How many couples allow each other to date within the lifestyle? As an example wife goes out with guy they might have sex but they might not and the husband is allowed to meet some lady for a night out on the town. Who has done this, or considered this?
We do on occassion not an all the time thing but it does add spice and change of pace for us, just curious as to other couples that practice this as well.
We do on occassion not an all the time thing but it does add spice and change of pace for us, just curious as to other couples that practice this as well.
Totally agree. I have a guy that I really enjoy spending time with when I get the chance, my husband doesnt really have anyone at the moment he has had one in the past and I encourage him because it is a lot of fun and does adds spice to our relationship.
I just want to say that it works for us. As long as things are fair and there is complete trust. Everything works out and it will bring more spice in to your relationship.
xoxoxox Butterfly4
xoxoxox Butterfly4
i am all for fair dating and the gals that go out with me Know they are free to date whom they wish as I am too..like Patlyn says anyone that wants that serious relationship has to be open to others
We recently started doing this and have had success with it thus far. She has made many one on one dates and he has found a couple. As long as everyone is open and honest with their feelings and it's not about being manipulative, we believe it works. 
Plus who knows when one of these folks may actually turn into something more for us as a couple as well. 
Plus who knows when one of these folks may actually turn into something more for us as a couple as well. We play as a couple and we play alone. I have had a blast doing both.
Yes, the Mrs can throw a rock and hit three guys that want to take her out. It ebbs and flows for the Mr., they are either everywhere or nowhere....truly feast or famine (mostly famine). And it is a lot of work to find single girls who will date married men.
Of course all you girls out there...you can gladly prove us wrong
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Although we strongly prefer couples, we definately like the hall passes, esp since we have kids...one spouse at a time...no sitters!
Of course all you girls out there...you can gladly prove us wrong
! Although we strongly prefer couples, we definately like the hall passes, esp since we have kids...one spouse at a time...no sitters!
This is probably the least understood or controversial aspect of the "lifestyle" but one which we think is also the most exciting. I mean we are still so new to this, but The excitement that builds from your partner being out with someone new (or regular) is so incredible. The idea that she is being taken care of by another man is a definite turn on for me. She has a harder time letting me go (says it's because I am so good . . . whatever . . .) but I do know that after we have been away, we come back together and have such spectacular sex it is mind blowing. We both believe that there is room in our hearts to love beyond what we are truly capable of understanding, and so we know that there is risk, but that we are so deeply committed to one another that we don't worry as long as we are hooking up with individuals who are kind, considerate, and as passionate as we are.
We do and it seems to work well.
We have been known to play alone as well. The other must be consenting and it is usually only wiht people we have already met with before. We very rarely do one-on-one dates. Usually, it's more like a threesome with a couple we have played with before, though we do allow each other some one-on-one stress relief fromt ime to time!
weve done one on one dates in the past but its always have weve known the cpl for awhile and all feel really comfortable and have played several times with them. the only problem weve run into doing this is actually runing into friends and family while this is happening, kinda hard to explain your way out lol
IMAGINEMEANDYOU2 wrote:
Isn't it way easier for women to find dates than men? All they have to do is raise their hand and they have plenty of offers, LOL. I am guessing it may be a bit trickier for us guys??? How many of the girls reading this want to sign up for a date with me? And how many guys want to date my wife? Let me know!!!
No doubt!!
We could not agree more about that thought, though we'll take the both of you sexy peeps! Still, we enjoy the dating thing when it works! It allows us to avoid some of the drama/jealousy issues that we experience when we are with couples.
Still, with everything, it's all about the people your with. Chemistry.. is everything.
LEMONLIME wrote:
It can be hard finding couples where all 4 people hit it off, so for us, we have probably played more with hall passes than together. Also, like a few other people mentioned, the logistics of it are easier because we don't need a sitter. It has definitely added a lot of spice to our relationship. It's always hot to hear all the fun little details about what happened
And how often are your hall passes given out?
I would love the opportunity to go on a date with her....just thought I would throw it out there.
@ LemonLime:
Gotcha. Well I read thru your profile and recognize the no single men addition. I will leave it at that and if at some point in the future she feels like going out or contacting me...we will take it from there.
Gotcha. Well I read thru your profile and recognize the no single men addition. I will leave it at that and if at some point in the future she feels like going out or contacting me...we will take it from there.
Well I see my wife has been posting some. I would like to say that I totally agree, being a married man it is far easier for the ladies to find someone willing to date them. My wife has had to turn down guys because she already has her plate full. And like most who have posted it works well for us especially since time restraints and its hard to find a time when 4 hit it off well at the same time.
We just recently have decided to trod down this path too. It is fun We like to fill each other in on all of the details afterward which usually ends up in sexy times for us together.
We like to fill each other in on all of the details afterward which usually ends up in sexy times for us together.PATLYN wrote:
I just have to say as a single woman I like dateing married men and if I was to go into a relationship with someone I would make my dating other men and him dating other women part of the deal cause in my personal oppinion variety is the spice of life
I could lie to you and tell you I'm married. lol
I got an A+ in Reverse Psychology 101.
we have from time to time done this. it does make it easier to not find a sitter. we have had some great moments with it. we always look for the four way date.
We have done that a few times and it's great. We just promise to tell each other everything that happened after.
Since we dont engage with couples(at least not sexually)and we dont play with males, we prefer to "date" as a couple, or sometimes, she will meet a lady alone, to hang out, have lunch or drinks or whatever. He doesn't play alone, she occasionally does, but we both strongly prefer to do things as a couple, even though our swing style is f-f-m(girl-girl), we prefer that everyone meet/hang out at the same time.
we are new to this and why this sounds exciting I (wife) am also a little nervous about it. It turns my hubby on extremely to think about me with someone else but i am nervous about him being alone with someone else. I know he love me and we have been married for 23 yrs and have a great relationship so I wanna know how i can be more relaxed about this. I am afraid of feeling and relationships going further than was intended. Can you really accidentally fall in love with some one else? Any suggestions how i can be more relaxed and enjoy this lifestyle more.
BEARITALL wrote:
we are new to this and why this sounds exciting I (wife) am also a little nervous about it. It turns my hubby on extremely to think about me with someone else but i am nervous about him being alone with someone else. I know he love me and we have been married for 23 yrs and have a great relationship so I wanna know how i can be more relaxed about this. I am afraid of feeling and relationships going further than was intended. Can you really accidentally fall in love with some one else? Any suggestions how i can be more relaxed and enjoy this lifestyle more.
It great to hear that you have at least considered it. Being open to new ideas and a different way of living is a big step most never take. I would like to say that as erotic as it seems to almost everyone as a fantasy and thinking of the excitement and thrill, it is definitely not for everyone, for every couple. It takes the right combination between a husband and wife that is not found in many couples.
Being nervous is quite natural and all of us has been there. Even the most open relationship, the most secure couple is nervous the first time a step such as this one is taken. And to answer your question, Yes it is possible a relationship can go to far, go beyond what is intended. It does happen, but is no different than in any other relationship and marriage, how many flirtations at work with a cute co worker has been taken too far in a classic marriage. It can and does happen, but for those of us who have that matching relationship with our significant other it enhances our relationship not hinder or hurt it.
Hi, We would like to play together.