Hi super sexy horny peeps...
We’ve been on this site for a while now and it’s been fun meeting new people but we have issues with a few things.
1.) People send us friendship requests without even saying hi first, which is super weird in our opinion. Send us a message first and tell us why you even give a fuck about talking to us.
2.) Ummm.... what are we supposed to think when we see a profile and all the pics are of the gal. Hello... red flag... does that mean the guys is super ugo? Not cool!
3.) We are veterans in this lifestyle so we know what we’re looking for and we make it very clear in our bio as to what we’re looking for so sending us a message and then us seeing from your bio that we are clearly not looking for the same thing is so weird to us. WTF?
Ok, we know we are the exception to the rule when it comes to “swingers” because we don’t consider ourselves as swingers. We want a fun couple to be best friends with in and outside of the bedroom. Call us crazy but that’s how you form genuine friendships in this type of situation. We aren’t looking to put a bunch of notches on our belt or going to parties to just fuck whoever. That being said, please read our bio and if you think we’re a good fit, please drop us a line. This isn’t just about sex sex sex for us... although, we LOVE sex! We are looking for genuine human connection and friendship with this couple. We know we aren’t alone in our quest for a fun couple to hang with because we’ve dated 3 couples in the past 6 years and have had a blast! Just gotta fine a good fit for us.
We’ve been on this site for a while now and it’s been fun meeting new people but we have issues with a few things.
1.) People send us friendship requests without even saying hi first, which is super weird in our opinion. Send us a message first and tell us why you even give a fuck about talking to us.
2.) Ummm.... what are we supposed to think when we see a profile and all the pics are of the gal. Hello... red flag... does that mean the guys is super ugo? Not cool!
3.) We are veterans in this lifestyle so we know what we’re looking for and we make it very clear in our bio as to what we’re looking for so sending us a message and then us seeing from your bio that we are clearly not looking for the same thing is so weird to us. WTF?
Ok, we know we are the exception to the rule when it comes to “swingers” because we don’t consider ourselves as swingers. We want a fun couple to be best friends with in and outside of the bedroom. Call us crazy but that’s how you form genuine friendships in this type of situation. We aren’t looking to put a bunch of notches on our belt or going to parties to just fuck whoever. That being said, please read our bio and if you think we’re a good fit, please drop us a line. This isn’t just about sex sex sex for us... although, we LOVE sex! We are looking for genuine human connection and friendship with this couple. We know we aren’t alone in our quest for a fun couple to hang with because we’ve dated 3 couples in the past 6 years and have had a blast! Just gotta fine a good fit for us.
So if you find a couple you like and are attracted to, do you play with them or wait for a relationship to develope before getting naked? We get it...we have several couples we have a good friend relationship with also. We have found that the dating, friends with benefit thing is the best, but it takes time to develope and is not a prerequisite for us having fun naked or otherwise.
While it may not be your intent it seems like the friend component is necessary for you to have fun, maybe even before you will play. If that is your intent...fine with us but consider how others may find that a barrier to even contacting you.
Most people don't read the profiles and there are a lot of voyeurs just looking at your pics. Don't even get me started on blind friend request. For us it's just part of what you expect in the lifestyle. You may have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince and princess but it can be a fun journey. Good luck and good swinging (or whatever you would call it).
While it may not be your intent it seems like the friend component is necessary for you to have fun, maybe even before you will play. If that is your intent...fine with us but consider how others may find that a barrier to even contacting you.
Most people don't read the profiles and there are a lot of voyeurs just looking at your pics. Don't even get me started on blind friend request. For us it's just part of what you expect in the lifestyle. You may have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince and princess but it can be a fun journey. Good luck and good swinging (or whatever you would call it).
Sometimes humility gets lost in the quest for playing. Hmmm??? 🤔
We agree 100%, we are also veterans and know what we want and we want the friendship outside of the bedroom as well as the naked fun!
Hey if you someone to hang out and do stuff with, you can hit us up, we are fun and I enjoy meeting new friends
Read your profile, can't imagine having issues finding a good couple
Candyrocks - thanks for the info. As for us - we definitely still have our training wheels on. We never set out to be in any LS - it just kind of happened organically. Still - we learn every time we read other people’s posts. Our first venture into the LS we were absolutely paranoid about playing with anyone we actually knew or lived by. We wanted near complete anonymity. We only played on vacation if at all. That’s has changed slowly over time. Since going to Desire Resort for the last 4 - 5 years - we’ve learned how awesome it is to play with friends. Thanks for the clarity of what you are looking for. We apologize to anyone we may have offended along the way as we browsed all your sexy profiles. We are certain we sent out some ‘blinded’ requests at least in the early days. We’re still learning - and still loving the process. Play safe everyone ... and good luck finding many, many new friends that match what you are looking for! We hope to meet many of you along the way.
We are real.......well aside from the fact that we live in Grand Junction Colorado........but we come back to SLC a lot.
there are many people that just want to put notches on the bedpost. We also want to become friends with people and learn about them so that we can have a relationship and if things get naughty then fine. But we find it very unusual that people only want to have sex and move on.
We have had couples that are weirded out when we question what they do for a living, where they grew up, and family. We have been told we should not ask those questions when we first meet people. But we believe that is just their own insecurities. Because if we cannot learn about people and become friends we are not going to roll with them.
We are after good friends with benefits as well. If that’s not what you’re looking for, that’s fine but if we cannot be friends and play at the same time we’re not interested.
We have had couples that are weirded out when we question what they do for a living, where they grew up, and family. We have been told we should not ask those questions when we first meet people. But we believe that is just their own insecurities. Because if we cannot learn about people and become friends we are not going to roll with them.
