Is it just us or has anyone else noticed an influx of single males on the site? We constantly get hit up by them lately and it’s annoying. I think since Craigslist went down they’ve all come here. Anyone else noticed this?
We have definitely had this issue as well!!
We have had this talk after turning away single males. We understand there is a need for them sometimes. There really is. But we really feel this whole experience would be more enjoyable if it really were couples ONLY. There should be a section for SM or something where they could be contacted if/when necessary. But the people who run this site seem to have completely given up on it. Facebook seems to update ever few weeks. We haven't seen a change on this site... Ever? The main page advertising is months old!!
Making a website isn't that difficult these days. Maybe it is time to create a new .Com for people to join and meet up. One with a Single Male corral that couples can enter and they can't leave.
Making a website isn't that difficult these days. Maybe it is time to create a new .Com for people to join and meet up. One with a Single Male corral that couples can enter and they can't leave.
Being a single male. I can sympathize, but in all fairness, if you are not interested in a single male, don't mark it in your profile that you are. I realize there are some dumb shits out there that can't read or who don't read, but there are some of us out here that do respect your wishes and read your complete profile before contacting you. Please accept my apology if I offend any of you, I am just stating my opinon as I have experienced interactions on this sight.qq
That's what happens when bleeding heart liberals lobby to restrict hunting single males. The herds get HUGE and they come down into our neighborhoods, eat our shrubbery, and poop in our yards. We're going to ask our city council to again designate (like they did a few years back) some urban archers to cull the herd before we're overrun and/or many of them starve to death (or die from Blue Balls Disease) from overpopulation. It's too bad we can't reintroduce some of their natural predators that used to keep their numbers in check.
It's only ever going to get worse. The dating ratios and availability of dates for (most) men to find is non-existent. The pretty boy asshat on Tinder/Bumble has created a 30 point shift in dating preferences. 60% of single guys can't get dates in the US when they try through dating apps now. Buckle up folks it's about to get sloshy wet, it's raining men.
If I am not mistaken, you can block single males from contacting you. Then you can selectively contact them if and when you want to include them in your adventures.
Well, at least we know that by their very nature they will eventually die out because they haven't figured out how to breed with each other (yet!) and thus perpetuate their species. But I fear that may be the reason we're seeing so many...they're trying to cross-breed with our womenfolk to prevent their genus from dying out. 
I agree. It's getting old.
We have block single males selected but they still send us messages all the time. Mind you that we do want a single male friend for the occasional mfm but prefer to contact them. When they just send blind friend requests or dick pics she typically just deletes.
RUSTIEZ wrote:
It's only ever going to get worse. The dating ratios and availability of dates for (most) men to find is non-existent. The pretty boy asshat on Tinder/Bumble has created a 30 point shift in dating preferences. 60% of single guys can't get dates in the US when they try through dating apps now. Buckle up folks it's about to get sloshy wet, it's raining men.
Hmmmm. That's starting to sound just a tad (Chad?) close to INCEL territory there.
Blah blah blah Block us, it is that simple. Then you can go about your business.
I hate seeing profiles that say "We are looking for a single male" and they have single males blocked. WTF?
Or those that don't want single males yet they allow single males to contact them. WTF?
So bitch all you want but go block us. Just saying....
Mav
aka, a single male who has been on the site since the beginning of time.
I hate seeing profiles that say "We are looking for a single male" and they have single males blocked. WTF?
Or those that don't want single males yet they allow single males to contact them. WTF?
So bitch all you want but go block us. Just saying....
Mav
aka, a single male who has been on the site since the beginning of time.
The wife enjoys single males, so just send them our way.
I know that some single males were at times irritating when We were a Couple. Now being a single male I know both sides. I have known some couples and single females that weren't to pleasant either.
I try to have compassion for the person(s) on the other side of the fence no matter which side I'm on. Onward We march ... just not a perfect world and I can accept that ~
I try to have compassion for the person(s) on the other side of the fence no matter which side I'm on. Onward We march ... just not a perfect world and I can accept that ~
Really, the single males that do well on this site, are the sort of guys that do well on most any vanilla social media dating site, out on the town, or with the ladies they associate with at work or while pursuing a hobby. If you are blaming the site, society in general or women individually, you are missing altogether why these guys do well. Guys that do well don't talk at women, and they don't talk about women as the problem. Learn how to have a pleasant, polite and charming conversation with a woman and everything just might change. Oh, and guys you don't have a chance of getting that right if you don't actually like women. Not just want to fuck women, but actually like them, esteem them, respect them, adore them, etc.
