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We’re looking for a fun married couple to be “friends with benefits” (close to our age) who are fun, attractive and spontaneous that we can be best friends with, in and outside of the bedroom. We've had experience with this in the past and it was blast! This is more than just sex for us, we're looking for a long lasting friendship/relationship with this couple. We have no interest in threesomes, same room sex, group sex or swingers parties. Just a fun couple to be exclusive with.

About us... We're an outgoing married couple, we both have sarcastic and fun personalities, we like to drink (socially), we don't smoke, we're D&D free, we both have professional jobs and are respectful and classy - all of which is what we're looking for too. We workout 3-4 times a week, so being physically fit is important to us.

- He's 36, six foot four, 245lbs, athletic build, dark blonde hair, great smile and dreamy blue eyes (straight as an arrow).
- She's 37, five foot five, 135lbs, athletic build with amazing curves, blonde hair, stunning grey eyes and great smile (bi comfortable).

Reach out to us if you’re interested and let's have some fun 😁
We’d love to meet you guys
We have had this experience before and really enjoyed it! Would be nice to find that again...
We have had this before with another couple and would love to do this again. We had an exclusive relationship with another couple for over 2 years. Did a lot of fun things together including vacations. It was a lot of fun. We do miss it. It is sometimes hard though to find that great connection between four people and have it work so well. Here’s hoping!
We'd love for this to happen aswell. It's all we've ever really wanted and have had it with a couple couples, over the course of a long period of time. Since moving here, doesn't seem so easy to find.
We just got out of a exclusive friendship and it was the best 9 months in the LS.
It’s like the ocean sometimes it’s great but sometimes the waves are too big.
But to be honest I wouldn’t have traded the last 9 months for anything.
We are still friends and that’s why we got in the LS.
If any of you have the opportunity it’s a great experience.
The idea of hanging out with family and always having friends to hang out with is priceless.
The LS can be about sex but we enjoyed the closeness and the friendship.
The wife and girlfriend are still besties.
The reason for breakup is not important the important thing here is that it was a beautiful friendship and we would love to find that connection again.
It’s very rewarding
Love it
I currently have my Exclusive FWB mode activated (meaning I am currently in MFM exclusive thing)
For me... I was not looking for Exclusive FWB and as matter of fact a cursory review of my opinions in your other Post will show that I was always dissenting
MassageBBCguy what’s your point?
Well...in the past When someone throws me the idea of E-FWB I always thought of it as a full blown relationship and I always passed until I met my friends..
I would have passed again if they said “oh we are looking for Exclusive FWB” but for us, I was not looking and they were not looking.. it just Happened.
Finally
I may be very wrong but! Maybe if you don’t look for it (with the chance of scaring some who are not looking) and just let it be, maybe it will happen like it did for us.
Ok MassageBBCguy is driving NB on the SB lane? I doubt that.
We are also looking for a long term relationship with a couple to have as fwb. We're a newly polyamourous married couple and have had no luck finding couples that would be interested in dating or having a ltr. We'd love to chat or meet up and see if we click. Feel free to check out our profile and message us if you feel we may be what you are looking for.
Anybody into interracial couple?
We're not looking for single males.
Hahaha. Isn’t that the beauty of this site? always getting the opposite of what you are looking for.. btw that single male is a couple (interracial couple) #singlemale. Lol
We are sure you guys won't have any issues finding sexy couples 😀
We're warming up to the idea of this...anyone interested?
We wouldn’t be opposed as well sounds fun
Ok we're in with the idea
ITSFUNTRYINGNEW wrote:

We are sure you guys won't have any issues finding sexy couples 😀
thank you kindly :)
Something exclusive and long term would certainly be preferred :)
Sammie117 wrote:

ITSFUNTRYINGNEW wrote:

We are sure you guys won't have any issues finding sexy couples 😀
thank you kindly :)

