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We recognize that some people want to meet and communicate with single males (SM). That’s all good and we’re glad they have that option. We also recognize that the VAST majority of couples don’t want to meet or communicate with SM. We are among them.

We have blocked every single male account we have come across. Those same blocked SM are still able to message us. We simply don’t want to talk to them or have them viewing our profile.

Admin- please create the option to block ALL SM from viewing our profiles or messaging us.

To all the SM, who apparently can’t read or are so busy chasing tail that they don’t have the time to read profiles, let’s try some emoji-glyphics:

⚠️: 🚫🚹, 🚫🙍‍♂️, 🚫🍆📷. ⬅️🤢🤮.

⚠️: We 💜👩🏼,👩🏻‍🎤,👭,👰🏼,👫,🍑,🍉🍉. 🚻➕🚻🔥. 🚻➕🚺🎆🎇! 🚻➕👭🤯!

⚠️: We 🧡🌀_🌀 🔮!! Bonus points for anyone that deciphers that last one!

Gracias.
Screw that! Here, lets do this: Admin- please create the option to forward all SM to my profile. Oh. Except for the obnoxious ones who can't read. Send those to Evelyn Wood. Oh CRAP! I think I just dated myself really bady. Prolly no one else knows what the hell I'm referring to, eh? Sheesh ... rambling onward ...
I think about a month or two ago when I became active here.. I was using the mobile-site, I sent messages to some couples who have single-males blocked.. so there’s probably a glitch in the mobile-site that allows single males to bypass the BLOCK. I’ll be the first to say, when I look at my messaging history with Members and I see they have single males blocked.. I almost want to apologize for sending a message but that will be yet another message.

Single males.. let’s leave them alone, if they want us they know where and how to find us and that is why I almost never send the first message.
I never sent you guys a message and will not. Lol with the mobile site look like single males are not blocked. If Admin is seeing this.. here is the problem. I am totally fine with any plans to stop all single males from sending the first message.
That’s your profile...
To those of us who can read and don't send you messages that's still kinda rude. Especially considering there's at least 4 SM that I know in Salt Lake that are sex or kink educators and toy makers. Cut the assholes off all you want, but there's SM who you'll learn a lot from if you don't piss us all off first.
We keep a few single guys around because couples can be a bigger pain in the ass than the singles.
But that being said we have had to keep a few in the friend pending status because they don't get it lol.
But anything you don't want public don't put it on the internet!!
Here is the technique we use


“Start in an athletic, powerful three-point stance. This stance is the base of every block, and how you'll line up on the line before every play. Getting it right is not about looking good -- it is about maximizing speed and power right off the whistle. Remember:
Feet shoulder width apart, up on the balls of your feet, not your heels.
Knees bent and slightly in front of your ankles.
Bent at the waist, never the back. Your spine should form a straight, diagonal line.
Dominant hand on the ground for balance and support. The other hand is low, parallel to the ground.
Eyes up, looking at your target”
I am definitely in favor of having a way to block dumb single males. Perhaps some kind of online IQ test would help. Or maybe a quick Q & A about a profile that they would need to pass with a grade of at least 80% to be able to even send an email.

Actually, that's not a bad idea at all. We EASILY get ten emails from dudes who obviously don't bother to read our profile for every one who actually reads it. That would certainly solve the problem with spammed out emails.
I don’t think it will be an outrageous idea for single males to REPLY only and never be able to send a message first(with some admin setting) I have been here long enough to see how “we” suck and have watched some of us ruin it for the rest of us.. after being VERY LUCKY only when I received the first message, I stopped using the search feature lol. Heck, let’s disable the search feature too, single males don’t even need to search. Lol.
We really don’t want to bring any bad vibes and we respect everyone’s choice. Truly. Issues regarding SMs is a common complaint by couples and some SFs on this forum and at LS parties. Our suggestion is done on almost all other LS sites.

Rustiez...dude...LMFAO.

We spent a year meeting with a (we think the best in UT) sex educator/coach/counselor and an amazing MARRIED guy...and still do tantric training with him. It’s a professional relationship we don’t want it to be a LS relationship. Not looking for anyone else and we don’t want to know them in the context of the LS anyway. Judas Priest.

Rude? You mean, to want to filter out something we are not interested in is rude? Or is it rude calling out the morons that don’t read our profiles and continually message us? Go figure. #singlemalelivesmatter

We have seriously thought about posting a “SM Moron List” where couples can sceeen shot and post the dumb things SM say and send. It would be hilarious but again, we really don’t want to bring bad vibes.