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
Really, the single males that do well on this site, are the sort of guys that do well on most any vanilla social media dating site, out on the town, or with the ladies they associate with at work or while pursuing a hobby. If you are blaming the site, society in general or women individually, you are missing altogether why these guys do well. Guys that do well don't talk at women, and they don't talk about women as the problem. Learn how to have a pleasant, polite and charming conversation with a woman and everything just might change. Oh, and guys you don't have a chance of getting that right if you don't actually like women. Not just want to fuck women, but actually like them, esteem them, respect them, adore them, etc.
And therein lies the conundrum, I think. Single guys who do well in the lifestyle tend to have the looks/personality/demeanor/patience to do just as well (maybe even BETTER!) in the vanilla dating scene and therefore don't necessarily need swinging to get their fair share of sex. But the OP is right. I took this video late today of single males rushing to get into a swing party.
Single guys, if you are going to show up, at a swing event, don't be a couples cock blocker, for lack of a better term, and try and insert yourself in the middle of couples obviously doing well together and conversing at a meet and greet. If you see a couple flirting with a single guy, here again, it does not mean that you have their permission to go get involved. Social skills are every bit as important within the swing community as they are in the vanilla dating world.
Many, if not most, of the wives and husbands, who are part of a swinging couple, are women and men that did not have any problem getting into romantic and sexual relationships when they were single. We are not, and never were desperate for sex or sex deprived. Hell yes, a lot of swingers are interested in discovering new and exciting lovers, and in pursuing a variety of sexual adventures! We do remain discriminate as to who we will date, and or fuck as part of our sexual adventures! If a guy can't get laid in the vanilla world, joining a swing site, or showing up at a swingers event probably won't make any difference. Polite, charming and attractive single men, who enjoy an association with the swing community, because they enjoy playing with couples, groups and such, tend to find some friends to play with, in and out of the swing community.
If you are a single guy and you are consistently striking out, it's not our fault, it's yours.
Many, if not most, of the wives and husbands, who are part of a swinging couple, are women and men that did not have any problem getting into romantic and sexual relationships when they were single. We are not, and never were desperate for sex or sex deprived. Hell yes, a lot of swingers are interested in discovering new and exciting lovers, and in pursuing a variety of sexual adventures! We do remain discriminate as to who we will date, and or fuck as part of our sexual adventures! If a guy can't get laid in the vanilla world, joining a swing site, or showing up at a swingers event probably won't make any difference. Polite, charming and attractive single men, who enjoy an association with the swing community, because they enjoy playing with couples, groups and such, tend to find some friends to play with, in and out of the swing community.
If you are a single guy and you are consistently striking out, it's not our fault, it's yours.
We tend to have better luck with single males not being flakes and always being respectful. Granted there is always the exception, but that goes for couples as well.
EVILDOERS wrote:RUSTIEZ wrote:
It's only ever going to get worse. The dating ratios and availability of dates for (most) men to find is non-existent. The pretty boy asshat on Tinder/Bumble has created a 30 point shift in dating preferences. 60% of single guys can't get dates in the US when they try through dating apps now. Buckle up folks it's about to get sloshy wet, it's raining men.
Hmmmm. That's starting to sound just a tad (Chad?) close to INCEL territory there.
Quoting stats from a dating survey on dating behaviors is Incel? Give me a break.
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
Really, the single males that do well on this site, are the sort of guys that do well on most any vanilla social media dating site, out on the town, or with the ladies they associate with at work or while pursuing a hobby. If you are blaming the site, society in general or women individually, you are missing altogether why these guys do well. Guys that do well don't talk at women, and they don't talk about women as the problem. Learn how to have a pleasant, polite and charming conversation with a woman and everything just might change. Oh, and guys you don't have a chance of getting that right if you don't actually like women. Not just want to fuck women, but actually like them, esteem them, respect them, adore them, etc.
Those are the guys that are in the top 20% of the population. I think Evildoers are trying to call them "Chads".
First of all, it was a joke. Second of all, I qualified it by saying "just a tad"...and it was STILL a joke. But you can have all the breaks you want.
And "Chads" are a term from the video and from incel sites. I was trying, poorly apparently, to make a pun.
