if someone sends a friend request are people really that above sending a reply no thank you instead of ignore ?
i would like to see a way added to system that if someone declines a request for watever reason they be decent enough to respond back .
Just MY OPINION
i would like to see a way added to system that if someone declines a request for watever reason they be decent enough to respond back .
Just MY OPINION
and see thats the cool thing to do . if everyone on here was a perfect match there wouldnt be a website left . wouldnt be swingular.com it would be match.com lol
Us too. It just gets old getting request after request when you have never even chatted or met them. If they can't take the time to read your profile and send something then why waste time replying to them?
If there is an email with the request, a personal one not the computer generated one, then I always respond...but no, if they don't take the time to say something to me besides hit the send request button then I don't have the time to explain to them why I denied it...kisses...Naugh-Ty
LEHICPL4FUN wrote:. i totally agree with what your saying and never thought about it from the woman side like that with how many requests women on here get.
Us too. It just gets old getting request after request when you have never even chatted or met them. If they can't take the time to read your profile and send something then why waste time replying to them?
im talking about some people who you have read their profile ... ive read every profile ive sent a friend request to.... a ice breaker or conversation starter for some people may just be hitting the friend request button.lol
I tend to delete requests from those who have not sent an introductory email along with the request, and also delete those that make the request without themselves having any kind of photos available. Seems fair to me that if I open up my private photos, they at least offer some of themselves? I've only been on here a couple weeks though, so maybe I'm blowin' it! 
[I can't believe I'm risking replying in a public forum after gettin' ripped so bad last time!! I'm probably a slow learner!!!]
[I can't believe I'm risking replying in a public forum after gettin' ripped so bad last time!! I'm probably a slow learner!!!]Speaking of which, just received yet another one...single male (not an automatic disqualification), no pics, no accompanying email...3 out of 4 ain't bad, this one's at least in state...but I get how many of these a day...so I guess if they need an ice breaker with me they're gonna have to come up with more courage than hitting the friend request button...sorry...Kisses...Naugh-Ty
We dont reply or accept requests from people that don't send an email, we want to get to know EVERY person that we are friends with. If we start accepting friend requests from everyone blindly then before you know it you have so many people that you cannot remember (or find) the person your interested in. It is unreal how many people send blind friend requests. Obviously they didnt even START to read our profile. If you want to be friends send an email....it only takes a couple more seconds 
FUN4MWF wrote:
I tend to delete requests from those who have not sent an introductory email along with the request, and also delete those that make the request without themselves having any kind of photos available. Seems fair to me that if I open up my private photos, they at least offer some of themselves? I've only been on here a couple weeks though, so maybe I'm blowin' it!
That's the way I do it...I don't like to play you show me yours and I have nothing to show you...that game is no fun for me
lol...kisses...Naugh-TyAbsolutely agree. No email and we rarely friend unless we really like the public profile pics. And we don't feel we have to type out a response since they were too lazy to shoot us a email saying "hi". If they have no pics on their privates, why are they friending? Just to be a voyeur? We also go through and defriend those who we have friended and they never send a follow up email after seeing our privates. We like to know who is looking at our private pics as they are erotic with both our faces showing.
we often take it a step further, if the friend request comes from a single male with no accompanying email we usually block the requestor. with couples, we figure its the male if no letter comes with the request, and we just ignore it. with couples that send letters, we respond with the next party or club we will be at, and if they come meet us we add them. If not we keep them in the pool of request and send another letter out the next time we attend a party etc. then simply deny the ones that dont respond.
We only add folks we have met. Partly due to the fact we have almost 100 revealing pictures many with faces. SO once we have meet them they know us and if it looks like we are going to continue to be friends, wink, wink, then we definitely add them...
We continue to be surprised at the number of posts that deal with this and yet we continue to get blind requests from North Carolina, or even Utah with folks that dont have pictures. Why would they want to be friends if we have never met. just place us on your favorites list if you want to peek back in at our pics from time to time.
Please it gets old. really old....
The Simples
We only add folks we have met. Partly due to the fact we have almost 100 revealing pictures many with faces. SO once we have meet them they know us and if it looks like we are going to continue to be friends, wink, wink, then we definitely add them...
We continue to be surprised at the number of posts that deal with this and yet we continue to get blind requests from North Carolina, or even Utah with folks that dont have pictures. Why would they want to be friends if we have never met. just place us on your favorites list if you want to peek back in at our pics from time to time.
Please it gets old. really old....
The Simples
Without a personal e-mail, one that talks about your profile (I can make a bot to do that too), we fear it may just be a bot out to collect pics for other reasons. But as it has been said if you can't take the time to make a personal e-mail to accompany your request, why should we take the time to respond even if it is to deny it? We understand that many people are shy, and afraid to risk too much of themselves to be rejected, but such trepidation will only invite more rejection. Be bold, not cocky or arrogant, and send an intro, an invite to chat or at least view your profile.
