We answer every email we receive. Even if it\'s to say we\'re not interested, we feel it\'s the only proper thing to do as we would want the same respect shown towards us.
But it seems for every email we send - we\'re lucky to get a response. If we had to guess, we\'d say we get a reponse from every 10th email. Or...someone writes us and we respond...then dead air...nada....nothing.
We just don\'t understand...so we\'d like to hear from others on their view!
Hugs!
Brenda & Jim
But it seems for every email we send - we\'re lucky to get a response. If we had to guess, we\'d say we get a reponse from every 10th email. Or...someone writes us and we respond...then dead air...nada....nothing.
We just don\'t understand...so we\'d like to hear from others on their view!
Hugs!
Brenda & Jim
we do te same as above, wish others would also
We try to answer every one as long as they are not just too way out of line. We look at the unanswered mail we send as all we need to know about who we are writing if they don\'t write back and just go on with our lives...
Art and Dawn
Art and Dawn
Well, we will admit to it. We dont answer all of our emails. Many times the emails we get are just form emails with nothing else into it. And then we get the someone likes you emails that we just automatically delete.
If you really like someone why would you not take 3 minutes to write something personal, even if it is just,\"Hey, we liked your profile, please take a moment and check ours out.\" but personally written.
So those are the ones that we dont respond too. A personal message ALWAYS gets a response.
If you really like someone why would you not take 3 minutes to write something personal, even if it is just,\"Hey, we liked your profile, please take a moment and check ours out.\" but personally written.
So those are the ones that we dont respond too. A personal message ALWAYS gets a response.
some people are just lazy ....
Yeah, some people are lazy. In our case, when someone writes us I\'d like the both of us to participate in the e-mail response. It\'s hard enough finding a moment to sit down and eat dinner together, let alone write together 
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Seriously though, I\'d encourage people to at least write up a standard, considerate response when they\'re not interested so at least the other party gets some acknowledgment. One site we belong to has a pre-made response for such occasions.
Otherwise, if you don\'t have time just say, \"Hey, thanks for writing. We have our hands full right now and can\'t go out much but we\'ll keep in touch. Stay sexy!\"
.Seriously though, I\'d encourage people to at least write up a standard, considerate response when they\'re not interested so at least the other party gets some acknowledgment. One site we belong to has a pre-made response for such occasions.
Otherwise, if you don\'t have time just say, \"Hey, thanks for writing. We have our hands full right now and can\'t go out much but we\'ll keep in touch. Stay sexy!\"
i hear ya REVNTY
Isnt enough time in the day for all this huh?
Isnt enough time in the day for all this huh?
We agree with yall!We always reply reguardless of whether we are interested or not,but we havn\'t got the same respect back.That usually tells us all we need to know about the other couple!
We don\'t always answer all of our emails either. I think we\'re going to end up rehashing some of what\'s already been said, but here goes...
Nothing is worse to us than sending us a cookie-cutter email or a \"someone likes you\" by itself. If you wish to share a friendship, let alone a sexual relationship with us, take a few minutes and pen something original. Tell us what you saw that attracted you and/or why you think we\'d be a good match. Anything but those pre-packaged emails. Personally written messages almost always get a response.
We also try to look at emails and corresponding profiles together before we respond. Due to schedules, work, etc, we pass like ships in the night most weekdays, therefore we don\'t always get to look at the website together in a timely fashion. Then the email gets a little old, and we simply end up not responding and deleting the message. Sorry folks, we\'re busy, we\'re human and swinging isn\'t our No. 1 priority in life.
We don\'t really consider it rude not to respond. It\'s just part of swinging. I don\'t really know why people don\'t just make friends with the fact that some emails, in fact many emails, will not receive a response. We simply take it as a \"no\" and move on. We already have a great circle of friends with whom we can usually arrange some extramarital fun, so we don\'t really require more... but that doesn\'t stop us from looking. Rejection is a part of life. Some people will like us, others won\'t.
-Roger (& T)
Nothing is worse to us than sending us a cookie-cutter email or a \"someone likes you\" by itself. If you wish to share a friendship, let alone a sexual relationship with us, take a few minutes and pen something original. Tell us what you saw that attracted you and/or why you think we\'d be a good match. Anything but those pre-packaged emails. Personally written messages almost always get a response.
We also try to look at emails and corresponding profiles together before we respond. Due to schedules, work, etc, we pass like ships in the night most weekdays, therefore we don\'t always get to look at the website together in a timely fashion. Then the email gets a little old, and we simply end up not responding and deleting the message. Sorry folks, we\'re busy, we\'re human and swinging isn\'t our No. 1 priority in life.
