It's an ugly topic, but if you're willing to be honest, I am curious to find out how prominent jealousy is when it comes to single females and couples. I have only directly encountered this once from a couple in the years that I have been swinging/participating so perhaps I am lucky. Even when I was swinging in the past with a previous partner it was never a problem for me and it still isn't. Thoughts?
We’ve only played with couples. We have found that communication is key, and having talked before anything happens. We aren’t the jealous type but one couple we were friends with the other woman got really jealous of my wife’s confidence and unfortunately ended the friendship. We always respect boundaries and always let others know of ours. We think it’s people getting over excited and want to try everything at once rather than building up to it. We both really enjoy seeing each other play with both men and women. We also like to be friends before we jump into playing not really into the one night stands. We don’t do separate rooms or play separately because we enjoy everything together.
Good communication is the key. Make sure your partner knows they are the love of your life and always remember the LS is just sex and should be fun for both partners. I see couples only looking for single females and wonder if the activities are solely driven by the male half which usually ends up in disaster. We enjoy play with single females and also single males and generally always play together unless a strong friendship is developed with someone over a extended time.
Only had it happen once, that was in a club, he was fine playing with my wife, but was VERY restrictive about what his wife should do with me, she apologized to us afterwards. We found it very strange that he had that sort of outlook, glad to say we have not come across it again in over 15 years of playing!
Encountered jealousy several times but not always from the female half. It is almost always caused by a partner going beyond pre agreed boundaries. As well as one partner not really into it. For us it is always more pleasurable to watch the other receive pleasure from somebody else.
We have had it happen several times and it was the male half. Usually new to the LS and had issues with his wife being with another man. A couple of the times they attempted a second go that turned out to have the same results. Couples need to make sure they are both on board with the decision to share their partner.
Great question Ever_Ashes
Anyone else here a fan of Mr & Mrs Jones podcast 'We Gotta' Thing'?
Episodes 41 & 53 the have a therapist friend of theirs on the show. She and her husband are in the LS, and most of her practice is LS couples.
She covers the topic of jealousy and the why's behind it pretty well. We found it super insightful and handy.
Anyone else here a fan of Mr & Mrs Jones podcast 'We Gotta' Thing'?
Episodes 41 & 53 the have a therapist friend of theirs on the show. She and her husband are in the LS, and most of her practice is LS couples.
She covers the topic of jealousy and the why's behind it pretty well. We found it super insightful and handy.
We have yet to encounter jealousy playing with singles. Our biggest trial has been making sure all 3 participants get their fair share of the fun, so I guess it could lead to jealousy if you aren't careful.
Yes I agree singles are usually not a problem
Utah based Dr Cari Oneal Phd is a LS and jealousy expert - she can be reached at 435 200-5682. Helping couples navigate the lifestyle is her forte!
We don’t have any issues because we don’t play with single females. We are both straight and well that leads to the jealousy issue hence why no single females 😀.