When considering meeting another couple, whether they contacted you or you initiated contact after looking at their profile, which factor is THE most important factor (and why) that you use to help determine whether or not you might be interested in meeting and possibly playing with a couple or even a single?
1) Body type. Height/weight proportionate.
2) Age.
3) Where they live.
4) Content of their profile that seems compatible with our interests and/or desires.
5) Face pics, if they have them, or once they open their private pics.
6) Whether or not they seem real. Things like photos of both, if they are a couple, length of time they've been on the site, or maybe testimonials from others who have met them.
7) Lack of 'red flags' on their profile and/or in their communication with you.
8) None of the above/other.
I know it seems a little weird that I'm asking all these questions but I'm very curious as to why so many people seem to complain that being on Swingular is a waste of time and/or money and why, in general, people seem to be hooking up less than they did in years past. Thanks in advance for your feedback.
1) Body type. Height/weight proportionate.
2) Age.
3) Where they live.
4) Content of their profile that seems compatible with our interests and/or desires.
5) Face pics, if they have them, or once they open their private pics.
6) Whether or not they seem real. Things like photos of both, if they are a couple, length of time they've been on the site, or maybe testimonials from others who have met them.
7) Lack of 'red flags' on their profile and/or in their communication with you.
8) None of the above/other.
I know it seems a little weird that I'm asking all these questions but I'm very curious as to why so many people seem to complain that being on Swingular is a waste of time and/or money and why, in general, people seem to be hooking up less than they did in years past. Thanks in advance for your feedback.
1 & 4
Agreed, 1 and 4 and if there are no pics of the male half is a red flag. Not sure why 99% of the pics are of the female.
In order of priority our considerations are 4, 7, 6, 5, 3, 1, 2. But really we are not complaining. We have had good fortune meeting people and hooking up. When we have the time and the motivation we seem to have success. We hook up less often than we used to, because between family opportunities and work we are just really busy.
When I use to swing it was more based on the other dude not being to dominate or controlling and how my gf felt. About both. Attracted to the girl and not weirded out by the dude.
Something we sort of discovered, early on, is that any online communications that begin with some level of negativity, or seem a bit unilateral by nature; or the person, or persons, seem to try and shift around their persona to get a yes, or seem to be willing to use some form of guilt or shame or insults as a persuading factor, tend to be the same sort of people if you actually end up meeting them in person. Trust your gut!
Big mistake we have made is as follows: A really nice couple or single contacted us, but one or both of us are not really interested in them sexually, and while trying to just be friendly, we fail to send the message that we are not in a place where we want to sexually hook up with them. At least not right away. It is perhaps a human weakness, that all really nice people, don't immediately become as sexually attractive as they deserve, to all other really nice and deserving people. One of the most difficult aspects about opening up sexually, is our inability to be sexually attractive to everyone we desire, or to be sexually attracted to everyone who might desire us. People can become very attractive over time. Navigating the waters that flow between friendly and sexually aroused, can be difficult.
Big mistake we have made is as follows: A really nice couple or single contacted us, but one or both of us are not really interested in them sexually, and while trying to just be friendly, we fail to send the message that we are not in a place where we want to sexually hook up with them. At least not right away. It is perhaps a human weakness, that all really nice people, don't immediately become as sexually attractive as they deserve, to all other really nice and deserving people. One of the most difficult aspects about opening up sexually, is our inability to be sexually attractive to everyone we desire, or to be sexually attracted to everyone who might desire us. People can become very attractive over time. Navigating the waters that flow between friendly and sexually aroused, can be difficult.
EVILDOERS wrote:
When considering meeting another couple, whether they contacted you or you initiated contact after looking at their profile, which factor is THE most important factor (and why) that you use to help determine whether or not you might be interested in meeting and possibly playing with a couple or even a single?
1) Body type. Height/weight proportionate.
2) Age.
3) Where they live.
4) Content of their profile that seems compatible with our interests and/or desires.
5) Face pics, if they have them, or once they open their private pics.
6) Whether or not they seem real. Things like photos of both, if they are a couple, length of time they've been on the site, or maybe testimonials from others who have met them.
7) Lack of 'red flags' on their profile and/or in their communication with you.
8) None of the above/other.
I know it seems a little weird that I'm asking all these questions but I'm very curious as to why so many people seem to complain that being on Swingular is a waste of time and/or money and why, in general, people seem to be hooking up less than they did in years past. Thanks in advance for your feedback.
If I could add 9. Personality? Emojis and LOLs are my biggest turn ons.. people say they want to have “fun” but when you start Communicating you get a business-like vibe. This site a waste of money? LOL. LOL I disagree, I don’t think it can get better than this.. I LOVE IT HERE
massageBBCguy wrote:EVILDOERS wrote:
When considering meeting another couple, whether they contacted you or you initiated contact after looking at their profile, which factor is THE most important factor (and why) that you use to help determine whether or not you might be interested in meeting and possibly playing with a couple or even a single?
1) Body type. Height/weight proportionate.
2) Age.
3) Where they live.
4) Content of their profile that seems compatible with our interests and/or desires.
5) Face pics, if they have them, or once they open their private pics.
6) Whether or not they seem real. Things like photos of both, if they are a couple, length of time they've been on the site, or maybe testimonials from others who have met them.
7) Lack of 'red flags' on their profile and/or in their communication with you.
8) None of the above/other.
I know it seems a little weird that I'm asking all these questions but I'm very curious as to why so many people seem to complain that being on Swingular is a waste of time and/or money and why, in general, people seem to be hooking up less than they did in years past. Thanks in advance for your feedback.
If I could add 9. Personality? Emojis and LOLs are my biggest turn ons.. people say they want to have “fun” but when you start Communicating you get a business-like vibe. This site a waste of money? LOL. LOL I disagree, I don’t think it can get better than this.. I LOVE IT HERE
You are, as are all of us, in charge of what you choose to focus on. So why not focus on all the positive! We have felt the love here too!
#6 is probably the most important to us. You can usually tell a "fake" from those items. #3 is also important. Nothing worse than traveling for hours just to find what was supposed to be a bi couple only to find a straight guy cheating on his wife.
7, 4 ,1 in that order
We feel 4,6,7,2,1,5,3 would be the order. Personality would be a huge consideration and in the top three.