Seriously, Guys, this is a female issue and I don't want ya'll to get sqeamish. So if you keep reading you only have yourself to blame....
Ok Ladies. Here is my issue/question.....
On the 27th of July I had a partial hysterectomy....just my uterus and my cervix removed do to excessive bleeding (especially after sex) and cancer cells growing. Pathologly report was that the tumors were benign. Thank god. I still have my overies and tubes. My surgery itself was pretty easy and my 3 small incisions have compeltely healed. I did have meds/anethesia issues which made me have to stay in the hospital longer then the anticpated 2 days. I was there 4. However, I'm home, and other then feeling a little more tired/drained easier, I feel great. My spotting and bleeding as been pretty minimal for the most part. I haven't bled for a few days.
I was missing sex. Or affection. Or something along those lines. But I was really nervous. A lot of people told me that the first time I have sex after my surgery it would hurt, I could start bleeding, and my ability to fully accomedate a penis will be different as the length of my vagina will be shortened due to the removal of my cervix and that I will also be a little tighter (so that's a plus for for my lucky boyfriend. LOL). Trust me...I'm all for a little pain during sex. But NOT that kind.
Last night was with Dave and we started messing around and I was getting totally hot and wet just from foreplay. We were just gonna do oral but not penetration as he was afraid of hurting me. But I got TOO turned on and I NEEDED him inside me even tho I was scared to death (yeah, I'm a wuss). Trust me what his hands and fingers were doing felt fucking amazing and I was cumming hard, fast, and non stop. I braced myself as he slid into me and he took real slow and gentle.
No pain while inside me. And the orgasms still kept rolling over and over. Afterwards there was a few spots of bleeding but nothing big but then it ended almost as soon as it started.
Anyhow, he did tell me I "felt different" inside but couldn't really tell me HOW. He did say I was a tighter and it was still all good for him.
Physically I feel ok. But mentally I feel really weird. My usual uterine contractions after an orgasm obviously weren't there but that's fine. It's like I feel sexually disconnected even tho it wasn't nearly the painful experience I thought it would be. He and I have also been dealing with other relationship stuff (what I "lovingly" refer to his midlife crisis, issues with my kids, obviously my surgery and all that came with that, plus a few other minor things) so hooking up last night was so needed. I needed to feel close to him, to reconnect, etc.
But like I said...today I feel out of it. Hormonal. Different. Weird. And now I'm having anxiety over it. Is this normal?
Ok Ladies. Here is my issue/question.....
On the 27th of July I had a partial hysterectomy....just my uterus and my cervix removed do to excessive bleeding (especially after sex) and cancer cells growing. Pathologly report was that the tumors were benign. Thank god. I still have my overies and tubes. My surgery itself was pretty easy and my 3 small incisions have compeltely healed. I did have meds/anethesia issues which made me have to stay in the hospital longer then the anticpated 2 days. I was there 4. However, I'm home, and other then feeling a little more tired/drained easier, I feel great. My spotting and bleeding as been pretty minimal for the most part. I haven't bled for a few days.
I was missing sex. Or affection. Or something along those lines. But I was really nervous. A lot of people told me that the first time I have sex after my surgery it would hurt, I could start bleeding, and my ability to fully accomedate a penis will be different as the length of my vagina will be shortened due to the removal of my cervix and that I will also be a little tighter (so that's a plus for for my lucky boyfriend. LOL). Trust me...I'm all for a little pain during sex. But NOT that kind.
Last night was with Dave and we started messing around and I was getting totally hot and wet just from foreplay. We were just gonna do oral but not penetration as he was afraid of hurting me. But I got TOO turned on and I NEEDED him inside me even tho I was scared to death (yeah, I'm a wuss). Trust me what his hands and fingers were doing felt fucking amazing and I was cumming hard, fast, and non stop. I braced myself as he slid into me and he took real slow and gentle.
No pain while inside me. And the orgasms still kept rolling over and over. Afterwards there was a few spots of bleeding but nothing big but then it ended almost as soon as it started.
Anyhow, he did tell me I "felt different" inside but couldn't really tell me HOW. He did say I was a tighter and it was still all good for him.
Physically I feel ok. But mentally I feel really weird. My usual uterine contractions after an orgasm obviously weren't there but that's fine. It's like I feel sexually disconnected even tho it wasn't nearly the painful experience I thought it would be. He and I have also been dealing with other relationship stuff (what I "lovingly" refer to his midlife crisis, issues with my kids, obviously my surgery and all that came with that, plus a few other minor things) so hooking up last night was so needed. I needed to feel close to him, to reconnect, etc.
But like I said...today I feel out of it. Hormonal. Different. Weird. And now I'm having anxiety over it. Is this normal?
Hmmm... A year ago I had a partial hysterectomy, ovary removed due to a tumor. I was also hormonal, felt a little off. You're body is dealing with an imbalance hormonally. It will take a few months for it to adjust to the "new normal". Once I adjusted I was fine and now don't even give it a second thought.
Anxiety, depression and generally the crazies can be associated with any type of womanly surgery, at least from my experience.
Good Luck! I wish you the best!
Anxiety, depression and generally the crazies can be associated with any type of womanly surgery, at least from my experience.
Good Luck! I wish you the best!
Well it's good you are asking this of people who actually had this operation but I hope you already spoke to your doctor about this.
Anytime u have an operation what u had and equally when a guy has Prostrate surgury, there is going to be both mental and physial changes/adjustments.
Don't get the midlife crisis with ur kids thing plus other issues, but that could be adding to ur issue.
as long as it feels good and ur doctor say's don't worry about it...
Anytime u have an operation what u had and equally when a guy has Prostrate surgury, there is going to be both mental and physial changes/adjustments.
Don't get the midlife crisis with ur kids thing plus other issues, but that could be adding to ur issue.
as long as it feels good and ur doctor say's don't worry about it...
thank you for asking this due to the fact i might have to have it and its scaring the hell out of me to think about it ! now i kinds know what to expect coming from the patients not the doctors that tell you what the books tell you to tell your patients ya know !
thank you wefly ! lol ya i didnt ever orgasm with my ex either .... but im sure there was other reason for that ... like the reason he became a ex ! lol bigger and way better fish out there .... but now i got the best ! cant complain !
Without reading all the posts because I don't have time right now...from a medical point...it's not "hormonal"...your ovaries are still there and functioning...I would say it more psychological...all the anticipation and worries you have about it...I had a full hysterectomy almost 10 years ago (well they left 1 ovary) and sex has never been better and you never have to worry about women issues...best thing that ever happened to us...kisses...Naugh-Ty
Oh and yes, I think you may have jumped the gun a little...standard waiting time is 6 weeks but if your doctor gave you the go ahead then ok 
thanks everyone for your input...and I agree I might of jumped the gun a bit. This morning I started spotting AGAIN. grrrr. Gonna give a rest for a bit.
But dammit when he kisses me and gives me that cocky grin I just melt and mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. ;-)
But dammit when he kisses me and gives me that cocky grin I just melt and mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. ;-)