Anytime
Finding the right fit is difficult, but we've had some great experiences and it can be very much worth it.
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We’ve never had exclusive, but we have found couples where everyone is very into each other. Exclusive could be very fun though.
We're actually looking for an Exclusive Couple. Sounds like it would be fun.
seems difficult finding the right fit.
This sounds like a lot of fun, but hard to find. Let us know if interested. Also, we love the idea of a MFM exclusive thing with a M or F. Hubby loves the idea of me getting a BF, so anyone interestd in that get a hold of us too. :) Good luck!!
Maybe you want to try a different route?
You think there is any chance that your open quest for E-FWB may be doing you a disservice? as a matter of fact.. maybe a post like this is probably a repellant? I am hoping It’s not a SWINGICIDE.
People have said sometimes 1 person takes one for the team in MF + MF situation.. from my distant light-house, I’ll say I think someone in the E-FWB may be taking one for the team for a LONG TIME and possibility of that happening is why some people may not be giving it a chance.
I am the biggest pundit when it comes to MF MF conversations...
That is my opinion and it’s not a criticism really.
We already friend requested, accept and then dropped but we get it. We just want the same.
This is what we have always been looking for but have only come close once😕 years ago.
Still looking as well....
fourplay wrote:

Still looking as well....


It’s tough finding the right couple. We’re picky though so I guess that’s how it goes. We’re in no hurry though.
Sammie117 wrote:

fourplay wrote:

Still looking as well....


It’s tough finding the right couple. We’re picky though so I guess that’s how it goes. We’re in no hurry though.


Picky is good. This is about quality for us. Sounds like you feel the same. You'll find them! XOXO
fourplay wrote:

Sammie117 wrote:

[quote=fourplay]Still looking as well....


It’s tough finding the right couple. We’re picky though so I guess that’s how it goes. We’re in no hurry though.


Picky is good. This is about quality for us. Sounds like you feel the same. You'll find them! XOXO[/quote]

Yeah, I know we will. It's hard to find the right fit. We've had some success in the past. It is a lot of fun though. Looking forward to finding that IT couple ;)
We are also looking for this. Would be open to chat with any couples interested in the same.
Have always looked for this since I started, when single, then married, now single again. Finding the right couple is as hard as people have said, finding a couple that all three are on the same page. both have a great sense of humor and hopefully they find my sarcasm enjoyable as well, open to play with both separately, hoping they are too. committed but not a ton of rules but things we can all agree on. I am lucky and have been lucky finding couples that I have this connection with, as far as the age question in forum, they all are older than I. as far as the pretty question in the forum, we are all not models but I can find beauty in each one of them from their heart to how they treat all with compassion, everyone is beautiful in their own way!!
We would love to find a couple to have this kind of a relationship with again.
MattieTorres wrote:

I have read some that comment stating that this is swingsuicide. That boy just talks to much. Lol. We have found a couple on swing that fits out E-FWB. It will happen patience is tested at times but when found you forget about the time it took.
. LOL I talk a lot.. It’s mostly just a whateverish opinions..
I’ll add.. some black folks are kinda sensitive.. “boy” could be derogatory BUT I doubt that’s your intention.. lol..
@fourplay.. you ok? That sounded political? Weird.
You are not white and you still don’t agree with me? That is the Dumbest Statement I have seen in 2018.. It’s ok NOT be a fan of mine.. if you want to Jab.. gosh atleast let it be reasonable..
You chose the wrong place to bring racist shit up. Don't please. This isn't 1950. We don't use "boy" like that.
So please....you're not funny or right. Matte Torres didn't mean it like that. So don't go there. We don't need that here.

You may apologize
Excuse me? I may apologize? Oh I see this is an IQ issue... Those are hard to fix.. I am done.
Thank you. Let's keep the forum sexual. Nothing personal. But this is about sex. Not attacking another member cuz you think they used a derrogatory term.
I think they used a Derrogatory term? Do you realize I said “I doubt that’s your intent” I am very careful responding to couples because there’s a slight chance the Queen may be typing.. but if this is the male.. Why do you feel a sense of urgency to display your severe ignorance?
And by the way....you don't think a woman can't correct you? You don't think I'm fucking smart enough to you call you out?

