is good old truth or dare. if everyone is shy you get alot of info with truth qestions as everyone becomes mor comfy then it usualy turns to dare.
SPEXDEX wrote:
There's an app for that! Wheel of foreplay. We have used it, it has a bunch of things you can do and works from light touching up to full on intercourse. We have played strip wii, massages, etc..
I'm kind of like a kid in the candy store, so of that awkward pause arrives, I'll announce the big elephant in the room, and say that we are comfortable (provided the mrs. is as well), and offer a massage to loosen things up. Games are fun because people do loosen up much easier when it's not just "Hey, wanna see my penis?" - which doesn't work too well in a restaurant, wait till you get home.
Other than that, just feel each other out on how to progress (pun fully intended)
Thanks so much for the idea! Adult Wheel of Foreplay ROCKS! Definitely worth a buck to add yer own stuff. ;o) Might just use this instead of printing out different group scenarios everytime a different couple cums over to the house. Yummi! Only availalbe at iTunes App Store and not for Droids.
( Let the playing BEGIN! )Ha ha! We love that this thread we started we resurrected after two years! We've learned a lot since then. We were just young Padawons at the time. Not sure we're Jedi masters yet, but we're a hell of a lot closer!
CPLWHOSHARE wrote:SPEXDEX wrote:
[quote=CANDYCANEPA]We are considered the "Strip Phase Ten" couple.
- Wife switch from the beginning
- Teams are girls against the guys
- Only THREE articles of clothing per person (to be removed by your swinging partner)
- When one member of a team does NOT phase that round, they BOTH lose an article of clothing
- When everyone is naked, the play sessions begin. These are five minutes each.
- First is a kissy-feely round to get to know one another better.
- 2nd-4th are the "oral" rounds (guys go down on girls, girls go down on guys & 69)
- 5th-7th are the "intercourse" rounds (missionary, cowgirl and doggie)
- 8th-????? are the "group" rounds where various group scenarios are placed into a hat and the one who goes out, gets to pick.
- All group scenarios will be agreed upon by ALL four members before being placed into the hat. (These are usually what each couple brings to the table...no surprises...only EROTIC FUN!) (FFM, MMF, foursome, naked Wii, oil massages and whatever you would like to do. ;o))
Love this idea, gonna have to get me a phase 10 deck!
We have a Phase 10 deck
Some really great ideas being shared though, thank you everyone. Will look into the Wheel app.[/quote]
The app is pretty cool, it's just making sure everyone's ok with what might happen... that's why we like the games. People tend to loosen up a little easier taking clothes off for a game than the "hey, it's 10pm, we need to get naked!!"
Patron body shots always gets things going for us! Or our infamous jello shots
Like JELLO shots? Here's an idea..."edible" JELLO shot glasses. Might be the thing you're looking for yer next party. Sounds pretty kewl to us. ) Here's the link where to get them...
http://flipcups.com/store/cart.php?m=product_detail&p=777
Happy partying
Cheers!
) Here's the link where to get them...http://flipcups.com/store/cart.php?m=product_detail&p=777
Happy partying
Cheers!
She likes to wear somethin sexy underneath her clothes..and if she is feeling the party, and nothing is going down yet, she well just strip down to her outfit and instantly action starts.. she loves fishnets or just about anything that allows her to b almost naked
This whole subject of how to "break the ice", if you will, is fascinating and quite the conundrum for most of us recreational adulterers (I hate the term swinger, it sounds like some kind of CHILDREN'S recreational activity). Correct me if I'm wrong but in Utah I believe if you yell "SURPRISE!" first, it isn't rape. Problem solved. You're welcome.
(kidding people....calm down...)
(kidding people....calm down...)