Why is it so hard for single males to take no for an answer when you state that your not interested and they still try by telling you things like their different and you wont be disappointed??? And any ideas to get then to take no for an answer?:q
yes put them on your ignore list LOL yeah they r persistant cuz they have nothing to loose read our profile and the part on single males it really works for us
kisses
Tre and Jessica
kisses
Tre and Jessica
I think that is a great mystery.
When single I started in the lifestyle and got some experience I read the profile (i dont think they do) and if it said no males I moved on. I may have dropped a note to compliment them but never asked if they were interested when they pretty much say no up front by posting "NO SINGLE MALES". When I didnt get an answer I did a followup and then if nothing let it go and moved on.
I dont get it, it seems pretty simple to me.....
When single I started in the lifestyle and got some experience I read the profile (i dont think they do) and if it said no males I moved on. I may have dropped a note to compliment them but never asked if they were interested when they pretty much say no up front by posting "NO SINGLE MALES". When I didnt get an answer I did a followup and then if nothing let it go and moved on.
I dont get it, it seems pretty simple to me.....
I think that Single Males just need to be educated about the lifestyle. There is a place for them here but a very limited one. That's why we've included the BLOCK SINGLE MALES feature because of the ones that are uneducated about the lifestyle or just don't take the time to read.
The single male thing seems to be a persistant problem where ever you go. We usually either send a one liner that says "Thanks for the mail... please read our profile carefully" or for the hard headed "No thanks we prefer people that can read". The ones that just send a nice note complimenting you is fine with us but we really hate the single males that write and want to meet the female half alone...
i can read and respect the couples that have posted NO SINGLE MALES. we are not all bad guys...just horny..hehehehe...
As aggravating as it sometimes is, we don't do the block single males option because one of the first swingers we ever had contact with was, and still is, a single guy. On another site we were on we blocked single guys and never heard from our friend, even though we sent him messages from time to time. We finally got an email at our regular mail telling us he couldn't respond to our messages because we had blocked not just the cold messages from unknown guys, but even replies to our own messages. So, if you ever decide to contact that single guy that catches your eye, make sure you unblock or you will never get a reply.
As a single male.. I have to put in my $0.02 -- I always respect the "No single Males" - no matter how bad I want to meet you. I'd hate it if I was always being bombarded by request from couples and wasn't interested. (Oh how I WISH!) - But on the other hand, I can only know what I read.. some of the sites (not sure about this one) have a feature in the profile where you can select if you will meet single men or not - it sometimes blocks emails, but most of the time it just for the searching. NOW.. if you DON'T use that and then tell me in a reply "no single men" - you're the one to blame.. How am I supposed to know!
We've been to parties where unattached males have been invited and we have no problem with that. But we've found that if you leave the door open online, even a bit, you get bombarded. I posted a Yahoo ad once looking for a single guy to join us and got 75 replies within two days. It was ridiculous.
I don't mind a respectful guy saying hi, but I definitely find it annoying to get IMs from single guys on an account that says "single guys, please don't bother." I try very hard to be polite, but it's difficult sometimes. We even added the line, "it doesn't say, 'single guys, please don't bother.... EXCEPT YOU!'" Some still don't get it.
When I'm in the mood for some fun, I offer a deal... "Tell you what - you go find a woman, you and I will have sex with her, then we can talk about sharing my wife."
Funny, I haven't had any takers yet.........
I don't mind a respectful guy saying hi, but I definitely find it annoying to get IMs from single guys on an account that says "single guys, please don't bother." I try very hard to be polite, but it's difficult sometimes. We even added the line, "it doesn't say, 'single guys, please don't bother.... EXCEPT YOU!'" Some still don't get it.
When I'm in the mood for some fun, I offer a deal... "Tell you what - you go find a woman, you and I will have sex with her, then we can talk about sharing my wife."
Funny, I haven't had any takers yet.........
For all single males on this forum... Read the "lifestyle" etiquette on Swingular! You can exactly see what this is all about. And don't pretend to be a couple. A couple will notice it if you are single or not, just by having a good look at your email or photos.
Happy swinging to all.
Bea and Alex
Happy swinging to all.
Bea and Alex
our experience with single males and cheating males is that few take the time to read profiles. They know they have a slim chance of getting a response so they spam people. Yahoo Instant message is one of the worst because the guys will go through interest groups you are listed in and chat groups and just spam people without looking at the profile.
The adult pay sites are not as bad. I think the guys have to at least open the profile before responding and they know if people start filling complaints about them they could get their account deleted.
Some of the single guys are nice and polite we only remember the bad apples.
The adult pay sites are not as bad. I think the guys have to at least open the profile before responding and they know if people start filling complaints about them they could get their account deleted.
Some of the single guys are nice and polite we only remember the bad apples.
Hey, I've done my part for the single males of the world - I recently got divorced and added a member to their club!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Men ought to be polite and understand - but women can be just as bad.
Men ought to be polite and understand - but women can be just as bad.
We just block all single men, all they are is a revenue producer for the website and few get any attention. Face it, IF we (any couples here) wanted one, you would just go to your local clubs and pick out the one you wanted based on his personality, looks and the way he treated the people around him. We have them blocked here, say NO single men in our profile but the system still allows the to blow you a kiss, we just delete them.
About a year ago we decided to look for a single male. Some of the replies we got caught our attention and we began to corrospond with them. I will admit to being very shocked by how rude and disrespectful most became within just a couple of e-mails. Most seemed to even forget that we were in fact a couple altogether. About half of them wanted to meet only Phyllis...WTF. It became very clear at that point that it was a total waste of time looking on the swinger sites and re-blocked them forever. We did find a respectful single male , just not on the sites and we still continue to meet with him from time to time.
