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My husband wants to find and watch me take a big cock. He thinks it will be fun. I am a bit undecided. Sometimes I am heck yeah. Other times not so sure. Let's hear what others have to say with more experience than me. I am more looking for opinions than sending out an invitation. I need to decided if I like the idea before I choose. Please share your experiences.
Nice one... lol. I’ll be lurking ;)
This is a fantasy of a lot of men. But every woman is different and BUILT differently. We've definitely run into size queens in swinging and have met just as many women who want nothing to do with a large penis. As for our own experience, Ms. Evil is quite petite (5'2" and 115lbs. soaking wet) and can't comfortably take a really big cock.

She does enjoy a somewhat larger than average one (say 7 or 8 inches, give or take) on rare occasions but definitely wouldn't want a steady diet of a bigger cock. Her biggest problem with a big cock and having a rather petite vagina is that she usually enjoys very vigorous thrusting as she is nearing climax and multiple sessions of fucking during playtime. More often than not, a larger dick makes her too sore to enjoy more sex that same evening or even again the next morning (another big fav of hers after a great fuck the night before).

If you're asking JUST about what size is best or whatever, you might want to try a bunch of different dildos to see how big you can comfortably accommodate. YMMV

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Bigger than average is the best. Sent you a pm.
Size queen here!!
Where he knows how to warm her up, stick it in and she isn't in more pain than pleasure. This varies from lady to lady and takes a guy knows what he's doing.
Absolutely correct, JBBEAGS818. We've met SO many "hung" guys over the years who think that because they're larger than average they can just stick it in and pound away. In fact, the majority seem to be one-trick-ponies, relying on the size of their dicks to compensate for either their lack of knowledge and/or technique.

One additional thing to note. Girth FAR outweighs length as far as sensation, at least for Ms. Evil. She really doesn't enjoy having her cervix battered by a big dick. Especially one that's attached to a big dick who thinks he's reenacting some sleezy porno that he's seen.

And then there are those guys who try to pull the old, "My dick is too big for even Magnum condoms so I'll have to fuck you bareback."

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Mrs. Delicious says that there is such a thing as too big and too small, but most men fit into the size range that can do everything she might want to have happen. It's really more a matter of technique, and even more than that, a matter of how well she connects with the gentleman mentally. Polite, charming, intelligent, good humored men, tend to excel at the mental aspects of foreplay, and therefore often have more experience, and hence better technique. Other than me, the guy who is probably most often her favorite male playdate partner, is actually a bit smaller than I am downstairs. He is extremely charming. We have enjoyed quite a few wonderful MFM adventures together, involving his leather couch and his bedroom. I enjoy her recounts of the occasional hall pass playdate she enjoys with him. So much of sex is in the mind. Variety is erotic! Sometimes a sexually liberated woman may desire a man with a larger than average penis, or some other physical characteristic. Sometimes a man may desire a woman that has physical characteristics that differ from those of his wife. Sometimes a husband or wife might wish to watch their main squeeze with someone that looks a certain way. Desire is not static for most of us. Our desires as a couple and as individuals are very much influenced by what we know our other half enjoys doing and or watching. Our desires evolve and change with our moods. Back to the question. Too big would be too big to be comfortable. Too small would be too small to be simulative. There is a fairly wide range that fits in between those two extremes according to Mrs. Delicious.
I'm bigger than average, and in my experience, I've hurt* at least as many women as really enjoy a larger cock. It looks good on paper, but as Evil mentioned, some girls aren't exactly built for it, and some guys don't understand the dynamics involved.

It's made me cautious. I don't particularly enjoy hurting someone, and it's not always easy to tell the difference between oh, and owww.. and sometimes it's a ooh-oww, or oww-ohh.( What the hell do I do then?!? lol ) And in the heat of the moment, it's still possible to hurt someone, or myself.

