Ive seen a few men on here complain about the lack of response and the lack of success. Here are a few tips.
1. Dont start with a dick pic. This can be major turn off and too big if a red flag for a woman. If a female or couple want a picture they will ask
2. Have a decent set of profile pics. This can be a first and last look you get. Avoid this first picture as a dick. And it makes no sence to have a girl as part of a profile picture if your a single guy. This is misleading. And a couple looking for another couple this can be annoying.
3. Be you. Dont be fake. Its not hard to find the fake ass people.
4. Your user name. Anything like Big dick, thick dick, and really anything talking about a dick being huge can get a couple to not contact you. Not alot of husbands are looking to be out done but are looking for someone to join. Meaning same size or close. There are alot of wives in that that will not go for a bigger dick becuase they dont want to cause their partner to feel less like that.
5. Patience. To a woman or couple time is key at times. They want to get to know you. Dont push sex down their throats. Let them being the idea and the conversation there. As a couple we are tired of unasked dick pics. If we wanted to see it we'd ask. If we feel like we want to talk about swx we can bring it up. But we will be done talking of pushed away.
6. Dont be clingy. That is creap shit. Just saying.
1. Dont start with a dick pic. This can be major turn off and too big if a red flag for a woman. If a female or couple want a picture they will ask
2. Have a decent set of profile pics. This can be a first and last look you get. Avoid this first picture as a dick. And it makes no sence to have a girl as part of a profile picture if your a single guy. This is misleading. And a couple looking for another couple this can be annoying.
3. Be you. Dont be fake. Its not hard to find the fake ass people.
4. Your user name. Anything like Big dick, thick dick, and really anything talking about a dick being huge can get a couple to not contact you. Not alot of husbands are looking to be out done but are looking for someone to join. Meaning same size or close. There are alot of wives in that that will not go for a bigger dick becuase they dont want to cause their partner to feel less like that.
5. Patience. To a woman or couple time is key at times. They want to get to know you. Dont push sex down their throats. Let them being the idea and the conversation there. As a couple we are tired of unasked dick pics. If we wanted to see it we'd ask. If we feel like we want to talk about swx we can bring it up. But we will be done talking of pushed away.
6. Dont be clingy. That is creap shit. Just saying.
I would add, read the couples profile and if is says “don’t contact us we will contact you if she is interested” then do that. The amount of single guys that don’t follow that rule on our page is ridiculous
I agree.
I have even been talking with what I think is a couple, just to find out they are single guys. They always say “by the way im single now, but I can’t switch my profile” this is so annoying, you won’t get anywhere with a couple by starting out with a lie.
Ive seen that alot
Thank you for the advice
One more:
Don't use the words stamina or endowed. You have no idea what you/who you are comparing to when you say you are well endowed and have lots of stamina. These are very subjective. And to Repooutlaws point if you are more of those things, the husband really doesn't want to be out done a lot of times.
Don't use the words stamina or endowed. You have no idea what you/who you are comparing to when you say you are well endowed and have lots of stamina. These are very subjective. And to Repooutlaws point if you are more of those things, the husband really doesn't want to be out done a lot of times.
How about tips for couples? Kinda sick of couples trashing single guys like we're bad. From what I hear, couples are worse than single guys and act like vultures to new couples at events and parties. Coming from Philly, I've seen it myself at events out there. There's a lot of nasty manipulation from couples that you don't get from single guys. Also @ the couple who posted this and those who replied, guess what, guys aren't there for your pleasure, obviously anyone single in the lifestyle be it man or woman is in it for their own pleasure... Likewise you couples are in it for your own pleasure, let's be honest, so we can stop with the hypocrisy. You literally aren't shopping for a piece of meat, though you certainly act like it. If you want to feel respected and attract quality people, start with mutual respect... You are who you surround yourself with.
FUN4HERNOW wrote:
How about tips for couples? Kinda sick of couples trashing single guys like we're bad. From what I hear, couples are worse than single guys and act like vultures to new couples at events and parties. Coming from Philly, I've seen it myself at events out there. There's a lot of nasty manipulation from couples that you don't get from single guys. Also @ the couple who posted this and those who replied, guess what, guys aren't there for your pleasure, obviously anyone single in the lifestyle be it man or woman is in it for their own pleasure... Likewise you couples are in it for your own pleasure, let's be honest, so we can stop with the hypocrisy. You literally aren't shopping for a piece of meat, though you certainly act like it. If you want to feel respected and attract quality people, start with mutual respect... You are who you surround yourself with.