Education is the key. Without exposure to, or experience in the lifestyle single males will continue to surf the sights trolling for pics and the ocassional hook-up. When we attend clubs the first thing we ask is what is their policy on singles. Most men we have met there are respectful and if not are usually booted at the drop of a hat. BUT I sure wish they wouldn't IM me 
Kim
Kim
If I see a 'no single males' note, I respect it. It's simply a matter of etiquette and respect. The dolts who do not realize the 'manners' of the lifestyle DO make it tough on the rest of us, tho!!! 
My thoughts on this are simple;everybody keep their profiles updated wherever you have one.The worst thing is to have single males on your profiles when you don't want em.Yeah,some guys can't take a hint so that's why you have ignore,lol.But also if you don't want single males,don't lead em on like you do.Had that experience with a couple-they kept sending e-mails,chatting with me online,sending pics of the wife yet we never had a real-time meeting .So update and specify what you want in your ads.
.So update and specify what you want in your ads.Not all single males "can't read" or don't care. There are several profiles from couples indicating they would like to meet with a single male, but if a person takes the time to read further it becomes apparent that this is not true. Not all single males can't or won't read the profiles completely. I only answer the ones who are truely seeking a meeting with a single male...why waste their time and mine if they are not interested? I'm not here to make other members upset and unhaappy. John
as a single male I rarley contact anyone, I just wait for couples to come to me.That is what I expected from the single males when I was a couple. If a couple wants a single guy they will find one.
It would be nice if all the single guys were respectfull and polite. I try to do that, and if a profile says no single men, I move on. I may send a note, to say Hi, especially to someone who really lays it out straight because of some dummies...lol. I figure that if a couple wants to talk to me, they will make the first move, there are more single guys than anything else out there and as I am the outsider in the relationship, I am at thier mercy...rightfully so.
Even us single guys get bombarded by unwanted spam...from other guys thinking that we may want to do them.....me, I'm in it to make the ladies happy, after all....it's all about them!
Have a nice day!
Even us single guys get bombarded by unwanted spam...from other guys thinking that we may want to do them.....me, I'm in it to make the ladies happy, after all....it's all about them!
Have a nice day!
We usually try to answer each person at least once by telling them politely that we aren't in the market for single males. Most of the time we get a polite note back thanking us for the reply and that is the end of it. Inevitably, as someone stated earlier, there are those few who refuse to take no for an answer. In this case you really have very few options. You can either ignore them and hope that they go away or put them on the ignore list so that their messages won't get through.
We have had guys on Yahoo change their ID just so that they could get through again. lol:!
We have had guys on Yahoo change their ID just so that they could get through again. lol:!
We have also had our share of the "single guy" thing. We have recently ran into a rash of single or cheating guys having a profile up as a couple. We don't understand what these guys think they are proving by being dishonest. The way we feel is if a guy is going to lie right up front about thier relationship status what else are they going to be dishonest about later? Do they really think if they pose as a couple, people will overlook the fact that they are liers later? I know it probably sounds like we are ranting here, but when will these guys ever learn that if couples want them they will say so or contact them? We are not saying that ALL single guys are this way, but it does seem as though there is a greater number of the BAD APPLES out there ruining the whole bushel. Well until the first day of the thirteeth month it seems we as couples will still have to weed out the forever persistant "dishonest unable to read annoying single guy".
Im a Single Male but Try my hardest not to be a Hound! Its true there are ALOT of Single Men out there that are to stupid to figure out they are not wanted by the Majority of Couples and Single Ladies in the lifestyle. Unfortunatly, the bad apples spoil the bunch! I take Rejection well but I also don't want to set myself up for disaster either. That's why I read profiles carefully! If in yours it sayes anything to tell me your not likely to concider me for any reason, be it the Sinlge Male issue or something else compleatly, I move on!
Personally, I see alot of the same problems Couples and Single Ladies do since I openly list myself as BI. I have guys messageing me all the time that cant seem to take No for an answer! I am picky whom I'm with be it a man, woman, or couple! I'm in this to relax, meet a few friends and basically have fun! Not just to cure "Rageing Bull Syndrome"!
Personally, I see alot of the same problems Couples and Single Ladies do since I openly list myself as BI. I have guys messageing me all the time that cant seem to take No for an answer! I am picky whom I'm with be it a man, woman, or couple! I'm in this to relax, meet a few friends and basically have fun! Not just to cure "Rageing Bull Syndrome"!
Personally we don't look for single males but they just find us. We aren't against single males but we are selective on them as well as couples. We want to make friends in and out of the bedroom and some single males are just looking for some fast sex. I personally need to talk and chat with the person before we meet. Also we like to meet first and see if we click before anything happens.
We had an experience with a single male that said he was single now even though he wasn't. He was part of a couple and he was on his way to meet us when his gf called and said she wants him to call her when he gets there. Well of course we didn't like that whole situation and just told him when he got here that he needs to call her and he left. It was just totally a weird situation and i would rather not be in it again. That is one big reason why we are selective because we believe if you are in this lifestyle you should be honest about it to your other half.
We had an experience with a single male that said he was single now even though he wasn't. He was part of a couple and he was on his way to meet us when his gf called and said she wants him to call her when he gets there. Well of course we didn't like that whole situation and just told him when he got here that he needs to call her and he left. It was just totally a weird situation and i would rather not be in it again. That is one big reason why we are selective because we believe if you are in this lifestyle you should be honest about it to your other half.
I have been in the lifestyle for a number of years as a single male. I know how to read and when I see "No Single Males" I move on. Simple. This lifestyle is not for everyone. It's too bad that a few have to ruin it for others. I am a laid back person who enjoys spending time with couples, I never approach the female alone. I enjoy the "no strings attached" approach and it works fine for me and the couple involved as well.
