OK, so maybe some of you can answer this: I get requests from couples on a fairly regular basis to join their "friends" list. Trouble is that they have blocked emails from single men, so there is no way to contact them? What is up with that?!
They don't usually email me either, just the friend request. I'm totally confused. If you request a guy to be one of your "friends", wouldn't you want to be able to communicate? Or, are these couples just profile collectors? LOL So, should I just blow them off and ignore or deny the request or what?
Any thoughts on the subject would be helpful.
They don't usually email me either, just the friend request. I'm totally confused. If you request a guy to be one of your "friends", wouldn't you want to be able to communicate? Or, are these couples just profile collectors? LOL So, should I just blow them off and ignore or deny the request or what?
Any thoughts on the subject would be helpful.
Unless I have met them previously in person or have talked to them extensively, I see no reason to accept a blind friends request. If I don't know you, then you better make sure you at least have the decency to introduce yourself and be willing to have a real conversation with me BEFORE sending me a friend request. I view blind friends requests as junk mail and just delete. I also delete all emails from people with no face pics or locked face pics. These are people who IMHO take discretion to paranoid level and who needs that.
It's really up to you. Either accept them or delete them. It's your call and no one has the right to dictate how you respond.
xox
Tammy
It's really up to you. Either accept them or delete them. It's your call and no one has the right to dictate how you respond.
xox
Tammy
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Ok. Maybe not so humble. LOL
My
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Ok. Maybe not so humble. LOL
If a couple has 'single males' blocked, they can add you as a friend and you will be able to communicate with them. Being on another members Friends List is the only way this is possible.
KISSABLE wrote:BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
Unless I have met them previously in person or have talked to them extensively, I see no reason to accept a blind friends request. If I don't know you, then you better make sure you at least have the decency to introduce yourself and be willing to have a real conversation with me BEFORE sending me a friend request. I view blind friends requests as junk mail and just delete. I also delete all emails from people with no face pics or locked face pics. These are people who IMHO take discretion to paranoid level and who needs that. It's really up to you. Either accept them or delete them. It's your call and no one has the right to dictate how you respond. xox Tammy
True True!!!!!
If they had read my profile it states "Don't send me the standard "Friends Request" sent me an e-mail, introduce yourself etc....
I put them in a folder I made "No friend" that way I dont open or delete them and they can't send more requests.
I was just thinking aboout this . You got no face pic, why would I let your look at my private pics.
Maybe it sounds bitchy and I am missing the out on meeting great people, but its their fault, not mine.
A-freakin-men.
HFUN wrote:
wow if they cant read your profile and see what you are about than i say block but not sending an e mail and see if you can be friens well thats there problem we dont put face pics on our public file we are high profile and dont need someone we work with giveing us greef and if you are so shallow that you must see there face first its your loss we are a very attracitve couple and just dont give a friend request to everyone we read there profile first and sometimes chat with them first !see if anything is there and then give them face pics so do what ever it is you do and sort out people the way you do but know when you wont send a friend request first of give them the chance to see what we or anyothers are about sometimes you are missing out on the best couples food for thought
Um, seriously....if someone saw you here on Swingular & wanted to give you grief over it, wouldn't you question why THEY were here? I mean how much credibility can you give to someone who found you while they were cruising a swinging site?
Second, it's not about being shallow. It's weeding out undesirables. Trolls. Cheaters. Etc.
Altho I find it ironic you call it being shallow for not giving those with face pics accessible a chance in the same breath that you boast that you are "high profile". Really? I mean, I can understand using discretion and not yelling "yo, great party! Your pussy rocked last night!" in the middle of the grocery store should we happen to run into you, but lets not overthink it. I don't care if you are a janitor, the govenor, or a celebrity...you still fuck and you still take your clothes off the same way I do.
Trust me...nobody is gonna string you up or put you on trial for being a swinger. We may blush as we walk past you and smile warmly at the nice memory, but the neon swinger sign over your head is in only in your imagination.
Personally I would love one. Hot pink preferably. Oh wait. That's why we have the bracelets.
My profile is (as is everyone else's) available to anyone (Swingular member or not) who cares to look at it, but there is no photo available there.
If I send a friend request to someone, and they accept, they then have access to viewing my "PRIVATE" album with a number of pics of me - and my profile clearly states that.
If they choose to decline my friend request, then I can only assume they have chosen #1. to NOT read my profile, or - #2. they've read my profile and decided they have no interest in viewing my private pics.
Either way, it's my own personal little way of policing whether or not "NON" Swingular members can view my pics.
Do we not "ALL" have that right?
(OK - I can see it coming already)
If I send a friend request to someone, and they accept, they then have access to viewing my "PRIVATE" album with a number of pics of me - and my profile clearly states that.
If they choose to decline my friend request, then I can only assume they have chosen #1. to NOT read my profile, or - #2. they've read my profile and decided they have no interest in viewing my private pics.
Either way, it's my own personal little way of policing whether or not "NON" Swingular members can view my pics.
Do we not "ALL" have that right?
(OK - I can see it coming already)
CARRIERMAN wrote:
My profile is (as is everyone else's) available to anyone (Swingular member or not) who cares to look at it, but there is no photo available there.
If I send a friend request to someone, and they accept, they then have access to viewing my "PRIVATE" album with a number of pics of me - and my profile clearly states that.
If they choose to decline my friend request, then I can only assume they have chosen #1. to NOT read my profile, or - #2. they've read my profile and decided they have no interest in viewing my private pics.
Either way, it's my own personal little way of policing whether or not "NON" Swingular members can view my pics.
Do we not "ALL" have that right?
(OK - I can see it coming already)
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
It's really up to you. Either accept them or delete them. It's your call and no one has the right to dictate how you respond.
I think that about covers it.
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
[quote=HFUN] Personally I would love one. Hot pink preferably. Oh wait. That's why we have the bracelets.
We have bracelets?!?!?! I want one!!! lol!
There are vindictive people who would do pass judgement therefore controling who has access is important...
I would say that it is kind of a closeted thing. They are in the closit and some of us are out. If they can't at least send an email than don't bite. Lots of couples just want pics. If that is what you want or think that it will get you laid more often then the choice should be yours. Put your standard in the profile if you are really bugged by it. They could always thrw up a fake pic so you never really know. There is no easy solution but lots of men do not get a lot of email from anyone. Maybe you are lucky or something.
This is one of our real peeves. The very first thing our profile says is talk to us first before sending a friend request. Yet we get dozens of requests from people obviously just trolling the site. If they are at least in state we send a form letter back saying talk to us first. Less than 1% ever actually reply. If we just wanted naked pics the internet is full of them. We are here to make friends. If you can't even read one sentence what makes you think we'd want to play with you?
Hey hey to all! Thanks for the advice and commentary on the subject. I just found the whole situation so odd. As for the comment from the "Administrator"....I did try sending and email after I had added a couple of couples and I still got a pop up saying that the recipient was not accepting emails at this time.... go figure. It's all good. I didn't have my undies in too big a wad, just thought it was odd. ;-)
ROSCO_OGDEN wrote:Are you adding the couples who requested friendship with you already or are you just requesting friendship with them?
Hey hey to all! Thanks for the advice and commentary on the subject. I just found the whole situation so odd. As for the comment from the "Administrator"....I did try sending and email after I had added a couple of couples and I still got a pop up saying that the recipient was not accepting emails at this time.... go figure. It's all good. I didn't have my undies in too big a wad, just thought it was odd. ;-)
I actually added them.... then attempted to send an email and got the message that they are not accepting. It wasn't a great worry of any kind, just thought it seemed odd, as I said. I ended up removing them anyway, so it's not really relevant at this point. I was really just trying to understand the thinking behind the behavior. I generally enjoy chatting and interacting with all kinds of people on this site, with or without the prospect of play and certainly never expecting play. I just go with the flow....it's just that this situation seemed to be an odd flow. LOL
I am sure the site admin. can set this straight with a phone call. I know many people that have NO SINGLE MALES set in their profile that now and them DO look for the occasional single guy. Some just forget they have it set this way. I understand it as we have it set this way as well due to the amount of SM that don't know how to talk to women. (ADVISE)= She MARRIED GODS GIFT..... All others are friends and toys.
It was brought up here about people sending requests to people in other states. Well there ARE many reasons for that too. Some of us travel. Some of us even travel to meet people we have met here in chat. So before you turn your back on everyone, take a look. It only takes a second and you can do with it what ever you like. But you may be deleting someone you just don't recognize right off or may be of big interest to you.
My .02 for the day....