I agree. Fucking COUPLES! They should be BANNED from swinging because they're worse than single guys. Swinging would be WAY better without any couples! Let's start a petition and see if we can't get couples kicked out of the lifestyle. Who wants to sign my petition?
FUN4HERNOW wrote:Interesting perspective. We didn’t see this as a “thrashing” post at all but tips to help. We are all guilty at times of not looking at things from the “other” side of things. Most of these can apply to everyone.
How about tips for couples? Kinda sick of couples trashing single guys like we're bad. From what I hear, couples are worse than single guys and act like vultures to new couples at events and parties. Coming from Philly, I've seen it myself at events out there. There's a lot of nasty manipulation from couples that you don't get from single guys. Also @ the couple who posted this and those who replied, guess what, guys aren't there for your pleasure, obviously anyone single in the lifestyle be it man or woman is in it for their own pleasure... Likewise you couples are in it for your own pleasure, let's be honest, so we can stop with the hypocrisy. You literally aren't shopping for a piece of meat, though you certainly act like it. If you want to feel respected and attract quality people, start with mutual respect... You are who you surround yourself with.
That's great advice, I really appreciate the insight.
I might also add that getting mad when someone they reject you is annoying. I have had single males get mad because I'm not interested or they come on too strong
We have experienced both couples and single men with our rules. We have had better experience with single men than some couples. If you are at a large gathering to make friends don't wast your time, they all have their own little groups and you are not welcome. Small gatherings and parties are great so you can meet and chat with everyone. This is our take on things. Mature couple that's not Ken and Barbie millionaires.
One more thing. If you profile says couple but the female is not available ever, we will never meet you. If you explain you are single now in the profile, that is different. Not being truthful is the biggest turn off for us.
We are who we are. If we hired a ghost writer to write our profiles for us, and a professional photographer to make us look like someone we are not, so that we fit whatever our perception of what it is the in crowd wants then maybe, just maybe we will miss out on catching the attention of the people that really are a good fit. Authenticity is sexy anyway! Be yourself and just let that really flow. But by all means be honest. Unless you really are untrustworthy. Then lie in your profile. People will figure it out. What we do and don't include in our profiles won't change who we are. Lying waste everyone's time including the liars.
Thanks and I thought this much right from the get go. No rush and fine if nothing ever happens. It would just be cool to meet some cool people and have freindly fun.
Like everyone else, we have received some bad emails from single guys. But, we have also gotten terrible efforts from couples too. It never really bothers us. We just chuckle and delete. However, the vast majority of approaches from single guys have been very respectful and in good taste. We have been very fortunate to meet some fantastic single guys and so far, have not had a bad experience with any. Knock on wood!
@PARTYINLV... "Knock on wood" ... funny pun. : )
UtahGuy2 wrote:
@PARTYINLV... "Knock on wood" ... funny pun. : )
Ha
Hahaha. It was intentional. 😀
Amen!
We honestly don't remember the last single guy who didn't just blind friend request us or, if he did write an e-mail, send us something that was almost assuredly spammed to God knows how many others. Ms. Evil finally said, "Enough is enough." and declared that it simply wasn't worth sorting thru the seemingly thousands of "wankers and weenies" (her words not mine) to hope against hope for finding a decent, normal, non-twatwaffly (okay, that one was my word) single dude.
The past 5 or 6 months has been the first time in our long and storied swinging career that we have actively blocked and/or ignored any kind of contact from SM's. It was totally her call on this one and even tho we'd had a very small number of successful encounters with SM's in the distant past she said she's done and I have to abide by her wishes. *shrug*
So it's too late with us, but if I had to give any tips to SM's about initially contacting couples it would be READ profiles, DO NOT contact people in ANY way if they say no single males and DON'T send blind friend requests, PERIOD. Read the profile and respond accordingly with reasons why you think you would be a good match with the couple and why you think you're what they're looking for. Or just keep doing things the other way and sit around wanking and wondering why you aren't having any success meeting SM-friendly couples.
The past 5 or 6 months has been the first time in our long and storied swinging career that we have actively blocked and/or ignored any kind of contact from SM's. It was totally her call on this one and even tho we'd had a very small number of successful encounters with SM's in the distant past she said she's done and I have to abide by her wishes. *shrug*
So it's too late with us, but if I had to give any tips to SM's about initially contacting couples it would be READ profiles, DO NOT contact people in ANY way if they say no single males and DON'T send blind friend requests, PERIOD. Read the profile and respond accordingly with reasons why you think you would be a good match with the couple and why you think you're what they're looking for. Or just keep doing things the other way and sit around wanking and wondering why you aren't having any success meeting SM-friendly couples.