“Piss us off...” Really? We don’t want to piss anyone off. We just don’t want single guys viewing our profile or contacting us. We’re not even the slightest bit interested in speaking to SM much less getting naked with any. I would hate to “piss them all off” and have them ignore us...

A SMART single guy would WANT the filter we have asked for. It would immediately weed out those who aren’t interested and make it easier for you to connect with those that want SM. Operative word there is, “smart.”

We also wouldn’t ban SM from the forum or anything else. We would just prevent them from clicking on profiles that choose to block them. Seems reasonable.
LMAO X1000.. Hey Admin can you guys create some “LIKE” counting feature? LMAO X1000 #R.I.P.Singlemales. LOL
Smartflirts wrote:

We really don’t want to bring any bad vibes and we respect everyone’s choice. Truly. Issues regarding SMs is a common complaint by couples and some SFs on this forum and at LS parties. Our suggestion is done on almost all other LS sites.

Rustiez...dude...LMFAO.

We spent a year meeting with a (we think the best in UT) sex educator/coach/counselor and an amazing MARRIED guy...and still do tantric training with him. It’s a professional relationship we don’t want it to be a LS relationship. Not looking for anyone else and we don’t want to know them in the context of the LS anyway. Judas Priest.

Rude? You mean, to want to filter out something we are not interested in is rude? Or is it rude calling out the morons that don’t read our profiles and continually message us? Go figure. #singlemalelivesmatter

We have seriously thought about posting a “SM Moron List” where couples can sceeen shot and post the dumb things SM say and send. It would be hilarious but again, we really don’t want to bring bad vibes.

“Piss us off...” Really? We don’t want to piss anyone off. We just don’t want single guys viewing our profile or contacting us. We’re not even the slightest bit interested in speaking to SM much less getting naked with any. I would hate to “piss them all off” and have them ignore us...

A SMART single guy would WANT the filter we have asked for. It would immediately weed out those who aren’t interested and make it easier for you to connect with those that want SM. Operative word there is, “smart.”

We also wouldn’t ban SM from the forum or anything else. We would just prevent them from clicking on profiles that choose to block them. Seems reasonable.


Or you could just use the block feature on assholes, and have it improved so it works on the mobile site. I'm not saying you want to get naked with a SM, I'm saying there are SM that are worth talking to, getting ideas and taking classes from, doing photography with, and getting toys.
SmartFlirts: we agree with you 100%, and ever since Craigslist went down the SM numbers here have skyrocketed.
A reasonable expectation to be left alone shouldn’t even be this hard to communicate. Looks you need to get an injunction or restraining order. LOL
I am venting too because some males don’t understand what STRAIGHT means... Although I have been very polite, I’ll use this platform to say I don’t receive BJ from men.. my gosh.. why do you think you have a MAGIC MOUTH that will make me cum at 1700 PSI?
massageBBCguy wrote:

A reasonable expectation to be left alone shouldn’t even be this hard to communicate. Looks you need to get an injunction or restraining order. I am venting too because some males don’t understand what STRAIGHT means... Although I have been very polite, I’ll use this platform to say I don’t receive BJ from men.. my gosh.. why do you think you have a MAGIC MOUTH that will make me cum at 1700 PSI?


It was bad for me when I first joined for that, but it was married men sending me messages for blowjobs behind their wives back when they thought their husbands were straight. There's a reason I have what I do in my profile.
Lol. I won’t cure people’s sexuality.. I just don’t want people thinking they may convert me. The funny thing is.. when I politely decline, the COUPLES or probably the Mr gets dumbly rude. I wish there could be a way to flag dumb singles and couples...
I agree SmartFlirt, it would save us from looking at profiles who are not intrested, not that I didn’t look anyway, but dint send a stupid message, did read the profile
^Thank you!! We would check out all the profiles too...how else would you know what others are into? Plus there are some hotties out there! Thank you again!
PALS4FUN wrote:

Screw that! Here, lets do this: Admin- please create the option to forward all SM to my profile. Oh. Except for the obnoxious ones who can't read. Send those to Evelyn Wood. Oh CRAP! I think I just dated myself really bady. Prolly no one else knows what the hell I'm referring to, eh? Sheesh ... rambling onward ...