You are now not only racist but sexist.

Massage BBCguy is racist AND sexist.

(Consult a friend please. You need help. Like a lawyer...they'd say SHUT UP. You're digging a hole for yourself .)
You are being very weird.. you don’t need more than a cursory observation to get my point above..
I am getting lightheaded trying to understand what is really going on here. I’ll get more “pussy”? I am sorry, I am not looking for or into pussy... I am into Queens and looks like I’ll definitely not be getting more pussy..
Oh I see.. bye. Wow
So...back to the sexy subject at hand that ONLY involved couples.........
Imagine traveling together to a tropical island...getting horny...spending a week together in a tropical beach...fucking ...eating...drinking....repeat for days! Fun together!
We love something like this had it once before. It's just hard to find that perfect couple to mesh with all around.
I thought as much.
BOOBIELOVIN wrote:

We love something like this had it once before. It's just hard to find that perfect couple to mesh with all around.


its true. its roughly 4 x as difficult to find the right fit.
Sammie117–great thread! Thanks for starting it.
There are many couples looking for the same thing or similar. Us included.
Maybe invite all interested/like-minded couples to "meet and greet" or low key party and get to know people all in one night?!
At one point you will find what you are looking for or they will find you. It will happen!
I still maintain that most of us (Yes, Ms. Evil and I are guilty of this as well.) make it much harder than it actually needs to be. While we agree that being "picky" and finding "quality" is very important, I think a lot of us are so busy trying to find perfect that we often overlook good or even great.

I guess my point is that I think a lot of us might be quite surprised at the quality of connections we made with others if we looked FOR reasons to say yes to meeting and playing with people instead of consciously or subconsciously looking for reasons NOT to play. Some of THE best connections we've had (and still have!) in the lifestyle were people that we initially didn't really see much attraction/connection with initially. Weird, huh?
@Evildoers... nice one.
EVILDOERS wrote:

I still maintain that most of us (Yes, Ms. Evil and I are guilty of this as well.) make it much harder than it actually needs to be. While we agree that being "picky" and finding "quality" is very important, I think a lot of us are so busy trying to find perfect that we often overlook good or even great.

I guess my point is that I think a lot of us might be quite surprised at the quality of connections we made with others if we looked FOR reasons to say yes to meeting and playing with people instead of consciously or subconsciously looking for reasons NOT to play. Some of THE best connections we've had (and still have!) in the lifestyle were people that we initially didn't really see much attraction/connection with initially. Weird, huh?


The way we look at it is we're in no hurry and we're letting people into our private lives, the least we can do is be patient and wait for the right couple. We've had some great experiences and no doubt we'll have more. Doesnt mean we're not open-minded. But it's about quality, not quantity.
We are guilty of being picky so we understand where Evil is coming from. Sometimes if we just meet people we find other qualities of a couple to exceed maybe their physical appearance. But we also agree don’t lower the bar just to play.
Wow that escalated quickly...
Not really talking about lowering the bar necessarily...more just not getting in your own way by setting impossible standards that few, if any, couples might likely ever meet. And like I said, Ms. Evil and I are absolutely as guilty of this as the next guy.

My only point was that in almost THIRTY years of swinging we have, on more than one occasion, been surprised by our eventual connection with couples that we didn't really even give a second glance the first time we met them. Sometimes quality is a very fluid concept that, as humans, we aren't always great at judging.

And we agree 100% about quality over quantity. In fact, if you consider the actual number of couples that we've played with in almost three decades in the lifestyle you'd likely surmise that we were either extremely picky or just really lame swingers (Actually, that last one might be true. lol).