GR8
It was brought up here about people sending requests to people in other states. Well there ARE many reasons for that too. Some of us travel. Some of us even travel to meet people we have met here in chat. So before you turn your back on everyone, take a look. It only takes a second and you can do with it what ever you like. But you may be deleting someone you just don't recognize right off or may be of big interest to you.
My .02 for the day....
GR8
First -- Bracelets! We so need one!
Second -- I believe if you have no face pics, you either think it would be embarrassing for you to have someone see you on here but BLUEEYESINUTAH put it best, why are you worried, they are swingers too, or you feel that your life may be to public for a picture, then if that is so you must have met some bad people who would use that to their advantage and for that I am sorry. The corner stone of the swinger lifestyle is discretion, if I ran into you in public I may say hi or just keep walking. I have made some great friends here and even had a few of them come to my non-lifestyle events.
I have ran across people I know from work/school/family friends here and I just pass up their profile, really we are all adults and I know I won't even email you without a face pic, or if you email me I usually won't respond. To each their own, but put on your big girl panties, we are all adults.
Second -- I believe if you have no face pics, you either think it would be embarrassing for you to have someone see you on here but BLUEEYESINUTAH put it best, why are you worried, they are swingers too, or you feel that your life may be to public for a picture, then if that is so you must have met some bad people who would use that to their advantage and for that I am sorry. The corner stone of the swinger lifestyle is discretion, if I ran into you in public I may say hi or just keep walking. I have made some great friends here and even had a few of them come to my non-lifestyle events.
I have ran across people I know from work/school/family friends here and I just pass up their profile, really we are all adults and I know I won't even email you without a face pic, or if you email me I usually won't respond. To each their own, but put on your big girl panties, we are all adults.
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
[quote=HFUN]
Altho I find it ironic you call it being shallow for not giving those with face pics accessible a chance in the same breath that you boast that you are "high profile". Really? I mean, I can understand using discretion and not yelling "yo, great party! Your pussy rocked last night!" in the middle of the grocery store should we happen to run into you, but lets not overthink it. I don't care if you are a janitor, the govenor, or a celebrity...you still fuck and you still take your clothes off the same way I do.
Trust me...nobody is gonna string you up or put you on trial for being a swinger. We may blush as we walk past you and smile warmly at the nice memory, but the neon swinger sign over your head is in only in your imagination.
Personally I would love one. Hot pink preferably. Oh wait. That's why we have the bracelets.
blueeyes is right on, like she is with all of her other comments i might add, 
and we just delete some if we do not know them or have not chatted with them first at least. most we accept, cant have too many friends, especially here. and not all friends are going to be hop in bed fbs.
and we just delete some if we do not know them or have not chatted with them first at least. most we accept, cant have too many friends, especially here. and not all friends are going to be hop in bed fbs.
KISSABLE wrote:
What is High Profile???? If your boss or co-workers find you on here, they are most likey members and in the lifestyle too. I here it all the time, "we can't show our face, cause someone might find out". I don't bother looking at a profile without a face shot. Can't show my face....ppphhhh whatever.
Ever have someone come in to your workplace as a client and decide that since they know you are on such-and-such site they can feel free to sexually harass you, grab you in sexual locations, and freely proposition you every time they get you alone?
Ever have a client come in, recognize they know you from a site, and then wait for you in the parking lot so that they can talk to you about having sex with them since they DIDN'T mention ANYTHING inside your workplace?
Ever have a client (female in this case) come in, recognize you, and as soon as they were alone with you begin pawing you?
All three are real world examples that LJ had happen to her. All three were from AFF for those interested. And they are the reason we no longer publicly show her face on lifestyle sites.
As for me, had a coworker's picture end up mailed to a very senior supervisor showing him having sex. Thankfully he (the coworker) knew about the issue in advance and had already made it known the picture may arrive and who was sending it, and why. Still cost him his job since the picture was pulled off the internet, violation of morality clause. At least HE didn't get 16 months in prison over it though.
So yes, some people actually do have jobs where vindictive assholes can use membership in sites like this to cause issues. And while they may not care if your work finds out they come here, you may. Or your church, or family, ect. And that is only if they don't send it in anonymously.
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ROSCO_OGDEN wrote:
I actually added them.... then attempted to send an email and got the message that they are not accepting.
I'm still confused...they had sent you a friend request and you accepted (therefore adding them to your friends list) or you sent them a friend request and then tried to email them...unless they had actually accepted your friend request you still won't be able to email them...just trying to get this straight lol