Overall going slow, and LOTS of communication is the key!! Once everyone is more comfortable and familiar with each other things go just fine. :)

*I obviously stop / slow down, change positions, etc. Missionary usually is the best it seems. From behind is almost always a no-go for petit girls.
Too big?
Average is best. For the most part, If I had to pick I would choose on the slighty small rather than big. But every once in a while I do like my hair pulled, ass slapped and a large cock (ok more than every once in a while on the first two..lol)
Lol. Ok enough of my lurking.. I’ll jump in now and get on the nerves of those who don’t like comments already.. lmao. Lol.

I know many men believe they how how to fuck... so I am going to ask..
do you know how to fuck? If you answers yes.. I’ll ask do you really know how to fuck? If you answer yes then I’ll ask do you really really know how to fuck? If you answer yes to the 3rd question then you’ll know size almost barely matters.

I don’t have a big dick.. I think camera angle does the trick for me and possibly a turn off for those who don’t want to be IMPALED.

Hey.. i go in SLOWLY... I adjust... re-adjust... I Figure out the comfort zone.. all this happens in the first few minutes.. and I may ask questions.. view bodily feedback

ok before I talk too much.. why do we need a full-deep thrust anyways... We all know where the G-spot is located.. I think we should try positions most favorable to G-Spot stimulation and if possible... clit play combo.

How big is too big? It’s too big when the guy fucks like a moron.. lol. I think if a dick Is obviously mighty.. just say “hey! Give me half!” Done! Easy right? Lol

Hey! I am not all talk an no action.. please see Exhibit A. That marathon was half of my BBC (the other half was a waste. Lol)

Before you say.. MassageBBCguy you sound cocky and no one is going to like you... Well I tell you what... you are too sad that’s why you are not having as much fun. Lol. I am having fun that’s why I write this way... cya lol
Every woman is different. I've had one woman ask me to stop because I was too big and it was hurting, I've had a woman want DV with me and a large dildo.
OMG and LOL.
All so true. I maybe have not had much experience but what you all are saying is spot on. I don't need a giant one to get me there. I think he has watched one too many porno movies and thinks it looks more fun that it is. But It turns me on when he is turned on. So I am up for trying anything once. I have found I have liked some things I never expected I would.
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Lol it never gets old. Lol.
Everyone has their own opinion about this. But you need to form your own opinion. So we say, just go for it! Would love to hear how it went afterwards.
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Totally agree with you! You may have a large cock, but it's truly on how you use it also. It's so important to listen and feel how the other partner is.
Woman’s perspective here. I’ve rarely met a penis that I didn’t like but my sweet spot is a range between 5-7”. I find penises that size are the most comfortable for me and the most enjoyable ones to fuck and suck. That being said there are times that I’ve had partners that ranged from above average to OMG size. Don’t get me wrong, I do like large penises but the main factor is the experience of the one the penis is attached to! Smaller to average guys seem to really have they’re fuck game down. I once had sex with a guy who was way above average, probably 10” and he wanted to put it in balls deep and jack hammer the fuck out of me and it hurt like hell. On another occasion I had one that was slightly larger than him and he was a tremendous lover and it was an amazing feeling of my vagina being totally full. The key to sex with huge cocks is foreplay, foreplay, foreplay! The more turned on and wet I am relaxes me and expands my vagina allowing me to take a large cock. And the best sex positions for fucking really big dicks are when I am on top controlling the depth and tempo. Warning, do not try fucking a really large cock doggystyle!! It hurts like hell. Missionary is great too but he’s got to go slow penetrating you and work it in over time slow and easy. Once I’ve settled in and really wet and stretched out I am ready for balls slapping off my ass sex!! Tbh, I’ve yet to have a penis that I did not get satisfaction out of. I love all your guys cocks, no matter your size. 😘
fun4younme wrote:

My husband wants to find and watch me take a big cock. He thinks it will be fun. I am a bit undecided. Sometimes I am heck yeah. Other times not so sure. Let's hear what others have to say with more experience than me. I am more looking for opinions than sending out an invitation. I need to decided if I like the idea before I choose. Please share your experiences.


