Do any of you know of alternative sites for partial swingers. We have struggled to find couples who like to enjoy their own partner while allowing the ladies to play. It seems, here, that it offends when I, the lady, don’t share my guy. It works for us, but oddly is offsetting to many others. For me, if a woman doesn’t want to share her man but wants to play girl on girl…I’m perfectly happy with that. It’s her man, her limits. I’ve been told that means not everyone gets to play? I don’t understand that since everyone is playing. It’s a partial swap. Please let me know if you know of somewhere to find that.
Sounds like only the girls swinging to me.
SIMONEMARKS wrote:
Do any of you know of alternative sites for partial swingers. We have struggled to find couples who like to enjoy their own partner while allowing the ladies to play. It seems, here, that it offends when I, the lady, don’t share my guy. It works for us, but oddly is offsetting to many others. For me, if a woman doesn’t want to share her man but wants to play girl on girl…I’m perfectly happy with that. It’s her man, her limits. I’ve been told that means not everyone gets to play? I don’t understand that since everyone is playing. It’s a partial swap. Please let me know if you know of somewhere to find that.
There are plenty of people here who are fine with that particular scenario and more than a few who are also looking, specifically, for that type of play. No need to go elsewhere. The trick is to find couples that won't try to punk you and get you to do a full swap after leading you to believe they are okay with your rules.
Also, there are quite a few women that aren't really bi or are only bi up to a point. It could be partly due to the fact that you're in Cedar. Additionally, we've noticed that your particular play preference is more common among younger couples so that could be making your search difficult as well. And one last problem (I know, right?), swingsites are slowly dying and more and more people are using alternative methods to find people to hook up with. You missed the heyday for lifestyle sites by about 10 or 15 years. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Edit: Oops, my bad. Didn't read carefully enough, Just saw "Cedar" and assumed Cedar City.
JBBEAGS818 wrote:
Sounds like only the girls swinging to me.
And that's bad?
It is when it’s stated as if it’s all parties.
She can play girl on girl all she wants
It’s not bad. You’re just not swinging.
fourplay wrote:
It’s not bad. You’re just not swinging.
^^^
It goes both ways if your swinging. We call it sport fucking. Its just for fun..its should not be an intimate thing to a point. Just fun!!!!
JBBEAGS818 wrote:
It is when it’s stated as if it’s all parties.
This is what happens when self proclaimed "Swinger Experts" try to join the conversation. If you don't swing "their way" you aren't swinging. Being soft swing ( mostly girl/girl ) we hear this all the time.
Bottom line is there are many many levels of "swinging" from voyeur to girl/girl to soft swap to full swap. Same room, different room, same city, different city. The levels and/or combinations are endless. We kind of assumed that is why there are so many "check boxes" on the preferences of this site. According to this logic there should only be two. ( Together or Separate )
cntrlcpl wrote:
This is what happens when self proclaimed "Swinger Experts" try to join the conversation. If you don't swing "their way" you aren't swinging. Being soft swing ( mostly girl/girl ) we hear this all the time.
Bottom line is there are many many levels of "swinging" from voyeur to girl/girl to soft swap to full swap. Same room, different room, same city, different city. The levels and/or combinations are endless. We kind of assumed that is why there are so many "check boxes" on the preferences of this site. According to this logic there should only be two. ( Together or Separate )
Swinging is about equality, and fair exploration. If you say “I get to play, but not you” that’s not equal, it’s not swinging, and it’s not fair to all parties. It’s like calling it eating a meal together when one of you sits down to eat and the other only gets to sit there. Come up with your own name for it if you like, but it’s not swinging.
Swinging is about equality, and fair exploration. If you say “I get to play, but not you” that’s not equal, it’s not swinging, and it’s not fair to all parties. It’s like calling it eating a meal together when one of you sits down to eat and the other only gets to sit there. Come up with your own name for it if you like, but it’s not swinging.
And there you have it folks! Swinging 101 from, again, a self proclaimed "Expert".