Lifetime Member
Location: WICHITA, KS
Join Date: May 12, 2002
Posted By: CASIOOO72 Reply posted on:
Jan 9, 2004 - 12:56 am
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
"Trashing the single male again, Have you clps looked at yourselves? You are lucky to get a single male to play with your old lady. You might have to tie a bone around here neck. Give me a break most of you cry babys got married in the first place becouse your partner is the only one that would give you any. Single males power too you."
This is the kind of reply and attitude that is the reason why single males get such a bad rap. In response to you thinking that the only reason we our with our wifes is because she is the only one who would give us any is ridiculous especially coming from someone who is single and needs to troll a swingers site to get laid. So until you can go find someone of your own, you should keep your comments to yourself.
Location: WICHITA, KS
Join Date: May 12, 2002
Posted By: CASIOOO72 Reply posted on:
Jan 9, 2004 - 12:56 am
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
"Trashing the single male again, Have you clps looked at yourselves? You are lucky to get a single male to play with your old lady. You might have to tie a bone around here neck. Give me a break most of you cry babys got married in the first place becouse your partner is the only one that would give you any. Single males power too you."
This is the kind of reply and attitude that is the reason why single males get such a bad rap. In response to you thinking that the only reason we our with our wifes is because she is the only one who would give us any is ridiculous especially coming from someone who is single and needs to troll a swingers site to get laid. So until you can go find someone of your own, you should keep your comments to yourself.
As a single guy it really tears me up to be thrown in with the "bad apples" out there. i actually started in the lifestyle with my wife somewhere along the lines we split up but i do enjoy interacting with other swinger and of course joining in on the activities that come with the lifestyle. so just remember that when you are browsing ads or recieving emails. but of course if a guy does not get the hint after being told once or as you said if it is stated in the profile(no single males) then just block them. i for one read the profiles and respect and follow what is stated.. other than that everyone have fun and stay safe.
jason
jason
We have several experiences with single males. But most of those have been initiated by us. We have been "hounded" by several also, but it's not just sing;e males. We have left one site because a "couple" (probably a cheating spouse) was hounding us to death. The important thing people have to remember is "no means no".
single males can play a role but when they are not wanted in that role one can block them and after saying no just do not write back...you see the name then delete it. they will eventually get the hint.
I often wonder why myself. Personally I think it's an ego thing - They think that they're so great, that I will be so impressed, I'm can't possibly mean them. I've had ads on various sites and it's always the same story. I really don't mind a guy saying, "Hi. I just wnated to say that I think you're pic/profile is great. Have fun. Take care." That fine. Everyone likes a compliment, right?
It's also not just that they email me thinking I'm going to just fall over myself trying to get to them, but way too many open with something like, "Hey baby, I got a X-inch cock for you." Or something even more rude about how they could "fix" me being bi or a "dyke". UGH! Do these guy actually ever get laid? Does anyone actually take the time and hassle to respond to them? And if so, why?
There should be a "rude" button we can hit to let the webmasters or at least other members now that the guy is a jerk.
It's also not just that they email me thinking I'm going to just fall over myself trying to get to them, but way too many open with something like, "Hey baby, I got a X-inch cock for you." Or something even more rude about how they could "fix" me being bi or a "dyke". UGH! Do these guy actually ever get laid? Does anyone actually take the time and hassle to respond to them? And if so, why?
There should be a "rude" button we can hit to let the webmasters or at least other members now that the guy is a jerk.
Why don't we spam CASIOOO72 because of his stupid words about us couples. Wished the webmaster could remove his profile!
We feel sorry for all other single men on Swingular. A person like CASIOOO72 is a bad example for all single men. Read his remark a few mailes above this one.
Alex and Bea.
We feel sorry for all other single men on Swingular. A person like CASIOOO72 is a bad example for all single men. Read his remark a few mailes above this one.
Alex and Bea.
We will occasionally play with a single male. However we dread admitting that because it seems a good way to get yourself inundated with inane and stupid emails from single males.
Too many single males have no interest in swinging or the people they are swinging with beyond their own ego and the tip of their dick.
There are however many single males who enjoy the fun and intimacy of being with others while swinging. They are the ones that are getting screwed by the crude, rude and socially unacceptable.
We were at a party at an on premises club a few weeks ago and our experience would serve to demonstrate the different types of single males.
We were meeting some friends there. Several other couples we know well and so we became sort of a party within the party. We were open to others but meeting others was not our primary goal -- that night. During the course of the evening we really had interplay of some sort or another with three single males.
The first simply followed Belinda around like a sick puppy. We would move to this room or the other, go to the bar or dance floor and when we turned around there he was -- watching. When he followed her to the bathroom and was waiting outside the door -- that was a bit much. He was pathetic.
The second was a bit more bold. We went with our friends into the couples only room. He decided to join us, masturbating in the corner. In time emboldened by his "success" he moved closer and closer until once when I looked up I had his member just about in my face -- him going to town. I asked him very politely to leave. Perhaps I was not that polite. This single male was rude.
The third was a guy sitting at the bar. When we came out to take a break and began to talk, he very politely added himself to the conversation. He talked, joked, told us about himself and asked questions about us. After a bit he flirted gently but politely with the ladies. When we went back to the couples only room, guess who came along. This was a nice guy and we have stayed in touch with him since.
In the end part of the problem is with the web sites and the clubs. They allow the single males to join -- sometimes in unlimited numbers and they often charge them a premium to "participate". There is little or no policing of how they participate. Far too often -- especially at clubs they exude the attitude that "I paid my money, who is going to fuck me?"
