As times change, as we grow, so too does the Lifestyle, the old beliefs and ways of the 70s "Swinging" is almost unfathomable, gone with the wind. We are remembering that sex is healthy, can be fun and respectful, and that having a sex-positive attitude will benefit you and your involvement within the lifestyle, in more ways than you could ever imagine. We want to grow and continue sharing the amazing events, festivals, soirees, teachings and once in a lifetime experiences with you all! This is it!! Please join us as we step into a new year, with fresh eyes, open hearts, and a whole lotta wild fun!! We absolutely adore you all and are honored by you and your support through all of these years! We look forward to the new year and the amazing changes, growth, and connections ahead.
With love and gratitude,
Charly and Lang
With love and gratitude,
Charly and Lang
Thanks for the positive message/vibes. :-) We agree that swinging has changed. We can't speak to how it was in the 70's (although we did talk to a few couples way back in the day who told us stories about what it was like then) but we did first hear about the lifestyle and went to our first small house party while we were still very young newlyweds in college in 1989. Yup, 30 years this year! And although we've never been super active in the lifestyle and have taken a number of breaks for months or even years at a time it's been interesting to watch things evolve and change (not always for the better, sadly).
When you talk about a sex-positive attitude I think that's one of the things that we've noticed has actually changed quite a bit over the years but not necessarily in the way you might imagine. Back when we first decided to dip our toes into swinging it took quite a bit more effort to find and connect with people (the internet was in it's infancy and there were no lifestyle websites) and for that reason I think people were more likely to really look for reasons to find compatible people and play with them rather than many now who seemingly look for reasons NOT to connect and play.
We're as guilty of this as the next couple but I think it's very easy these days to always 'swipe left', so to speak, looking for the bigger/better deal and pass up great sex or even just really GOOD sex with really great people in the constant search for perfect sex with the perfect couple or individual. We're not convinced that the perfect person or situation actually exists when it comes to swinging.
Personally, we've made it a resolution this year to try to be less judgemental and while we aren't necessarily going to 'settle' or to play with someone we don't want to play with we ARE going to try VERY hard to find attractive qualities in everyone we interact with and if we're presented with the opportunity to play with people we find attractive we're going to try to give people the benefit of the doubt even if we aren't immediately convinced that they're an absolutely perfect match for us.
Wishing EVERYONE a fantastic New Year with LOTS of sex, lots of laughs with great friends, and health and happiness.
Cheers!
The 'Doers
When you talk about a sex-positive attitude I think that's one of the things that we've noticed has actually changed quite a bit over the years but not necessarily in the way you might imagine. Back when we first decided to dip our toes into swinging it took quite a bit more effort to find and connect with people (the internet was in it's infancy and there were no lifestyle websites) and for that reason I think people were more likely to really look for reasons to find compatible people and play with them rather than many now who seemingly look for reasons NOT to connect and play.
We're as guilty of this as the next couple but I think it's very easy these days to always 'swipe left', so to speak, looking for the bigger/better deal and pass up great sex or even just really GOOD sex with really great people in the constant search for perfect sex with the perfect couple or individual. We're not convinced that the perfect person or situation actually exists when it comes to swinging.
Personally, we've made it a resolution this year to try to be less judgemental and while we aren't necessarily going to 'settle' or to play with someone we don't want to play with we ARE going to try VERY hard to find attractive qualities in everyone we interact with and if we're presented with the opportunity to play with people we find attractive we're going to try to give people the benefit of the doubt even if we aren't immediately convinced that they're an absolutely perfect match for us.
Wishing EVERYONE a fantastic New Year with LOTS of sex, lots of laughs with great friends, and health and happiness.
Cheers!
The 'Doers
Well said!
Evil very well said (did your wife write that 😀?)! We feel we are our biggest obstacle a lot of times.
I was just going to look around this site to see what is here but talking about sex-positive has really hit a chord with me. I don't know if I'll be here past my two week trial but I have to say something on this topic since I have started a blog about sex-positive for seniors.
My wife and I thought we were dipping our toes in the swinging pool about 15 years ago. About the only thing we had to go on was what I was reading in swinger groups on Yahoo (or Yahell as we called it for getting kicked offline so often as the platform wasn't exactly stable). People approached us through the groups wanting to do things without getting to know us at all. My wife managed to make some friends and we lived what I have learned to be called a vixen/stag lifestyle for about a year.
After a break for a while I'm back with a hall pass. I'm still not sure what shut my wife down from her friends but it still has left her with strong feelings to not even look at what is going on now. For my blog I have researched some of the online sources for positive benefits of sex. I've found that if done safely and consensually there are few down sides.
I'm finding some down sides to non-monogamous lifestyles. I've already been approached by a guy wanting some male on male action. Though I'm not opposed to that, I'm wanting to make friends, not just hookups. It would be nice to find people that are not going to be judgmental of me making friends without my wife, though with her full knowledge. I think the non-judgmental is part of being sex-positive. It would be nice to find people that want to be friends first then maybe enjoying benefits beyond what the monogamous society does. It would be nice to find people who understand I have started testosterone replacement to get some muscle mass back, improve my mood and few other benefits. It has nothing to do with ED, though it does increase libido.
I have to admit in the short time I have been searching I have seen some improvements in attitudes within the non-monogamous lifestyles compared to years ago, a more sex-positive view, but there is still much to be done by those that would like to see a change.