We don\'t really consider it rude not to respond. It\'s just part of swinging. I don\'t really know why people don\'t just make friends with the fact that some emails, in fact many emails, will not receive a response. We simply take it as a \"no\" and move on. We already have a great circle of friends with whom we can usually arrange some extramarital fun, so we don\'t really require more... but that doesn\'t stop us from looking. Rejection is a part of life. Some people will like us, others won\'t.
-Roger (& T)
Well we have to agree with everything \"CHAMMY-FL\" wrote ..we too find ourselves busy in life with working out,working,running 2 of our own forum boards as well..so we only seem to answer e-mails from cpls that strike us right away...when we have time we will then go through cpls profiles and pictures.
We are not hardcore swingers(which means we do not need to be in the lifestyle every weekend)
Hope this helps everyone
xoxoxox
Jodi & Luke
We are not hardcore swingers(which means we do not need to be in the lifestyle every weekend)
Hope this helps everyone
xoxoxox
Jodi & Luke
It definately can be frustrating when you send out messages and never get a response/only get a response once in a while, and for the couples that think it\'s bad, imagine how it is for some of us single guys, there are FAR fewer people looking for us and unfortuantely we tend to have a bad reputation as a group do to the actions/words of (what I can only hope is) a small minority.
I understand that a lot of couples do like to try and respond only after they have both read a message, or when they are together, and that many people do not spend a lot of time online, so some delay, even a somewhat long delay, can be expected, I have no problem with that at all.
If I come across a profile and there are some really interesting or just very well done photos posted I sometimes like to send a message saying that the photos are really great/interesting/etc. I\'m sure a lot of e-mails like that come through, but honestly, how long does it take to just respond with a quick \"thanks\" \"glad you liked them\", etc.?
Becuase of all that, it really is appreciated though when someone takes a moment to send a response, even if it\'s just a quick \"thank you\" or \"sorry, you just aren\'t want we are looking for\".
-Peter
I understand that a lot of couples do like to try and respond only after they have both read a message, or when they are together, and that many people do not spend a lot of time online, so some delay, even a somewhat long delay, can be expected, I have no problem with that at all.
If I come across a profile and there are some really interesting or just very well done photos posted I sometimes like to send a message saying that the photos are really great/interesting/etc. I\'m sure a lot of e-mails like that come through, but honestly, how long does it take to just respond with a quick \"thanks\" \"glad you liked them\", etc.?
Becuase of all that, it really is appreciated though when someone takes a moment to send a response, even if it\'s just a quick \"thank you\" or \"sorry, you just aren\'t want we are looking for\".
-Peter
I\'m a stickler for answering each and every email, except the someone likes you ones, only because they dont come from the interested party, its an automatic response generated by the site.... We figure if the person is truly interested they will follow up with an email.
A no thank you doesnt take more than a minute to type if you arent interested......we all have time to look at the email, we can certainly take a minute and respond.......
Common courtesy, just think of it this way, when you write to someone, don\'t you want a response back from them ??
You know the golden rule Do unto others..........
As far as unwanted emails ? Why not respond anyway with a comment \" Returned to sender, recipient not interested in ______________ fill in the blank...
A no thank you doesnt take more than a minute to type if you arent interested......we all have time to look at the email, we can certainly take a minute and respond.......
Common courtesy, just think of it this way, when you write to someone, don\'t you want a response back from them ??
You know the golden rule Do unto others..........
As far as unwanted emails ? Why not respond anyway with a comment \" Returned to sender, recipient not interested in ______________ fill in the blank...
Well! I guess I should make sure we respond to emails. Actually, we\'re new on this site and hadn\'t figured out how it worked yet (along with the outages and such). We\'ll have to check in more often than every two weeks or so like we were.
It is easy as anything to respond with a no thanks...there is a ready made no thanks email in this site...all you do is click reply, go over and click no thanks...And now, isn\'t that hard?
