Social media affords us the opportunity to discover, communicate with, meet and enjoy the company of some fantastic people! Social media dedicated to the swinging lifestyle, allows us the opportunity to do all of that and MORE, with open minded, sex friendly, positive people, who enjoy the same kind of intimate consensual human interactions, and adventures!
Social media also allows angry people to start arguments. Anyone who has ever been part of a close and abiding circle of friends knows that friendship cannot be demanded, it has to be earned, and it is best earned by just being friendly. As for intimacy, well intimacy, the ability to really be intimate usually evades any of us when we are contentious, complaining and demanding. Isn't it just a bit harder to trust someone who is always angry?
So we have both worlds around us at all times. When in person and on the web. Is it possible, that whatever experience we're enjoying, or enduring, on the web, or when we are face to face with people, is determined by where we focus our attention? What if, all we are looking for and more, friends, excitement, adventure and sex, was out there, IS out there, all the time?
Social media also allows angry people to start arguments. Anyone who has ever been part of a close and abiding circle of friends knows that friendship cannot be demanded, it has to be earned, and it is best earned by just being friendly. As for intimacy, well intimacy, the ability to really be intimate usually evades any of us when we are contentious, complaining and demanding. Isn't it just a bit harder to trust someone who is always angry?
So we have both worlds around us at all times. When in person and on the web. Is it possible, that whatever experience we're enjoying, or enduring, on the web, or when we are face to face with people, is determined by where we focus our attention? What if, all we are looking for and more, friends, excitement, adventure and sex, was out there, IS out there, all the time?
YOU chill out!
EVILDOERS wrote:
YOU chill out!
She is SOOOOOO (count them six Os) into me! I can tell!
You take a great point of view about swingers and their attitude towards others. Of course most swingers would not discuss politics or religion when attempting to create a sexy adventure with others. I mean why create a situation for disagreement...nothing sexy in that. Perhaps swingers are more respectful of others as they would wish to be treated that way also. We have wonderful swinger friends that we disagree with politically yet it never seems to dampen our interactions.
There are circumstances where anger can add something to a sexual encounter but not often. Maybe revenge sex (very nice indeed), make up sex or break up sex can turn an angry situation into a sexy situation but not often.
Its all about attitude and what you hope to accomplish, for us its fun and happy swinging adventures. No disaggreement or contention just respectful people looking for some fun.
There are circumstances where anger can add something to a sexual encounter but not often. Maybe revenge sex (very nice indeed), make up sex or break up sex can turn an angry situation into a sexy situation but not often.
Its all about attitude and what you hope to accomplish, for us its fun and happy swinging adventures. No disaggreement or contention just respectful people looking for some fun.
SKICOUPLE wrote:
You take a great point of view about swingers and their attitude towards others. Of course most swingers would not discuss politics or religion when attempting to create a sexy adventure with others. I mean why create a situation for disagreement...nothing sexy in that. Perhaps swingers are more respectful of others as they would wish to be treated that way also. We have wonderful swinger friends that we disagree with politically yet it never seems to dampen our interactions.
There are circumstances where anger can add something to a sexual encounter but not often. Maybe revenge sex (very nice indeed), make up sex or break up sex can turn an angry situation into a sexy situation but not often.
Its all about attitude and what you hope to accomplish, for us its fun and happy swinging adventures. No disaggreement or contention just respectful people looking for some fun.
I think that perhaps there in a tendency for some people to try and belong, by adopting the prejudices, that might be voiced by the people they are trying to get acceptance from. People who may be a bit less stable emotionally might take that to extremes. Happens in politics and maybe it happens just a bit within the lifestyle community. If the in group that they want to belong to does not prefer a certain type of appearance, gender preference, sexual preference, whatever, they will go out of their way to insult and sort of persecute those sorts of people to try and find favor within their target group. We have gone to meet and greets, where we have been approached by people, who rather than just honestly letting us know they were interested, they spent more time telling us what losers their perception of the majority of the other attendees were and how we were more like them and not like the rest of the crowd. They point out some commonality we might seem to share with them. We don't attend a meet and greet to develop a sense of superiority or inflate our or their egos. We let them know we are very much like the crowd in many ways. When we are really in the moment and really connecting with anyone or anything, do we think in terms of our ego? Or do sublime moments remove us from the burden of ego? Ego can make wall flowers of any of us, if it overrides our curiosity, humanity and sense of adventure. Maybe sex can be such a sublime healing event that all those differences and all the self labeling that seem so important get reframed. Do we see realty more clearly in the afterglow?
Social media / improper managed chat rooms ..have made it hard for us to connect with others due to bullying and childish games. We find the activities and gatherings better then we dont have to deal with the childish behavior.