This is the male half writing. We're a mature couple looking to make friends and play with other couples. My partner is stunningly attractive, and has a hall pass if needed. She is highly sexual and is a fantastic lover. Like most women, she wants to have a connection before she'll get sexual. It's part of what makes a man attractive to her. Now here's the rub: We search through profiles together looking for couples we'd like to meet. First off, the vast majority of profiles have only pictures of the women. I might find the woman extremely attractive (in fact that happens a lot), but I'm not the decision maker. If my partner's not interested, we're not going to play. And seeing as she's straight, why would she be interested if there are only photos of the woman? Men, here is a hot, highly sexual woman looking, and you think you're going to have success using photos of your attractive wife as a lure? Yes, you get my attention, but what does that get you? Nothing.
Secondly, when we do find an interesting prospective couple, few seem willing to take the time to allow us to get to know them. So even if she has an initial physical attraction, she doesn't get the chance to develop that connection that let's her feel safe about expressing herself sexually. She has told me that when a man that she doesn't know comes on too strongly, it scares her.
The bottom line is that although my partner is willing to play, there is little here that appeals to her. And that is such a shame. Men, post some photos of yourselves, take the time to chat us up, be friendly, demonstrate to us that your partner is in this willingly, be personable, and let us get to know you. There; that's the list of our requirements. I don't think it's overly unrealistic, do you?
Secondly, when we do find an interesting prospective couple, few seem willing to take the time to allow us to get to know them. So even if she has an initial physical attraction, she doesn't get the chance to develop that connection that let's her feel safe about expressing herself sexually. She has told me that when a man that she doesn't know comes on too strongly, it scares her.
The bottom line is that although my partner is willing to play, there is little here that appeals to her. And that is such a shame. Men, post some photos of yourselves, take the time to chat us up, be friendly, demonstrate to us that your partner is in this willingly, be personable, and let us get to know you. There; that's the list of our requirements. I don't think it's overly unrealistic, do you?
We went to a few meet and greets and it seemed as though everyone knew each other and we were the new kids or outsiders looking in.
Brings to me the saying, Quality over quantity.
We are also this way. We play together and apart but we also prefer to make a small connection before jumping in the sack (I, the male needs to do this or I have major performance issues). As for being the kids on the block (hmm would that be the bondage stock?) It will be that way for a bit until you do get out there. We have experienced this from the kink community. At first we were shy and observant then we slowly let our curiosity get the better of us and now we are known and have lots of fun. So my advice to all, be patient and do it the way you are comfortable with. Once you are yourselves, then the right kind of people will be drawn to you.
P&J
We are also this way. We play together and apart but we also prefer to make a small connection before jumping in the sack (I, the male needs to do this or I have major performance issues). As for being the kids on the block (hmm would that be the bondage stock?) It will be that way for a bit until you do get out there. We have experienced this from the kink community. At first we were shy and observant then we slowly let our curiosity get the better of us and now we are known and have lots of fun. So my advice to all, be patient and do it the way you are comfortable with. Once you are yourselves, then the right kind of people will be drawn to you.
P&J
Sorry, OP, that's just the way it is. Ain't going to make me popular here but there's an awful lot of men here who have not kept themselves up as well as the wife has. I've always assumed that if the couple offered no pics of the husband? That's why. Ya prolly wouldn't be interested anyway.
There's also an awful lot of female bisexuality (and the desire to watch and encourage it by the husbands). This really isn't a site oriented toward serving the wants/desires of straight married women. It's primarily oriented toward meeting the desires of the married men and, if they exist, their bisexual partners.
Ya gotta sort through a lot here to find those diamonds in the rough! Good luck -- you are extremely articulate and quite a sexy couple -- I'm sure you'll find some folks eventually!
There's also an awful lot of female bisexuality (and the desire to watch and encourage it by the husbands). This really isn't a site oriented toward serving the wants/desires of straight married women. It's primarily oriented toward meeting the desires of the married men and, if they exist, their bisexual partners.
Ya gotta sort through a lot here to find those diamonds in the rough! Good luck -- you are extremely articulate and quite a sexy couple -- I'm sure you'll find some folks eventually!
@pals4fun.. you always make so much sense. Wow
We always make sure we have updates pics of both of us, though many more of the mrs...what can i say. MUCH more fun to look at than me...lol
We tried! But, sometimes it's just not a fit.
Tie-in with the right social circles, and you might find some Fun Friends who do interest you guys. Best of luck!
Tie-in with the right social circles, and you might find some Fun Friends who do interest you guys. Best of luck!
We are your age bracket and we are both pretty much HWP. We have 5 years experience in swinging. We have LS friends in the Salt Lake area and many of them we met from swingular. We also have friends here in Houston that we have met at parties or through other sites.
So here is some advice which you can take or leave. On your profile you are very non specific...I was not sure if you are are soft or full swap. Its seems like you would not play until you got to know some one. Non of this is wrong but it creates barriers to accomplishing what you want. My wife is not bi either but she may fondle a woman from the waist up but she wants a man. We may not play the first time either but if we were turned on then maybe we would. We are spontaneous and we go with the flow but we are specific (at least we think we are) in what we are looking for. Put some revealing photos up and be more specific on your profile.
Don't be afraid to reach out to others on email or on forums. Remember the more effort you put out the better the return. My first impression from your profile is that you want the soft glove treatment and that you are are using non specific wording. We have met couples not sure we were compatible with and had great sex with the night we met and it was ok. Ask someone to send you a picture of their guy so your lady can see him. Don't be afraid to go out and meet another couples and have the discussion to make you feel comfortable. Its ok to say we don't think this is gonna work for us. Never have an expectation of something and be surprised at the unexpected. Best of all have fun. Send us and email if you want to know more.
So here is some advice which you can take or leave. On your profile you are very non specific...I was not sure if you are are soft or full swap. Its seems like you would not play until you got to know some one. Non of this is wrong but it creates barriers to accomplishing what you want. My wife is not bi either but she may fondle a woman from the waist up but she wants a man. We may not play the first time either but if we were turned on then maybe we would. We are spontaneous and we go with the flow but we are specific (at least we think we are) in what we are looking for. Put some revealing photos up and be more specific on your profile.
Don't be afraid to reach out to others on email or on forums. Remember the more effort you put out the better the return. My first impression from your profile is that you want the soft glove treatment and that you are are using non specific wording. We have met couples not sure we were compatible with and had great sex with the night we met and it was ok. Ask someone to send you a picture of their guy so your lady can see him. Don't be afraid to go out and meet another couples and have the discussion to make you feel comfortable. Its ok to say we don't think this is gonna work for us. Never have an expectation of something and be surprised at the unexpected. Best of all have fun. Send us and email if you want to know more.