Just out of curiosity, what brought you to the lifestyle? Are you and your spouse just wanting to liven it up? Looking to fulfill some fantasies? Do you want more friends and a little sexy time to go with it? What is it?
We are in it for the type of fun it takes more then a F and M. Plus just talking about events before and after makes us all hot and bothered. Talkimg about clear thoughts so many distractions take your mind of just about anything!
To be honest, I used to be one of those narrow-minded people who thought those in open marriages, swingers, etc. were just people who didn't really love their partner or couldn't "handle" a committed relationship/marriage.
Wife and I then discussed the possibility a few years back, my reasoning being that before her, I really hadn't been with many women, and the ones I had been with was more a one time or several times thing, so my experiences were limited, and now that I had "learned what I was doing" a little, my mind was curious on if it was just that my wife loves me and was attracted to me, or if I could please other women.
We decided after discussions to try it out. We met up with a couple that was more experienced, thrilling, and the whole experience was a roller coaster ride.
Years later, while watching a particular episode of "House, M.D." that deals with a couple who is either in an open marriage or swingers (can't recall), listening to the medical staff characters assassinate the idea of nonmonogamy the way I used to with short-sighted, unfair logic, it made me reflect on how much our views on something can do a 180 when we give it a fair shot. From this, I started wondering things, one of them being whether I actually "knew" if I was straight or not, or just assumed through society and toxic masculinity. I decided that the only way to know would be to open myself up to the idea of trying it and seeing what happened. Through that, I found out that I am at least bi-curious. I've had one sexual experience with another man, and it was both pleasurable and memorable. Haven't had much opportunity outside of that yet to expand and explore further.
I guess what I'm saying is we started this wanting to push our perceptions of things and find out what the reality beneath them was, and through that I have enjoyed becoming open to all sorts of new possibilities I never would've imagined. I can't wait to see what the world throws me next to test what I think I know.
Thanks all who made it through the novel, I know I rambled a bit. Not a lot of safe spaces to discuss things of this nature out there.
Wife and I then discussed the possibility a few years back, my reasoning being that before her, I really hadn't been with many women, and the ones I had been with was more a one time or several times thing, so my experiences were limited, and now that I had "learned what I was doing" a little, my mind was curious on if it was just that my wife loves me and was attracted to me, or if I could please other women.
We decided after discussions to try it out. We met up with a couple that was more experienced, thrilling, and the whole experience was a roller coaster ride.
Years later, while watching a particular episode of "House, M.D." that deals with a couple who is either in an open marriage or swingers (can't recall), listening to the medical staff characters assassinate the idea of nonmonogamy the way I used to with short-sighted, unfair logic, it made me reflect on how much our views on something can do a 180 when we give it a fair shot. From this, I started wondering things, one of them being whether I actually "knew" if I was straight or not, or just assumed through society and toxic masculinity. I decided that the only way to know would be to open myself up to the idea of trying it and seeing what happened. Through that, I found out that I am at least bi-curious. I've had one sexual experience with another man, and it was both pleasurable and memorable. Haven't had much opportunity outside of that yet to expand and explore further.
I guess what I'm saying is we started this wanting to push our perceptions of things and find out what the reality beneath them was, and through that I have enjoyed becoming open to all sorts of new possibilities I never would've imagined. I can't wait to see what the world throws me next to test what I think I know.
Thanks all who made it through the novel, I know I rambled a bit. Not a lot of safe spaces to discuss things of this nature out there.
Looking to add variety, fun and playing out at least one fantasy! I have had a fantasy of watching my husband play with another woman for as long as I can remember...and, he is willing to make it happen. Imagine that??? 
Shits and Giggles, Or Slap and Tickle, We started some years Back when I flat out asked the wife, "Just How Many Ways She Thought She Could Fuck A Fat Guy". Then after the Giggles stopped, I said perhaps expanding our thinking towards other Partners Could enhance our experience. So after 14 years, We have now become Nudists, and have a great group of friends in this Lifestyle! Cofusion Say "Patience Grasshopper, It Is, And Is Not, All About The Nukie, The Nukie, The Nukie!
Sunnyday, our goals are similar. We have approached the lifestyle very cautiously, and we have found that each step leads us to discussing more and more frankly with each other our deep-seated desires, fears, longings, fantasies, etc. It has improved our communication and understanding of each other immensely, and with that has come even deeper love and trust. We were rather surprised to discover that we both fantasize about watching the other one have sex with another partner. Fancy that!
We got into a car accident and the judge told us we either had to be the butler of the guy we hit or become swingers. 
It's all "Shits and Giggles" till someone giggles and shits...
MYRNASTWINS wrote:
Shits and Giggles, Or Slap and Tickle, We started some years Back when I flat out asked the wife, "Just How Many Ways She Thought She Could Fuck A Fat Guy". Then after the Giggles stopped, I said perhaps expanding our thinking towards other Partners Could enhance our experience. So after 14 years, We have now become Nudists, and have a great group of friends in this Lifestyle! Cofusion Say "Patience Grasshopper, It Is, And Is Not, All About The Nukie, The Nukie, The Nukie!
Bump
It can't be an accident that you bumped "SHITS and giggles" right after the pegging thread! 
The opportunity to mingle in the panoply of open sexual expressionism available within the community.
All the above, except for Evils pegging thread (we could have went our whole lives not seeing that).
We got into it to have an experiences and to fulfill fantasies we both have. And each time we fulfill one more come up through talks we have about the last one.
EVILDOERS wrote:. LOL. That’s one heck of a B!!!!!!!!!!!! BC lol.
It can't be an accident that you bumped "SHITS and giggles" right after the pegging thread!
Originally is was just curiosity but once we got involved we realized how much fun it was flirting playing and having sex with other partners. We have met some great people in the process and the honesty and openness of our own relationship has been enhanced by the experience. We also have fun when we meet other couples regardless of if we have sex or not. Now that we no longer have the responsibilities of work and family we can do exactly what we want. Does it get any better than that...not for us.