Evelyn Wood did advocate, even require, the rapid use of fingers as part of the process. So.....
I actually read the profiles before I reach out and if it says no single males I don't attempt to contact them. I mean really, why bother?
I do however think that there should be a way for a single male to respond to others who have reached out but they have single males blocked in their settings.
Nothing worse than someone showing interest and then trying to respond and get a message that the email won't go through.
It's happened to me 4 times in the last few months. If any of you 4 are reading this I am not ignoring you, feel free to change your setting temporarily and message me again.
Here is an idea. Perhaps a couple of sharp and intelligent single guys should set up a monthly meet and greet, or should we say meat and greet for single men to meet couples, or singles women that are really into, or just curious about single men in the lifestyle. If a couple or a single female shows up, then single gentlemen know they are at least somewhat interested. If there is a understanding that once someone actually meets someone, that if they express their disinterest in any advancement of the relationship, that the no really does mean no, as to any further online or in person pursuit for sexual intimacy, then perhaps, the event might solve some problems. The guys that just don't get it, after seeing their competition, and there are some really sharp single men, might decide to work on who they are and what they have to offer, rather than trying to coax their way into sex. Hey, all of us need to keep on discovering the best within us. Perhaps once underway the gentlemen participants might even discover a way to distance themselves from the bad apples, by disallowing these guys from attending meet and greets. Predators try and isolate their prey. Meeting in public may be a great deterrent to predation. A couple could just say to a single man, we don't want to pursue any more communications online. If we meet you sometime at the aforementioned meet and greets, and there is chemistry, then who knows? Couples totally disinterested in single males could tell them sorry, but maybe you should attend those meet and greets. Really anyone could and should be disallowed for bad behavior. On the flip side if people meet and hit it off then let the adventures roll forth.
RUSTIEZ wrote:


Or you could just use the block feature on assholes, and have it improved so it works on the mobile site. I'm not saying you want to get naked with a SM, I'm saying there are SM that are worth talking to, getting ideas and taking classes from, doing photography with, and getting toys.


Dude, some people just don't want to deal with single men on a LS website. You seem to take this very personal, especially when they were signaling out certain SM that don't read profiles. I'm guessing you might be one of them? But either way, your responses to this thread makes you one of the SM's that couples hate dealing with.
Now concerning this website, we do have SM blocked but still get friends requests from them (even though our profile says no SM), but we never receive messages from them. So I'm guessing that the site blocks the messages but not the friends request. I think this should be corrected, if I don't want SM messages then I certainly don't want SM friends request. As for blocking SM from viewing my profile, I really don't care about that.
Mine says no single males and somehow all of them think they are a Exception to the rule.
Good for you. Some of us used to be in this lifestyle with our spouses when we were married. Now that we are divorced the lifestyle can keep the ex-wife and block us? Wow people. I thought this was a community where like minded people were welcomed.
ELDURO1311 wrote:

Good for you. Some of us used to be in this lifestyle with our spouses when we were married. Now that we are divorced the lifestyle can keep the ex-wife and block us? Wow people. I thought this was a community where like minded people were welcomed.


I still don’t want single males no matter the circumstance
RUBDOWN wrote:

I actually read the profiles before I reach out and if it says no single males I don't attempt to contact them. I mean really, why bother?
I do however think that there should be a way for a single male to respond to others who have reached out but they have single males blocked in their settings.
Nothing worse than someone showing interest and then trying to respond and get a message that the email won't go through.
It's happened to me 4 times in the last few months. If any of you 4 are reading this I am not ignoring you, feel free to change your setting temporarily and message me again.


Well said Rubdown. I've read so many different posts on the single male topic that I've come to realize that there must be a lot of jerks out there that don't read or are just assholes. It really makes it hard for those of us who do read and are respectful of others.

I will say though not all dumbs are males. lol a takeoff from an old blonde joke.
A question about Meet Up postings: When you post a Meet Up it asks who you are looking for and you check the boxes you want, single male, single female, couple. If someone posts an meet up and they only check single females and couples but their profile has interested in single males does the single male interest still show up in the meet up post?

I'm asking because I only contact people with meet ups that include single males but have had the posters respond back that they're only looking for couple or they're not looking for single males (that's if they respond back at all).

So, I'm wondering if that's a glitch in the system or if people aren't careful when they check the single males box.
FUNLOVING124 wrote:

Smartflirts
Understood, single makes can never be smart like you and have a hard time reading but maybe you should read your profile, the part that says" single males wanted" . Change that and maybe single males will stop wasting your valuable time?


