Recently I (the male half of a couple) have wanted to be penetrated by a woman with a strap-on. I do not desire it from a man at all but a friend thinks it shouldn't matter and makes me bi. What do you all think? And who has done this or would like to do this with me?
Are you afraid of the label? I recommend do what you think is fun and safe for you and your woman ...
I think and say if it feels good do it. I'm a bi guy and really not sure why we label people sexually anyway. It's ok for girl on girl sex and especially guys like that aspect of sex, until their woman dumps them for another woman. I know several women who like to see and join in guy on guy fun too. I like my girl to use toys on me anally and it gets her so fuckin wet n hott it's great. Most guys are just too afraid of what their buddies will think of them, which is crazy. Most guys have masturbated with friends when they were younger, watched guys in the showers in PE or after a sports outing and experimented with guys in college or the armed forces. So, I think you should try it as it seems you really trust your girl and I'm sure you both will enjoy it immensely. Forget the stereotypes and closed minded people that are, so they say, " open minded ", which is really bullshit.
Ah theres the rub, my girl isn't upto trying this. So I am open to other who might want to. My concern is that I don't want another guy to think I was bi then expect contact that I adjust not into. Does that make any sense?
Okay, I GOTTA jump in on this one. I consider myself Bi, although I only "indulge" if everyone is into it. Someone I used to know (passed away), used to say " If you're not BI, you're missing HALF the fun". I agree with him. Bisexuality is only another aspect of sex in general.
As far as letting your girl use a strap-on on you, I suggest that 1) you purchase one that can receive different attachments to the strap. In other words start out with a smaller size cock attachment then if that one feels good get a bigger size etc. You'll save money if you buy the kind that don't already have a "built in" cock. Another thing I might suggest is " take an enema before you begin'. This is a courtesy for your girl as well as increased pleasure for you. NOBODY wants to get a whiff of ASS GAS when you're trying to fuck. Right guys??? You should know that yourself from performing anal on your girlfriends. The other part is the MESS, YUCK!. This saves a lot of clean up. Get the picture?
Now, venture forth and enjoy. Swing
As far as letting your girl use a strap-on on you, I suggest that 1) you purchase one that can receive different attachments to the strap. In other words start out with a smaller size cock attachment then if that one feels good get a bigger size etc. You'll save money if you buy the kind that don't already have a "built in" cock. Another thing I might suggest is " take an enema before you begin'. This is a courtesy for your girl as well as increased pleasure for you. NOBODY wants to get a whiff of ASS GAS when you're trying to fuck. Right guys??? You should know that yourself from performing anal on your girlfriends. The other part is the MESS, YUCK!. This saves a lot of clean up. Get the picture?
Now, venture forth and enjoy. Swing
I had to laugh about the idea that men experimented sexulaly with other men in the Armed Forces. Being a vet from the Army. Having been a barracks soldier for my first 4 years I would have to strongly disagree.
I am also not homophobic, yet I am very straight. I never saw, heard of, knew of any homosexual activities. There were no hush-hush actions. It just did not happen. Why I am so for the repeal of DADT. For gay troops to have gay spouses, serve openly. It was not an issue then, I expect it is not an issue now.
Yet I also have done a lot of theatre. Even in the Army. Always gays in theatre, maybe why I have been comfortible around them. Even got hit on a lot. But I hated the recruiters.
Mike
I am also not homophobic, yet I am very straight. I never saw, heard of, knew of any homosexual activities. There were no hush-hush actions. It just did not happen. Why I am so for the repeal of DADT. For gay troops to have gay spouses, serve openly. It was not an issue then, I expect it is not an issue now.
Yet I also have done a lot of theatre. Even in the Army. Always gays in theatre, maybe why I have been comfortible around them. Even got hit on a lot. But I hated the recruiters.
Mike
Your doing it with a chick, can't see how that makes you Bi in any way, no matter what your doing?
I wouldnt say that makes you bi. I had exs who mentioned it and have done it with prostate massages. I think men just see it as a fantasy and fetish.
if it feels good do it, will never know if you don't try it
Hi all! We're new here and since I'm bi (male half) I can tell you that if a woman does it, no, you're not bi at all.
Rob
Rob
This has also been a fantasy of mine for some time now. I like the pleasure of anal stimulation and want to take it to the next level to see how I like it. I did consider the fact that it might make me seem interested in guys and could therefore be labeled as gay or bi, but then I stopped worrying about the labels and focused on the fact that I would like to explore all different aspect of sexual pleasure no matter what label I might acquire. It's sexy to me to think about a woman being in the drivers seat and switching positions for a portion of the time. A few of the women I have discussed this with (certainly not all) seem to like the idea of being given the "power".
