Swingers Forum - We're Friends, Now What?

Another question for our wiser friends here

So when this happens -

US: Wow, you guys look and sound awesome. Here's a note on why we think so with our smiling mugs and a friend request.
THEM: "Your Friend Request Has Been Approved"
US: Great. Hope they like what else they see.
THEM: Crickets...

Obviously, this could be for any number of reasons, but is it best to usually take this as a 'Thanks, but no thanks' or should the person who initiated the request follow up with another message to get a dialogue going?

We'd imagine being talkative rather than any sort of waiting game is better, but we weren't sure what, if any, un-spoken conventions there may be.

Thanks!
TheBurningCouple

What does sending and or accepting FR really mean to most folks?
To us sending one can mean a few different things.
SENDING:
A) These folks look and sound good and we might be interested in a quick in person meeting but first lets see if they have a guy pic in the privates as that one hot gal pic isn't going to cut it. We always send at least a quick note with a FR.
B) these guys have lots of pics up and are so fun to look at we want to see more! there can be interest in the profile for a meeting or not!
C: ??
Receiving:
A) Unsolicited FR's or those without a msg get deleted unless one or both are just so hot we want to see mor.
B) Most with a nice well written msg get accepted if the profile suits us and we think there is a chance they are for us.
C: sometimes after a nice chat we trade FR's but no real meeting is intended by either party.

After:
Just like the email pile we don't clean up FR's very often so most stay open even after the spark has died down. When we do go through them and take you off it probably means that we don't think it will work at this time or we are just trying to limit exposure to our pics.

So just to make it clear sending or accepting a FR does not mean we are wanting to or expect that you want to hook up.. It is just an exchange of more information to us and not really that big of a deal.
I do think for some others being on their Friends list means a lot more?

We are by no means wiser, but since you asked here is our modus operandi for friend requests.

If we receive a friend request without an introductory email then it will almost always be deleted. It is amazing how many friend requests we receive without emails even when our profile specifically states we delete friend requests without emails. If we get an email we know they took the time to read our profile and are truly interested in meeting. Otherwise we figure it is some horny single male sitting in the dark posing as a couple and wanting to get his rocks off by looking at others privates. A good thing to be aware of when deciding on whether to accept a friend request is to look at their verified status. Be wary of unverified profiles.

If we receive an email with a friend request we will look at the profile and if we feel there may be a possibility for more then we will friend, otherwise we try and respond to the email unless it is a one liner from a single male "I can last forever, let's meet!!" which we just delete also.

If we friend and don't think there is a possibility of getting together (with or without benefits) after seeing their privates then we will de-friend. Some people think that is rude, but collecting friends just to have them (sounds like facebook) isn't our thing and we don't feel like wading through pages and pages of friends to find the ones we are truly interested in. We will try and respond to the accompanying email (if there was one.)

If there are only faceless pictures of sex acts or body parts in their privates we de-friend. We have a lot of classy erotica with our faces showing. We understand others have different comfort levels concerning face pics, but to have access to our private pics we require face pics.

If we accept a friend request that didn't have an email (rare occurrence) and liked what we saw but do not hear anything from them we will delete after a week or so.

If we accept a friend request that had an email and liked what we saw we will send back an answer saying it would be fun to get together. You would be amazed at how many times it stops there (maybe our privates scare them off). So again after a few weeks we delete.

We try and keep our friends to those we have met and those we would like to get together with. The above is not infallible as we have de-friended people for one of the above reasons and then have met them later and really liked them and now they are our friends.

So there you have our method of madness for friends. God that was a long reply.

EDIT : Just as we were posting this we got a friend request without an email. Just thought it was ironic.

EDIT #2: Guess we jumped the gun a bit. The email came a few minutes after the friend request and they look hot.

I don't ever accept blind friend requests...I like an email containing a little something about you etc...

If there are no face pics I will ask for 1 before accepting...I figure I have mine out there and I respect your decision to not have yours but I'd still like to see it...

I don't usually accept friend requests from out of state whether single or a couple...I have made some exceptions for some who we've gotten to know real good through chat or travel but mostly no out of staters...what's the point??

Anyway, just my thoughts at the moment...kisses...Naugh-Ty

Why cant it be simple, all this psyco-babble..we have no prob asking someone out...if were interested, and they are as well, lets meet! We will ask, they can too, making this way too friggin complicated, why not be straight up! Left high school years ago.

maybe they looked at your pic and were to busy drooling to respond to the email... or maybe their kid decided to play superman and jumped off the roof and they had to drop everything and run the kid to the hospital and are still there with superkid....

Life happens... give it a few and reply back... no response then decide on your own what to do next.

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