Bottom line, you absolutely should ONLY fuck people you want to fuck but maybe, just maybe, give a little thought to your criteria for choosing couples and think about which things on your checklist might actually end up not being all that important and prevent you from finding some really great people that might not check off every single box. And speaking of boxes, I'll get off MY soapbox now.
We agree with what you are saying!
EVILDOERS wrote:

Not really talking about lowering the bar necessarily...more just not getting in your own way by setting impossible standards that few, if any, couples might likely ever meet. And like I said, Ms. Evil and I are absolutely as guilty of this as the next guy.

My only point was that in almost THIRTY years of swinging we have, on more than one occasion, been surprised by our eventual connection with couples that we didn't really even give a second glance the first time we met them. Sometimes quality is a very fluid concept that, as humans, we aren't always great at judging.

And we agree 100% about quality over quantity. In fact, if you consider the actual number of couples that we've played with in almost three decades in the lifestyle you'd likely surmise that we were either extremely picky or just really lame swingers (Actually, that last one might be true. lol).

Bottom line, you absolutely should ONLY fuck people you want to fuck but maybe, just maybe, give a little thought to your criteria for choosing couples and think about which things on your checklist might actually end up not being all that important and prevent you from finding some really great people that might not check off every single box. And speaking of boxes, I'll get off MY soapbox now.


agreed.
We would be interested!
Question:
If a swinger couple hooks up with another swinger couple, and they develop an exclusive play relationship that last for years, can they really still be called swingers?

In my mind, “swingers” assumes a certain amount of promiscuity. If we are only fucking one other couple, I’d say we are FWB, but no longer swinging.
We've had this before and found its a very comfortable place for us. With the right combination it can be very rewarding and fun. Evil said it best When he referred to not setting standards that most couples won't measure up to. We've been pleasantly surprised by couples who at first we didn't think we would connect with. Some of which are still great fwb. We would love to find that group of friends we can travel with ...play with...and just hang with.
@hotluvrs. Lol.
I was having a conversation with someone the other day.. I didn’t even know how to describe myself. I guess I am not a swinger because I don’t have a partner.. is there a code name for single males?
Candyrocks69 wrote:

now to find the right couple...


Therein lies the trick, haha ^_^
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We'd love to meet you guys. It would be cool to hang out
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We are also in the market !
That's the same for us also...3-4 couples for periodic travel adventures & get together where we all have great chemistry and trust. Who's in?
Totally agree. We try to focus on no more then 2-4 couples at a time. More then that can be overwhelming and plus we don’t like constantly trying to find new people we may connect with. We enjoy the friendship aspect as much as the playing.
We too are still hoping to find that couple that all four of us are getting what we want. It is tough, but we keep trying. 🤞🏻
Ok we must be the exception. No offense to any posters above, but for ourselves we have absolutely no interest in finding another full-time couple. To much work to much drama too many landmines. We prefer having a small group of couples that we can interchangeably play with on a semi-regular basis, with the occasional one night stands that turn into rinse and repeats every six months or so. Same holds true for single females and males.
MandLforFun wrote:

MJFUN711 wrote:

We too are still hoping to find that couple that all four of us are getting what we want. It is tough, but we keep trying. 🤞🏻

Damn, you guys are hot! Wish you lived closer

Isnt that how it always is..... too far away.
MandLforFun wrote:

UTAHFUNTIMES wrote:

Ok we must be the exception. No offense to any posters above, but for ourselves we have absolutely no interest in finding another full-time couple. To much work to much drama too many landmines. We prefer having a small group of couples that we can interchangeably play with on a semi-regular basis, with the occasional one night stands that turn into rinse and repeats every six months or so. Same holds true for single females and males.

Optimally, we'd like a group of 3 or 4 other couples we could hang out with, travel with, and play with on a regular basis. Exclusivity can kinda kill the whole fun and excitement element of the lifestyle. But having a group of actual friends with benefits, eliminating the less desirable aspects of the lifestyle like weeding through the flakes constantly...that would be amazing


A small group of friends like this sounds awesome....in a perfect world. We have a hard enough time getting a single couple to stay in contact with.