My profile plainly states I'm NOT accepting any friend's requests at the moment and yet I keep getting them. And 99% of them are blind requests (no prior communication/email) so I just delete them without any explanation. Ironically, there is one profile who keeps sending me friend's requests over and over inspite of my declining. I laughingly wonder if they think there is a glitch in the system and I cannot really be that not interested. LOL.
If I do get a request WITH an introductory email I always respond back and let them know that I'm not accepting it but because of my personal issues not them. Right now I'm focusing on a relationship and also I just had major surgery. I'm kinda benched right now.
When and if the time is right.....I'll get back into the "swing of things".......lol
xox
Tammy
p.s. ~sigh~ ironic. how many requests do you think this answer will generate?
If I do get a request WITH an introductory email I always respond back and let them know that I'm not accepting it but because of my personal issues not them. Right now I'm focusing on a relationship and also I just had major surgery. I'm kinda benched right now.
When and if the time is right.....I'll get back into the "swing of things".......lol
xox
Tammy
p.s. ~sigh~ ironic. how many requests do you think this answer will generate?
Same here! I seem to only get friend requests from strangers who I've never chatted with or even bother to introduce themselves. Those usually don't get a reply - otherwise I'm really not too terribly picky on who I'm friends with.
I just got two more FR's out of the blue. That tells me these folks don't even bother to read our profile or cant understand English. Then I got one way out of our specified desirable range with a quick we like you email.
well i will have to say im a little guilty of that myself also. lesson learned any future friend requests i send will have a email.lol...
NOW..... what about the email/friend requests a person sends and no answer at all anyone else think its rude?
NOW..... what about the email/friend requests a person sends and no answer at all anyone else think its rude?
BLACKMAN01 wrote:
NOW..... what about the email/friend requests a person sends and no answer at all anyone else think its rude?
Not really...who knows what's going on in that persons life and how much time they have or how many tons of requests they get each day...If we don't hear a reply then we just take it as a polite no thank you...honestly you can't take it personal...If I had to reply to each and every one I got it would take quite a while that I really don't have...not to mention then when I try and be polite and say thanks but no thanks then I become a stuck up biotch who's too good to be friends with anyone (yes it's happened)...so no reply is just a polite no thanks...for us anyway...kisses...Naugh-Ty and Lucky
i do understand what you mean . No wasnt taking it personally .
i totally understand busy with my jobs and everything else.
mabye the admin should add a quick no thank you reply then to responce link.
WELL MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS ON THIS BUT MARS HAS WATER LOL. IM JUST KIDDING.....ANYWAY THANK YOU EVERYBODY FOR RESPONCES KINDA MAKES A LITTLE BIT MORE SENCE ON SOME RESPONCES ...
i totally understand busy with my jobs and everything else.
mabye the admin should add a quick no thank you reply then to responce link.
WELL MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS ON THIS BUT MARS HAS WATER LOL. IM JUST KIDDING.....ANYWAY THANK YOU EVERYBODY FOR RESPONCES KINDA MAKES A LITTLE BIT MORE SENCE ON SOME RESPONCES ...
We always send a reply . . . That being said, the reply states that we don't accept friends requests without some sort of message that indicates why one is wanting to be our friends . . . that email also states that we don't "do singles" that we've not met and gotten to know in some other setting. Nor do we accept friends requests from peeps who do not post some pics or are really new to the site without an ongoing communication.
Anyway, it doesn't hurt us to send a reply . . . we do so in all situations. It doesn't get old . . . what gets old is when someone who we've already responded to with our "no thanks" message writes back again and AGAIN! I believe that's the definition of INSANITY! ;o]
Kisses, D . . . (and D)
Anyway, it doesn't hurt us to send a reply . . . we do so in all situations. It doesn't get old . . . what gets old is when someone who we've already responded to with our "no thanks" message writes back again and AGAIN! I believe that's the definition of INSANITY! ;o]
Kisses, D . . . (and D)
SWINGSETS wrote:
We always send a reply . . . That being said, the reply states that we don't accept friends requests without some sort of message that indicates why one is wanting to be our friends . . . that email also states that we don't "do singles" that we've not met and gotten to know in some other setting. Nor do we accept friends requests from peeps who do not post some pics or are really new to the site without an ongoing communication. Anyway, it doesn't hurt us to send a reply . . . we do so in all situations. It doesn't get old . . . what gets old is when someone who we've already responded to with our "no thanks" message writes back again and AGAIN! I believe that's the definition of INSANITY! ;o] Kisses, D . . . (and D)
i said i was sorry for all the friend requests i stopped after the 12th one ...lol.....yes that is insane
We have tried it both ways, and have found it to better just to ignore especially with single males. Some people can't take a polite "thank you for the email, but we are looking for different things" They send back after getting the "no thanks email" stating that if we could only just meet and get to know them better we would like them or that there pictures don't do them justice and they look a lot better in person or please lets just get together for a free, "no strings attached" massage and after the massage if we wanted them to leave they will. GIVE US A BREAK. We politely said no thank you but are then badgered by them to just get together to see if we will change our minds. So usually we do not answer emails if there is no attraction. If someone invites us to a party and we have something else going we will send them a thank you and a decline or if someone sends us an email saying they love our pics we will definitley email them back and thank them for noticing. It is those people (usually single or married males trying to play alone that just don't get a polite no thank you). It is too bad a few persistent badgers ruin a polite no thanks for everyone else, but they do.
