No matter if you come as a package or single please please For the Love of All That is horny and depraved put a picture of the guy in at least the private photos.
/rant
So now to my question, would you take one for the team? Would you ask your SO to take one? Also have you ever done so? What were the results?
/rant
So now to my question, would you take one for the team? Would you ask your SO to take one? Also have you ever done so? What were the results?
Yes we have. If we come across someone that she hits it off with and has a really good time. I didn't have a very good time. We'd meet up again.
She's done the same for me.
She's done the same for me.
We think taking one for the team implies not voluntarily. We would not "take one for the team" under those circumstances. If one of us did not approve then we would pass on getting sexual. We do however realize certain encounters will not be equal and we participate anyway and may even repeat because we like the couple.
No one should have to take one for the team if they don't want to and the partner that puts you in that situation....well we would not have a very high opinion of them.
No one should have to take one for the team if they don't want to and the partner that puts you in that situation....well we would not have a very high opinion of them.
We agree with you on the pictures. There will be 100 pics and not one of the other partner. We never take one for the team. There might be the instance where one isn’t as into the other but there is something there at least.
jim098777 wrote:
I have done that a few times. And it usually wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be. But I am solo and the pressure is more from the situation and not from another person. So it’s different. I believe there is always a choice. Even if others would like you to do something. You can always choose yes or no. Sometimes it is easier to say no from a distance then no after you meet. However everyone is a person of worth and not to be discarded lightly. I think sometimes we are so focused on what we want and feel and sometimes we don’t consider the the human equation and the other persons self worth and feelings. In person it’s a different story to some extent because you can look at them and see their reaction and remember your humanity. Just my thoughts right or wrong just how I feel. I have been on both sides of the yes and no equation and have felt on receiving and the giving side.
Thank jim098777 I'm thinking this year must be off to a good start with some of the people on here having kind words in stead of the normal stuff on here
ALLWENEEDISU wrote:
No matter if you come as a package or single please please For the Love of All That is horny and depraved put a picture of the guy in at least the private photos.
/rant
So now to my question, would you take one for the team? Would you ask your SO to take one? Also have you ever done so? What were the results?
We don't have many rules, but that's one of them. We won't take one for the team. If she's not attracted to him, or he's not attracted to her. It's always a no. We also don't play the first time we meet anyone in person, just so we can go back and have that conversation to make sure we are on the same page. That tends to save us from awkward situations when one partner isn't feeling it and the other partner isn't picking up on it.
DOUBLED03 wrote:We can't help but laugh a little on the part of the other partner now picking up on it
We don't have many rules, but that's one of them. We won't take one for the team. If she's not attracted to him, or he's not attracted to her. It's always a no. We also don't play the first time we meet anyone in person, just so we can go back and have that conversation to make sure we are on the same page. That tends to save us from awkward situations when one partner isn't feeling it and the other partner isn't picking up on it.
!Utahldscouple wrote:DOUBLED03 wrote:We can't help but laugh a little on the part of the other partner now picking up on it
We don't have many rules, but that's one of them. We won't take one for the team. If she's not attracted to him, or he's not attracted to her. It's always a no. We also don't play the first time we meet anyone in person, just so we can go back and have that conversation to make sure we are on the same page. That tends to save us from awkward situations when one partner isn't feeling it and the other partner isn't picking up on it.
Lol, it happens, especially when alcohol is involved 😜
There should be a separate search option or certification for profiles with pics of the male half.
First of all, NOBODY should fuck someone they don't want to fuck. Having said that, though, we've found that "taking one for the team" is usually somewhat relative. It seems to quite often be the case that if you actually LOOK hard enough for attractive qualities in other people you are apt to find them. At least one or two qualities! LOL
We've almost never encountered another couple where one of us was attracted to one of them and their partner was completely unattractive. I guess if someone is reasonably attractive they're pretty unlikely to end up with someone who isn't attractive at all.
But we've also found (and yes, we're guilty of this sometimes as well) that many people sort of get in their own way, so to speak, when it comes to looking for people to play with and, often, almost look for reasons NOT to play and, in effect, end up talking themselves out of playing.
When we first started in the lifestyle it was FAR more labor-intensive (no internet swingsites) to look for other couples and there were far fewer swingers as well so if you were extremely picky you pretty much didn't ever actually end up playing. By the time most people jumped through all the hoops you had to jump thru to find other couples most people were pretty predisposed to playing, unless they were really turned off for some reason.
Now, it seems like there are just so many options, literally right at our fingertips, that perhaps it's just a little too easy to keep swiping left...always looking for the bigger, better deal. Again, don't fuck someone you really don't want to fuck but also, maybe, consider digging just a little deeper and see if you can't find something compelling about a person that could lead to a really great time in bed. What's that old saying about sex and pizza?
We've almost never encountered another couple where one of us was attracted to one of them and their partner was completely unattractive. I guess if someone is reasonably attractive they're pretty unlikely to end up with someone who isn't attractive at all.
But we've also found (and yes, we're guilty of this sometimes as well) that many people sort of get in their own way, so to speak, when it comes to looking for people to play with and, often, almost look for reasons NOT to play and, in effect, end up talking themselves out of playing.
When we first started in the lifestyle it was FAR more labor-intensive (no internet swingsites) to look for other couples and there were far fewer swingers as well so if you were extremely picky you pretty much didn't ever actually end up playing. By the time most people jumped through all the hoops you had to jump thru to find other couples most people were pretty predisposed to playing, unless they were really turned off for some reason.
Now, it seems like there are just so many options, literally right at our fingertips, that perhaps it's just a little too easy to keep swiping left...always looking for the bigger, better deal. Again, don't fuck someone you really don't want to fuck but also, maybe, consider digging just a little deeper and see if you can't find something compelling about a person that could lead to a really great time in bed. What's that old saying about sex and pizza?
EVILDOERS wrote:
First of all, NOBODY should fuck someone they don't want to fuck. Having said that, though, we've found that "taking one for the team" is usually somewhat relative. It seems to quite often be the case that if you actually LOOK hard enough for attractive qualities in other people you are apt to find them. At least one or two qualities! LOL
We've almost never encountered another couple where one of us was attracted to one of them and their partner was completely unattractive. I guess if someone is reasonably attractive they're pretty unlikely to end up with someone who isn't attractive at all.
But we've also found (and yes, we're guilty of this sometimes as well) that many people sort of get in their own way, so to speak, when it comes to looking for people to play with and, often, almost look for reasons NOT to play and, in effect, end up talking themselves out of playing.
When we first started in the lifestyle it was FAR more labor-intensive (no internet swingsites) to look for other couples and there were far fewer swingers as well so if you were extremely picky you pretty much didn't ever actually end up playing. By the time most people jumped through all the hoops you had to jump thru to find other couples most people were pretty predisposed to playing, unless they were really turned off for some reason.
Now, it seems like there are just so many options, literally right at our fingertips, that perhaps it's just a little too easy to keep swiping left...always looking for the bigger, better deal. Again, don't fuck someone you really don't want to fuck but also, maybe, consider digging just a little deeper and see if you can't find something compelling about a person that could lead to a really great time in bed. What's that old saying about sex and pizza?
Very well stated EVILDOERS.
Thatcouplenextdoor wrote:
If the male half is hideous should you still include a picture? Asking for a friend.
Yes and it should be their main photo.
But if he also has an amazing personality is super witty, funny, and kind has a gigantic penis a tongue like Gene Simmons, with the ability of a woman that should also somehow be in the picture.