And "Chads" are a term from the video and from incel sites. I was trying, poorly apparently, to make a pun.
As we read this post we laugh as we are currently looking for a single male for the wife to play with and have messaged multiple individuals and have got very little response back. What happened to the interested single males everybody speaks of????
INFINITY4U wrote:
As we read this post we laugh as we are currently looking for a single male for the wife to play with and have messaged multiple individuals and have got very little response back. What happened to the interested single males everybody speaks of????
Their wives won't let them leave the house. Jk...they're not married, they're single. Their GIRLFRIENDS won't let them leave the house.
As far as why 'WE' are allowed its simple, $$$. The business model of any dating site needs single men to survive. The administrators said it themselves a year or so ago in a post.
This is so funny on our profile says we are looking for single males NO couples and all we get hit up by are couples but all were looking for are single males bisexual males that’s all we want is another man in our sexual quest I have even put up booty calls looking for single males to have fun with （╹◡╹）
EVILDOERS wrote:INFINITY4U wrote:
As we read this post we laugh as we are currently looking for a single male for the wife to play with and have messaged multiple individuals and have got very little response back. What happened to the interested single males everybody speaks of????
Their wives won't let them leave the house. Jk...they're not married, they're single. Their GIRLFRIENDS won't let them leave the house.
Seriously, if a polite, charming and attractive single gentleman can host playtimes, from time to time, he will most probably find himself having a lot of fun. Yes he would want to only invite over respectful couples. The right sorts of guys get recommendations. We know we have recommended single gentlemen we have or do play with to couples we have, or do play with and it seems to more often than not work out. Yes a lot of single men were once married and may have children just like couples, They may have roommates and can't easily host. For those that can, hosting, ends couples worries about whether or not he is really single. He might just find himself sexually involved with more than one couple at a time. We know guys that have or do hook up fairly regularly because they enjoy this advantage. We don't have the time or the inclination to deal with subterfuge. The more cloaking involved in setting up a hook up, the less likely the dude is legitimate. We don't have the time to do a lot of traveling for a hook up. So we let it be known that if a guy does not live in Salt Lake County and cannot host it is much less likely we will agree to meet him. Once we started doing that we discovered that although we get fewer approaches from single men, the ones we do get are mostly from guys that are verified "Real" or "VIP" and that usually seem to have a few positive recommendations. On the flip side when we post a booty call that we are looking to play and host, we get a lot of approaches from men even if our booty call says we are looking for couples. What does that suggest?
Being a single female and having swung some years ago as a couple, I thought I'd weigh in on this 
It is almost amusing to watch the love/hate relationship that the couples and single males have with each other. I get blind friend requests from both couples and single males alike. Interestingly enough, I have had more mature, insightful introductions from single men than I have had from couples. Most couples will send me a blind friend request even though on my profile I have specified that I'd like a message with it. For those couples who half-ass it, the message generally equates to "Aye, how you doin'".
I am guilty of sending the occasional blind request. It is rare and usually only if I notice the recipient has not been on the site for quite some time. Personally, I enjoy both couples and single guys and have never specified either not to contact me. Like with anything else, not everyone who contacts you is going to be 'right' for you. And deleting things take less than 30 seconds (depending on how fast or slow the site is running that day).
Obviously, many things on this site could be managed better, but to be fair, since there is a need for single males, they really have just as much right to be on here as the couples or the single females like myself.
It is almost amusing to watch the love/hate relationship that the couples and single males have with each other. I get blind friend requests from both couples and single males alike. Interestingly enough, I have had more mature, insightful introductions from single men than I have had from couples. Most couples will send me a blind friend request even though on my profile I have specified that I'd like a message with it. For those couples who half-ass it, the message generally equates to "Aye, how you doin'".
I am guilty of sending the occasional blind request. It is rare and usually only if I notice the recipient has not been on the site for quite some time. Personally, I enjoy both couples and single guys and have never specified either not to contact me. Like with anything else, not everyone who contacts you is going to be 'right' for you. And deleting things take less than 30 seconds (depending on how fast or slow the site is running that day).
Obviously, many things on this site could be managed better, but to be fair, since there is a need for single males, they really have just as much right to be on here as the couples or the single females like myself.
It has been bit harder I guess being single guy on here as couples are always after the single ladies and or seems like the single ladies are more for couples but I have meet lot of cool people on here and hey if nothing happens nothing happens but at least youve hopefully made a friend or two out of it all