We are curious if there are other ways besides attending lifestyle events that couples use to meet each other.
Personally, we sometimes struggle to get out on weekends, and when we are able to much prefer meeting/going out with a couple in a more intimate setting such as dinner or even a small group gathering for game nights.
Are there any couples out there that have similar feelings or have had success meeting couples in the way mentioned above? Right now we are struggling a bit to find couples that like to do that rather than the “party” scene at clubs, and unfortunately that isn’t really our style. We took a break for a while and would like to get back into the lifestyle, but have kind of grown out of the big group meeting style that seems to be the most popular right now.
Personally, we sometimes struggle to get out on weekends, and when we are able to much prefer meeting/going out with a couple in a more intimate setting such as dinner or even a small group gathering for game nights.
Are there any couples out there that have similar feelings or have had success meeting couples in the way mentioned above? Right now we are struggling a bit to find couples that like to do that rather than the “party” scene at clubs, and unfortunately that isn’t really our style. We took a break for a while and would like to get back into the lifestyle, but have kind of grown out of the big group meeting style that seems to be the most popular right now.
I would say.. look through the profiles and see if there is a someone/s that you are attracted to. Message them and let them know so.. Tell them you would like to get to know them, and possibly meet up for dinner and drinks. I feel like it's like dating, but a for us a couple 
There are a couple places that people "hang out" at unofficially I have found. One place we like is the Cliff after 10pm Hope that helps..
There are a couple places that people "hang out" at unofficially I have found. One place we like is the Cliff after 10pm Hope that helps..We use events and parties to meet a lot of people but we prefer dinner type settings. Finding couples you feel you might connect with and meet for dinner.
Honestly most of the “parties” around here are like ultra chill social events. Not really a party...come to Vegas with us and we’ll show you a party. If you don’t like groups of more than 3 couples or have some social anxiety then the parties aren’t for you but MOST of these events are super mild...now the EDM events are sorta crazy but not really LS. You guys are way too young to throw the towel in on wild parties anyway.
We like both. Parties are a great way to meet a few people and not be obligated to wasting a whole night to a couple you’re not interested in. Then you can find people you want to know better and do the dinner and more low key stuff.
We like both. Parties are a great way to meet a few people and not be obligated to wasting a whole night to a couple you’re not interested in. Then you can find people you want to know better and do the dinner and more low key stuff.
We have our Kinky side, and little time, we have been at the social gatherings and its too much of the dating around and meet and greet, we miss the more wild side of the lifestyle so we have been inviting couples and sometimes singles to a more private setting and have had more success finding what we are looking for...
Input the wife in heels on the street corner wearing nothing but a smile. That usually draws a crowd. Sometimes I’ll join her and do the helicopter which draws attention like those guys on the corner spinning signs. 😛
Seriously though. We’ve messaged couples or singles directly on here. Just meet them somewhere social in case you need an escape plan. Or a local party is definitely a good way to put yourselves out there. Lots of cool people most of the time. Like us. 😉
Seriously though. We’ve messaged couples or singles directly on here. Just meet them somewhere social in case you need an escape plan. Or a local party is definitely a good way to put yourselves out there. Lots of cool people most of the time. Like us. 😉
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That's our preferred way to meet a couple for the first time. We generally like to message them on the site, provide our KiK names, get to know each other a bit over chat, And then meet up some place quieter for dinner or drinks. Clubs are good for seeing or meeting lots of people at once and not having to commit to spending any time at all getting to know any of them unless you want to. That can be less stressful than meeting a couple one on one, Still, we prefer to meet in a more intimate setting, and of we dont click, we just enjoy the dinner, drinks, and conversation, and say it was nice to meet you.
Our thoughts exactly! Parties and events are a good place with numbers if your wanting to meet alot of different people. We definitely prefer meeting couples one on one outside the parties/clubs. We enjoy being able to have a conversation without all the distractions and loud music. We do enjoy the smaller house parties which give us the opportunity to meet others where we can move to a quieter area and socialize if we choose.
Thanks for the input everyone!
There is a little bit of social anxiety in large group settings involved, but we did try a couple of the parties back when the moose lounge was big and there were LS nights there. We just found it a bit hard to break through the ice or randomly walk up to a couple and start talking as most couples seemed to already know each other.