In the end we are not going to change our profile. We will accept emails from single males. We have a standard letter saved and we will send it immediately to about 99.5% of the emails we get from single males. It says simply, "Thanks for the note but we are not interested."
The time to send that note seems a small enough price to pay for all the fun we have had swinging with great people.
Too many single males have no interest in swinging or the people they are swinging with beyond their own ego and the tip of their dick.
There are however many single males who enjoy the fun and intimacy of being with others while swinging. They are the ones that are getting screwed by the crude, rude and socially unacceptable.
We were at a party at an on premises club a few weeks ago and our experience would serve to demonstrate the different types of single males.
We were meeting some friends there. Several other couples we know well and so we became sort of a party within the party. We were open to others but meeting others was not our primary goal -- that night. During the course of the evening we really had interplay of some sort or another with three single males.
The first simply followed Belinda around like a sick puppy. We would move to this room or the other, go to the bar or dance floor and when we turned around there he was -- watching. When he followed her to the bathroom and was waiting outside the door -- that was a bit much. He was pathetic.
The second was a bit more bold. We went with our friends into the couples only room. He decided to join us, masturbating in the corner. In time emboldened by his "success" he moved closer and closer until once when I looked up I had his member just about in my face -- him going to town. I asked him very politely to leave. Perhaps I was not that polite. This single male was rude.
The third was a guy sitting at the bar. When we came out to take a break and began to talk, he very politely added himself to the conversation. He talked, joked, told us about himself and asked questions about us. After a bit he flirted gently but politely with the ladies. When we went back to the couples only room, guess who came along. This was a nice guy and we have stayed in touch with him since.
In the end part of the problem is with the web sites and the clubs. They allow the single males to join -- sometimes in unlimited numbers and they often charge them a premium to "participate". There is little or no policing of how they participate. Far too often -- especially at clubs they exude the attitude that "I paid my money, who is going to fuck me?"
In the end we are not going to change our profile. We will accept emails from single males. We have a standard letter saved and we will send it immediately to about 99.5% of the emails we get from single males. It says simply, "Thanks for the note but we are not interested."
The time to send that note seems a small enough price to pay for all the fun we have had swinging with great people.
I try a different approach. It's called being nice. It's not a tactic, it's just who I am.
Yes, there are many couples on here I'm not attracted to in a sexual way, I don't contact them. Being straight (not necessarily a homophobe) the attraction focuses mostly on the woman. As for me, there are many things (including looks) that attract me sexually to a lady/couple.
It's damn hard being a solo male in this environment. It's even harder when you come off as an ass! I've been exploring this "lifestyle" (hate that word) for almost a year, and have yet to have one encounter. It's hard to fit all the pieces of this puzzle together. If it happens, great. If not, I'm still the same person going out of it as I came in to it.
Yes, there are many couples on here I'm not attracted to in a sexual way, I don't contact them. Being straight (not necessarily a homophobe) the attraction focuses mostly on the woman. As for me, there are many things (including looks) that attract me sexually to a lady/couple.
It's damn hard being a solo male in this environment. It's even harder when you come off as an ass! I've been exploring this "lifestyle" (hate that word) for almost a year, and have yet to have one encounter. It's hard to fit all the pieces of this puzzle together. If it happens, great. If not, I'm still the same person going out of it as I came in to it.
I'm a single male and I stick to profiles that say single males,HOWEVER most don't respond or either get ugly about it,what gives *anyway*, Do yall women not like the play of two men giving you that special loving, or is the male part telling us to fuck off in so many words,because he is looking for *women*, Think about it I feel most women never get to see the e-mails form the men!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have been swinging for 13 years and 10 years as a couple!!!!!!!! . I saved the e-mails for her from single men and she would pick and choose for her-self, not me for *HER* and she would choose guys form reg ( size) ( 5" x 4" ) to very big (9" x 8" ) Black guys or white guys , No mid east or others she liked American dick "LOL" I wtach,Play with them then me her would enjoy each other after they left I loved sloppy seconds,and cream pies we had a great time and I sure do miss them to, we would even do oral-bi together, I would lick her with a big one slidding in and out doggie style,she would deep french kiss me after she would suck a guy off *HELL* we were really into fun and openminded, Whats Happend to swingers, WHAT Have yall all turned into !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! JIM I'm thinking about leaving this sit because of it
There are a lot of rude, inconsiderate people in the world, so stay positive and remember that the jerks are (hopefully) in the minority.
Something else to consider (by way of an possible explanation, but NOT an excuse) men are often conditioned to be determined and resilient. "No" for many men is a starting point, a challenge. This can be a good thing (e.g. trying to succeed professionally) but as your experience shows it can be a bad thing too.
Block single men and just try to stay positive.
-J
Something else to consider (by way of an possible explanation, but NOT an excuse) men are often conditioned to be determined and resilient. "No" for many men is a starting point, a challenge. This can be a good thing (e.g. trying to succeed professionally) but as your experience shows it can be a bad thing too.
Block single men and just try to stay positive.
-J
Okay, as one who has been on both sides of this argument, let me add my two cents. I used to play with a partner and we had a couples' profile. We were, mostly, seeking couples and females but we were also seeking the occasional male for her because she liked the variety. Anyway, we would get messages from males and most of them were polite. We never got any who were rude, maybe a bit persistent, and once we said "No" that was it. They never contacted us again. That said, there was one thing we did notice that ticked us off. My partner is white and when it came down to playing with single men, her preferences lean heavily, almost exclusively, toward Black men and that was clearly stated in our profile. Despite this, White guys would still knock on our door. We never understood that but it happened all the time.