My husband is the same way darling. The bigger the better in his eyes and I think that goes for a lot of our men.
IME Just about 7" long and about 6.5 in circumference. Big enough around that she can feel it nicely even if she has had a few kids. Long enough to hit the cervix with out bashing the hell out a it. It called the Goldilocks Penis. And of course no one says you have to use all 7" everyone has what they like best... So really the best sex organ is a good set of ears.
They're all too big, but she keeps getting bigger strap ons and coincidentally having me check random rags to see if they smell like chloroform. I keep telling her I don't even know what that smells like, but i give it a whiff anyway and right as I start getting dizzy I wake up from my undiagnosed narcoleptic episodes. Every time that happens she has some shit eating grin on her face
and another new attachment that was bigger than the last one she was wearing. On a completely different note, there happens to be a clearly unassociated pain in my regions of proctological familiarity.

So when I say they're all too big, I don't know that I'm really able to speak with experience on the topic. I can say that it's nice to know that there may be an answer posted here if I just keep an eye out. One brown, aching, sore eye. 🤪
Speaking as someone thats bigger than average in length and girth...the women I have been with DO NOT like to be rammed, jack hammered, however you want to phrase it. I ask them if I can put it all the way in and I only move a little and it seems to work real well. I always go slow unless I get the green light to push hard. Positioning also seems to have an effect on how deep I can get. Legs and pelvis elevated on the edge of the bed is my favorite for getting in deep.

Heres hoping whatever you get is a good experience regardless of size.
so_il_couple wrote:

My husband is the same way darling. The bigger the better in his eyes and I think that goes for a lot of our men.


Truth!! And when I want to stick a finger or two in his ass he whines because “it hurts”....what a pussy. 😂
so_il_couple wrote:

so_il_couple wrote:

My husband is the same way darling. The bigger the better in his eyes and I think that goes for a lot of our men.

Truth!! And when I want to stick a finger or two in his ass he whines because “it hurts”....what a pussy. 😂


You having a conversation with yourself? 😁😂
If you have one....most likely are one...
Not the biggest but feel lucky
This is also a fantasy of ours, I'm more into the girth than length my husband would like to watch me with a couple well-endowed gentleman
I like mine on the medium size but a 9” won’t fit very well. My partner is about 7” it feels so good most of the time
male typing here, i am 8+ and what i have experienced is that although my wife likes a well endowed man size is not always the deciding factor for her, if the man is passionate and attentive and makes love to her not just pound her and make her feel like a piece of meat that is what gets her off to the point she will not only have multiple orgasms but squirt big time. so guys don't get hung up on I AM NOT BIG ENOUGH!!!take ur time with the woman ur with and pay attention to what u are doing to her and get into her head and respond to her reactions to what u are doing and ur in.... again this is just my opinion, lets all have some fun and we wish all u peeps a great holiday and a great new year
Mike&Dayna
UtSkier wrote:

male typing here, i am 8+ and what i have experienced is that although my wife likes a well endowed man size is not always the deciding factor for her, if the man is passionate and attentive and makes love to her not just pound her and make her feel like a piece of meat that is what gets her off to the point she will not only have multiple orgasms but squirt big time. so guys don't get hung up on I AM NOT BIG ENOUGH!!!take ur time with the woman ur with and pay attention to what u are doing to her and get into her head and respond to her reactions to what u are doing and ur in.... again this is just my opinion, lets all have some fun and we wish all u peeps a great holiday and a great new year
Mike&Dayna


I totally agree with you and remember eyes are the window into the soul. If you look into your partners eyes you will know if you are making her happy.
This seems like a good topic for lurking, at least for me. I suspect other guys are curious to know more on this subject too, but feel the subject is too close to home for them to contribute a disinterested viewpoint. But it is interesting and appreciate hearing what the ladies have to say.