Being a guy is a tough bit we don't have instruction manuals for girls and even if we did guys don't read instruction manuals. Now i have heard it both ways here. sometimes at parties i hear wow that guy is way to aggressive and hands y and other times i have heard well hes cute but way to quiet and shy he probably lacks confidence.
So here is my question what do you really want? I am sure it is on an individual basis but what turns you on in a guys behavior? I know there will be some variety here but i do really want to know. What do women want?
Thanks Lucky
So here is my question what do you really want? I am sure it is on an individual basis but what turns you on in a guys behavior? I know there will be some variety here but i do really want to know. What do women want?
Thanks Lucky
I like it when the guy is a perfect gentleman, but his eyes promise that he will abandon all of his fine manners in a moment of passion.
Very nice Jules...but before you even get to that point you have 1 guy who is fairly assertive and making it very well known that he wants you and then you have the gentleman who's respecting your space and just trying to hold a conversation...which do you go for??
I for one like it when they make it very apparent what they'd like to take me home and do to me...granted the guy sitting across the table being nice and talking is probably a wonderful guy but they (guys)are hard to read too and their distance may be hesitation, who knows...while this guy here is giving me a lap dance and is getting me all hot and bothered....so I think I like the sure thing...does that make sense?? lol
I for one like it when they make it very apparent what they'd like to take me home and do to me...granted the guy sitting across the table being nice and talking is probably a wonderful guy but they (guys)are hard to read too and their distance may be hesitation, who knows...while this guy here is giving me a lap dance and is getting me all hot and bothered....so I think I like the sure thing...does that make sense?? lol
I like men who are very assertive and decisive while being a gentleman, kind, thoughtful, loving, respectful.
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Ok, maybe there is some confusion here...most of us like that kind of man Verna but what he's getting at is....if you're at a party or meet n greet or something like that...would you like the quiet, polite, gentleman trying to hold a conversation or someone a little more aggressive...
If you're at a party or meet n greet and there is a good looking guy who finds you attractive...how would you like him to show you he would like to go further??
If you're at a party or meet n greet and there is a good looking guy who finds you attractive...how would you like him to show you he would like to go further??
Very nice Monika...but do you want him to sit there and be a gentleman holding conversation etc and waiting for you to tell him "let's go fuck" or do you want him to be a little more assertive and rub on you, kiss you, etc...letting you know that he's good to go??
He have found that there is a very fine line between being a gentleman and being aggressive and it's a difficult line to see!!
He have found that there is a very fine line between being a gentleman and being aggressive and it's a difficult line to see!!
What works for one Woman may not even be close to what the next one wants! So you have to just be your self as much as possible. If during the conversation you laugh, and touch her arm, and she is OK with that then try to move further. In all my years, I have never Had a woman Look me in the Eyes and Say "Lets just go Fuck." My way is just be the best gentlemen I can, and let the Chips Fall were they will.
I think it depends on the situation. And how much alcohol there is.
Of course every situation is different...we are just wanting to get opinions here and start some good sexy interaction instead of the drama that's been going on lol
me personally, start a conversation, and trust me if we are flirting touching, u will now when to be more agressive, i dont want someone to just walk up grab me and kiss me with out even knowing who i am or me knowing who you are.
It pretty much depends on the guy. Some guys I would say "Oh hell yeah! I want him ALL over me!" Other guys I am thinking "If he touches me, he is gonna pull back a stump." Also depends on whether or not I have even talked to him at any given point. If I don't know him or have not chatted with him well then we get back to the "pulling back a stump" lol. I know, I have cleared nothing up here. So I guess I will just say, if I am rubbing on you, feel free to return the favor! 
CountryBitch hehehe
CountryBitch hehehe
So are the days of our lives................... LOL
Seriously, is it really any different in the Lifestyle than it is in Vanillaland?
I shudder to think how much I've missed out on in my life because I'm not a real assertive person.
But on the other hand, how much of what I've enjoyed in my life might I have missed out on if I had been OVERLY assertive?
Don't bother answering - it's pretty much a retorical question that applies to ALL of us.
Seriously, is it really any different in the Lifestyle than it is in Vanillaland?
I shudder to think how much I've missed out on in my life because I'm not a real assertive person.
But on the other hand, how much of what I've enjoyed in my life might I have missed out on if I had been OVERLY assertive?
Don't bother answering - it's pretty much a retorical question that applies to ALL of us.
That's why all men and women should write a personal instruction manual for themselves. It should be required that you read it and pass the written exam with 80% higher before you are able to fuck each other. Yup. True facts.
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
That's why all men and women should write a personal instruction manual for themselves. It should be required that you read it and pass the written exam with 80% higher before you are able to fuck each other. Yup. True facts.
I always had you pegged as an easy grader.