We always require e-mail meeting before granting a friends request and never grant one if they don't have pictures to share. It is just common courtesy to have something to share.
We always make a point to send out an e-mail introducing ourselves and letting them know we have sent a friend request with every request. Personally we would like to see the ability to send a message along with the friend request rather then having to do 2 separate things. I think that this would help on both the senders end as well as the receiver as it would not cause so much e-mail in the inboxes to read.
I never accept blind friends requests. No introductory email (and no, saying hi,what are you doing, or a propositioning me is NOT an appropriate introduction) email means they are either into friend collecting or picture collecting. Either way, not interested. I'm neither of those things and have no desire to add to their collection.
I used to just delete with no reply, then someone told me it was bad manners, so I started being really blunt and told them exactly why I wasn't accepting it...that kinda caused some butthurt with people too.
Somewhere lies a happy medium.
xox
Tammy
I used to just delete with no reply, then someone told me it was bad manners, so I started being really blunt and told them exactly why I wasn't accepting it...that kinda caused some butthurt with people too.
Somewhere lies a happy medium.
xox
Tammy
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
I never accept blind friends requests. No introductory email (and no, saying hi,what are you doing, or a propositioning me is NOT an appropriate introduction) email means they are either into friend collecting or picture collecting. Either way, not interested. I'm neither of those things and have no desire to add to their collection.
I used to just delete with no reply, then someone told me it was bad manners, so I started being really blunt and told them exactly why I wasn't accepting it...that kinda caused some butthurt with people too.
Somewhere lies a happy medium.
xox
Tammy
Simply leave the request in your queue, unanswered....as long as it's there there can be no re-requests.
That way, we can go back and browse through those that we have not answered. If they have submitted pics since making the request...we may accept.
If they are still faceless....it will sit there indefinitely. This goes for both public and private pics, as well as profile written content.
THOUGHTGARDEN wrote:
Simply leave the request in your queue, unanswered....as long as it's there there can be no re-requests.
That way, we can go back and browse through those that we have not answered. If they have submitted pics since making the request...we may accept.
If they are still faceless....it will sit there indefinitely. This goes for both public and private pics, as well as profile written content.
I do the same thing but about every month the OCD takes over and I have to go deny them...but it's funny to see names I remember from the previous month or two or three lol
Yeah, the denied/deleted requests usually keep pestering me, sometimes just days later.
However the ones I respond to in a "less the cordial" way tend to run with their little dicks between their legs and get the message.
However, I do have one that refuses to take NO for an answer. I hate obsessive fucktards with over inflated senses of entitlement.
However the ones I respond to in a "less the cordial" way tend to run with their little dicks between their legs and get the message.
However, I do have one that refuses to take NO for an answer. I hate obsessive fucktards with over inflated senses of entitlement.
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
I hate obsessive fucktards with over inflated senses of entitlement.
Bravo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Nope, it just means not interested. No one here is obligated to answer just because someone took the time to send something. It's like just because AT&T calls your house about a long distance service upgrade doesn't mean you have to upgrade or change your service because they called you. It's really a reverse psychological game whereas someone thinks "Man I took the time to write them, it's rude if they don't answer". Nope, it's not rude, it just means either A- they were busy or out of town or B- they aren't interested. There are so many people on this website that there is bound to be someone out there looking for the same thing. Just keep sending emails and waiting for that one special reply that get your ass high and your willy wet. We've sent as many as a dozen emails at a time and have only received one or two replies. It's like fishing. Who cares, just move on and keep looking. At least that's what we do. Good luck in your quest!
UtHot
UtHot
Oh, I think what you meant to say in the title to this thread was: "Does it really hurt to reply?" Or "Is it too hard to reply?" Or "Why won't anyone reply?"