Now, the shoe is on the other foot, I am now amongst the dreaded single males. I have found in my experiences on this site as opposed to others that I get, practically, no response whatsoever. The mere few who have responded, I can count on one hand and out of them I have only met with one couple and then it was when I was one half of a couple. I feel that even though I'm always polite, tactful and respectful it makes no difference. Like someone else said, I treat and approach folks in the same manner that I would like to be received. For the most part, I have found that people, couples especially, in the lifestyle, regardless of the site, will choose to ignore rather than respond with a polite no. Now, granted, this pisses me off but not because they, obviously, are not interested but because they are, in a sense, giving the same disrespect that they claim they are getting from the single male. Regardless of that fact, I will rarely follow up on someone who doesn't have the decency to reply - why waste the energy.
In the end, I am comfortable with what can only be seen as a form of rejection from all of those to whom I have written. I am not gonna force myself on someone who isn't interested. Besides, it isn't about the quantity of responses but the quality. Fortunately, this is not the only site on the web that caters to the lifestyle. I have created some very good friendships with several couples and that is more than enough. They are quality and I'll take that any day. For me that is what it's all about. I would rather know five couples with whom I can be good friends than know fifty with whom all I am is another face to fuck.
Anyway, that's my two cents worth...hopefully it holds some kind of value.
Ciao
Rick
Now, the shoe is on the other foot, I am now amongst the dreaded single males. I have found in my experiences on this site as opposed to others that I get, practically, no response whatsoever. The mere few who have responded, I can count on one hand and out of them I have only met with one couple and then it was when I was one half of a couple. I feel that even though I'm always polite, tactful and respectful it makes no difference. Like someone else said, I treat and approach folks in the same manner that I would like to be received. For the most part, I have found that people, couples especially, in the lifestyle, regardless of the site, will choose to ignore rather than respond with a polite no. Now, granted, this pisses me off but not because they, obviously, are not interested but because they are, in a sense, giving the same disrespect that they claim they are getting from the single male. Regardless of that fact, I will rarely follow up on someone who doesn't have the decency to reply - why waste the energy.
In the end, I am comfortable with what can only be seen as a form of rejection from all of those to whom I have written. I am not gonna force myself on someone who isn't interested. Besides, it isn't about the quantity of responses but the quality. Fortunately, this is not the only site on the web that caters to the lifestyle. I have created some very good friendships with several couples and that is more than enough. They are quality and I'll take that any day. For me that is what it's all about. I would rather know five couples with whom I can be good friends than know fifty with whom all I am is another face to fuck.
Anyway, that's my two cents worth...hopefully it holds some kind of value.
Ciao
Rick
boy oh boy another post about those damn single men . ha ha ha ha
i read a few of the post . and sometimes people really confuse me . one couple wrote that the put an ad looking for single men and then complained about how many single guys wrote them . i mean come on . if u were to post a ad looking for couples and then double that amount could have wrote and no one would have complained about that . saying those damn couples . i mean if u write an ad looking for single guys or any one or anything i dont understand why u would be bothered by getting alot of mail . thats a good thing .
but i do understand why people get so upset when they have it stated in their profile no single men and still get emails trying to hook up . cause that is disrespectful big time . but i also feel like if they are just writing to say hi . nice pics . or where was that pic taken from or something like that then that is just someone trying to say hi or ask about a pic . and i dont see a problem with that . but i think sometimes people just want to complain about allllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll the single men that write them .
i dont play with men . but i do chat and email and hang out with alot of single men . and the ones that i choose to chat with and hang out with never try to talk me into anything . they know they arent going to get any action from me and i tell them up front . and we just have fun hanging out at parties . but like everything else . there is some rude and pushy ones . but that happens in any group of people . i have more problems with the married men trying to talk me into playing then the single guys . even to chat and talk with i read their profile and see how they talk about themselves and how they talk and what kinda of pics they have . if all are cock pics . and their profile says stuff like .. looking for sex with your wife or can meet and play anytime . and stuff like that i dont bother with them . but if they are respectful and can talk about other stuff then sex and what color panties iam wearing then ill talk with them . we were alllllllllllllllll single once . and it can happen to us anyday without any control or warning . i dont understand why people make just a big deal about single men .
yes there is some out there that think their tool is the biggest and best and can just rock you into another world like never before . but hell there is alot of married men with the same thoughts also . and i have never seen anyone write about that . yes some single guys dont read the whole profile . but some couples dont either . i get so many emails from couples saying what are u doing tonight would love to hook up and play . i guess that whole if u dont have time to get to know us then dont think u are going to play . or we are mainly looking for friends only play mates with the right people . but we get more hook up lines from people looking for a fast piece of ass then anything else .
like i said iam not into guys . so i am not sticking up for them cause i play with them all . but i also dont understand why there is just a big deal over them . either u want them or u dont . if u dont then put it in your profile . and if u get emailed by them then looking to hook up u dont have to email them back . and a simple read the profile can get the point through their think head . if not then block them . if u are looking for single men . then i dont understand why u would feel the need to get upset cause so many write you . i get so many emails from alot of people . most i would never play with . for one reason or antoher . but i dont say damn all these people keep writing me . .
either u want them or u dont . and just cause they are single today doesnt mean they will be next weekend . so u might have just passed up a good playmate . and or friend . didn t u read his profile . his tool is like gold . and u have or will never have the chance to treat yourself to anything else like it in the world .. ha ha ha
the biggest problem that i see about single men is how they act cocky about them and their tool . and their profile and pics . i mean do they really think that showing us their cock in a bunch of pics is going to get them emailed . not unless the damn thing is a one of a kinda . ha hano but for real . i think if they took the time to write stuff about them in their profile and showed more pics about their life and not just their cock people would see them and treat them different . just like any other thing i dont think its right to judge people in a group . treat and judge each person as they act .and always show and demand respect .
