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Hello friends!

We have not really been getting many people messaging on here and haven’t gotten to meet any new people in a while.
Is there a new ap or site where everyone is meeting other swinging couples at?
Craigslist used to work really well but R.I.P. to that..

Or are there any couples on here looking for a fun younger couple? We are open to most ages and lots of different scenarios.

We’d love to hear if you know of any other places people use to meet other swinging couples and singles or if you are interested in meeting us!
Attending events has really helped us a ton meet folks on here.

Also Risque Soiree sets up events too. Typically they post them here as well.

Nightshade Nights has an events page on Facebook and they'll post here too.

Sinful Saturday's are also a good bet.
Doublelist.com has replaced CL. It’s not everywhere yet but growing. We’d meet you two anytime!
There are lots of ways but we agree Craigslist seems to have been the best (that is a sad statement). Attending events and parties is a great way to find new people. Have you attended any of them?
Be patient. We talk to lots of folks on here but have difficulty getting out for the past 5 months. The events are the best way to meet others in a relaxed atmosphere. Be open friendly, don’t let others be pushy and only do what you both feel comfortable with kat the time.
Swingsites, I think, are dying a slow, painful death and one day in the not too distant future will probably cease to exist. We've been on a number of sites since the early days of the interwebs and most have gone under...and the two we're still on are in danger of becoming extinct.

There are just too many other platforms and apps that make it easy for people, especially younger swingers who are already predisposed to use those methods, to find and hook up with other people. It's really too bad because swingsites offer an arguably better, more discreet, way for people to browse other's profiles and pics in relative safety before they decide to venture off to meet.
Yes, we have been to a couple of events but it has been a while. We have been to the moose lounge a couple of times, haven’t been to any risqué soiree events though, they are too expensive for us!

We are a younger couple but aren’t really predisposed to knowing couples who want to hook up, so I guess we are doing it wrong or something! Lol
Luckyclover99 wrote:

I was wondering the same thing though. We've messaged a lot of couples and have only gotten one response. We went to an event 2 weekends ago and it was a lot of fun, but it really didn't expand the horizons for us.
Which even? We have found some of the events are really hit and miss and any of them that don't have a coverage charge (or limit the single males) usually aren't as successful.
Luckyclover99 wrote:

It was the Venus Game Night. It was fun but we are so new that we were just meeting people. We were so nervous.
We have found Rabbit Hole and Nightshades monthly parties/events to be decent. Getting involved with others will help you meet others and get invited to private parties. We have found kik groups/rooms not as successful in building those (maybe it’s just us).
We've been to events and still haven't had much luck if any on this site. People are rude at the meets, and people do reply to messages on here either. Were looking for an ongoing fwb situation if you guys are interested..
Hmmm, something else that may help is to avoid the 'blind friend request'.

It seems most couples here appreciate it when a requester takes the time to read their profile, extract details they personally identify with, and weave it into a custom message when they introduce themselves.

Chat back and forth, Kik with them, then ask for permission to view their private pictures.

This has harvested a high rate of return. We typically hear back from at least 50% of the couples we reach out to with this method.

Then we meet up with them at events understanding that there may or may not be chemistry, and that's okay.

So, if you guys carpet bombed the site with blind friend requests, that could be one reason it's been tricky.
Backinthesaddleagain is right in regards to not sending blind friend request. We have received a very good response rate.
The couple of events we have been to do seem very cliquey. People are often friendly, but everyone already know each other which sometimes makes it hard to “break into” a group or meet new people.

Anyways, we’d love to meet all of you if interested!
WildCouple88 wrote:

The couple of events we have been to do seem very cliquey. People are often friendly, but everyone already know each other which sometimes makes it hard to “break into” a group or meet new people.

Anyways, we’d love to meet all of you if interested!
We have found that to be somewhat true. There are some events where people will introduce themselves but for the most part. If you go up and introduce yourselves most people are very polite and open.
Lol. Think of what you can do for the swingers site not what the swinger site can do for you. Lol

On a more serious note... I think if we spend just a little more time looking at our profiles from second/third party view/angle we will see part of the problem. Hey you know what? 90% of the problem is the profile 5% is the first contacts and 5% you choose..

Swingular gave us a platform to connect.. I am not sure there is a payment plan that includes 1)what to say 2) where to meet 3) how to take it to the next level 4) how to improve skills in bed.. etc.

I didn’t think this site will be the UBER- for swingers (giving members RIDERS) until uber for swingers is created get your appreciation mode activated. Lmao cya.
Doublelist is on but is filled with more spammers than CL...hopefully they will be filtered out...worth checking out as another option though.
Curious if others have used it??
Agreed, this site is pretty clunky. Hit us up!
BACKINTHESADDLEAGAIN wrote:

Hmmm, something else that may help is to avoid the 'blind friend request'.
It seems most couples here appreciate it when a requester takes the time to read their profile, extract details they personally identify with, and weave it into a custom message when they introduce themselves.
Chat back and forth, Kik with them, then ask for permission to view their private pictures.
This has harvested a high rate of return. We typically hear back from at least 50% of the couples we reach out to with this method.
Then we meet up with them at events understanding that there may or may not be chemistry, and that's okay.
So, if you guys carpet bombed the site with blind friend requests, that could be one reason it's been tricky.



Absolutely agree with the blind friend requests. We will typically write a note to people sending a blind friend request before accepting anything and 99% of the time we get no response therefore we don't accept it. To be honest, we typically only see about a 10% response rate to messages we send out anyways. Many people read them and never respond.