Tired or bars besides the internet where do you recommend to meet new swingers in a small town? Any Ideas? And no not wal-mart lol
A few months ago we got together with 2 couples we had met on-line. We met in the parking lot of a mall local to us- we happened to live just about mid-way between the two other couples. After hugging and shaking hands and chatting a bit we agreed to have drinks and something to eat at a nearby restaurant where we all got to know each other. Things proceeded from there to another location where friskiness was the order of the evening
I think this is a hard one. In a small town, there probably wouldn't be a local swingers club so you'd almost have to resort to hinting around at bars or social gatherings. Obviously, you don't want to just come out and say 'Hey, we're swingers, how 'bout you?' But maybe trying to converse with a couple you may be interested in and gradually throwing out a hint here or there may be a way of going about it. Feeling out the conversation without being too forward. Maybe try to create a normal friendship with the couple at first, then introduce conversation that hints to the wild side down the road.
The net is the greatest thing that ever happened to the Lifestyle, Try sites like this, yahoo and AOL groups are a great place too.
We used to live in a postage stamp size town in central fl and it was amazing the number of swingers that actually lived in that town as well as the next one over. Like it was mentioned above the net is the best thing for this lifestyle its amazing the ppl in the lifestyle you would never have thought about. Our sons gf's parents are in the lifestyle and we didn't know it until they approached us over the net,when we got the pics of them I almost stroked out. We never did play with them but goes to show you can find playmates in some of the oddest ppl and places. Good Luck
JimmyandBecky
JimmyandBecky
We would agree that the net is a good place to look. We live in a small town and were surprised to find out how many people were into the lifestyle here. We have talked to three couples so far, and never expected there to be any results at the outset of our little search.
We use the net, as clubs are not an option for us at this point in time. We have met some great people, but would love to meet more!
Sue
Sue
The net is by far the best way. The two main clubs near us are not good hunting ground and are pricey to join/attend. The next best clubs are in DC, but then you have 2 or more hours between anyone you might meet there.
Place truthful ads about what you want and don't be afraid to respond to the ones already posted. Also Yahoo groups are a great place to meet people by interest.
Place truthful ads about what you want and don't be afraid to respond to the ones already posted. Also Yahoo groups are a great place to meet people by interest.
We meet intially on sites like this then setup a face to face meeting at a local restraunt,bar,club etc... sometimes it could be a Mcd's, Waffel House or wherever we can all manage to meet and noramlly we don't play first meetings althoughwe willadmit some first meetings only lasted a couple of hours before we allagreed to go find a more private spot lol.
N&S
N&S
We are fortunate enough to live 20 miles east of New Orleans where there are lots of different avenues to try. There are several clubs including one of the nicest on premisis clubs in the nation, (Colette).
Even with all of the "Big City" opportunities, most of our contacts are made over the internet. We would have to agree that the net is the best invention since electricity.......!
Even with all of the "Big City" opportunities, most of our contacts are made over the internet. We would have to agree that the net is the best invention since electricity.......!
We bought the magazines, read the ads, and ...
Fantasied about who, and what we do if we did...then we got our computer, and like most, started out with AOHELL .. and what to my wondering eyes did appear, but
Chat rooms full of folks, that we could carry on conversations with thru the IMs... And the next thing you know.. it wasnt the ads, but real people carrying on real conversations about getting together... And we decided to try it... And we found we liked it... and the areas we were living in, had litterly 100s of people looking for playmates
Then we jump ahead 5 yrs, and we move south to the sunshine state... The lifestyle is different here, More Party people, Club folks.. and Real Clubs Open for business.. We join a Yahoo group for locals and a group meet and greet is set up. We go to a quiet little bar with a deck over the water, and what do we findout.. The waitress and her boyfriend are into swapping... we find out there are people here, meeting in bars with out the net..
when we meet, folks we are interested in a public setting, and we tell all potential playmates we would prefer to meet and see how things go.. We try to stress we make no plans to play that night... But we dont rule it out either..
Depends on everyones comfort level..
Plan for anything expect nothing the first date...
Ya never can tell...
Fantasied about who, and what we do if we did...then we got our computer, and like most, started out with AOHELL .. and what to my wondering eyes did appear, but
Chat rooms full of folks, that we could carry on conversations with thru the IMs... And the next thing you know.. it wasnt the ads, but real people carrying on real conversations about getting together... And we decided to try it... And we found we liked it... and the areas we were living in, had litterly 100s of people looking for playmates
Then we jump ahead 5 yrs, and we move south to the sunshine state... The lifestyle is different here, More Party people, Club folks.. and Real Clubs Open for business.. We join a Yahoo group for locals and a group meet and greet is set up. We go to a quiet little bar with a deck over the water, and what do we findout.. The waitress and her boyfriend are into swapping... we find out there are people here, meeting in bars with out the net..
when we meet, folks we are interested in a public setting, and we tell all potential playmates we would prefer to meet and see how things go.. We try to stress we make no plans to play that night... But we dont rule it out either..
