Oops, I misspelled "category" in the title and can't fix it! Oh well!! 
As my user-name here implies, I am a married female. I mostly play on my own, so I've listed myself on Swingular in the "Single Female" category so as to avoid filling out a bunch of profile stuff about my husband that seems irrelevant given the fact that I do mostly play alone. I'm not trying to hide anything though, and my profile clearly states that I AM married, and my husband does participate sometimes (although he only plays with me, such as in an mfm). Even when he does not participate though, he's often present in a voyeur type situation. Furthermore, he's obviously my best friend, and if he were to object to any of my "playmates" they'd immediately be gone. Should I have listed myself as a "couple" rather than a single female? Now that I've typed this all out, the question seems stupid and I think I should have listed as a "couple!" What do you think?
As my user-name here implies, I am a married female. I mostly play on my own, so I've listed myself on Swingular in the "Single Female" category so as to avoid filling out a bunch of profile stuff about my husband that seems irrelevant given the fact that I do mostly play alone. I'm not trying to hide anything though, and my profile clearly states that I AM married, and my husband does participate sometimes (although he only plays with me, such as in an mfm). Even when he does not participate though, he's often present in a voyeur type situation. Furthermore, he's obviously my best friend, and if he were to object to any of my "playmates" they'd immediately be gone. Should I have listed myself as a "couple" rather than a single female? Now that I've typed this all out, the question seems stupid and I think I should have listed as a "couple!" What do you think?
Put what you just wrote about your husbands participation in your profile. What you wrote in this post is more detailed than what you have in your profile about how much your husband is actually involved.
OK, guess I'll just leave everything pretty much as is -- maybe do a few tweaks!
Thanks for all the input from you more experienced Swingular folks!!
Thanks for all the input from you more experienced Swingular folks!!
Why doesn't your "Husband" want to participate fully.
Hard to believe a guy's given up free pussy while his wife is getting banged.
Hard to believe a guy's given up free pussy while his wife is getting banged.
MASSMN wrote:
Why doesn't your "Husband" want to participate fully.
Hard to believe a guy's given up free pussy while his wife is getting banged.
Are you implying that the male halves of couples here only 'allow' their wives to have sex with another man if they are getting something in return?
More bluntly; are women's sexuality a commodity to you?
FUN4MWF,
Maybe you are over thinking it a bit. I understood where you were comming from when I read it.
Fun4MN- WOW! Really?
Maybe you are over thinking it a bit. I understood where you were comming from when I read it.
Fun4MN- WOW! Really?
MASSMN wrote:
Why doesn't your "Husband" want to participate fully.
Hard to believe a guy's given up free pussy while his wife is getting banged.
omg...seriously?? Even if that was in the slightest bit anybody else's business, besides their own, there surely has to be a more tactful way of asking it *shaking head*
I'm in the same situation - married but I play on my own. I see it as something I do that is just for me, not to share. I've often thought about putting my own profile out there but I'm hesitant to do so. I wish the "married but plays alone" option was a more obvious option on the profiles! I'd love to find more married men who play alone - just hard to find them out there.
I've wondered this for years (Male half here). My wife plays but not nearly as often as I do. And she never plays without me near by. She does however really enjoy "loaning me out" to others. She even likes to help me get ready for a 'play date', making sure I'm shaved extra close, helping me pick clothing and cologne. It really turns her on even when I come home and tell her all about my 'date'. Most of the ladies we've both played with started with a date she set-up for just I and the other women. She likes to send me out (or have someone over). Often times she'll have a lady come over to play with her 'boy toy' and she'll wait in the other room or leave for a bit. She does join on occasions also and we've done full swap but she really enjoys knowing I'm with anouther lady and is normally just short of dripping afterwards. We have anouther couple who's husband enjoy his wife 'dateing' so it does work well between us. What does eveyone here think? Should I also have a profile listing me as 'single' and refering to our other profile or leave it as it is?
MASSMN wrote:
Why doesn't your "Husband" want to participate fully.
Hard to believe a guy's given up free pussy while his wife is getting banged.
