What do you see that most interest you in someone?
LIVINLVN1 wrote:100%
Someone professional with class and that is articulate
It really depends on the person. Healthy and vibrant physically. Someone who is kind, funny, good humored, self-aware, open emotionally, honest, expressive, intelligent, curious, forgiving, tolerant and that has a generous spirit and some self confidence, that side steps conceit. If someone is curious and intelligent they always seem to become articulate, at least in their own way, whether or not they have a lot of formal education. Generosity does not require that someone has a lot of material or monetary assets. People who are self aware, seem to have a very real and humble self esteem. Our best gifts come from within. When I am interested in someone I want to know them, hear more about them, feel with them, know them better. People like that inspire us to be better, so that we deserve to be with them. You just can't have that with someone you can't trust. People like that come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. Good looking is great, but personality hits me squarely between the eyes!
Me, myself, personally am attracted to a woman that enjoys sex. Hearing them moan or scream. Seeing their back arch. Watching their toes tense. Feeling their nails in my skin. Feeling their knees quivering.
Speaking from my limited male perspective I feel a lot of males, not necessarily in this community, are more about the objects of sex. The story to tell, the notch on the belt, the “10” they railed last night, so and so’s mom, or that dirty threesome. I really feel for many it’s about the trophy or just pure selfish lust with lack of consideration for the partner.
For me it is much less about looking like a “Draper” or “Farmington” mom with perfect 36-32-36 measurements and more about the connection. I like to get in step physically with my partner, to feel her move under my touch, and ultimately give them, and in turn myself, pleasure.
And I like full boobs and big asses.
Speaking from my limited male perspective I feel a lot of males, not necessarily in this community, are more about the objects of sex. The story to tell, the notch on the belt, the “10” they railed last night, so and so’s mom, or that dirty threesome. I really feel for many it’s about the trophy or just pure selfish lust with lack of consideration for the partner.
For me it is much less about looking like a “Draper” or “Farmington” mom with perfect 36-32-36 measurements and more about the connection. I like to get in step physically with my partner, to feel her move under my touch, and ultimately give them, and in turn myself, pleasure.
And I like full boobs and big asses.
Scratch that, I didn’t realize you meant at first glance.
Definitely a nice soft smile.
Definitely a nice soft smile.
NOT profiles that are dick pics😅
That's an automatic NO j/s
That's an automatic NO j/s
AWHOOTY wrote:
NOT profiles that are dick pics😅
That's an automatic NO j/s
Same here, and not a fan of the zoomed in pussy pic as a profile picture, either. Lol!
I agree that classy is attractive as well as a gorgeous smile and beautiful eyes. But a picture or presence that gives off a fun and playful energy (not just sexual) is extremely hot!
Couple... Well, I need that connection. Wife, not so much, which is fine... But I need it...
Kind of a broad question. What sparks our interest in someone in general? Sexually? Towards wanting to be BFF's?
Probably first and foremost would be personality in general and sense of humor specifically. Mostly because someone that doesn't have a somewhat irreverent, facetious sense of humor probably wouldn't like OUR sense of humor. We'll hang all night with some fun, funny people that we don't have to censor our thoughts and words around.
Now if you're talking about getting to the point where we want to fool around sexually then it gets a bit more complicated. Personality still rules but it there isn't at least a LITTLE bit of physical attraction then what's the point? Having said that, however, a sexy and sex-positive attitude can go a LONG way towards making someone more attractive to both of us.
Probably first and foremost would be personality in general and sense of humor specifically. Mostly because someone that doesn't have a somewhat irreverent, facetious sense of humor probably wouldn't like OUR sense of humor. We'll hang all night with some fun, funny people that we don't have to censor our thoughts and words around.
Now if you're talking about getting to the point where we want to fool around sexually then it gets a bit more complicated. Personality still rules but it there isn't at least a LITTLE bit of physical attraction then what's the point? Having said that, however, a sexy and sex-positive attitude can go a LONG way towards making someone more attractive to both of us.
Personality and passion. A person must have a passion in something. When they talk about it, something that is important to them, they just light up. Show their true self in the best light. I like to laugh with someone, so sense of humor is always a must. I have met some people that just put the sexual need above all else and doesn't respect the person that they are; but if you connect on both levels, the sex and time is amazing.