Love the rules. (How do I roll my eyes using my computer keyboard?) Why don't we all just show respect and have tons of fun! Possible without all the bashing??
FUN4HERNOW wrote:
How about tips for couples? Kinda sick of couples trashing single guys like we're bad. From what I hear, couples are worse than single guys and act like vultures to new couples at events and parties. Coming from Philly, I've seen it myself at events out there. There's a lot of nasty manipulation from couples that you don't get from single guys. Also @ the couple who posted this and those who replied, guess what, guys aren't there for your pleasure, obviously anyone single in the lifestyle be it man or woman is in it for their own pleasure... Likewise you couples are in it for your own pleasure, let's be honest, so we can stop with the hypocrisy. You literally aren't shopping for a piece of meat, though you certainly act like it. If you want to feel respected and attract quality people, start with mutual respect... You are who you surround yourself with.... Bawww bawww bawwww
We've been thrashing, ignoring, making fun of and dissing single males for over 20 years and we had absolutely no consequences, met (and played with!) a ton of wonderful sexy couples and a handful of sweet single girls. The fun will continue with or without you and we do not give a shit lol.
SUENDAN wrote:FUN4HERNOW wrote:
How about tips for couples? Kinda sick of couples trashing single guys like we're bad. From what I hear, couples are worse than single guys and act like vultures to new couples at events and parties. Coming from Philly, I've seen it myself at events out there. There's a lot of nasty manipulation from couples that you don't get from single guys. Also @ the couple who posted this and those who replied, guess what, guys aren't there for your pleasure, obviously anyone single in the lifestyle be it man or woman is in it for their own pleasure... Likewise you couples are in it for your own pleasure, let's be honest, so we can stop with the hypocrisy. You literally aren't shopping for a piece of meat, though you certainly act like it. If you want to feel respected and attract quality people, start with mutual respect... You are who you surround yourself with.... Bawww bawww bawwww
We've been thrashing, ignoring, making fun of and dissing single males for over 20 years and we had absolutely no consequences, met (and played with!) a ton of wonderful sexy couples and a handful of sweet single girls. The fun will continue with or without you and we do not give a shit lol.
I still say we should outright BAN couples from this site. I guarantee it will cut down on the single male bashing and make Swingular a much friendlier place. Happy to start the petition and send it to ADMIN.
On second thought it wouldn't be a bad idea to ban single females too. They're too damned picky AND they get into parties and events FREE or at a greatly reduced cost. It simply isn't fair! Life is supposed to be fair, dammit!
EVILDOERS wrote:
I still say we should outright BAN couples from this site. I guarantee it will cut down on the single male bashing and make Swingular a much friendlier place. Happy to start the petition and send it to ADMIN.
On second thought it wouldn't be a bad idea to ban single females too. They're too damned picky AND they get into parties and events FREE or at a greatly reduced cost. It simply isn't fair! Life is supposed to be fair, dammit!
I'll sign the petition.. or maybe only allow couples and females willing to fuck every retarded single male ever sets his eyes on the lifestyle. Let's be more tolerant and inclusive?? FUN4HERNOW deserves it.
FUN4HERNOW wrote:
Coming from Philly, I've seen it myself at events out there...
In west Philadelphia born and raised
On the playground was where I spent most of my days
Chillin' out maxin' relaxin' all cool
And all shootin some b-ball outside of the school
When a couple of guys who were up to no good
Started making trouble in my neighborhood
I got in one little fight and my mom got scared
She said 'You're movin' with your auntie and uncle in Bel Air'
Wow,...being new, and reading this thread...that's pretty much all I got. Just wow...feels like a Facebook politics page.
There are douche bag singles and there are douche bag couples. I personally think people attack what they are afraid of. When we were new in the lifestyle I didn't see the purpose of SM. I thought they were all creepy, dirty, and should be banned from this Swingers site. As we grew in ourselves within this lifestyle that actually seemed to change. We find if much easier to find singles (at least SM) to play with rather then try and find 4 people that everyone meshes. We actually meet up and end up playing with SM much more then anything these days.
With that said the beginning of this thread is dead on. If your profile looks like all you care about is the size of your penis, and what you think you can do with it, you won't get a second glance from us. We look for SM that present themselves well, can hold a normal conversation and not creep us out.
With that said the beginning of this thread is dead on. If your profile looks like all you care about is the size of your penis, and what you think you can do with it, you won't get a second glance from us. We look for SM that present themselves well, can hold a normal conversation and not creep us out.
