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So for the couples from northern utah. We have a concern regarding the fact we play alone with single friends. 1st the problem is that we have had a difficult time finding single guy friends that are able to live up to the skill standards that the Mrs expects and is in need of to be able to truly enjoy playing alone. She doesn't want to go through 100 average joes to find 1 skilled, reliable, respectful, play friend. Now we know this may be cheating the system but we thought if any if you have any of these friends that you wouldn't mind sharing it would save a lot of un necessary searching and weeding through of people that all think they are the best thing ever. Thanks in advance for recommendations! