I don't know if it's just me personally or if it's the way we're portrayed on the website but I feel like I'm pissing a lot of people off, or at least pushing them away and I don't know why. So I wanted to ask, do you guys think it's out age, our recent joining the website, or am I just too pushy? Any advice would be great.
Reason why I say this is because we get accepted by the several friend requests that I sent out and I get a notification saying that we've been approved but then I go and check their profile and I get the air message saying you need to be friends with that person to see this. This is only one example but it's happening a lot.
Thanks guys
Reason why I say this is because we get accepted by the several friend requests that I sent out and I get a notification saying that we've been approved but then I go and check their profile and I get the air message saying you need to be friends with that person to see this. This is only one example but it's happening a lot.
Thanks guys
I would think that there are a few issues here.
1. If you haven't talked or chatted with any of these folks you've sent a fr to, or at least sent a message along with the fr, they may just delete it. That's what we do.
2. If they do approve in these cases, they could just be doing it so they can go in and view your private pics then delete the friend and then you can't view theirs. Kinda chickenshit in my opinion.
3. You age could be hinder some to take you seriously as swingers because I have noticed that although everyone likes young women, some feel that the younger couples are not mature enough to be swingers.
Anyway you look at it, it might serve you well to chat with some people a bit before sending requests. And if they don't like you, fuck em'. Give us a shout and we will be your friends.
1. If you haven't talked or chatted with any of these folks you've sent a fr to, or at least sent a message along with the fr, they may just delete it. That's what we do.
2. If they do approve in these cases, they could just be doing it so they can go in and view your private pics then delete the friend and then you can't view theirs. Kinda chickenshit in my opinion.
3. You age could be hinder some to take you seriously as swingers because I have noticed that although everyone likes young women, some feel that the younger couples are not mature enough to be swingers.
Anyway you look at it, it might serve you well to chat with some people a bit before sending requests. And if they don't like you, fuck em'. Give us a shout and we will be your friends.
I wouldn't worry too much about it...we get removed from many peoples friends lists once they've had a chance to perv our private pictures, and don't read too much into it. In fact, we remove people as well, but usually after meeting them in person and finding out they are total douche-bags...haha...just kidding. But we do remove if we feel that there is incompatability, or they are simply douche-bags.
Never take it personally....it's just part of the dynamics of swinging.
Never take it personally....it's just part of the dynamics of swinging.
Yes, unfortunately this happens allot. Its not cool when it happens, and I'm sure some people who do it have their reasons, though I agree with Lehi couple, its chicken shit. But again, I wouldn't worry to much about it anyway.
If your a fun couple, you don't take shit to seriously, your nice to everyone at partys, your not arrogant or snotty yourself, then you'll be fine.
Age maybe an issue, but it just depends.. If your a cool couple I really don't see how age will be an issue at all. Most people are more worried if your weight or size proportional, or if your working out, or if your hot, etc, etc.. Bottom line, there are always assholes in any community, if it bothers you with the friends list, then do what we do.
We won't add anyone usually as a friend unless we've had some type of conversation with them at a party, or online, or through email. But even when you know someone or meet someone at a party, they can often delete you as a friend if they are simply not into you. I wouldn't take it personally at all.
If your a fun couple, you don't take shit to seriously, your nice to everyone at partys, your not arrogant or snotty yourself, then you'll be fine.
Age maybe an issue, but it just depends.. If your a cool couple I really don't see how age will be an issue at all. Most people are more worried if your weight or size proportional, or if your working out, or if your hot, etc, etc.. Bottom line, there are always assholes in any community, if it bothers you with the friends list, then do what we do.
We won't add anyone usually as a friend unless we've had some type of conversation with them at a party, or online, or through email. But even when you know someone or meet someone at a party, they can often delete you as a friend if they are simply not into you. I wouldn't take it personally at all.
ABCWOMAN wrote:
Most people are more worried if your weight or size proportional, or if your working out, or if your hot, etc, etc..
We have a new category...ISP...to go along with that tired old and overused HWP cliche....Intelligence/Sexiness-Proportionate. Seriously, if you can't intrigue us in casual conversation or interaction...then how, by any stretch of the imagination will you POSSIBLY intrigue us in bed??
Our experience has been many of the we're-just-too-damned-sexy-for-anyone people are some of the most dull of personalities. Literally, complete and utter flat-liners....
If while you're engaging in conversation with me, I find myself wandering to "Oh, are you talking about yourself again?", or wondering why I left the toaster plugged into the outlet in the bathroom when I was drunk last weekend...then you are probably a flat-liner...
don't worry BIG. I like ya and that's all that matters. :P
I read your profile and it seems ok to me add us we'll talk to ya
Thanks for all the responses guys. Yeah I'm not gonna worry about it. It was more just venting. I think I'm just expecting too much.
THOUGHTGARDEN wrote:ABCWOMAN wrote:We have a new category...ISP...to go along with that tired old and overused HWP cliche....Intelligence/Sexiness-Proportionate. Seriously, if you can't intrigue us in casual conversation or interaction...then how, by any stretch of the imagination will you POSSIBLY intrigue us in bed?? Our experience has been many of the we're-just-too-damned-sexy-for-anyone people are some of the most dull of personalities. Literally, complete and utter flat-liners.... If while you're engaging in conversation with me, I find myself wandering to "Oh, are you talking about yourself again?", or wondering why I left the toaster plugged into the outlet in the bathroom when I was drunk last weekend...then you are probably a flat-liner...
Most people are more worried if your weight or size proportional, or if your working out, or if your hot, etc, etc..
Amen. We have not been here too long, either, Big..but long enough to know that it kind of goes in cycles here...seems like one week you are flooded with mail..and then a dry spell comes. Seems we've kind of been on one of those ourselves. And yeah..we get the same thing...a number of our friends seem to disappear at times. I just always assumed it was that they didn't like our looks..or weight..or you name it. Maybe they ere just picture collectors.
I have to say though, I absolutely agree with ThoughtGarden on this one. We have already found out that age..or physical charactoristics aren't anywhere near as important as just being able to converse..and enjoy their company.
THAT gets the ball rolling toward a better relationship every time.
BIGCOUPLE wrote:
Thanks for all the responses guys. Yeah I'm not gonna worry about it. It was more just venting. I think I'm just expecting too much.
Expectations can really make things hard...get rid of your expectations and realize that you're just here to have fun and whatever happens happens and it's all just a bonus on the great sex life you already have...do this and then you won't have such big disappointments...we did the same thing in the beginning and it's been great since we decided we're just here for the ride...kisses...Naugh-Ty
Well whats been read in your profile is nice I remove ppl from my friends list.
1. if there pushy
2. if we find out we are not combatible.
3. if they are way too push for are pace of getting to know you for sex.
We have found that one night stands can be risky, and alot of the time we have agreed in a meet n great and they dont show. So take your time Feel the water and dont rush it it will all in time fall into place it did for us.
Poet
1. if there pushy
2. if we find out we are not combatible.
3. if they are way too push for are pace of getting to know you for sex.
We have found that one night stands can be risky, and alot of the time we have agreed in a meet n great and they dont show. So take your time Feel the water and dont rush it it will all in time fall into place it did for us.
Poet
Dont feel bad no one likes me and we still get dates !!!!! Hahaha dont sweat the small stuff lots of drama in swinging almost more then the real world !!!! LOL But we have found a group of friends where we are having the funnest time right now ...... It takes a little time to find good friends that are all compatible with each other !!!! And for all you people that add friends and block your pics from them just really dont make sense to me .... really if you dont want people looking at your pics then just dont add them ..... JUST SAYIN
Thanx J
Thanx J
LLGNJPG wrote:
And for all you people that add friends and block your pics from them just really dont make sense to me .... really if you dont want people looking at your pics then just dont add them ..... JUST SAYIN
Thanx J
Maybe it's just certain people they want to have access to certain pics...like whoever was at the party...
or maybe it's just you they don't want to see them...hahaha j/k
Anyway, he makes a good point...it takes time and patience to find either a few couples or a group of friends that are all compatible together...but when you do it is soooo well worth the wait and effort you put into it
Kisses...Naugh-TyMaybe it's just certain people they want to have access to certain pics...like whoever was at the party...
or maybe it's just you they don't want to see them...hahaha j/k
Kisses...Naugh-Ty
Do I know you Mrs smartass ???? Just Sayin
Oh and I think I have a few of them kinda pics laying around somewhere .....8p
Thanx Jimmy
or maybe it's just you they don't want to see them...hahaha j/k
Kisses...Naugh-Ty
Do I know you Mrs smartass ???? Just Sayin
Oh and I think I have a few of them kinda pics laying around somewhere .....8p
Thanx Jimmy
Haha...yeah I figured you would...don't we all *giggles*...and what's with the Just sayin after everything you say now? lmao
VLADTHEIMPALER wrote:
As a single male I never want to be considered a "picture collector" which I think there a lot and especially of the single male variety.
Our experience has been that the "couples" (and whatever THAT name implies), have been the biggest so-called "pic-collectors". They are also the ones that I was referring to in my response as the ones who engage in the "we-add-you-then-drop-you" scenario the most actively.
I say look at our pics all you want we add everyone none judgemental here !!!! But we have no naked pics on either one of our handles !!!! We just figure its more exciting to see each other naked the first time you play .... Im more into face pics since very few people have them anymore ...... I think there is to many naked pics on here lets have somemore face pics .....