Whatever the reason for wanting to try it,I say go with your instinct and explore what interests you without the worry of what your golfing buddies might think. (as though they would actually find out)
ENJOY!
Whatever the reason for wanting to try it,I say go with your instinct and explore what interests you without the worry of what your golfing buddies might think. (as though they would actually find out)
ENJOY!
Have to agree with everyone else here. It's the label that is holding you back. It doesn't matter if your not bi, and it doesn't matter if you choose to be bi in the future. Right now you want to pursue a physical pleasure. I don't know how many girlfriends have told me about the first time they were giving a BJ and decided to put a finger in his ass and it sent him over the top.
Enjoying just that small bit of extra is far more common than you might think.
Enjoying just that small bit of extra is far more common than you might think.
SFWHYNOT wrote:
Ah theres the rub, my girl isn't upto trying this. So I am open to other who might want to. My concern is that I don't want another guy to think I was bi then expect contact that I adjust not into. Does that make any sense?
While spontaneity definitely makes a swing experience better, whenever Mikah and I swing all involved know what the boundaries are. Usually if something has not been talked about the person(s) we are with will ask before doing something out of the ordinary. If you make clear up front that you don't want any real cock it shouldn't be an issue with the other male half at all. Worst case scenario, you don't talk and you simply have to tell the male half no. Any real swinger knows "no means no" and won't take it personal. I am assuming all of us guys who have actually done same room with our partners and another male have experienced "incidental contact". No big deal. Adjust and move on.
On another note, "ditto" what most others are saying. Who cares what "label" that makes you. I am straight if we must choose labels. I love when Mikah massages my prostate while blowing me. I will even tell my Vanilla friends I like it when the "guy talk" turns to "Have you ever had a woman try to put her finger in your ass?" type questions. If you need to consider me bi, bi-curious or gay I don't give a rat's ass. My response when verbally jibed is "Okay then I guess I'm a homo, I still like it", or "If I gotta be considered gay to have an orgasm like that then I guess I'm gay." If someone can't be my friend because they consider me bi or gay I don't need 'em anyway. But I must say, when I drop the "Okay then call me gay" lines I have never had anyone do anything but laugh and move on to the next topic.
I have worn a strap on many times, it does not only stimulate my lover, but makes me orgasm as well...the power of having a big fat cock hanging between my legs and the pleasure I am able to give with it really is a personal turn on...regardless of who I am using it on...just have fun and check the labels at the door...life is too damn short!
Kate
Kate
I'm also curious about this subject but with a different question.. I really don't care what you call me, the label bi, or whatever really makes no difference to me. I've done it with my wife using a strap-on.. and I really didn't like it. it was uncomfortable and not really pleasurable. But I'm still curious about it with another guy. I see how much my wife enjoys anal sex with me when she is really in the mood for it, so I'm wondering if it's really the same with another guy as it is with a strap-on. The strap-on we have has different sizes, but they seem kind of hard and in-flexible to me, perhaps that is causing my discomfort. We had plenty of lube etc... but even the smallest size was uncomfortable and bordered on painful. Anyone out there have a comparison between strap-ons and real cocks? I'd be interested to find out if there is a difference.
This has been hashed over and over again our take is If you like it do it as long as everyone else is agreeeable. We dont care for labels but it is enjoyable lol.
Dave and Jackie
Dave and Jackie
KATELYNN_KROSS wrote:
I have worn a strap on many times, it does not only stimulate my lover, but makes me orgasm as well...the power of having a big fat cock hanging between my legs and the pleasure I am able to give with it really is a personal turn on...regardless of who I am using it on...just have fun and check the labels at the door...life is too damn short! Kate
Just as I said before...and it seems I now have a crush on Katelynn
JLS, I can tell you this much from experience: The real thing is very different and most of it is due to toys being consistent, always the same size, same material, etc. Having the real thing, well, it's just different. It's probably for the same reason I've heard ladies say that while toys are convenient, they never replace the real thing. Kinda hard to explain it...
Rob
Rob
i have been there and done that it is all just good sex
i have been there and done that it is all just good sex
No it does not make you bi. Being bisexual is when you are sexually attracted to both genders. Enjoying anal penetration is nothing more than liking anal penetration. It's just one more way to get-off.
Anyone that would say liking your ass played with make you bi is a homophobe or a closet bisexual or gay and is putting-up a front so you won't think they are because they are embarrassed by their own sexuality.
Anyone that would say liking your ass played with make you bi is a homophobe or a closet bisexual or gay and is putting-up a front so you won't think they are because they are embarrassed by their own sexuality.