Well thank you all for clearing that up for me.......
I now know exactly what i knew before women don't have a clue what they want and either way us guys choose to approach it is going to be the wrong way for that situation...
But no worries it's all good i will be the quiet guy being a gentleman but molesting you with my eyes...
Hugs Lucky
I now know exactly what i knew before women don't have a clue what they want and either way us guys choose to approach it is going to be the wrong way for that situation...
But no worries it's all good i will be the quiet guy being a gentleman but molesting you with my eyes...
Hugs Lucky
MYRNASTWINS wrote:
What works for one Woman may not even be close to what the next one wants! So you have to just be your self as much as possible. If during the conversation you laugh, and touch her arm, and she is OK with that then try to move further. In all my years, I have never Had a woman Look me in the Eyes and Say "Lets just go Fuck." My way is just be the best gentlemen I can, and let the Chips Fall were they will.
Hey Skipper I have to back you up on the gentleman part but some times the amount of alchohle involved sets the standard of what kind of gentleman we are. I,like you are still waiting for the woman that will walk into a room and say anyone want to fuck. See who is at the front of the line.
J-N-G207 wrote:MYRNASTWINS wrote:
What works for one Woman may not even be close to what the next one wants! So you have to just be your self as much as possible. If during the conversation you laugh, and touch her arm, and she is OK with that then try to move further. In all my years, I have never Had a woman Look me in the Eyes and Say "Lets just go Fuck." My way is just be the best gentlemen I can, and let the Chips Fall were they will.
Hey Skipper I have to back you up on the gentleman part but some times the amount of alchohle involved sets the standard of what kind of gentleman we are. I,like you are still waiting for the woman that will walk into a room and say anyone want to fuck. See who is at the front of the line.
haha. I would try it tonight but I am WAY too shy.
Shut up. I am too.
xox
Tammy
Where is that damn spell check anyway. LOL
MORGANCOUPLE wrote:
Well thank you all for clearing that up for me....... I now know exactly what i knew before women don't have a clue what they want and either way us guys choose to approach it is going to be the wrong way for that situation... But no worries it's all good i will be the quiet guy being a gentleman but molesting you with my eyes... Hugs Lucky
I was really hoping for an answer here...I am absolutely the quiet guy..and polite...and wouldn't THINK of touching anyone unless they started the process...yet have seen Tifini all but mauled at times by someone she has never met...needless to say..THAT didn't get far. (Unless it was a lady...just saying..hehehe)Absolutely certain the girls have more fun fun than us!
Now..where was I ....Oh yeah..headed to the corner with Mr MorganCouple..in a NICE way I mean! Sheeesh!
I'm not sure what it is...online we all know I have NO filter. No secret I'm a keyboard kunt. I get it. But IRL, I really am shy in person. Trust me, while I'm talking to you, my knees are knocking. It's really hard to put yourself out there. I need balls I guess. LOL
I think I am so used to rejection that I don't think I'm even getting laid til one of us is naked and for the record, I'm NEVER naked first. That's how clueless I am.
As for what I like, I like to be flirted with in a respectful way. In a way that doesn't leave me guessing. But I DON'T like being molested within minutes of meeting someone. I find that intimidating and nerve racking. I'm a person, not a pizza.
But once I do warm up...omg. Bring water....no sense in getting dehydrated.
I think I am so used to rejection that I don't think I'm even getting laid til one of us is naked and for the record, I'm NEVER naked first. That's how clueless I am.
As for what I like, I like to be flirted with in a respectful way. In a way that doesn't leave me guessing. But I DON'T like being molested within minutes of meeting someone. I find that intimidating and nerve racking. I'm a person, not a pizza.
But once I do warm up...omg. Bring water....no sense in getting dehydrated.
(Male half here talking) We went to a house party last Saturday specifically to meet people we had been chatting with. The wife and I started talking to a lovely female and things were going well until she asked her husband to come over and meet us. The husband came up behind my wife, grabbed both her boobs and said, "nice to meet you." Needless to say, things didn't go well after that.
Me? I start by making small talk and then maybe some simple touching (touch a knee, hand, shoulder). If you aren't wanted, then you will get some signals. If the waters warm, move forward, if not, back off. I believe women like bad boys but they want gentleman.
Am I right or wrong?
Me? I start by making small talk and then maybe some simple touching (touch a knee, hand, shoulder). If you aren't wanted, then you will get some signals. If the waters warm, move forward, if not, back off. I believe women like bad boys but they want gentleman.
Am I right or wrong?
Ok so here's another hypothetical situation...
