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Playing Alone - - Couples all have different rules. Many categorically refuse to play alone with ANYONE ever. This is their "security" place. They feel comfortable in the place where they can see each other and "protect" if necessary. It takes some people a long time to get passed this.
It's kind of a 'control' thing leftover from the vanilla life. I'm not saying it's bad, good or indifferent it's just the way it is. Some people take longer to get passed their histories as vanillas than others. As they progress and get more comfortable with themselves, the lifestyle, their partners then they will slowly open up and begin to trust a bit more.
Don't take it personally, that's the key. Many people still hang on to their vanilla background that their partners are their most 'valued' possession. I liken it to my $450 deep sea fishing reel. Sure I'll loan it to someone to use if I'm on the boat with them and can make sure they're taking care of it. Is there anyone I'd just let 'borrow' it out right for the day or weekend? Not a chance in hell.
It takes time to let go of that 'she's/he's mine' get feeling. I think my wife and I took almost 6 years before we got there successfully. We tried many times before that but it never worked out well for either of us. We finally came to a point where it's okay to play separately everything from next room to next state it no longer bothers us. I personally prefer within 30 - 50 miles so she get's home faster for the "after play" sex you're describing (which I really like too.)
You'll have to find a VERY secure, VERY established, VERY strong couple to fulfill your fantasy. They are out there, my wife and I for example but even though we're open to playing separately are we open to YOU playing with her or me separately? That's a different level of trust. Does it mean no? No. It means "maybe" in time it's a possibility. (I'm speaking hypothetically of course.)
Don't worry your "couple" or "person" will come along. You might also try investigating a subsection of the lifestyle called "hotwifeing" while I know few swingers who are hardcore into only hotwifing, there are quite a few that tip toe in that part of the lifestyle (quick def, she plays he doesn't except with her.) That's the post play joy for you and the play and post play joy for her. Most people just bounce between that and swinging. There are people out there just be patient and don't expect it from any current playmates that you have established rules with, they need to progress at their own speed.
Canadian members - searching - We are also members of SDC and until recently they had a program called VidWebChat. This was an interesting link to other lifestyle groups they sponsered like Swingers Europe, Swingers Latino and others. They recently dicontinued that service stating that there were too many outcasts from other clubs logging on, or something to that effect. Hopefully some of our friends we met overseas will find their way to this site so we can renew our friendships. Regretfully, we didn't exchange e-mail addresses with some of our foreign friends:(
Girls that are into DP - How common is this activity among the swingers? - [quote=TOTO73]only done it once, but would love to try it again. any volunteers [/quote]
I would love to volunteer to join you.
Swingers In Uniform - Pay your memorial day respects here. - Well Mr. Juan has shown his true colors. Not only is he a coward, he is a conspiracy theorist. The liberal propaganda has spoken to his inner being. It's told him that big brother is out to get him. Now he's a paranoid piece of shit trying to get fellated by my dead mother's corpse. Yeah dumbass she died in 1998. So, unless you dug her up in Oregon (i see you're in MD), I think you got the wrong corpse.
As far as your liberal banter goes regarding the US and it's evil conspiracies, get a life douche bag!!! If you know of a better place to live, I'll send you bus, train, plane ticket or maybe you can swim there. Wait, isn't that what people are doing to GET HERE?????
Let's take a pole....
Who Thinks Mr. Quixote's "The Legend in his own mind" has the right idea of what a hero is?
It's easy for you to sit in your warm and cozy jack shack, you dickless single loser, and tell me what mindless bullet magnets we are, but all we see before us is the mindless rantings of a coward, lacking the fortitude, honor, integrity, and courage it take to protect what you take for granted.
With that being said, you can take your rants, small dick and delusions of grandeur to Canada or France you dickless worm.
D&T
"Freedom is not FREE!"
Girls that are into DP - How common is this activity among the swingers? - [quote=CANDJ23]I can't wait to try DP! and I want to try having 3 guys at once, so I can have one in my mouth too...[/quote]
This is my birthday wish! 3 Guys at once...:)
Skicouple - Going beyond flirt with delicious vanilla - I (female) have a very flirtatious relationship with my chiropractor. Sometimes I wonder if he and his wife are also in the lifestyle, because his flirting is so "forward". I know enough about his wife to say that my husband would love to play with her.
Would love to see some suggestions on how to approach the subject of asking him if he and his wife are swingers. I certainly do not want to make the guy think that I am suggesting an affair or a random fuck...
Massages - She need massages - [quote=midcrisis]in our minds we are all better then the pros....just ask us.[/quote]
I would even go out on a limb here and suggest that some swingers might give BETTER massages than an experienced LMT...at least as far as rubbing parts that a masseuse is legally prohibited from touching. Since I sincerely doubt they cover the fine art of erotic massage (especially with a happy ending) in LMT school, someone who has been a swinger for a certain amount of time would likely be more adept and/or experienced in that particular 'sub-specialty' of massage. [em]Emo_49[/em]
Clubbing? - New to this lifestyle - [quote=LILMISSRIDINGHOOD]I'm new to this lifestyle and was wondering, are there any good clubs where swingers go to meet. I RSVPd to a party on the home page, but it says there's an 89-person limit and there are twice the number already signed up. Chances are, I won't get in.
So where is a good place to go to just have fun with like-minded people?[/quote]
IT IS AN 85 COUPLE LIMIT...SO UP TO 170 PEOPLE GIVE OR TAKE A FEW HERE AND THERE
Girls that are into DP - How common is this activity among the swingers? - Love dvp
Tooele swingers party 2 - Doing our second party - Ok so were moving the party to august the 3rd and we will go with around 630-7 start time
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