My wife and I thought we were dipping our toes in the swinging pool about 15 years ago. About the only thing we had to go on was what I was reading in swinger groups on Yahoo (or Yahell as we called it for getting kicked offline so often as the platform wasn't exactly stable). People approached us through the groups wanting to do things without getting to know us at all. My wife managed to make some friends and we lived what I have learned to be called a vixen/stag lifestyle for about a year.
After a break for a while I'm back with a hall pass. I'm still not sure what shut my wife down from her friends but it still has left her with strong feelings to not even look at what is going on now. For my blog I have researched some of the online sources for positive benefits of sex. I've found that if done safely and consensually there are few down sides.
I'm finding some down sides to non-monogamous lifestyles. I've already been approached by a guy wanting some male on male action. Though I'm not opposed to that, I'm wanting to make friends, not just hookups. It would be nice to find people that are not going to be judgmental of me making friends without my wife, though with her full knowledge. I think the non-judgmental is part of being sex-positive. It would be nice to find people that want to be friends first then maybe enjoying benefits beyond what the monogamous society does. It would be nice to find people who understand I have started testosterone replacement to get some muscle mass back, improve my mood and few other benefits. It has nothing to do with ED, though it does increase libido.
I have to admit in the short time I have been searching I have seen some improvements in attitudes within the non-monogamous lifestyles compared to years ago, a more sex-positive view, but there is still much to be done by those that would like to see a change.
Last Sunday afternoon we had over 50 people attend Dr Cari Oneal's Sex Positive Event Essentials Class! Perfect non-event environment to meet like minded friends. Next class is scheduled for Thursday January 24th 7:30 PM. Future classes include: February 7th and Sunday the 24th. See below for details!
SEX POSITIVE EVENT ESSENTIALS CLASS
Date: Thursday, January 24th, 2019
Time: 7:30 PM to 9:00 PM
Price: $15.00 /per person in advance ($20 per person at the door)
RSVP & Payment: https://drcarioneal.regfox.com/sex-positive-event-essentials-class
Location: SLCC - Sandy 9690 S 300 W, Sandy UT 84070.
Class Details:
Whether you’re a veteran or new to the lifestyle, you’ll learn how to explore the Sex-Positive lifestyle safely and with consent. Generally speaking that means when you’re comfortable with yourself and creating a comfortable environment for others there’s less drama and more fun. Join us for a 1.5-hour class discussing what to expect at lifestyle events and tools for you to get the most out of your experiences while there!
97% of the first class attendees said they would highly recommend this class to others!
84% agreed or strongly agreed that attending the class improved their Sex Positive Event knowledge!
WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT
Continuing lifestyle education to build your confidence
Learn what to expect at lifestyle events
Tools for more fun and less drama
Boundaries & Consent
Meet other like-minded community members in a non-event setting
To RSVP and register for this class:
https://drcarioneal.regfox.com/sex-positive-event-essentials-class
Meet Your Instructor
Dr. Cari Oneal, earned a PhD in Human Sexuality, is an EFT Practitioner, certified as a Clinical Sexologist and is Professional Sexual Wellness Coach. She has a private practice in Salt Lake City where she counsels individuals and couples regarding sex and intimacy. She is also a Co-organizer of Sex Positive Salt Lake City and hosts classes and workshops related to sexual wellness, sexual skill sets, and relationship dynamics. The emphasis of her work is sexual health, awareness, education, and coaching on sex-positive topics and behaviors. The cornerstone of her service to your sexual wellness is helping you find and master YOUR OWN authentic voice and behaviors for sex so that you’ll feel confident about who you are and what you’re creating.
Dr. Oneal can be reached at [email protected]
SEX POSITIVE EVENT ESSENTIALS CLASS
Date: Thursday, January 24th, 2019
Time: 7:30 PM to 9:00 PM
Price: $15.00 /per person in advance ($20 per person at the door)
RSVP & Payment: https://drcarioneal.regfox.com/sex-positive-event-essentials-class
Location: SLCC - Sandy 9690 S 300 W, Sandy UT 84070.
Class Details:
Whether you’re a veteran or new to the lifestyle, you’ll learn how to explore the Sex-Positive lifestyle safely and with consent. Generally speaking that means when you’re comfortable with yourself and creating a comfortable environment for others there’s less drama and more fun. Join us for a 1.5-hour class discussing what to expect at lifestyle events and tools for you to get the most out of your experiences while there!
97% of the first class attendees said they would highly recommend this class to others!
84% agreed or strongly agreed that attending the class improved their Sex Positive Event knowledge!
WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT
Continuing lifestyle education to build your confidence
Learn what to expect at lifestyle events
Tools for more fun and less drama
Boundaries & Consent
Meet other like-minded community members in a non-event setting
To RSVP and register for this class:
https://drcarioneal.regfox.com/sex-positive-event-essentials-class
Meet Your Instructor
Dr. Cari Oneal, earned a PhD in Human Sexuality, is an EFT Practitioner, certified as a Clinical Sexologist and is Professional Sexual Wellness Coach. She has a private practice in Salt Lake City where she counsels individuals and couples regarding sex and intimacy. She is also a Co-organizer of Sex Positive Salt Lake City and hosts classes and workshops related to sexual wellness, sexual skill sets, and relationship dynamics. The emphasis of her work is sexual health, awareness, education, and coaching on sex-positive topics and behaviors. The cornerstone of her service to your sexual wellness is helping you find and master YOUR OWN authentic voice and behaviors for sex so that you’ll feel confident about who you are and what you’re creating.
Dr. Oneal can be reached at [email protected]