We will definitely look around at profiles on the site though.
There is a little bit of social anxiety in large group settings involved, but we did try a couple of the parties back when the moose lounge was big and there were LS nights there. We just found it a bit hard to break through the ice or randomly walk up to a couple and start talking as most couples seemed to already know each other.
We will definitely look around at profiles on the site though.
Well I might as well say it... #tags and Place search on IG of those events and clubs do work. Lol just saying lol
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Honestly most of the “parties” around here are like ultra chill social events. Not really a party...come to Vegas with us and we’ll show you a party. If you don’t like groups of more than 3 couples or have some social anxiety then the parties aren’t for you but MOST of these events are super mild...now the EDM events are sorta crazy but not really LS. You guys are way too young to throw the towel in on wild parties anyway.
We like both. Parties are a great way to meet a few people and not be obligated to wasting a whole night to a couple you’re not interested in. Then you can find people you want to know better and do the dinner and more low key stuff.
!We tend to meet more people through friends and private gatherings than through public events. (Which are by far the WORST way to make new connections!) But, then again, we’re one of those weird couples who like to hang out and be real-life friends with the people we play with! 😜
Whether swinging or single, dating sucks. Unfortunately it takes tenacity to sort through profiles, chat, find a 3 or 4 way connection (hard to do), and finally meet and hope everyone was honest in the texting/picture phase. As you’re searching make sure you filter in people that have been on the site within x number of days. Otherwise you waste time sending emails to people that never come on the site to check their messages.
We are opening up to more people in the work place and in general to some of our understanding friends. Which so far has been great, infact we've turned a few friends into swingers. We are always open about our sexuality and sex life in general so when people talk to us about stuff and they find out about our lifestyle. They tend to come back later asking more and more about it. Overall the searching through profiles does get old, but we do enjoy seeing new and old friends come on the site. For us the chats and private meets are exciting. its kinda fun to do a bit of searching.
We've never been to a party and have no desire to do so. Before they shut down Craigslist, that's how we met people. We placed an ad and talked to the couples that responded. Now we just use Swingular to start conversations. We usually chat on Kik for a while and if we like them, we make plans to meet for drinks or dinner and go from there. We've dated 3 couples in the past 6 years and have had a blast! We are picky though so it's good to put in your profile exactly what you're looking for. We don't consider ourselves "swinger's" we like being exclusive with just one couple and basically date them. Friends with benefits kind of idea. You'd be surprised how many couples out there are interested in this very thing.
Dating other swinger couples is a great way to find those folks that you are attracted to and develope some chemistry with. It's takes a lot of patience and like someone else said tenacity. Learn how to filter through those that will not commit to meeting for a drink or dinner. Be direct when contacting someone and always be on the same page with your partner and find out what the other couple is interested in. Never take any of the dating other couple stuff as more than extra fun you may get to have and you will minimize your disappointments. There is a learning curve and getting to laugh about the journey is part of the fun.
We definitely prefer a more intimate setting, dinner drinks whatever, hard to talk in a loud place, seems like you miss half the conversation, just our two cents
We have done both. We have actually met some great couples out dancing. We have either gone back to our place or a hotel for a more intimate setting.
We have also met people online for dinner and drinks and bedroom fun.
The problem we run into is, we don't go out a ton, so when we do we want to get our dancing fix at the same time. We just have a great time out at the clubs. Of course we prefer more lifestyle couples there... But we have been know to bring a cool guy home once or twice that we just met at a Vanilla club night. 😁
Going out tonight! Let us know if you want meet. We are older but like to have fun! Who knows, maybe after hour party at our house! (North Salt Lake)
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We have also met people online for dinner and drinks and bedroom fun.
The problem we run into is, we don't go out a ton, so when we do we want to get our dancing fix at the same time. We just have a great time out at the clubs. Of course we prefer more lifestyle couples there... But we have been know to bring a cool guy home once or twice that we just met at a Vanilla club night. 😁
Going out tonight! Let us know if you want meet. We are older but like to have fun! Who knows, maybe after hour party at our house! (North Salt Lake)
Kik - jasonwall77
Thanks everyone for the good advice. Hopefully we can find a couple of couples that we really click with. We are always looking for more friends, so don’t be shy!