Swingular has proven pretty worthless for a married man looking.
For sure! And it’s not just Swingular. Because of the cheaters and plethora of single men, legitimate married men with verifiable hall passes are low men on the swinger totem pole.
Candyrocks69 wrote:
Swingular has proven pretty worthless for a married man looking.
Chato8 wrote:
For sure! And it’s not just Swingular. Because of the cheaters and plethora of single men, legitimate married men with verifiable hall passes are low men on the swinger totem pole.
Agree with both! I'm happily married but if I find myself single I won't dare to venture back into the lifestyle as a single dude. I'll just go back to dating and then once I get into a serious relationship talk to my new girl about the LS.
We've seen handsome, well spoken educated guys at LS events yet still by themselves and no one giving a shit about them. Guess my wife will feel the same at a gay club.
The question of the ages is: If a man pass his mid-20's so handsome, so cool, so respectful, so educated, so whatever, why is he single??? I think there must be something seriously wrong with him. Most of the time one of them unsuccessfully tries to get our attention, all we hear is shocking crudeness like the type prostitutes have to endure in order to earn a buck for meth.
PLus my wife likes to relate to girls as well, kiss them, play with them, make friends and all that good stuff.
Single Men: Be respectful, check your privilege, understand boundaries and consent. Shoving your dick into her screen is no different that flashing her/them on the street and that action is considered a sexual assault. Yes, even on a site meant for sexual exploration. Decency rules still apply here. She/They don't owe you anything and do not deserve to be shamed because you're being rejected. Learn from it, grow, and be a better person. Have some respect for yourself and they might respect you enough to actually read your messages. Stop being so damn thirsty.
Couples: Single men can be aggressive, disrespectful assholes and they're not in short supply, obviously. It's got to be frustrating to sort through all those terrible messages. I hope you can find a way to filter out the good ones. Good luck.
Single Females: You're the most in-demand, literally everywhere. You're doing great. Get yours while you can and be careful out there. Everyone sucks.
Couples: Single men can be aggressive, disrespectful assholes and they're not in short supply, obviously. It's got to be frustrating to sort through all those terrible messages. I hope you can find a way to filter out the good ones. Good luck.
Single Females: You're the most in-demand, literally everywhere. You're doing great. Get yours while you can and be careful out there. Everyone sucks.
Once a new couple in the LS opens an online dating profile, they will notice the imbalance of emails -from plain crude to decent ones- from single men. There is no way to stop this the same way most porn is directed to men and almost all strip clubs feature female dancers.
So we choose to bash and troll the poor monkey-spanking fellas because, although you can tell we are a "NO SINGLE MALES" couple, they won't stop contacting us and sending dick pics anyways. And yes, in our eyes, they all pay the same price for the actions of a few. It's not like we give a shit.
So we choose to bash and troll the poor monkey-spanking fellas because, although you can tell we are a "NO SINGLE MALES" couple, they won't stop contacting us and sending dick pics anyways. And yes, in our eyes, they all pay the same price for the actions of a few. It's not like we give a shit.
Good point 1404allin.
EVILDOERS wrote:
I agree. Fucking COUPLES! They should be BANNED from swinging because they're worse than single guys. Swinging would be WAY better without any couples! Let's start a petition and see if we can't get couples kicked out of the lifestyle. Who wants to sign my petition?
Evildoers... You are killing me! Hilarious! 🤣
Don't be this guy...
Here's a tip for single guys... DON'T SEND BLIND FRIEND REQUESTS! And for the love of God, read the profile and see if a couple even WANTS to entertain single males.
openmarriage wrote:
Don't be this guy...
This sort of online behavior poisons the water for single males in general. We too have a guy every now and then try the repetitive process, sending request daily. Having good recommendations from couples in the lifestyle attached to a single male's profile, or even more so, word of mouth recommendations from someone we know in the lifestyle, really makes a difference as to whether or not we will accept a friend request from a single male. If a guy's profile content is really compelling, enough to peek our lady's curiosity, we might accept a friend request without any of that. Dick pics and a couple of sentences are not the content that she responds to. Blind friend request, coming from a sender with a less than interesting profile are not going to get accepted by us, or I would imagine very many of the couples living the lifestyle.