Maybe some of us “dumb” single males could help Smartflirts out by fixing their profile? 😂
SHENANIGANIZER wrote:

Now concerning this website, we do have SM blocked but still get friends requests from them (even though our profile says no SM), but we never receive messages from them. So I'm guessing that the site blocks the messages but not the friends request. I think this should be corrected, if I don't want SM messages then I certainly don't want SM friends request. As for blocking SM from viewing my profile, I really don't care about that.



I agree with you. If you’ve blocked single males then you shouldn’t get the friend requests either. But if you happen to run across a single male that you reach out to from your side maybe you were drunk I don’t know. I am assuming that you would expect a reply back from him. Currently the site will not let that happen if you’ve blocked them.
Some of us are good guys and respectful. I’ve had a number of people that have initiated contact with me but I couldn’t reply because of the block. So for those of you that wanted handyman work done or just wanted to chat I wasn’t ignoring any of you! Lol.
🙄 at this whole discussion.
I think it's all of a single, maybe two clicks to delete a message and block someone. I'm a pretty busy doctor and I can squeeze that into my schedule. On the other hand, blocking single males should be a pretty easy option to implement, and if a couple wants to do that, then I'd guess that it's probably not a couple a single male would want to meet anyway?
RUBDOWN wrote:

SHENANIGANIZER wrote:

Now concerning this website, we do have SM blocked but still get friends requests from them (even though our profile says no SM), but we never receive messages from them. So I'm guessing that the site blocks the messages but not the friends request. I think this should be corrected, if I don't want SM messages then I certainly don't want SM friends request. As for blocking SM from viewing my profile, I really don't care about that.

I agree with you. If you’ve blocked single males then you shouldn’t get the friend requests either. But if you happen to run across a single male that you reach out to from your side maybe you were drunk I don’t know. I am assuming that you would expect a reply back from him. Currently the site will not let that happen if you’ve blocked them.


Well that's just stupidity on the couple that blocked single males. But I agree with you, SM should be able to respond back.
Abput one whoms wife passed or even one that had x call say i abroaded ur baby
I am a widoer stay single now for 12 yrs give this unquie male a chance to show u how intelligent smart this old man is i might so surprize u . u wont want ever to let me get away
About. This single fellow let u ladys do what ever. U would like to do to me use me make me in ur ualls personal and most pleasureable bitch u had strip it on and just fuck me in ass and use bonage theory ill make it ur alls most freaky sexaul experience pleasureable u lady will or could dream having
So.eof males think u ladys are dont as smart as u think or nor way near right on stuff u ladys think u are a few of of single guys are bad guys behind blue eyes nor would 1 like me use u for money housse car or be abuse of to as i can honestly say this god as my witness am a dosmitic volince viticm and a victim of a child whom commit. Susisde now give this one single male a chance ladyz i can make ur wiildess dreams actually come true give me a chance i prove u my loyalties are to those whom give this male of one of a kind the rearest breed of man the most tuffest broken heart men u will ever know and ill make u so sexual pleasureable happy make u think omg hes right when money come forth worth millions and party time work if u want ill make u so sexually happy u will sreacm
Ttoom47 wrote:

So.eof males think u ladys are dont as smart as u think or nor way near right on stuff u ladys think u are a few of of single guys are bad guys behind blue eyes nor would 1 like me use u for money housse car or be abuse of to as i can honestly say this god as my witness am a dosmitic volince viticm and a victim of a child whom commit. Susisde now give this one single male a chance ladyz i can make ur wiildess dreams actually come true give me a chance i prove u my loyalties are to those whom give this male of one of a kind the rearest breed of man the most tuffest broken heart men u will ever know and ill make u so sexual pleasureable happy make u think omg hes right when money come forth worth millions and party time work if u want ill make u so sexually happy u will sreacm


Hell no
Ttoom47 wrote:

So.eof males think u ladys are dont as smart as u think or nor way near right on stuff u ladys think u are a few of of single guys are bad guys behind blue eyes nor would 1 like me use u for money housse car or be abuse of to as i can honestly say this god as my witness am a dosmitic volince viticm and a victim of a child whom commit. Susisde now give this one single male a chance ladyz i can make ur wiildess dreams actually come true give me a chance i prove u my loyalties are to those whom give this male of one of a kind the rearest breed of man the most tuffest broken heart men u will ever know and ill make u so sexual pleasureable happy make u think omg hes right when money come forth worth millions and party time work if u want ill make u so sexually happy u will sreacm


HUH?????? Did you just choose the middle word on your phone's keyboard 600 times?
I'm Maybe you should do the same with the truck and I'll let you know what your ending inventory is as of Dec 31st and the people in this group to do it at once and for the invite in your room while he sleeps in the guest bedroom and I'll be there in the morning.