Maybe it's just from my experiences but it's just how I view it on my front.
Maybe it's just from my experiences but it's just how I view it on my front.
Sense of humor is first. But ultimately we really like people who are not full of themselves. If your screen name even has the word cock in it.... sounds like you have nothing else to offer.
NIKITA wrote:
A person must have a passion in something. When they talk about it, something that is important to them, they just light up.
I recently ran across someone that was really passionate about their career. I did find that unbelievably sexy.
i like people who hold true to their word
not your typical utah flakes
not your typical utah flakes
GOLDENSPIDER wrote:lol sounds more like a Jab
i like people who hold true to their word
not your typical utah flakes
I am a big fan of kind eyes..... with limited vision... 😏
I also like warm hands.... that are on the smallish side 😋😏
I also like warm hands.... that are on the smallish side 😋😏
If we think about what attracts us to another couple, although it might be initially physical attraction, similar level of fitness and things in common...it goes deeper than that. The popular people in any aspect of life, are not necessarily the best looking. We also look for those that are friendly, warm and smile...are not snobbish or think they are better than others and come with a great attitude. Self confidence and a great attitude go a long way.
We believe that if you want to be successful in the lifestyle, you must be friendly to everyone. It does not mean that you want to play with everyone, but everyone deserves to be treated with kindness and respect.
Also remember, you never get a second chance to make a first impression. This also applies when communicating thru this site. If all one does is click the “friend request” button and think that is somehow warm and inviting...just keep in mind that was your first impression, which comes across as lame or lazy and most likely without ever reading the recipients profile.
Treat others as you would like to be treated. Smile, be friendly, be warm, be kind when meeting in person. And if meeting online, send a nice email greeting and a few warm words to compliment a “friend request”.
We believe that if you want to be successful in the lifestyle, you must be friendly to everyone. It does not mean that you want to play with everyone, but everyone deserves to be treated with kindness and respect.
Also remember, you never get a second chance to make a first impression. This also applies when communicating thru this site. If all one does is click the “friend request” button and think that is somehow warm and inviting...just keep in mind that was your first impression, which comes across as lame or lazy and most likely without ever reading the recipients profile.
Treat others as you would like to be treated. Smile, be friendly, be warm, be kind when meeting in person. And if meeting online, send a nice email greeting and a few warm words to compliment a “friend request”.
Awesome! That’s a very nice compliment LIVINLVN1
I have found that my best relationships, even sexually. Humor is by far the most important things. Now, I am one to laugh at my own jokes. so odd, I know? However, if the suitor returns hilarious remarks back at me. I might play in the fire for a minute! Keep me laughing and pandora will open her box!
Now, if you can dance like Patrick Swayze, and never put Baby in the corner. I will do that too!!!
p.s.
I am pretty feisty so you better be ready! haha
Now, if you can dance like Patrick Swayze, and never put Baby in the corner. I will do that too!!!
p.s.
I am pretty feisty so you better be ready! haha
"PERSONALITY", if they don't have that they are "NOT" interesting to me. Looks, size, shape, doesn't matter as long as they have a good personality, (Ken & Barbie types usually "SUCK" in personality as to sold on themselves)
Pure, raw magnetism.... But only when my cock is hard as nails....
Eyes. Smile, congenial, small breasts for both my wife and I.
What attracts us? (Assuming this is based on profile...not face pics.)
1. Preferences
2. Pic
3. HWP
4. "What they're looking for..."
1. Preferences
2. Pic
3. HWP
4. "What they're looking for..."
What attracts us is 99% personality and 11% looks (yes that is 110% and if you can name a movie that has a quote about 110% you get the gold star). Someone can be the best looking person in the world and still be ugly because the personality is snobby or vapid or self involved. Sense of humor is a must. Sex in general is hilarious if you sit down and think about it and if you cant laugh about it then why are you having it. So basically what we are saying is its more about connecting on some level long before looks are considered. You can tell a lot from some one just based on how they write their profile or respond to messages or even post in the forums.