You're at a party and the wife is really hitting it off with another husband...like really getting hot and bothered etc....husband and wife #2 are talking and he's being polite trying to get to know you etc and soon you find she's being groped and getting hot with another husband...so when the night ends wife and husband 2 want all 4 to get together but wife #2 is all hot and bothered by the guy who was being more assertive...so of course husband #2 goes with wife and the other couple cuz we all know that the women rule here...
So my question is...when husband #1 starts seeing wife #2 getting more physical with someone else should he grab his chance at it when there's a break so that the 4 of them can hang out??
These are all just purely hypothetical situations and wondering how ya'll would respond
You're at a party and the wife is really hitting it off with another husband...like really getting hot and bothered etc....husband and wife #2 are talking and he's being polite trying to get to know you etc and soon you find she's being groped and getting hot with another husband...so when the night ends wife and husband 2 want all 4 to get together but wife #2 is all hot and bothered by the guy who was being more assertive...so of course husband #2 goes with wife and the other couple cuz we all know that the women rule here...
So my question is...when husband #1 starts seeing wife #2 getting more physical with someone else should he grab his chance at it when there's a break so that the 4 of them can hang out??
These are all just purely hypothetical situations and wondering how ya'll would respond
Shit, this is like an x-rated Dr. Suess story. Who's Thing #1 and who's Thing #2 and Who's the Cat in the Hat in the corner over there?
NAUGHTYGIRL101 wrote:
Ok so here's another hypothetical situation... You're at a party and the wife is really hitting it off with another husband...like really getting hot and bothered etc....husband and wife #2 are talking and he's being polite trying to get to know you etc and soon you find she's being groped and getting hot with another husband...so when the night ends wife and husband 2 want all 4 to get together but wife #2 is all hot and bothered by the guy who was being more assertive...so of course husband #2 goes with wife and the other couple cuz we all know that the women rule here... So my question is...when husband #1 starts seeing wife #2 getting more physical with someone else should he grab his chance at it when there's a break so that the 4 of them can hang out?? These are all just purely hypothetical situations and wondering how ya'll would respond
NAUGHTY, I've spent much of my adult life seeking the recipe to an orgy.
Thank you - I now have it. lol
LOL..sorry if that didn't make sense...it did in my head...damn I have that happen alot lol
Y'know what makes it complicated is the chemistry. There are times when a guy could read me the Yellow Pages...but if he does it with the right look and he has that certain something that blends with my certain something? I will be all his.
I personnel like it when a guys first starts talking and then if things go well then he can touch.
SHAZAMER wrote:
For me, if you want to take it to the next level, start to rub my neck and shoulders, maybe nuzzle it a little & kiss my ear. If I groan, and lean back into you, that's green light. If I try to move away, probably not your lucky night. PS I'm really surprised at who started this topic. Seriously, Duane, you are one smooth dude. I thought you had everybody's number and then some. kisses.
Monika
Ya right me smooth almost as smooth as wild Turkey....but at least i try....lmao..
Being the unassertive/shy one that I am, the guy is gonna have to make the first move. I will make eyes across the room, but there is a slim to none chance that I will make that walk over there. That being said, a simple "hi/hey, how's it going?" followed by the introduction part will work wonders. Then it's the fun part of trying to read body language, all made more difficult with the assistance of alcohol lol. I like flirty touching. Combine all that with a good conversation and the requisite "chemistry" and I'm all over that.
That being said, a simple "hi/hey, how's it going?" followed by the introduction part will work wonders. Then it's the fun part of trying to read body language, all made more difficult with the assistance of alcohol lol. I like flirty touching. Combine all that with a good conversation and the requisite "chemistry" and I'm all over that.LoL... You guys crack me up!
I think it's perfectly delicious when a guy is a gentleman. Too much, too soon, can really alter attraction and makes Me feel mauled, not respected and turned off. There are a few guys here that have found the perfect balance, in fact most that I've met. The whisper in my ear of what they'd like to do to me while simply hugging? Melts me. Asking if they can kiss me? Almost always gets a kiss. Yummy.
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I think it's perfectly delicious when a guy is a gentleman. Too much, too soon, can really alter attraction and makes Me feel mauled, not respected and turned off. There are a few guys here that have found the perfect balance, in fact most that I've met. The whisper in my ear of what they'd like to do to me while simply hugging? Melts me. Asking if they can kiss me? Almost always gets a kiss. Yummy.
te
Nice ladies!! Thank you!! And for the record this wasn't necessarily just for that sexy man of mine but something we had began to notice happening so it's nice to get some in site 
Kisses...Naugh-Ty
Kisses...Naugh-TyLuck, as you know my Husband is very shy as well. you'r both the type where you like the woman to chase you!!! you'r wife and i, are far from shy, witch is pretty helpful for you guy's. you are polite, a true gentalman. you always seemed to know what i liked!! and i'd so jump on ya again!!! xoxo Mandi