I'm actually surprised that turned out a lot cleaner than I thought it would. Usually my keyboard selections are perverted.
Please be aware that under the My Account pull down you can block single males from viewing your profile. It does not mean they cannot send you a friend request or maybe even an email.

To those of you that continually get bent out of shape when single males do whatever. Please remember no site is perfect and you can choose to ignore whatever it is you do not like on this site or any other. Why create drama over this particular issue just because its not what you want. Nobody is forcing anyone to be here (at least I hope not) and you get to choose what you respond too and what you want to delete.

Our suggestion is to ignore or take the appropriate steps to alleviate what you do not want and get on to the point of the LS...having fun and then have some more fun.
SKICOUPLE wrote:

Please be aware that under the My Account pull down you can block single males from viewing your profile. It does not mean they cannot send you a friend request or maybe even an email.
To those of you that continually get bent out of shape when single males do whatever. Please remember no site is perfect and you can choose to ignore whatever it is you do not like on this site or any other. Why create drama over this particular issue just because its not what you want. Nobody is forcing anyone to be here (at least I hope not) and you get to choose what you respond too and what you want to delete.
Our suggestion is to ignore or take the appropriate steps to alleviate what you do not want and get on to the point of the LS...having fun and then have some more fun.


Well said my friend!
So is this site against single males? I'll delete my account if this is so...Thanks
Poozer1621 wrote:

So is this site against single males? I'll delete my account if this is so...Thanks


No, this site isn't against single males. Some people on the site, however, absolutely are. Other's don't really have a problem with single males as long as they don't contact them, and still other's are perfectly fine with single males and even encourage and enjoy contact with them.

In other words, it's just like every other corner of the internet where people don't always think or act the same way and want and like (or dislike) different things. Universal acceptance for ANY particular type of person or group is never guaranteed in life...or in swinging.

Some single males seem to think this is very unfair but it's not really any less fair than couples or singles who don't want to have contact with older people, or people who are overweight, or people of certain ethnic backgrounds, or people some might deem as too young, or people of certain socioeconomic groups, or...well, you get the idea. Hell, I've been rejected for (at different times in my life) both having and not having a beard, for not being completely devoid of body hair, and for not having a 10-inch dick.
EVILDOERS wrote:

Poozer1621 wrote:

So is this site against single males? I'll delete my account if this is so...Thanks

No, this site isn't against single males. Some people on the site, however, absolutely are. Other's don't really have a problem with single males as long as they don't contact them, and still other's are perfectly fine with single males and even encourage and enjoy contact with them.
In other words, it's just like every other corner of the internet where people don't always think or act the same way and want and like (or dislike) different things. Universal acceptance for ANY particular type of person or group is never guaranteed in life...or in swinging.
Some single males seem to think this is very unfair but it's not really any less fair than couples or singles who don't want to have contact with older people, or people who are overweight, or people of certain ethnic backgrounds, or people some might deem as too young, or people of certain socioeconomic groups, or...well, you get the idea. Hell, I've been rejected for both having and not having a beard, for not being completely devoid of body hair, and for not having a 10-inch dick.


The take away for everybody is read peoples profiles, and if their content suggest that you are not who or what they are looking for, then maybe it is best to leave them alone.

I read something recently that claimed a study on dating sites concluded that people tend to contact people that are around 25% hotter than they are. I have no idea how they came up with that conclusion, but if it is accurate, then there may be a 50% difference in hotness expectations that's getting in peoples way. If we all tend to favor people 25% hotter than we are, and they are doing the same, then we may be 50% less attractive then our target market's, target market. It's pretty funny if you think about it! Perhaps we all imagine that some of the dudes that contact Smartflirts are a bunch of greasy little mindless creatures, but with Smartflirts being really hot, if these guys are 25% less attractive than Smartflirts, they may still be guys some of us mere mortals would be happy to consider.