just my thoughts on it all
naughty dreams to all
freaky kitty
iam adding a pic of one of my single guy friends that is very respectful and sweet . and fun to hang out with .he was single and went to a party and a couple that we hang out with brought a single lady and then they hooked up and now are a couple . so yes there is or was a really a single lady around .. ha ha and he went from single to a couple really fast . see it does happen and now he is in another group.. a couple .....
i read a few of the post . and sometimes people really confuse me . one couple wrote that the put an ad looking for single men and then complained about how many single guys wrote them . i mean come on . if u were to post a ad looking for couples and then double that amount could have wrote and no one would have complained about that . saying those damn couples . i mean if u write an ad looking for single guys or any one or anything i dont understand why u would be bothered by getting alot of mail . thats a good thing .
but i do understand why people get so upset when they have it stated in their profile no single men and still get emails trying to hook up . cause that is disrespectful big time . but i also feel like if they are just writing to say hi . nice pics . or where was that pic taken from or something like that then that is just someone trying to say hi or ask about a pic . and i dont see a problem with that . but i think sometimes people just want to complain about allllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll the single men that write them .
i dont play with men . but i do chat and email and hang out with alot of single men . and the ones that i choose to chat with and hang out with never try to talk me into anything . they know they arent going to get any action from me and i tell them up front . and we just have fun hanging out at parties . but like everything else . there is some rude and pushy ones . but that happens in any group of people . i have more problems with the married men trying to talk me into playing then the single guys . even to chat and talk with i read their profile and see how they talk about themselves and how they talk and what kinda of pics they have . if all are cock pics . and their profile says stuff like .. looking for sex with your wife or can meet and play anytime . and stuff like that i dont bother with them . but if they are respectful and can talk about other stuff then sex and what color panties iam wearing then ill talk with them . we were alllllllllllllllll single once . and it can happen to us anyday without any control or warning . i dont understand why people make just a big deal about single men .
yes there is some out there that think their tool is the biggest and best and can just rock you into another world like never before . but hell there is alot of married men with the same thoughts also . and i have never seen anyone write about that . yes some single guys dont read the whole profile . but some couples dont either . i get so many emails from couples saying what are u doing tonight would love to hook up and play . i guess that whole if u dont have time to get to know us then dont think u are going to play . or we are mainly looking for friends only play mates with the right people . but we get more hook up lines from people looking for a fast piece of ass then anything else .
like i said iam not into guys . so i am not sticking up for them cause i play with them all . but i also dont understand why there is just a big deal over them . either u want them or u dont . if u dont then put it in your profile . and if u get emailed by them then looking to hook up u dont have to email them back . and a simple read the profile can get the point through their think head . if not then block them . if u are looking for single men . then i dont understand why u would feel the need to get upset cause so many write you . i get so many emails from alot of people . most i would never play with . for one reason or antoher . but i dont say damn all these people keep writing me . .
either u want them or u dont . and just cause they are single today doesnt mean they will be next weekend . so u might have just passed up a good playmate . and or friend . didn t u read his profile . his tool is like gold . and u have or will never have the chance to treat yourself to anything else like it in the world .. ha ha ha
the biggest problem that i see about single men is how they act cocky about them and their tool . and their profile and pics . i mean do they really think that showing us their cock in a bunch of pics is going to get them emailed . not unless the damn thing is a one of a kinda . ha hano but for real . i think if they took the time to write stuff about them in their profile and showed more pics about their life and not just their cock people would see them and treat them different . just like any other thing i dont think its right to judge people in a group . treat and judge each person as they act .and always show and demand respect .
just my thoughts on it all
naughty dreams to all
freaky kitty
iam adding a pic of one of my single guy friends that is very respectful and sweet . and fun to hang out with .he was single and went to a party and a couple that we hang out with brought a single lady and then they hooked up and now are a couple . so yes there is or was a really a single lady around .. ha ha and he went from single to a couple really fast . see it does happen and now he is in another group.. a couple .....
We have been in this lifestyle for 13 years now. We started out playing with his single male friends and went on from there... playing with couples,ect... We play with couples, single males and single females. We have alot of couples that we consider friends as well as single males. We normally don't have problems with single males. Actually... we have had more problems with the male half of a couple than we have with single males. The single males that we have met have been very nice, respect, friendly and alot of fun to be around. We also do things with our "friends" outside of this lifestyle.
Finding a good single male is no different than finding a good couple. With couples you chat with them online, get to know them a bit .. BEFORE you even decide to meet up with them. Well.. that is the same thing that you do for a single male.
Yes, there are single males out there that aren't educated enough about the lifestyle. Sometimes you have to be patient and respectful to them. Try to NICELY explain and teach them what couples like and don't like. Hard to know what couples want WITHOUT letting them know. We have done this many, many times in the past. It is amazing the amount of good friends you can have with single males. If you just take the time.
There are also alot couples that say they will NEVER meet with a single male... .and why? because OTHERS have told them that single males are BAD... but yet.. they, personally, have never even chatted with a single male. but yet.. think that single males are bad, evil,ect...
It is sad when people judge based on "STEREOTYPES".
Carrie
Finding a good single male is no different than finding a good couple. With couples you chat with them online, get to know them a bit .. BEFORE you even decide to meet up with them. Well.. that is the same thing that you do for a single male.
Yes, there are single males out there that aren't educated enough about the lifestyle. Sometimes you have to be patient and respectful to them. Try to NICELY explain and teach them what couples like and don't like. Hard to know what couples want WITHOUT letting them know. We have done this many, many times in the past. It is amazing the amount of good friends you can have with single males. If you just take the time.