And TY !!! Just Sayin is my new word for TROUBLE...... LOL And everyone that knows you knows that your TROUBLE...... LMAO Muah still love ya girl
Thanx Jimmy
And TY !!! Just Sayin is my new word for TROUBLE...... LOL And everyone that knows you knows that your TROUBLE...... LMAO Muah still love ya girl
Thanx Jimmy
So, if we get an unsolicited friend request with no public face pics and friend them and then decide we really aren't attracted are we supposed to keep them as friends??????? What about those friend requests with no public face pics and then just a private cock shot?? Should we keep them as friends???? We have some very erotic, classy pictures that include our faces in our privates. When we get a friend request we will friend and then if there is nothing there we de-friend. Otherwise we would have hundreds of friends that we are not really compatible with and we can't keep everyone straight. Then there are the ones we think, ya they are cute, but after friending them we never hear from them again. After a couple weeks we defriend them. Why clutter up our friends list and try to keep track of who is who with people who initiate a friend and then ignore you. We feel like if you extend a friend request it is like a calling card. Don't get your panties in a wad cause someone didn't find you to be a match. You are the one approaching not them. If we meet at a party and click and they friend then absolutely, but when you send a blind friend request we feel that the other party has a right to look and see if interested and if not say no thanks and defriend. We don't understand the drama and the hurt feelings over that. If someone didn't like how we looked and defriended us we are fine with that. And picture collectors?? If you wanted to keep their pictures why would you defriend them? You would keep them as friends to see all the new pics they put up. Soap box time is over. God speed.
Good point but I don't think I fit the category of non faced pictures and what not. And I don't know if that would be clutter but I understand your opinion
I've found that most people who delete me from their Friends list do so because they are intimidated by my awesome goddess-like good looks, obvious smarts, and extreme talent.
That, OR, for some odd reason, they think that I'm an obnoxious arrogant jackass. But I don't know where they'd get such an idea.
But seriously (which is difficult for me on here anymore!), I think I've gotten to the point where I choose to keep it light-hearted, and really don't worry what someone thinks or why they say, post, or do anything.
I've actually been called a "bitch" (Admin deleted that one!), had Herpes wished upon me, and other rude comments directed my way. Actually some pretty informative stuff in the sense that it quickly let me know the people that I DIDN'T want to meet!! Who knows their motivations -- it's all good and nothing can affect my attitude unless I choose to let it!!
So have some fun and just don't worry about it!!
That, OR, for some odd reason, they think that I'm an obnoxious arrogant jackass. But I don't know where they'd get such an idea.
But seriously (which is difficult for me on here anymore!), I think I've gotten to the point where I choose to keep it light-hearted, and really don't worry what someone thinks or why they say, post, or do anything.
I've actually been called a "bitch" (Admin deleted that one!), had Herpes wished upon me, and other rude comments directed my way. Actually some pretty informative stuff in the sense that it quickly let me know the people that I DIDN'T want to meet!! Who knows their motivations -- it's all good and nothing can affect my attitude unless I choose to let it!!
So have some fun and just don't worry about it!!
Oh, and I forgot to mention, BigCouple, you are probably wise, as your profile states, to keep it to "... people more or less around our age group."
A cougar like me would just plain eat you alive!!!!!!!!!!!
A cougar like me would just plain eat you alive!!!!!!!!!!!
FUN4MWF wrote:
A cougar like me would just plain eat you alive!!!!!!!!!!!
That's doesn't sound like a bad thing.
INVITESOME wrote:FUN4MWF wrote:
A cougar like me would just plain eat you alive!!!!!!!!!!!
That's doesn't sound like a bad thing.
Yeah, my original inclination was "scratch your itch" but that sounded even more wrong!
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
don't worry BIG. I like ya and that's all that matters. :P
If you are in with Kitty then you got it made.
As for your dilemma though, as a single male I am lucky if anyone even accepts a friend request. LOL jk ... I have been dropped from friends lists more times than I can count. You just take it to mean they weren't all that interesting anyway and move on.
FUN4MWF wrote:
I've found that most people who delete me from their Friends list do so because they are intimidated by my awesome goddess-like good looks, obvious smarts, and extreme talent.
That, OR, for some odd reason, they think that I'm an obnoxious arrogant jackass. But I don't know where they'd get such an idea.
Yeah where ever would anyone EVER get that idea about you????
Just got back on here after a bit of a hiatus, and I must admit that I am seriously digging your attitude. and of course your smoking hot bod doesn't hurt either.
INVITESOME wrote:FUN4MWF wrote:
A cougar like me would just plain eat you alive!!!!!!!!!!!
That's doesn't sound like a bad thing.
I second that hahaha. Are you sure?
I wouldn't worry about it. I'd say at least 30% (maybe more) of the "couples" in here are really just guys who are trolling for jollies.