We are after good friends with benefits as well. If that’s not what you’re looking for, that’s fine but if we cannot be friends and play at the same time we’re not interested.
In today's episode of "We Know How to Swing Better Than You" - doh! * Facepalm *
You do realize that there are literally ENDLESS ways to play, levels of comfort, communication, depth of "relationships" ( including friends vs. fuck buddies ) etc, yeah?
I've never understood how someone in this L.S. could be so critical of others choices... whom they decide to give personal information too, whether or not they want to mix friendship into things or leave it casual, etc.
Maybe they are less "insecure" as you have diagnosed them, and just perhaps "cautious"? Food for thought.
You do realize that there are literally ENDLESS ways to play, levels of comfort, communication, depth of "relationships" ( including friends vs. fuck buddies ) etc, yeah?
I've never understood how someone in this L.S. could be so critical of others choices... whom they decide to give personal information too, whether or not they want to mix friendship into things or leave it casual, etc.
Maybe they are less "insecure" as you have diagnosed them, and just perhaps "cautious"? Food for thought.
hyfax1 wrote:
there are many people that just want to put notches on the bedpost. We also want to become friends with people and learn about them so that we can have a relationship and if things get naughty then fine. But we find it very unusual that people only want to have sex and move on.
We have had couples that are weirded out when we question what they do for a living, where they grew up, and family. We have been told we should not ask those questions when we first meet people. But we believe that is just their own insecurities. Because if we cannot learn about people and become friends we are not going to roll with them.
We are after good friends with benefits as well. If that’s not what you’re looking for, that’s fine but if we cannot be friends and play at the same time we’re not interested.
CNTRLCPL wrote:
In today's episode of "We Know How to Swing Better Than You" - doh! * Facepalm *
You do realize that there are literally ENDLESS ways to play, levels of comfort, communication, depth of "relationships" ( including friends vs. fuck buddies ) etc, yeah?
I've never understood how someone in this L.S. could be so critical of others choices... whom they decide to give personal information too, whether or not they want to mix friendship into things or leave it casual, etc.
Maybe they are less "insecure" as you have diagnosed them, and just perhaps "cautious"? Food for thought.
hyfax1 wrote:
there are many people that just want to put notches on the bedpost. We also want to become friends with people and learn about them so that we can have a relationship and if things get naughty then fine. But we find it very unusual that people only want to have sex and move on.
We have had couples that are weirded out when we question what they do for a living, where they grew up, and family. We have been told we should not ask those questions when we first meet people. But we believe that is just their own insecurities. Because if we cannot learn about people and become friends we are not going to roll with them.
We are after good friends with benefits as well. If that’s not what you’re looking for, that’s fine but if we cannot be friends and play at the same time we’re not interested.
I understand your point, and I am not judging those that want to live the lifestyle this way. I am not preaching which way is right or wrong, to each their own. However if WE are going to play with others, WE better have some kind of a connection and friendship is all I was saying. We are cautious as well. but to us, having "FUCK buddies" without any connection seems kinda like trying to get a prostitute. Just our opinion, that's all!! To each their own. More power to those that can fuck anybody, anywhere!
Candyrocks69 wrote:
Hi super sexy horny peeps...
We’ve been on this site for a while now and it’s been fun meeting new people but we have issues with a few things.
1.) People send us friendship requests without even saying hi first, which is super weird in our opinion. Send us a message first and tell us why you even give a fuck about talking to us.
2.) Ummm.... what are we supposed to think when we see a profile and all the pics are of the gal. Hello... red flag... does that mean the guys is super ugo? Not cool!
3.) We are veterans in this lifestyle so we know what we’re looking for and we make it very clear in our bio as to what we’re looking for so sending us a message and then us seeing from your bio that we are clearly not looking for the same thing is so weird to us. WTF?
Ok, we know we are the exception to the rule when it comes to “swingers” because we don’t consider ourselves as swingers. We want a fun couple to be best friends with in and outside of the bedroom. Call us crazy but that’s how you form genuine friendships in this type of situation. We aren’t looking to put a bunch of notches on our belt or going to parties to just fuck whoever. That being said, please read our bio and if you think we’re a good fit, please drop us a line. This isn’t just about sex sex sex for us... although, we LOVE sex! We are looking for genuine human connection and friendship with this couple. We know we aren’t alone in our quest for a fun couple to hang with because we’ve dated 3 couples in the past 6 years and have had a blast! Just gotta fine a good fit for us.
spot on,,,hey were always looking to meet and make new friends
We've been sitting back the last few years but kinda thinking about getting back into things.
We're really laid back and low key. Haven't updated our profile in a few years. Thinking we should soon, but no guarantees.
If you're interested drop us a line. We get on once in awhile.
We're really laid back and low key. Haven't updated our profile in a few years. Thinking we should soon, but no guarantees.
If you're interested drop us a line. We get on once in awhile.
Sounds like you guys should be on a dating app rather then a swinging app. After all, it is what you say your seeking? I see a lot of your points and frustrations but I think your looking in the wrong spot.
COUPLE801801 wrote:
Sounds like you guys should be on a dating app rather then a swinging app. After all, it is what you say your seeking? I see a lot of your points and frustrations but I think your looking in the wrong spot.
We know a couple who uses the Feeld app to look for situations more towards the relationship/dating end of the non-monogamy spectrum. There are probably other apps as well.
COUPLE801801 wrote:we've had some good success. Everyone is looking for something different and there are definitely people looking for what we're looking for. Just picky
Sounds like you guys should be on a dating app rather then a swinging app. After all, it is what you say your seeking? I see a lot of your points and frustrations but I think your looking in the wrong spot.
