I have been with a couple for about 2 years now, her husband is out of town many times a month due to his business, however he love the idea she is having fun with a guy and somtimes come home without saying anything to catch us in action or when I sleep over he likes to see her having some fun while getting ready to work.
He tells me that I have green light with her to do whatever we feel like.
So...anyone on this same kind of relationship?
Hope to hear comments and similar stories.
Leo
He tells me that I have green light with her to do whatever we feel like.
So...anyone on this same kind of relationship?
Hope to hear comments and similar stories.
Leo
i think your in dream land..
kristylynn
kristylynn
We call them \"Fuck Buddies\"
Beth has one
I also have a couple that I do the same for
when he is out of town.
It may not be swinging, but what the Hell we have alot of fun
Beth has one
I also have a couple that I do the same for
when he is out of town.
It may not be swinging, but what the Hell we have alot of fun
While it may be dreamland to some, it is/was a reality for us...lol
For a while, we had another couple we were friends with, and basically it was fair game across the board. with the exception of me getting with the other guy, me & my wife would split up for the weekend, they woudl split up for the weekend, he stayed with us one night, I wa with them one night, when I would be on the road she would go see them, same thing when he was out of town. Quite an interesting relationship we had.
But then again also, when I do go out of town, my wife has some friends she plays with. She lets me know and all is cool.
For a while, we had another couple we were friends with, and basically it was fair game across the board. with the exception of me getting with the other guy, me & my wife would split up for the weekend, they woudl split up for the weekend, he stayed with us one night, I wa with them one night, when I would be on the road she would go see them, same thing when he was out of town. Quite an interesting relationship we had.
But then again also, when I do go out of town, my wife has some friends she plays with. She lets me know and all is cool.
We both play with others from time to time. Me more so than my wife. I have two other ladies that like to come \'visit\' me from time to time. One of them comes by at least one a week to see me without her husband. She\'s come after work or in the morning when she doesn\'t work until later in the day. The other is single and comes to stay with us from time to time. When she does we play whenever we get in the mood regardless of whether my wife is home. My wife knows about everything and has no problem with it.
Life is good!
Life is good!
Its not dreamland, I\'ve been involved the same way. Also, there are males that can no longer perform but the wife still needs sexual pleasure, single (or married) males can be a big help to many couples.
yes we have a male friend we have known for years, he now has play alone privelages with me. Clay loves to hea about it when he is away.
Michele
Michele
I might add that sometimes he is watching TV and she calls me for some fun while he can\'t take his eyes out of the football game, we have the adavantage of being neighboors what makes it easier.
having such open relationship let us confortable to play more laxed and mo worries, not only her husband knows about us, but their 2 sons (21 & 24) are ok with their choice, I am having a great time with them.
Thanks for all the replies
having such open relationship let us confortable to play more laxed and mo worries, not only her husband knows about us, but their 2 sons (21 & 24) are ok with their choice, I am having a great time with them.
Thanks for all the replies
When couples start swinging separately it is not swinging anymore it is just sex and possibly shopping for a replacement. Swinging is about partying with your spouse or mate and being turned on by seeing each other having sex with others or all together at once. We have known several couples who starrted swinging alone and most of them are now not together anymore. When it reaches that point then you have lost the idea of what the lifestylke is really all about.
I have to agree with UTCPL 100%. Swingers Lifestyle is not about having sex on your own with another person.
I believe that swinging is what you make of it. Not everybody swings the same way. What works for some, doesn
everyone has different rules. That\'s part of what make swinging fun. If it\'s ok with both members of the couple and isn\'t a replacement, just some fun, then what\'s the harm!
We don\'t do this because we like to see each other with our friends. It makes it more fun for us. But if you have different rules, more power to ya.
The world would be boring if we all had to live by the same rules (see Middle East)...
We don\'t do this because we like to see each other with our friends. It makes it more fun for us. But if you have different rules, more power to ya.
The world would be boring if we all had to live by the same rules (see Middle East)...
Well said CARESS4U. As for us, my wife and I have an understanding. If there is someone whom we want to play with, and either she or I are unavailable for what ever reason, then we are free to play, so long as we contact the other and verify that its ok. Is it swinging? We think so. Do others agree with us? Some do and some dont. Are we worried about their opinions? Nope. Are either of us shopping for someone new to replace one or the other? No way.
Now to be able to do this, it of course take having the utmost trust in oen another and as always, open and honest communications.
Now to be able to do this, it of course take having the utmost trust in oen another and as always, open and honest communications.