So, what you are saying is... If my wife wants to "explore" with women, and I do not want or desire to be with other women, but LOVE to watch her with women and also enjoy the same room sex with her while the other couple feels the same... I think you are confused with peoples "preferences" vs. some kind of sinister "rule" that one has permission to play and the other does not and that someone is somehow "left out" or "not satisfied" with the situation. Nothing is further from the truth.
Dictionary definition...
swing·ing
/ˈswiNGiNG/
adjectiveINFORMAL
adjective: swinging
(of a person, place, or way of life) lively, exciting, and fashionable.
"a swinging resort"
sexually liberated or promiscuous. <---- BOOM !
Kinda sounds like we are "Swingers" to me ..
If swinging was originally defined as married couples who sexually engage with other like minded couples, then a lot of people on this site may not be swingers under that definition. Oh well. If husband or a wife wants to sexually engage with other people and at same time wants to deny their spouse the same opportunity, even though they too want to do the same, that is pretty fucked up. If a husband or wife wants to sexually engage with other people and their spouse isn't interested in doing the same themselves, or maybe they really enjoy just watching their spouse have sex, well if that is their preference more power to them. All of us have the ability to choose, what and who we want to do!
While the commonly used definition of swingers is: couples who swap with another couple, it's all under the umbrella of Open relationships. It's a gradient, like many things to do with sexuality.
We're not traditional swingers, but have on occasion.
Some people like full swap, some soft, some like to cuck or be cuckolded (is that 'for everyone?' Sure, if everyone involved is getting something they enjoy and want out of it), or woman-on-woman play between couples. As long as it's open, honest, ethical and not coerced, and is enjoyable and emotionally healthy for everyone involved, go have your flavor of fun!
We love being around sex-positive open-minded people, and if a situation happens organically, it happens. Completely enjoy doing same-room/own partner or girl-on-girl things, and become flirty partysexuals.
And, we LOVE voyeur, exhibitionism, kink and sensual play, and usually have a few fun situations going at most parties, and even more so privately or in our smaller, more intimate gatherings.
We love to watch, be watched, be around sexy people, even more so as the clothes come off, and find that threesomes are what we organically find more often than other situations. (She's bi, and dated women exclusively for a decade, so loves pursuing that)
Do what works for you and makes you happy. Communication is key. Definitions and expectations can sometimes lead to miscues, so say more up front about what you are looking for and find those who are interested in the same.
We're not traditional swingers, but have on occasion.
Some people like full swap, some soft, some like to cuck or be cuckolded (is that 'for everyone?' Sure, if everyone involved is getting something they enjoy and want out of it), or woman-on-woman play between couples. As long as it's open, honest, ethical and not coerced, and is enjoyable and emotionally healthy for everyone involved, go have your flavor of fun!
We love being around sex-positive open-minded people, and if a situation happens organically, it happens. Completely enjoy doing same-room/own partner or girl-on-girl things, and become flirty partysexuals.
And, we LOVE voyeur, exhibitionism, kink and sensual play, and usually have a few fun situations going at most parties, and even more so privately or in our smaller, more intimate gatherings.
We love to watch, be watched, be around sexy people, even more so as the clothes come off, and find that threesomes are what we organically find more often than other situations. (She's bi, and dated women exclusively for a decade, so loves pursuing that)
Do what works for you and makes you happy. Communication is key. Definitions and expectations can sometimes lead to miscues, so say more up front about what you are looking for and find those who are interested in the same.
Everything everyone else has said and make your profile more specific to your post here and see what happens. I would add be patient because people often dont read what you say your preferences are. Also many are just here for the pleasure of looking at your pics.
Hmm, I might not have all the details here but I'm just going to say.. If you're looking for a couple where you can enjoy your "girl on girl time" then you should DEFINITELY hit us up. I don't mind smoking a joint or playing Xbox with your man while you and my wife do your thing 😜.