Depends on everyones comfort level..
Plan for anything expect nothing the first date...
Ya never can tell...
we are very friendly people . we say hi to everybody we see out and about . yes we meet alot of people at parties , but we also meet alot of people just doing everyday life things . going and picking up the pizza and having a hottie at the counter . ill give them my email add. standing in line in a store . hey WHY NOT WALMART . ?????/ wal mart is the store for everthing . i spend alot of time in walmart . i dress up pretty and go shop and just talk to people all over that store . now they made one with a supercenter also . so now i get ot make my nipples hard and tease...... ha ha
iam a swinger 24 -7 . i think the best way to see people for who they really are is to meet them out and about . at the club they are going to be dressed nice . and on their best behavior . at work they are going to be prof. but in everyday life they are them . and thats the easiest way to really get to know them . the woman in a pair of jeans and a tank top and tennis shoes turns me on a lot more then everybody in a club all dressed sexy . u know why cause something about her made me stop and look . and that just narowed it all down for me . so i will go up and say hi . and talk a bit and if we click then i will give them my email add. and tell them i would love to get to know them better . and its not about sex . cause i play with very few people . but when u click with someone its so cool and it feels right . hell we had a single mom talking and hitting on us when we went trick or treating ..... their is people all over . spend life with the ones that are fun and u click with . all u have to do is say hi . and u might meet a new friend . to me that makes it alot easier then to try to meet someone at a party or on line . all u have is a profile that hopefully they got to write out and it wasnt one of those stupid 3 answers to a question . and then u have to hope they answered it honestly . which by the way some dont . and some change stuff and then forget to tell u about it . or post about it . and then u have try to see if someone u picked from a few pics and a profile clicks with u . thats very stressful to me . i would rather pass out my number all over walmart and hope for the best .
ha ha ha ha
naughty dreams
freaky kitty
iam a swinger 24 -7 . i think the best way to see people for who they really are is to meet them out and about . at the club they are going to be dressed nice . and on their best behavior . at work they are going to be prof. but in everyday life they are them . and thats the easiest way to really get to know them . the woman in a pair of jeans and a tank top and tennis shoes turns me on a lot more then everybody in a club all dressed sexy . u know why cause something about her made me stop and look . and that just narowed it all down for me . so i will go up and say hi . and talk a bit and if we click then i will give them my email add. and tell them i would love to get to know them better . and its not about sex . cause i play with very few people . but when u click with someone its so cool and it feels right . hell we had a single mom talking and hitting on us when we went trick or treating ..... their is people all over . spend life with the ones that are fun and u click with . all u have to do is say hi . and u might meet a new friend . to me that makes it alot easier then to try to meet someone at a party or on line . all u have is a profile that hopefully they got to write out and it wasnt one of those stupid 3 answers to a question . and then u have to hope they answered it honestly . which by the way some dont . and some change stuff and then forget to tell u about it . or post about it . and then u have try to see if someone u picked from a few pics and a profile clicks with u . thats very stressful to me . i would rather pass out my number all over walmart and hope for the best .
ha ha ha ha
naughty dreams
freaky kitty
You may not believe this but the food court in a shopping mall is a great place. No putting on aires, no dress up no reservations totally relaxed and neutral atmosphere and if they don't show go shopping. It really works... Discovered the idea about 3 years ago.... We generally go to a mall that is big enough to support a food court... and one that both parties know or close to one of the parties....Hey if we haven't been there before there's that many new stores for her to explore if there is a no show.. Who knows, there may be a bass pro shop or a golf shop in the mall...
Ray
Ray
I just have to say that this is the third chance I am giving to the internet, everytime I have tried one of these websites I have left disapointed. I have found more real people at the local clubs then online. maybe I am just jaded from being stood up a few times, but I just feel I would rather get to know another couple in person,after several no shows I just don\'t belive in the internet.
We seem to have about 70/40 percent Club VS Web Sites,but we can really say for all the people we have met...we havent been dissapointed.......
We have found all the couples we hook up with on the internet. we use several websites. :-)
we meet most on the net... but our friends have a monthly meet and greet party... about 300 to 400 show up its a great way to meet new friends. For those who are interested the link is
http://www.secretdesires.org/
http://www.secretdesires.org/
We have met most via the web. The first couples we met were at a club but since then is all the web.. We have also noticed that a lot of local couples say they want to meet but when presented with a genuine couple that is local (same town or next one over) we try to meet and then get the
i have met people on yahoo, msn, SLS, SDC ..AFF ...hmmm and TAMMI from here woohooo
most ppl i met at the mall ... few others invited me directly to thier house. ..Once i got lost and called her on cellphone and she guided me to the front door ...
most ppl i met at the mall ... few others invited me directly to thier house. ..Once i got lost and called her on cellphone and she guided me to the front door ...