I have found in my many relationships with men that there is always an initiator and an acceptor, never both. The initiator always engages sexual situations. The acceptor engages sexual situations when someone else initiates. However, both are very sexual once it all begins.
I tend to find myself as the Initiator as I'm always thinking of sex and always want it. Usually it's the man that wants it 24/7.
Which are you and why?
I tend to find myself as the Initiator as I'm always thinking of sex and always want it. Usually it's the man that wants it 24/7.
Which are you and why?
usually i'm the social initiator of things. mark's really shy. <br>
801COUPLE4FUN wrote:Thanks for your reponse, however, I meant for the question to relate to sex between you and your partner. Normally, in most swing situations I've been in, its usually known that the female is the initiator. Am I wrong?
for us she is usually the initiator, especially if we are with a new couple for the first time or two. I think it is much safer for the female to be the one who does. For me (him) it is a matter of respect, I don't go anywhere unless invited. Can come off as disinterested or aloof (even tho I am interested), but really just trying to be respectful. Once I am invited tho..........let the screaming begin!!! LOL
I am the initiator !!!! I love to take full control ......
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I am the initiator when I know someone well. Before I know them, I let them make moves
I've programmed myself to be more of an acceptor.
I'd like to be the initiator, but as a Single Male, I try VERY hard not to appear pushy.
After all, I wouldn't want to be stereotyped with THEM.
I'd like to be the initiator, but as a Single Male, I try VERY hard not to appear pushy.
After all, I wouldn't want to be stereotyped with THEM.
I'm the official initiator in my relationship. However, on the rare occasion he initiates, for some reason I enjoy it even more. I think because by nature, sexually speaking, I prefer being more submissive. So when HE takes control, my motor revs.
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I would have to say that he is more the initiator...although I have my moments. 
Mr is almost always the initiator, but I have many times as well.
mike is the initiator the majority of the time, but Sara does do a great surprising attack
Okay...sorry to say but... he usually is BUT... when I am the initiator it's usually HOTTER! lol
801COUPLE4FUN wrote:
for us she is usually the initiator, especially if we are with a new couple for the first time or two. I think it is much safer for the female to be the one who does. For me (him) it is a matter of respect, I don't go anywhere unless invited. Can come off as disinterested or aloof (even tho I am interested), but really just trying to be respectful. Once I am invited tho..........let the screaming begin!!! LOL
agree 100%
for us, we are both initiators and acceptors...whoever is the horniest usually initiates it.
would have to say both of us are in the acceptor class. never get real pushy or forward with people.
I'm both. Probably because I'm bi-sexual. I've never done a scientifically valid statistical study but men have always liked my looks and and been easily available... so I'm very comfortable initiating sex with men. Women, on the other hand... well some like me and some don't so I'm not as confident and like it when a woman gives me a little encouragement. You know, touching my hand, looking me in the eye and giving me a big smile or pulling my cock out and sucking on it. You know, subtle things like that.
801COUPLE4FUN wrote:
for us she is usually the initiator, especially if we are with a new couple for the first time or two. I think it is much safer for the female to be the one who does. For me (him) it is a matter of respect, I don't go anywhere unless invited. Can come off as disinterested or aloof (even tho I am interested), but really just trying to be respectful. Once I am invited tho..........let the screaming begin!!! LOL
100% Dito!
As for "our time" 40/40/10 As in 40 her, 40 him, 10 mutual. Now for innovation, experimentation, and mixing it up, he is generally the instigator, though she is learning to let loose her imagination
The Best wingman i ever had is my wife....
Well since im here as a single im def the one who tries to make things happen and its that way in my relationships to i just like to be the one in control maybe one day ill find someone to swap roles with wink wink