OK. This is a subject I\'ve thought about a lot - for a long time, so I\'m happy for a forum to present in - and see what kind of reactions my \"conclusions\" spark.
Statement: Most of our laws and even *feelings* concerning sex - were formed in a time when sex usually meant \"pregnancy and children and all of the responsibilities of childrearing\".
It is only very-recently (anthropologically speaking) that sex is entirely separable from pregnancy and procreation, so many attitudes and structures and laws that were set up - may really not make sense anymore and society is struggling with what the \"new rules\" should be.
In particular, I suggest that marriage has been *defined* as \"who you fuck\".
I suppose that makes sense in a society where one is wanting to be sure that the responsibilities you shoulder (i.e. children) are, in fact, your own genetic material.
But *marriage* *should* be so much more than \"who you fuck\". The real point of marriage - I assert - is the *emotional intimacy* of sharing one\'s life with one\'s special life partner.
In that context, perhaps sex should take on more and more of an \"importance\" factor - rivalling \"hunting, shopping or bowling\". What I mean is that in a perfect relationship, both partners want exactly the same amount of exactly the same activities. But I doubt that many such relationships exist - so we find partners who match to a large degree - and then agree to do some thing separately - rather than \"always together\".
In that context, if a couple are well-matched as emotional intimates, but have entirely-different desires for amount and type of sex - then why should that one \"hobby\" wind up saying that the whole relationship should be sacrificed? Why shouldn\'t sex be treated as \"important\" as other activities - like Hunting, Shopping, and Bowling - to be done with others who enjoy it - rather than requiring that ONE partner?
Yes. Sex can - at its best - be the most intimate thing of all to share - particularly in creating and nurturing children together. But if it doesn\'t match up, then why should society retain the baggage which causes the majority of relationships to *break up* - so that each party can get the amount of *sex* they want?
Sure. Sex with other partners can magnify relationship problems. But so can \"doing without\" (for *either* partner).
OK. Your turn. (General discussion).
Statement: Most of our laws and even *feelings* concerning sex - were formed in a time when sex usually meant \"pregnancy and children and all of the responsibilities of childrearing\".
It is only very-recently (anthropologically speaking) that sex is entirely separable from pregnancy and procreation, so many attitudes and structures and laws that were set up - may really not make sense anymore and society is struggling with what the \"new rules\" should be.
In particular, I suggest that marriage has been *defined* as \"who you fuck\".
I suppose that makes sense in a society where one is wanting to be sure that the responsibilities you shoulder (i.e. children) are, in fact, your own genetic material.
But *marriage* *should* be so much more than \"who you fuck\". The real point of marriage - I assert - is the *emotional intimacy* of sharing one\'s life with one\'s special life partner.
In that context, perhaps sex should take on more and more of an \"importance\" factor - rivalling \"hunting, shopping or bowling\". What I mean is that in a perfect relationship, both partners want exactly the same amount of exactly the same activities. But I doubt that many such relationships exist - so we find partners who match to a large degree - and then agree to do some thing separately - rather than \"always together\".
In that context, if a couple are well-matched as emotional intimates, but have entirely-different desires for amount and type of sex - then why should that one \"hobby\" wind up saying that the whole relationship should be sacrificed? Why shouldn\'t sex be treated as \"important\" as other activities - like Hunting, Shopping, and Bowling - to be done with others who enjoy it - rather than requiring that ONE partner?
Yes. Sex can - at its best - be the most intimate thing of all to share - particularly in creating and nurturing children together. But if it doesn\'t match up, then why should society retain the baggage which causes the majority of relationships to *break up* - so that each party can get the amount of *sex* they want?
Sure. Sex with other partners can magnify relationship problems. But so can \"doing without\" (for *either* partner).
OK. Your turn. (General discussion).
yes Michele and I have had a male friend for over 5 yrs, he now enjoys privelages while I travel, the only deal is they must email me with the details if they meet, or even better call my vm during the heat.... ; )
Clay
Clay
Beard,
You have just hit the nail right on the head! Our material need to OWN everything causes the majority of the perceived problems in both our society and our relationships. I totally agree that as our society evolves and changes, our rules always lag far behind. Wish I had more time to discuss this further, but we are getting ready to go out. You are my guru! LOL LOL
You have just hit the nail right on the head! Our material need to OWN everything causes the majority of the perceived problems in both our society and our relationships. I totally agree that as our society evolves and changes, our rules always lag far behind. Wish I had more time to discuss this further, but we are getting ready to go out. You are my guru! LOL LOL