As a single male, It\'s not always the easiest thing to do to find compatible people that enjoy getting together. I make a point of always respecting others, and thier wishes. But recently, for some reson, in couples ads some have found it necessary to be very rude in thier descriptions. For example, an excerpt from a profile:
\'We understand that swinging means sharing not lending so single males are NOT welcome, look someplace else, don\'t waste your time nor ours trying to contact us.\'
Is that true? \'Swinging means sharing not lending\'? If so, there\'s alot of great couples out there who have the wrong idea about swinging! I\'ve had some great times with alot of friends, and never got that attitude at all. Are we all sadly mistaken? I thought swinging was a couple exploring their sexuality. (?)
I\'m sure there are probably single males out there that become a nuisance, I\'ve gotten some of the messages myself. But there are also single females/couples that will pass this profile/couple by because of the tone set with that remark. (there\'s one such couple reading this over my shoulder and agreeing as i write this!).
Just food for thought.
\'We understand that swinging means sharing not lending so single males are NOT welcome, look someplace else, don\'t waste your time nor ours trying to contact us.\'
Is that true? \'Swinging means sharing not lending\'? If so, there\'s alot of great couples out there who have the wrong idea about swinging! I\'ve had some great times with alot of friends, and never got that attitude at all. Are we all sadly mistaken? I thought swinging was a couple exploring their sexuality. (?)
I\'m sure there are probably single males out there that become a nuisance, I\'ve gotten some of the messages myself. But there are also single females/couples that will pass this profile/couple by because of the tone set with that remark. (there\'s one such couple reading this over my shoulder and agreeing as i write this!).
Just food for thought.
well our 2 cents.........if its in there profile its not rude just what they want....
roger and vickie
roger and vickie
It seems pretty straight forward with us what they want. We note down in our profile what we want and hope for others to respect it. We read things in profiles all the time that we don\'t agree with, we just hit the \"next\" button.
If you think it\'s rude, take it as a good thing, would you want to read a nice profile and go through the wasted effort and time to find out they are rude?
Art and Dawn
If you think it\'s rude, take it as a good thing, would you want to read a nice profile and go through the wasted effort and time to find out they are rude?
Art and Dawn
Not rude at all. Just what they want, everyone has to respect that.
>>>GUYINOCALA
I have never done this before, so i dont want you to take offense to what i am about to do.
I am going to call everyone\'s attention to the profile of a single male from our area. Not to be negative, but rather to illustrate what how we think a single male should approach his profile.
Check out MACMAN. Simple. Intelligent. Descriptive. Good pics. It seems to me that he is saying some of the same things that your couple did in their profile.
Expressing preference does not seem to be rude to us, by any means. They seemed to have done so in a very str8 forward way.
I think that if more single men took the time to write their profiles more intelligently, they would perhaps meet more people. Thats primarily what we look for when we are contacted by a guy...
Just our .02 cents.
Luvbugs!
I have never done this before, so i dont want you to take offense to what i am about to do.
I am going to call everyone\'s attention to the profile of a single male from our area. Not to be negative, but rather to illustrate what how we think a single male should approach his profile.
Check out MACMAN. Simple. Intelligent. Descriptive. Good pics. It seems to me that he is saying some of the same things that your couple did in their profile.
Expressing preference does not seem to be rude to us, by any means. They seemed to have done so in a very str8 forward way.
I think that if more single men took the time to write their profiles more intelligently, they would perhaps meet more people. Thats primarily what we look for when we are contacted by a guy...
Just our .02 cents.
Luvbugs!
For the first 4-5 years after these type boards came to be there were no \"Blocks\" You could not block single men or anybody else for that matter. Those that were around then will remember the constant barrage of filth and general harassment one endured on a daily basis from \"single men\".
Personally I don\'t think they were all \"single men\" nor do I think they were all men for that matter but they had the \"single male profile\" and one had to \"assume\" they were.
I think \"single men\" got a partial bump rap and some well deserved rap.
The profiles that you read that seem extra aggressive towards single men may be a couple who were around and are still holding a grudge. And as others have said they are within their rights to express their likes and DISLIKES.
With today\'s technolgy there no real reason one needs addrees the issue, with one click of a button all single men, or those posing as single men are blocked. We have one line in our profile and we use the block, case closed. These blocks have done a lot to help weed out the idiots and let the stars shine for those interested in single men.
Single male bashing as a sport is like a VCR, it was cool at one time but now it\'s gotten REAL old.
Technology is a good thing.
Personally I don\'t think they were all \"single men\" nor do I think they were all men for that matter but they had the \"single male profile\" and one had to \"assume\" they were.
I think \"single men\" got a partial bump rap and some well deserved rap.
The profiles that you read that seem extra aggressive towards single men may be a couple who were around and are still holding a grudge. And as others have said they are within their rights to express their likes and DISLIKES.
With today\'s technolgy there no real reason one needs addrees the issue, with one click of a button all single men, or those posing as single men are blocked. We have one line in our profile and we use the block, case closed. These blocks have done a lot to help weed out the idiots and let the stars shine for those interested in single men.
Single male bashing as a sport is like a VCR, it was cool at one time but now it\'s gotten REAL old.
Technology is a good thing.
Luvbugs,
Great advice, I updated my profile, Thanks
John
Great advice, I updated my profile, Thanks
John
You guys still use a VCR? Like for what? LoL. I am going to say ONE word.
\"TIVO.\"
\'nuff said.
Luvbugs (mR.)
\"TIVO.\"
\'nuff said.
Luvbugs (mR.)
We have found ourselves editting our profile in fits of frustration and then we go back and fix it. We have faced rudeness and dealt it at times. Since we are not a full swap couple we have encountered those who are who think we don\'t belong in the community. Many have rudely replied with comments like \"Didnt realize we were meeting at Mr Roger\'s neighborhood\" or simply getting up off the bed and walking away without a word said (we were in a swing club and they plopped down next to us on a group room bed and left once we set our guidelines).
We have had to be rude to some single men, not to drag them into the muck anymore then most of them do themselves. Consistantly touching my wife or others wives without asking. We confront them openly and make sure others know they do it so they hopefully change their ways. So there are times to be rude and times not to be. Do I agree with their profile, maybe not but atleast you know where they stand at the get go
We have had to be rude to some single men, not to drag them into the muck anymore then most of them do themselves. Consistantly touching my wife or others wives without asking. We confront them openly and make sure others know they do it so they hopefully change their ways. So there are times to be rude and times not to be. Do I agree with their profile, maybe not but atleast you know where they stand at the get go
How about this....we are a TWO TIVO family, could not live without it.
And what I love the most is the little fuggers never flash:
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And what I love the most is the little fuggers never flash:
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LMAO!