I work full-time, I go to college full-time, and I still find time to respond to EVERY email we receive...so there is NO excuse to be so rude as to not respond....
just my (the male) opinion
I work full-time, I go to college full-time, and I still find time to respond to EVERY email we receive...so there is NO excuse to be so rude as to not respond....
just my (the male) opinion
we respond to all emails. we feel it is the right and polite thing to do even if it is just to say we are not interested.
it does not take us much effort to reply as we have opened it to read what it says
just our 2 cents
it does not take us much effort to reply as we have opened it to read what it says
just our 2 cents
Just a couple of thoughts about the subject. We do try answering all e-mails and when appropriate even the automated ones. We don\'t always get to them right away, for a couple reasons. We do try answering together, but as the one who does most of the communicating I (male half of the couple) do most of the writing. For a number of reasons we don\'t receive that much int3erest, and when we do, I try to be quite careful about answering, so as not to be either too anxious or too put-off, depending on our interest level. Sometimes waiting to respond isn\'t the best choice and some mails have been forgotten in the shuffle of real life. Certainly seems to be rude not to answer and I always feel terrible when I go back and find any that got overlooked.
As for the issue of responding to single guys, we have gotten mail from time to time complimenting the wife\'s ass and this and that in our photos. Most of the time men understand when you say \"not interested\" in the profile, but some who have written take a response as a que to attack...that suddenly we are interested in them because we answered an email, thinking we want them to fuck her now that we answered. We don\'t lump all single guys together (and in fact have played before), but we also are quite selective about whom we write to in any capacity.
I have a personal gripe about the automated responses too. They are handy (and I have used them before as well) in a busy schedule, but I also like the idea that when I write I would like to know the interest (or lack of) in return comes froma person who has reasons...rather than a canned reply. One site we are on has one that acts as a \"no thanks\" but rather than saying No Thanks it comes up with a message saying \"We would not be compatible\"...and I would really like to know how anyone judges that after only one email or one set of photos. Just my take tho.
As for the issue of responding to single guys, we have gotten mail from time to time complimenting the wife\'s ass and this and that in our photos. Most of the time men understand when you say \"not interested\" in the profile, but some who have written take a response as a que to attack...that suddenly we are interested in them because we answered an email, thinking we want them to fuck her now that we answered. We don\'t lump all single guys together (and in fact have played before), but we also are quite selective about whom we write to in any capacity.
I have a personal gripe about the automated responses too. They are handy (and I have used them before as well) in a busy schedule, but I also like the idea that when I write I would like to know the interest (or lack of) in return comes froma person who has reasons...rather than a canned reply. One site we are on has one that acts as a \"no thanks\" but rather than saying No Thanks it comes up with a message saying \"We would not be compatible\"...and I would really like to know how anyone judges that after only one email or one set of photos. Just my take tho.
Why are you in the lifestyle? To have sex with people you are attracted to? Well, that is compatible. To be able to be with two bi women? Well that is compatible...thusly, it is quite easy to see how compatible you are with someone if they have truth on their profile...
This is funny, coz I sent an e-mail to someone that responded to this thread and never got anything back, but they say they respond to all e-mails. LMAO
We didn\'t respond because we saw the email was from a single male...and our profile say\'s we\'re not interested in single males. In these type\'s in instances...you are correct and we don\'t respond.
So we stand corrected...we respond to all emails from couples and women :* and a FEW single men :z
So we stand corrected...we respond to all emails from couples and women :* and a FEW single men :z
If you are replying to my message, your not the one\'s. You live to far away. They were on the first page.
John
John
I\'d just be happy to get an e-mail in the first place. You can guarantee I\'ll respond to it.
Anyone in Minnesota looking to make some new friends?
You can guarantee I\'ll respond to it.Anyone in Minnesota looking to make some new friends?
i know that people might think your going to have hurt feeling so they don\'t anwser. but i know we anwser all our e-mail, and even just to let people know that your not interested. i would like to know then not.
I totally understand, I answer at least 98% of all emails sent to me, which is only a few but they still get answered. I rarely get replies back or no thank you responses. I think that is just a lack of respect, the same respect others demand.
I answer every email i get and them some lol ...ask anyone hehehe.....
M
M
Why don\'t people respond to e-mails? Good question. Ranks up there with why does the toast always land jelly down on the expensive carpet and jelly up on the cheap rug. LOL
We try to answer all e-mails. If we don\'t respond it is cuz some jerk sent somethings stupid. You know like your wife must be tired cuz she is always running thru my mind. LOL
We try to answer all e-mails. If we don\'t respond it is cuz some jerk sent somethings stupid. You know like your wife must be tired cuz she is always running thru my mind. LOL
We usually respond to anything that is not a form letter. We don\'t usually respond unless there are face photos in the profile, but other than that we usually respond.
We get quite a few messages here and on other sites and we\'ll occassionally skip over one here and there if we\'re definately not interested and/or tired, but we try to at least say hi.
We get quite a few messages here and on other sites and we\'ll occassionally skip over one here and there if we\'re definately not interested and/or tired, but we try to at least say hi.