Love strolling down Memory Lane, listening to (well, reading) the Golden Oldies from Swingular. Personally, I think SM's are doing it all wrong. It's all about marketing, guys. And mentioning (or showing) your big dick is SO 2019. For instance, casually mention that you recently broke into a hospital and self-administered 4 times the normal amount of COVID vaccine and are now not only free of COVID but of any and all STD's. Next, mention that you have a large stock of toilet paper, hand sanitizer, and lots of guns and ammo squirreled away in your bachelor studio apartment/apocalypse shelter that is ready for any and all contingencies. Lastly, throw in some low-key name-dropping of all the hot young celebrities that you quarantined with during 2020 until you got sick of their shit and kicked 'em to the curb. And if anyone calls you out on ANY of these claims just hit 'em with "alternative facts" or "the truth isn't the truth" and they'll have no possible recourse other than to let you fuck them. You're welcome!
Single Fuys2? First off, learn how to proof read your posts. Seriously. Learn how to write a complete sentence. We've both been been single. We've been a couple. The biggest turn on is someone who can appeal to our mind first. Make a creative offering and good things may follow.
MrandMrsSexyKats wrote:
Here’s some advice for single guys...don’t be single...there’s only a million fucking single girls on tinder waiting for you...
Get over your selfishness and find one...
Otherwise go fuck yourselves...pun intended...
Yeah, I guess there's that. And not to go continue to go too far off-topic, a number of years ago there was a single guy here that "got it" and, although they never actually played, flirted furiously with Ms. Evil (and she back) every time they saw each other. Not exactly sure why she never pulled the trigger (figuratively speaking-lol) with him but they were def friends. She asked him a number of times why he didn't have a GF/wife but felt like he never really gave her a straight answer other than a vague "Just haven't found the right girl." or something along those lines. Fast forward a few years and he apparently got a girl pregnant, they moved in together and, last we heard, were even thinking about marriage. It's always been kind of interesting to us to hear their responses when we ask single males why they're, well...single.
Most single males are,
Certified massage therapists
Always say they are different than other single guys
Always say they are respectful
If they are black or latino, they'll make sure you know it right away on their username
If they have a big dick they'll make sure you know it right on their username too
They are always prompt to reply any profile seeking single males sometimes ask people not seeking single males to consider them anyways as they are God's gift to your lady
They often have a lady playpartner but they only tell you after you politely tell them you are not seeking single males as your profile specifies.
"Long was the shot and it missed by far" is what I tell them.
They need utmost discretion and they will give it to you
...and the list goes on. They are quite the catch, aren't they?
But, why no decent swinger clubs allow single males? OR, if they do, they have strict very small numbers or they are confined to a very specific section of the club? Why are only allowed on non-weekend days? They are not even allowed on Sea Mountain,a nudist resort on weekends. We've seen our share of swinger clubs and activities all over the world and single males are mostly treated a second class citizens in most places but usually not allowed to begin with. Even outside of the LS, single males are not allowed on family oriented beaches in some middle eastern countries. If I become a single male, I would not be a part of the LS until I regain a willing long term partner.
Usually they are allowed to partake on this sort of sites and some activities because of the revenues they bring.
What we do know in over 20 years of LS is that this has never been nor it will be an all inclusive lifestyle.
So, my only advice to them is to go seek their elusive non-stop-anything-goes pornographic orgy somewhere else because it's definitely not here.
Happy 2021!
Certified massage therapists
Always say they are different than other single guys
Always say they are respectful
If they are black or latino, they'll make sure you know it right away on their username
If they have a big dick they'll make sure you know it right on their username too
They are always prompt to reply any profile seeking single males sometimes ask people not seeking single males to consider them anyways as they are God's gift to your lady
They often have a lady playpartner but they only tell you after you politely tell them you are not seeking single males as your profile specifies.
"Long was the shot and it missed by far" is what I tell them.
They need utmost discretion and they will give it to you
...and the list goes on. They are quite the catch, aren't they?
But, why no decent swinger clubs allow single males? OR, if they do, they have strict very small numbers or they are confined to a very specific section of the club? Why are only allowed on non-weekend days? They are not even allowed on Sea Mountain,a nudist resort on weekends. We've seen our share of swinger clubs and activities all over the world and single males are mostly treated a second class citizens in most places but usually not allowed to begin with. Even outside of the LS, single males are not allowed on family oriented beaches in some middle eastern countries. If I become a single male, I would not be a part of the LS until I regain a willing long term partner.
Usually they are allowed to partake on this sort of sites and some activities because of the revenues they bring.
What we do know in over 20 years of LS is that this has never been nor it will be an all inclusive lifestyle.
So, my only advice to them is to go seek their elusive non-stop-anything-goes pornographic orgy somewhere else because it's definitely not here.
Happy 2021!
Well said