Huh? Ummm... actually he gets all the "free" he wants! What the heck you talking about? Would you post something like this if I was looking for a gal for my husband as is more prevalent on here -- I mean like asking "Why would you give up free dick while your husband is getting banged?" I guess I'm just missing your point somewhere!??!
When I kept trying to say MASSMN is a dick, I wasn't off my meds.....Promise. He's always a dick. Check his posting history.
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
When I kept trying to say MASSMN is a dick, I wasn't off my meds.....Promise. He's always a dick. Check his posting history.
BlueEyes, I missed your comments about him! And how the heck do you check his posting history...or are you just saying in general from what you've seen him post in the past?
At the upper right hand side of this page is a Search. Just type in his username and click.
And he's a prick. I have repeatedly called him out on this but he just doesn't get it. He's about as useful as tits on on boar. Don't get me, wrong. I'm not exactly Ms Popularity myself and I can totally own that my bitch factor has been running rampant lately but hell, but his holier then thou condensation judgements makes me wanna shove a pineapple up his ass sideways and then set it on fire.
And he's a prick. I have repeatedly called him out on this but he just doesn't get it. He's about as useful as tits on on boar. Don't get me, wrong. I'm not exactly Ms Popularity myself and I can totally own that my bitch factor has been running rampant lately but hell, but his holier then thou condensation judgements makes me wanna shove a pineapple up his ass sideways and then set it on fire.
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
At the upper right hand side of this page is a Search. Just type in his username and click. And he's a prick. I have repeatedly called him out on this but he just doesn't get it. He's about as useful as tits on on boar. Don't get me, wrong. I'm not exactly Ms Popularity myself and I can totally own that my bitch factor has been running rampant lately but hell, but his holier then thou condensation judgements makes me wanna shove a pineapple up his ass sideways and then set it on fire.
Well tell us how you really feel hun!
If I say anymore it would be considered premeditated. LOL
Counting down the days til I get my hormones balanced. I miss being sweet and docile.
Counting down the days til I get my hormones balanced. I miss being sweet and docile.
blue eyes if you really want to hurt him the best way is to glue the third eye shut with super glue but that would hurt so much
Fun4mwf-Oh man im such a dumb ass! The "WOW, really" comment was ment for-MASSMN.
How you post is up to you. Lots of women post both ways. I guess it depends on your point of view. Most swinging couples don't think of us singles as swingers and maybe we are not technically. I cannot think why a married man would ever think of posting as a single but I admit that I have not looked either. If they do it should be posted clearly in their profile also.
But if you are in this lifestyle and single you may want to meet single women and hope that a really personal relationship may develop with one. This lifestyle is not just about hook ups. In general I would think that as a single swinger I would want to bond with a woman that wishes to live this lifestyle. At least that would work for me. So to that end, finding a single post that is really a married post is always a disappointment. But as long as you are clear in your profile, I say no harm, no foul. On some boards, depending on your level, cannot read the profile. But if a single man can
But if you are in this lifestyle and single you may want to meet single women and hope that a really personal relationship may develop with one. This lifestyle is not just about hook ups. In general I would think that as a single swinger I would want to bond with a woman that wishes to live this lifestyle. At least that would work for me. So to that end, finding a single post that is really a married post is always a disappointment. But as long as you are clear in your profile, I say no harm, no foul. On some boards, depending on your level, cannot read the profile. But if a single man can
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:I generally do not like to take sides but I don't have to look him up to agree with you. His statement speaks for its self and it makes him sound like a jerk whether he is or not. He should keep his mouth shut and needs an attitude adjustment. But some people never learn manners and I know that he is not the only one out there with a bad attitude. You go girl. Just keep it cool.
At the upper right hand side of this page is a Search. Just type in his username and click. And he's a prick. I have repeatedly called him out on this but he just doesn't get it. He's about as useful as tits on on boar. Don't get me, wrong. I'm not exactly Ms Popularity myself and I can totally own that my bitch factor has been running rampant lately but hell, but his holier then thou condensation judgements makes me wanna shove a pineapple up his ass sideways and then set it on fire.