I'm straight so I definitely won't mess around with him, and my wife is more than happy if she's not fucking him either..lol
But she seems to want a similar situation as you occasionally.. just a NSA female she can play with when she's in the mood.
I'm straight so I definitely won't mess around with him, and my wife is more than happy if she's not fucking him either..lol
But she seems to want a similar situation as you occasionally.. just a NSA female she can play with when she's in the mood.
SIMONEMARKS wrote:
Do any of you know of alternative sites for partial swingers. We have struggled to find couples who like to enjoy their own partner while allowing the ladies to play. It seems, here, that it offends when I, the lady, don’t share my guy. It works for us, but oddly is offsetting to many others. For me, if a woman doesn’t want to share her man but wants to play girl on girl…I’m perfectly happy with that. It’s her man, her limits. I’ve been told that means not everyone gets to play? I don’t understand that since everyone is playing. It’s a partial swap. Please let me know if you know of somewhere to find that.
Unfortunately website can be quite anti-semitic, they do not like semis here. Try the not-so-naughty sister site: wwww.semiswingular.com.
JBBEAGS818 wrote:CNTRLCPL wrote:
This is what happens when self proclaimed "Swinger Experts" try to join the conversation. If you don't swing "their way" you aren't swinging. Being soft swing ( mostly girl/girl ) we hear this all the time.
Bottom line is there are many many levels of "swinging" from voyeur to girl/girl to soft swap to full swap. Same room, different room, same city, different city. The levels and/or combinations are endless. We kind of assumed that is why there are so many "check boxes" on the preferences of this site. According to this logic there should only be two. ( Together or Separate )
Swinging is about equality, and fair exploration. If you say “I get to play, but not you” that’s not equal, it’s not swinging, and it’s not fair to all parties. It’s like calling it eating a meal together when one of you sits down to eat and the other only gets to sit there. Come up with your own name for it if you like, but it’s not swinging.
Sounds pretty close to acknowledged cheating to us.
We've found that there are people of all types on this site: Purists to those that are just dipping their toes. The purists will naturally feel that swinging is all about equality—100% sharing. Totally understandable and respectable. However, every relationship dynamic is unique. We're not yet comfortable with any swapping, but are intrigued by the lifestyle and respect the couples who are into it. We feel it would be interesting to get to know a lot of the couples and learn about their experience and how they became comfortable with it all. But because we draw a hard line, we want to make it a point to communicate our boundaries clearly. I think you'll be surprised that there are couples who are very much looking for the same thing as you are and have the same lines that you do, it's just a matter of continually looking and meeting new people. As in all of life, it's a numbers game to find what you're looking for. Don't get discouraged, just be communicative. 
Nothing wrong with your LS and preferences.
Nothing wrong with your LS and preferences.I understand you’re just looking for a little guidance and help finding what you want, that’s cool, I wish we could be more help. There are sites for bi/homosexual women, maybe try one of those.
We’re not sure why your shopping for a woman on a site that is primarily for couples then expressing frustration over it. On swingular, you’re the exception, not the rule, not the reverse.
Happy hunting.
We’re not sure why your shopping for a woman on a site that is primarily for couples then expressing frustration over it. On swingular, you’re the exception, not the rule, not the reverse.
Happy hunting.
This is why we've never identified ourselves as full swap only because while we enjoy that, it's not the only level we will play at. If we meet a couple we enjoy who is only interested in girl-girl then same partner, okay by us. We love sex with each other and having others present is a turn-on. We've played same room, same partner because the other couple was new and unsure where they wanted to take it.
Just make sure you are very clear in your profile what you're looking for and communicate with others if you just happen to meet. If they're not okay with it, they're not the right people for what you're looking for.
And yes, you can identify as swingers all you want, it's not up to anyone else to determine what you are or aren't. Happy swinging.
Just make sure you are very clear in your profile what you're looking for and communicate with others if you just happen to meet. If they're not okay with it, they're not the right people for what you're looking for.
And yes, you can identify as swingers all you want, it's not up to anyone else to determine what you are or aren't. Happy swinging.