There are also alot couples that say they will NEVER meet with a single male... .and why? because OTHERS have told them that single males are BAD... but yet.. they, personally, have never even chatted with a single male. but yet.. think that single males are bad, evil,ect...
It is sad when people judge based on "STEREOTYPES".
Carrie
Single males this topic seems to just not go away. There are two sides of every issue in defense of the single guys we have met many more "Jerk" cpls than we have single males. Then you might say why do we block single males its simple we don't have the time to sift through the single males she prefers to meet the single males at parties we attend so for you single guys if you happen to be at a party where "ampussy" is by all means approach us but she knows where to find the single guys she desires thats why we block the single males. It all comes down to one thing its called "RESPECT" we have had more cpls who thought they were gods gift to the world act more childish than any single male we have ever met. Single guys those of you that know how to show respect you will have fun its only a matter of time. To those of you out there that think cpls, single females "OWE" you then you will be stuck pulling your pud.
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
We agree to, we have one guy that writes us, and told him we werent interested but allways recieving mail from him. Its great to be noticed though. 
i dont understand why people always talk about the single guys being rude . but like i said before i have had alot more pushy and rudeness from married men . and then trying to use their wife as a way to get me closer .
people need to realize that there is goo and bad people in every group . and there is creepy and rude and pushy people in every group . i think the single men just stick out cause they dont have a pretty lady to distract us from the rudeness . the single creepy rude guys cant make u worry . but u have to demand respect to be given to u from anyone . i read some of the post . and i do understand what yall are talking about . but iam not going to block all of single men out just cause of a few of them are bad . i judge each erson for how thye act . and i dont even play with guys at all .. so when they write i tell them that if they are respectful they can come to the club and hang out with us and watch and all of that . but dont try me cause ill kick their ass . and u can tell alot about someones first email or their profile . if it just says hey u r hot can we meet this week and play . i can tell guess what they are psuhy . and i wouldnt wnat to han gout with them single guy or couple . i always hear people bitching that the sinlge guy is pushy butill tell u what there is alot of couples that are just as pushy and rude . if anyone at any time is being to rude or pushy u can block them and at clubs well the one i go to pp they have a strick rule about stuff like that anyone that is rude will get kicked out no ? asked no excuses taken . they are shown to the door . and they are told to behave and leave people alone at the door . i dont care if its by email or at a party or club anyone that is rude to me is going to bring out the bad side of me . and i only say no thanks once . then its a no get the fuck away from me . and after that ill tell them to keep my boot that i shoved up his ass as a reminder next time someone say s no thats what they ment .
if at anytime some someone is really rude or pushy or falling me around . i wouldnt deal with that shit . and i dont care if its a single male or married man or woman . once u have said no thanks then anybody should leave u alone . if u are at a club u need to tell who ever is in charge and if they dont fix the problem then u need to find somewhere else to han out at that cares and makes sure u have a great night there .
naughty dreams
freaky kitty
people need to realize that there is goo and bad people in every group . and there is creepy and rude and pushy people in every group . i think the single men just stick out cause they dont have a pretty lady to distract us from the rudeness . the single creepy rude guys cant make u worry . but u have to demand respect to be given to u from anyone . i read some of the post . and i do understand what yall are talking about . but iam not going to block all of single men out just cause of a few of them are bad . i judge each erson for how thye act . and i dont even play with guys at all .. so when they write i tell them that if they are respectful they can come to the club and hang out with us and watch and all of that . but dont try me cause ill kick their ass . and u can tell alot about someones first email or their profile . if it just says hey u r hot can we meet this week and play . i can tell guess what they are psuhy . and i wouldnt wnat to han gout with them single guy or couple . i always hear people bitching that the sinlge guy is pushy butill tell u what there is alot of couples that are just as pushy and rude . if anyone at any time is being to rude or pushy u can block them and at clubs well the one i go to pp they have a strick rule about stuff like that anyone that is rude will get kicked out no ? asked no excuses taken . they are shown to the door . and they are told to behave and leave people alone at the door . i dont care if its by email or at a party or club anyone that is rude to me is going to bring out the bad side of me . and i only say no thanks once . then its a no get the fuck away from me . and after that ill tell them to keep my boot that i shoved up his ass as a reminder next time someone say s no thats what they ment .
if at anytime some someone is really rude or pushy or falling me around . i wouldnt deal with that shit . and i dont care if its a single male or married man or woman . once u have said no thanks then anybody should leave u alone . if u are at a club u need to tell who ever is in charge and if they dont fix the problem then u need to find somewhere else to han out at that cares and makes sure u have a great night there .
naughty dreams
freaky kitty
One person did make a good point. We have noticed several couples ads that list they are interested in single males, however when you read the text of the profile they have written in that they are not. or have changed their mind. Please review your profile and make sure if lists what you want (auto selections) and clearly and correctly lists what you are interested in.
I NORMALLY STICK UP FOR SINGLE MALES . EVEN THOUGH I DONT PLAY WITH MEN .
BUT JUST LIKE ANYBODY ELSE . SOME ARE PUSHY . I THINK THE SINGLE MEN TRY TO SO HARD TO TELL US THEY ARE DIFFERENT CAUSE SO MANY PEOPLE TREAT THEM WRONG JUST CAUSE A FEW ARE BAD .
JUST LIKE ANYBODY ELSE IN ANY OTHER GROUP . SOME ARE VERY NICE . SOME ARE JUST LOOKING FOR FRIENDS AND WANT TO JUST HANG OUT WITH FUN PEOPLE . AND SOME ARE VERY RUDE AND PUSHY .
