So I'm on chat when I get approached by someone. We chatted a little then he asked me to turn on his cam by saying "our cam is on". So after teasing him about they way he "asked" me to turn on his cam, I see a woman playing with a dildo. I can tell this is his cam pointed at a television playing a recording. Sorry, but if I want to watch porn I'll turn it on myself and get a better picture. After I turn off his cam, he asks "yahoo?" and I politely say no thanks. So just before he leaves the chat room, he says "ur not a real swinger". WTF? I'd like to know what his definition of a real swinger is. Watching a guy beat off? Batting my eyes and making him feel good without anything in return? Do have to yahoo to be a swinger? How does he know what kind of swinger I am? If he had been a little less selfish and a little more willing to carry on a conversation, he could have found out what kind of swinger I am. I guess it's his loss.
A word of advice to single guys that think women are here for your manly needs. I am a married woman.... I don't NEED you. I have a husband that fulfills all my needs. This lifestyle is for our fantasies, making friends and just plain having fun. Be respectful of me and I will show you that respect in turn and then some. We could have a great time fulfilling both sets of fantasies if I feel like I'm being treated right. Not like a sex toy here to take care of your every whim. I'm not trying to dis single men. I've had GREAT times with single men that treat me right and hopefully they have had fun with me. But I get really tired of the jerks that think I'm a slut out there for their pleasure.
Sorry for the lengthy post and thanks for letting me vent. I needed that!
A word of advice to single guys that think women are here for your manly needs. I am a married woman.... I don't NEED you. I have a husband that fulfills all my needs. This lifestyle is for our fantasies, making friends and just plain having fun. Be respectful of me and I will show you that respect in turn and then some. We could have a great time fulfilling both sets of fantasies if I feel like I'm being treated right. Not like a sex toy here to take care of your every whim. I'm not trying to dis single men. I've had GREAT times with single men that treat me right and hopefully they have had fun with me. But I get really tired of the jerks that think I'm a slut out there for their pleasure.
Sorry for the lengthy post and thanks for letting me vent. I needed that!
Very true, we agree with you... We have talked in the chat a time or two. You have always been very polite. When we go into the chatroom we very seldom turn on single guys cam, for that reason. Most single men don't get access to our cam cause all they do is try to direct and want you to watch them beat off. Sorry if i wanted to watch a guy beat off that bad i have the hubby.LOL...
P.S NO Disrespect to Single guys we have a few we chat with as friends....thanks
P.S NO Disrespect to Single guys we have a few we chat with as friends....thanks
A word of advice to single guys that think women are here for your manly needs. I am a married woman.... I don't NEED you. I have a husband that fulfills all my needs. This lifestyle is for our fantasies, making friends and just plain having fun. Be respectful of me and I will show you that respect in turn and then some. We could have a great time fulfilling both sets of fantasies if I feel like I'm being treated right. Not like a sex toy here to take care of your every whim. I'm not trying to dis single men. I've had GREAT times with single men that treat me right and hopefully they have had fun with me. But I get really tired of the jerks that think I'm a slut out there for their pleasure.
AMEN!!! Enough said!
AMEN!!! Enough said!
UTAHCOUPLE66 wrote:
cause all they do is try to direct and want you to watch them beat off
We like to call those cock-bombs; innocently click on a webcam and voila! There it is...cock out and stroking.
It's fine if that is what you are into...it simply isn't our thing. And our experience is that this is not a unique phenomenon to the single males. We've been cock-bombed by the married males as well.
J
THOUGHTGARDEN wrote:
We like to call those cock-bombs
Haha..like that one.
ABCWOMAN wrote:
I guess it's his loss.
Sweetie, it is definitely his loss. Some of these guys just don't understand this isn't Burger King, you don't get it any way you want it.
Between that kind of treatment and the directing some of them try and do, my wife will hardly go in there anymore.
Couldn't agree more. Me and the wife are also tired of these ass-holes demanding stuff like it's their right and the women are just here for their entertainment. It seems like they have never heard the saying " you'll get more flies with honey than with vinegar ". Anyway, as you said, totally his loss.
I want you married woman that you are not the only ones that get the single men doing those thing. I get it all the time. And they feel that because I am single I am to jump because they have a need. I also me some of the married one that get all piss off cause I won't drop everything to see them. So my advice to men. Just be respectful to us woman and you just might get want you are looking for.
It's guys like that who give guys like me a bad reputation, before I've even had the chance to screw it up. Guys who treat everyone like that, have made it beyond difficult for guys like me to even say "Hi" without getting our head chopped off. I've almost given up trying, since the well is so poisoned to begin with.
On behalf of the decent solo guys out here, I offer my sincerest apologies for that twit's rude behavior.
On behalf of the decent solo guys out here, I offer my sincerest apologies for that twit's rude behavior.
Very well put ABCWOMAN. It is unfortunate that there are many single men that are passing through just to get a quick fix. It makes it hard for everyone else on the site to create friendships because of these men. These men will never succeed on this site, and will hopefully see that and not come back around.
Thanks for all the sentiments. As for the singe guys, I still believe most of the men out there are good, respectful men and I'm more than willing to give them a shot. My apologies if this post has upset any single guys. I wanted to post this to make guys aware that a little finesse goes a long way with women. We still like to be wooed & romanced. Make it fun for us and it will be fun for everyone.
Again, thanks for all the responses.
Again, thanks for all the responses.
NO apologies needed, ABCWOMAN.
You made some VERY valid points.
And you're correct - a LOT of the single guys in the Lifestyle and on Swingular are pure assholes.
The most unfortunate thing about it is, in the minds of those who have been burned by the assholes, a single guy is a single guy.
NOT so.
You made some VERY valid points.
And you're correct - a LOT of the single guys in the Lifestyle and on Swingular are pure assholes.
The most unfortunate thing about it is, in the minds of those who have been burned by the assholes, a single guy is a single guy.
NOT so.
A true single man in the lifestyle and swinging knows that being respectful has more benefits than a loud obnoxious fool. I have participated in many multiple experiences for over 15 years. And, learned in the beginning that the other person has the power to say no. Why give them a reason to say NO!
Guys be nice. Not demanding. Give positive comments, they can be sexual but worded to be pleasing. Most women want to be respected and desired. Positiveness has gotten me more intimancy with married women and their husbands have always invited me back.
Guys be nice. Not demanding. Give positive comments, they can be sexual but worded to be pleasing. Most women want to be respected and desired. Positiveness has gotten me more intimancy with married women and their husbands have always invited me back.