This is a subject that has been on my mind for a while now. We have been in the lifestyle for a few years and I have learned a lot. We started out as faithful members of the LDS religion, including being virgins when we were married. I had never been with another man until our first encounter in the lifestyle. Obviously, I have had moments when I have questioned my own abilities to be a good lover. So I looked for every opportunity to pick up something new, learn as much as I can about pleasing those people I'm with.
Therefore, I would like to share with everyone a few of the things I have learned, but also pose the question: What does it take to be a good lover?
Please feel free to share any feedback. I'm always looking for ways to improve myself. I welcome any criticism or advise that anyone is willing to share.
One of the first things I have noticed is that men in the lifestyle take hard hits. They don't get complimented nearly enough. I have given compliments to men and they surprise me by saying I'm the first woman to tell them that. Why is that? I go into these encounters with the sole purpose of pleasing the person I'm with, which includes complimenting, building egos, paying complete attention to that person (those people) I am with.
I try to keep learning new techniques and skills. Not every person has the same turn-ons. Therefore, I try to learn new things to help with turning on my partner. It's nice to have a large selection of techniques and skills to choose from.
I like to not only to learn new skills and techniques, but to become as good as I possibly can with them. Yes ladies, this means I have learned to develop a liking for cum. I love cock, I love to lick cum, but I wasn't always like this. I had to open my mind to the possibilities that enjoying it would give me. I took a little time, but it has paid off in the end. Now I'm working on the female half and am enjoying learning as much as I can.
I have learned to talk. I use to be the type that never said a word during sex. I have learned that communication is imperative when it come to sex. I try to let my partner know what I like and I want to know what turns on my partner(s) so I can pleasure him/her/them.
Those are just a few of the things I have learned over the last few years. Please add to it or take from it whatever you can. I want to learn more and am always looking..... Please share!!
Therefore, I would like to share with everyone a few of the things I have learned, but also pose the question: What does it take to be a good lover?
Please feel free to share any feedback. I'm always looking for ways to improve myself. I welcome any criticism or advise that anyone is willing to share.
One of the first things I have noticed is that men in the lifestyle take hard hits. They don't get complimented nearly enough. I have given compliments to men and they surprise me by saying I'm the first woman to tell them that. Why is that? I go into these encounters with the sole purpose of pleasing the person I'm with, which includes complimenting, building egos, paying complete attention to that person (those people) I am with.
I try to keep learning new techniques and skills. Not every person has the same turn-ons. Therefore, I try to learn new things to help with turning on my partner. It's nice to have a large selection of techniques and skills to choose from.
I like to not only to learn new skills and techniques, but to become as good as I possibly can with them. Yes ladies, this means I have learned to develop a liking for cum. I love cock, I love to lick cum, but I wasn't always like this. I had to open my mind to the possibilities that enjoying it would give me. I took a little time, but it has paid off in the end. Now I'm working on the female half and am enjoying learning as much as I can.
I have learned to talk. I use to be the type that never said a word during sex. I have learned that communication is imperative when it come to sex. I try to let my partner know what I like and I want to know what turns on my partner(s) so I can pleasure him/her/them.
Those are just a few of the things I have learned over the last few years. Please add to it or take from it whatever you can. I want to learn more and am always looking..... Please share!!
Good topic! All I really have to add right now is there is also a down side to talking during sex....It is possible that your partner may tend to get a little "over excited" from things that may be said and things may "finish" a little earlier than anticipated 
Also - just throwing this out there - Now that you are working on the female half, I would be more than willing to help you in this new exploration
hehehe
Also - just throwing this out there - Now that you are working on the female half, I would be more than willing to help you in this new exploration
heheheWhat does it take to be a good lover?
From my viewpoint, the answer is pretty simple and basic:
"Put your partner's wants, feelings and needs ahead of your own".
IMHO
From my viewpoint, the answer is pretty simple and basic:
"Put your partner's wants, feelings and needs ahead of your own".
IMHO
CARRIERMAN wrote:
What does it take to be a good lover?
From my viewpoint, the answer is pretty simple and basic:
"Put your partner's wants, feelings and needs ahead of your own".
IMHO
Totally agree! But as it has been stated, not too many are forthcoming with what they want/need. So part of that is to tell your partner what you want/need. That way everyone can have a great time...and no one is left out.