IN THE LIFE STYLE EVERYBODY SHOULD UNDERSTAND THAT NO OR NO THANK YOU MEANS JUST THAT. AND NO ONE SHOULD EVER HAVE TO REPEAT IT TWICE . IF THEY EMAIL U SAY NO THANKS IF THEY WRITE AGAIN BLOCK THEM . IF U ARE A PARTY SAY NO THANKS . IF THEY BOTHER U AGAIN TELL THE PEOPLE WHO ARE RUNNING THE CLUB OR PARTY .
NO ONE SHOULD EVER HAVE TO SAY NO TWICE .
ONCE SHOULD BE ENOUGH TO ANYONE FROM ANY GROUP . SINGLE LADIES . COUPLES SINGLE MEN . IT DOESNT MATTER . NO MEANS NO .
I THINK EVERY BODY SHOULD UNDERSTAND THAT EVERYBODY IS LOOKING FOR DIFFERENT THINGS IN THE LIFE STYLE AND EVERYBODY ISNT GOING TO CLICK WITH EVERYBODY . SHOW RESPECT TO ALL JUST FOR BEING IN THE LIFE STYLE . AND ANYONE THAT IS PUSHY OR RUDE PUT THEM IN THEIR PLACE AND BE RUDE BACK .
BUT SOMEONE THAT IS SINGLE OR A COUPLE NOW DOESNT MEAN IT WILL STAY LIKE THAT . SO I THINK EVERYOBDY SHOULD SEE PEOPLE AS PEOPLE AND NOT WHAT GROUP THEY FALL IN .
AND MARRIED MEN CAN BE JUST AS PUSHY AND RUDE ADN HARD HEADED TO . SO ITS NOT JUST SINGLE MEN .
IAM ADDING A PIC OF WHAT I DO TO MEAN PEOPLE
HA HA HA
NAUGHTY DREAMS
FREAKY KITTY
BUT JUST LIKE ANYBODY ELSE . SOME ARE PUSHY . I THINK THE SINGLE MEN TRY TO SO HARD TO TELL US THEY ARE DIFFERENT CAUSE SO MANY PEOPLE TREAT THEM WRONG JUST CAUSE A FEW ARE BAD .
JUST LIKE ANYBODY ELSE IN ANY OTHER GROUP . SOME ARE VERY NICE . SOME ARE JUST LOOKING FOR FRIENDS AND WANT TO JUST HANG OUT WITH FUN PEOPLE . AND SOME ARE VERY RUDE AND PUSHY .
IN THE LIFE STYLE EVERYBODY SHOULD UNDERSTAND THAT NO OR NO THANK YOU MEANS JUST THAT. AND NO ONE SHOULD EVER HAVE TO REPEAT IT TWICE . IF THEY EMAIL U SAY NO THANKS IF THEY WRITE AGAIN BLOCK THEM . IF U ARE A PARTY SAY NO THANKS . IF THEY BOTHER U AGAIN TELL THE PEOPLE WHO ARE RUNNING THE CLUB OR PARTY .
NO ONE SHOULD EVER HAVE TO SAY NO TWICE .
ONCE SHOULD BE ENOUGH TO ANYONE FROM ANY GROUP . SINGLE LADIES . COUPLES SINGLE MEN . IT DOESNT MATTER . NO MEANS NO .
I THINK EVERY BODY SHOULD UNDERSTAND THAT EVERYBODY IS LOOKING FOR DIFFERENT THINGS IN THE LIFE STYLE AND EVERYBODY ISNT GOING TO CLICK WITH EVERYBODY . SHOW RESPECT TO ALL JUST FOR BEING IN THE LIFE STYLE . AND ANYONE THAT IS PUSHY OR RUDE PUT THEM IN THEIR PLACE AND BE RUDE BACK .
BUT SOMEONE THAT IS SINGLE OR A COUPLE NOW DOESNT MEAN IT WILL STAY LIKE THAT . SO I THINK EVERYOBDY SHOULD SEE PEOPLE AS PEOPLE AND NOT WHAT GROUP THEY FALL IN .
AND MARRIED MEN CAN BE JUST AS PUSHY AND RUDE ADN HARD HEADED TO . SO ITS NOT JUST SINGLE MEN .
IAM ADDING A PIC OF WHAT I DO TO MEAN PEOPLE
HA HA HA
NAUGHTY DREAMS
FREAKY KITTY
I've been a single male swinger for about 6 years now and I must say some of the guys have a lot to learn. The single man's guide on here is pretty good but some things you have to get from plain old common sense and your upbringing. No means no and why you would want to waste your time with couples that specifically say no single males is beyond me. Theres a lot of couples out there that ARE looking for single guys and you have to go on a never ending search looking for them or wait till they holler at you. I dont think this is a good site for single guys at all-just my opinion-this is more a couples swinging site. There are some couples that say they're looking for single males but if you actually read their profiles, you'll see that they actually choose the wrong option box when they set up their profile...they want either a female or a couple. You cannot get upset about it, u just move on. Just recently I blew a kiss at a couple only as a compliment because the young lady was smoking hot..well I got a reply from her that would make Satan cringe-no biggie- I just learn that blowing kissess at couples if now off limits, see, I'm still learning after six years. Life is short people and the grim reaper is out there somewhere..RELAX, ENJOY LIFE AND HAVE FUN.
Big J.
Big J.
It is ashame that these knuckleheads mess it up for the rest of us. I have been in the lifestyle for about six years and I understand way couples have an aversion to single males. As much I would like to meet some of these couples it will not happen in this lifetime and that s how it is. But I understand that NO MEANS NO and once I have sent an email and followed up then I am one to the next couple I am interested in meeting. Single guys have to take heed and be respectful of couple wishes. I guys some guys must evolve. But to the couples out there be patient and expand your selection it is really some next single men out there.
Be Well
Be Well