I'm 34, and tonight was the first time I've been to a niteclub on my own. I've been to plenty nightclubs, just I was always in a couple. Anyway, I jumped right in and started cutting a rug, and then realized I had no idea how the dancefloor interaction worked. Does she need to check me out before I try to dance with her? How close up can I get before i'm the creepy guy? Can I put my hand on her hip? Do I try and talk to her and yell in her hear? Then what do I say? Shit...I have no idea...
So ladies, how does it work? What is the courteous way to let a girl know "hey, I think you are hot and want to dance up next to you"?
also, Habits is the best place for getting your dace on by 10pm in SLC.
So ladies, how does it work? What is the courteous way to let a girl know "hey, I think you are hot and want to dance up next to you"?
also, Habits is the best place for getting your dace on by 10pm in SLC.
So you like it when a cute stranger dances up against you? It seems like I need to ask permission to do that sort of thing 
We enjoy the attention our girls get at Habits but what amazes us is the single guys who come up and start dancing real close and even try and cop a feel. My buddy and I have had to get in many single guys face and tell them to back off the girls. Most do so immmediatly, but we have had a few where we have had to physically move them away. A lot of guys get a couple drinks in them and think that they have a right to every girl there, and think the girls find them attractive. We usually point them out and laugh at them, because all they are doing is making an ass of themselves. So, just be aware if the girl your eyeing is already with someone you probably should tread very lightly and even if she is not with someone respect her right to tell you no.
ONCE_IN_COLLEGE wrote:
So you like it when a cute stranger dances up against you? It seems like I need to ask permission to do that sort of thing
Yes. You do. It's called respect. She's not a toy for your amusement. A courteous "would you like to dance?" is just plain good manners. Once she accepts, follow her lead. Trust me, if she wants to bump and grind she will let you know.
Call me old fashioned but dammit, you're not a dog and I don't need to be dry humped without my consent.
@blueeyesinutah I thought so! But I was very observant of other guys, and I don't think I saw one guy talk to a girl before he was up in her grill.
So "would you like to dance" is all it takes? (yelled into your ear, of course) And you wouldn't find that line cheesy or anything?
ps, i'm also terrible at picking up girls at bars.
So "would you like to dance" is all it takes? (yelled into your ear, of course) And you wouldn't find that line cheesy or anything?
ps, i'm also terrible at picking up girls at bars.
You know why the women's room is packed? It's cuz we are in there bitching and warning each other about the different losers who keep paw at us like desperate hound dogs.
Oh and we also talk about the hot ones too. Just sayin. :-D
Oh and we also talk about the hot ones too. Just sayin. :-D
No sorry stormie, no one dances as bad as elaine, not even you lol
ABCCOUPLE wrote:
UtahStormie - its not to difficult, I give this speech to all my fellow reluctant male friends who think they can't dance. #1.. your job is to be a stripper pole #2.. Everyone looks stupid so don't worry about it. #3.. see number one, she'll make you look good!
K...I think we had this conversation before lol...it's great advice for any guy who thinks they can't dance...you just gotta be there for us to dance on lol Kisses...Naugh-Ty
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
You know why the women's room is packed? It's cuz we are in there bitching and warning each other about the different losers who keep paw at us like desperate hound dogs. Oh and we also talk about the hot ones too. Just sayin. :-D
You have just totally and completely destroyed my fantasy about what takes place in there.
lol I was gonna say Blueeyes is at the wrong places then cuz every time I go in the womens bathroom I end up getting molested by some other chick...not that I'm complaining *giggles*
A most interesting discussion. It would seem to me that standard courtesy anywhere in the world is always ask to touch or talk and maybe even to sit next to a woman. An awful lot of men, including myself think they do not come off well on the dance floor. You must feel secure on it and that is good. I would suggest that you take the time to watch for a bit pick someone that looks like they have several friends. Remember that this is a swinger community. If she is with a man, ask them both. Be honest and respectful. Tell them that you are single and have no one to dance with and ask permission for one dance or to be introduced to someone that might. You may not get laid but may develop some friendships. Remember that even attached women have unattached friends and they all prefer polite and respectful friends. It is simply good etiquette. If she dances with you, let her take the lead and be a gentleman.
NAUGHTYGIRL101 wrote:
lol I was gonna say Blueeyes is at the wrong places then cuz every time I go in the womens bathroom I end up getting molested by some other chick...not that I'm complaining *giggles*
Shhh! That is classified information. We aren't supposed to tell everyone THAT!
And for the record I have ~never~ molested or been molested in the women's room. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
Shut up J.
xox
Tammy
INVITESOME wrote:
We enjoy the attention our girls get at Habits but what amazes us is the single guys who come up and start dancing real close and even try and cop a feel. My buddy and I have had to get in many single guys face and tell them to back off the girls. Most do so immmediatly, but we have had a few where we have had to physically move them away. A lot of guys get a couple drinks in them and think that they have a right to every girl there, and think the girls find them attractive. We usually point them out and laugh at them, because all they are doing is making an ass of themselves. So, just be aware if the girl your eyeing is already with someone you probably should tread very lightly and even if she is not with someone respect her right to tell you no.
I have found it most effective in the past, for me to simply bump and grind up behind the dude as he does on Mrs. Thought. It's only fair after all, right? Tit-for-tat...good for the goose and gander...eye for an eye...blah blah blah?
Most guys don't appreciate being dry-humped, uninvited by another dude. Why do they think the ladies would appreciate it, unsolicited, from some strange male?
[/quote] I have found it most effective in the past, for me to simply bump and grind up behind the dude as he does on Mrs. Thought. It's only fair after all, right? Tit-for-tat...good for the goose and gander...eye for an eye...blah blah blah? Most guys don't appreciate being dry-humped, uninvited by another dude. Why do they think the ladies would appreciate it, unsolicited, from some strange male? [/quote]
Dude! That was You???
Dude! That was You???
Ladies, thanks for the advice. It's good to know my instincts were right and I kept my hands off. I also didn't get the number of the girl I was hands-off dancing with/near/next to because I wasn't sure it was cool to shout in her ear. But maybe next time!
@thoughtgarden - I'm totally stealing that move when I see a douchebag grinding uninvited.
@thoughtgarden - I'm totally stealing that move when I see a douchebag grinding uninvited.