UTHOTCPLEXTREME wrote:
Oh, I think what you meant to say in the title to this thread was: "Does it really hurt to reply?" Or "Is it too hard to reply?" Or "Why won't anyone reply?"
i guess could have changed title to ..... does it hurt to reply lol.........
the why wont anyone reply doesnt work cause dont care if someone doesnt respond lol
Unless it's in the Chat Room, and I can Private Message someone, I always send an e-mail first, requesting permission to request a Friend Request.
Surely I'm not the only one whose mama taught manners to.
Surely I'm not the only one whose mama taught manners to.
CARRIERMAN wrote:
Unless it's in the Chat Room, and I can Private Message someone, I always send an e-mail first, requesting permission to request a Friend Request.
Surely I'm not the only one whose mama taught manners to.
You've always had the best manners hun...Kisses...Naugh-Ty
NAUGHTYGIRL101 wrote:CARRIERMAN wrote:You've always had the best manners hun...Kisses...Naugh-Ty
Unless it's in the Chat Room, and I can Private Message someone, I always send an e-mail first, requesting permission to request a Friend Request. Surely I'm not the only one whose mama taught manners to.
Does that mean I have enough "atta-boys" built up to get away with just one "let's fuck" without throwing myself under the bus? SMOOCH!
Just thinking, we used to send replies to blind request. then we would get a we understand, and they share out thinking, and "We understand, so lets be friends and we are great....dadada" so we stopped. don't have the time or patience for mindless dribble. which is mostly what we spout out as well.
The Simples
The Simples
i don't think its rude if nobody responds to my emails. i just figure they weren't interested.
so i don't have a problem not getting a reply and i usually don't reply unless i'm actually discussing something and/or having a conversation back and forth. sometimes i say thanks when someone compliments me via email, sometimes i don't. its the internets people. stop getting so butt hurt over every little thing.
so i don't have a problem not getting a reply and i usually don't reply unless i'm actually discussing something and/or having a conversation back and forth. sometimes i say thanks when someone compliments me via email, sometimes i don't. its the internets people. stop getting so butt hurt over every little thing.
I HATE the thought of possibly hurting someones feelings. So I stated in my profile, "If you do not get a response from us, please take that as a polite No thank you". And I don't want to put anyone else in a position were they might feel like their hurting mine. So usually when I send a friend request I will send a message with it saying hi and telling them "If you don't respond we will just take that as a polite No thank you".
FUN4MWF wrote:
I tend to delete requests from those who have not sent an introductory email along with the request, and also delete those that make the request without themselves having any kind of photos available. Seems fair to me that if I open up my private photos, they at least offer some of themselves? I've only been on here a couple weeks though, so maybe I'm blowin' it!
What R U Blowing?
No e-mail associated with a friend request - then not likely to get a reply beyond "you sent an friend request but not e-mail?"
MRSTACY wrote:FUN4MWF wrote:
I tend to delete requests from those who have not sent an introductory email along with the request, and also delete those that make the request without themselves having any kind of photos available. Seems fair to me that if I open up my private photos, they at least offer some of themselves? I've only been on here a couple weeks though, so maybe I'm blowin' it!
What R U Blowing?
Ahh, I wrote a "double entendre." But I'm not sure I can spell entendre correctly so I'd probably get hammered for it, so I'll just guess that the correct answer is "Smoke?"
CARRIERMAN wrote:NAUGHTYGIRL101 wrote:You've always had the best manners hun...Kisses...Naugh-Ty
[quote=CARRIERMAN]Unless it's in the Chat Room, and I can Private Message someone, I always send an e-mail first, requesting permission to request a Friend Request. Surely I'm not the only one whose mama taught manners to.
Does that mean I have enough "atta-boys" built up to get away with just one "let's fuck" without throwing myself under the bus? SMOOCH![/quote]
Yeah you can tell me "lets fuck" anytime
NAUGHTYGIRL101 wrote:Does that mean I have enough "atta-boys" built up to get away with just one "let's fuck" without throwing myself under the bus? SMOOCH![/quote] Yeah you can tell me "lets fuck" anytimeCARRIERMAN wrote:You've always had the best manners hun...Kisses...Naugh-Ty
[quote=NAUGHTYGIRL101][quote=CARRIERMAN]Unless it's in the Chat Room, and I can Private Message someone, I always send an e-mail first, requesting permission to request a Friend Request. Surely I'm not the only one whose mama taught manners to.
[/quote]Then consider it said.
And tell the "Lucky SOB" I said "hey".
No real response to this, we have just really enjoyed reading all the replys to this thread, really no serious drama, hell we would just like to party with all of you. lol
RIPIN22 wrote:
No real response to this, we have just really enjoyed reading all the replys to this thread, really no serious drama, hell we would just like to party with all of you. lol
BYOB! lol