OMG I love you ladies!!! There is nothing sexier than a strong, confident woman that knows what she wants, (or doesn't wanna touch with a 10' pole), and is honest about it. Regardless of body shape or style, it's the "mind" fucking that arouses the soul, not just the loins...I think I just felt my brain "pre-cum" a little.
FUN4MWF- my wife loves to see what another woman is doing to me, as much or more as her physical contact at the time, or hear about the details later, and her reasons are her own. You GO baby!!!
BLUEEYES- you tell it how you see and feel it, and nobody can take that away from you. This world would be a better place if some people learned to be honest. Nobody likes a cheat or a liar. Bang away!!!
NAUGHTYGIRL- you have always had a kind heart and hated to see people at each other's throat, but rather IN them. LOL. I wish there were more people that could resonate compassion. Share the love!!!
ABCCOUPLE- you guys rock!!! I wish you didn't live so far away! Such a friendly attractive wife, and Krazy-K you really have a beautiful mind man. I would love to spend time with you two. DAMMIT!!!
KISSABLE- yes you are!!! Denise and I usually save that for each other, but rules were made to be ammended once in a while. WOW. Enough said!!!
Some of these posts, good and bad, really force me to stop and take a look at myself, and make me wanna be a better fuckin human being. Some jerks just don't realize this is supposed to be about fun, entertainment, and meeting great people to help this miserable world seem a little brighter, and other's just want company sittin in their own shit. I just wanted to say "thanks" for the attitude check. I never wanna forget who I am. Johnny
FUN4MWF- my wife loves to see what another woman is doing to me, as much or more as her physical contact at the time, or hear about the details later, and her reasons are her own. You GO baby!!!
BLUEEYES- you tell it how you see and feel it, and nobody can take that away from you. This world would be a better place if some people learned to be honest. Nobody likes a cheat or a liar. Bang away!!!
NAUGHTYGIRL- you have always had a kind heart and hated to see people at each other's throat, but rather IN them. LOL. I wish there were more people that could resonate compassion. Share the love!!!
ABCCOUPLE- you guys rock!!! I wish you didn't live so far away! Such a friendly attractive wife, and Krazy-K you really have a beautiful mind man. I would love to spend time with you two. DAMMIT!!!
KISSABLE- yes you are!!! Denise and I usually save that for each other, but rules were made to be ammended once in a while. WOW. Enough said!!!
Some of these posts, good and bad, really force me to stop and take a look at myself, and make me wanna be a better fuckin human being. Some jerks just don't realize this is supposed to be about fun, entertainment, and meeting great people to help this miserable world seem a little brighter, and other's just want company sittin in their own shit. I just wanted to say "thanks" for the attitude check. I never wanna forget who I am. Johnny
If you are single, meaning you do not wear a ring, have no permanent partner who may consider you a couple, have no decree proclaiming you anything else "but" that, you should list yourself as single. My 5
FUN4MWF wrote:MASSMN wrote:Huh? Ummm... actually he gets all the "free" he wants! What the heck you talking about? Would you post something like this if I was looking for a gal for my husband as is more prevalent on here -- I mean like asking "Why would you give up free dick while your husband is getting banged?" I guess I'm just missing your point somewhere!??!
Why doesn't your "Husband" want to participate fully. Hard to believe a guy's given up free pussy while his wife is getting banged.
I don't think you're missing his point - I don't think he has one.
I post as ssingle even though I still swing with mike as a couple. He rather have me in a mmf situation than him being with someone else. I think you explained it well and it's fine to keep it that way, afterall, you did explain your married.
and technically laws of nevada, I am married, but I also have a bf. I never see my husband and mike and him get along. when I do.
MASSMN wrote:Where is that "Manners in the Lifestyle" forum topic when you need it?
Why doesn't your "Husband" want to participate fully. Hard to believe a guy's given up free pussy while his wife is getting banged.
the manners booklet needs to posted in every topic lol it always comes down to a male or female just being a plain dick in these forums.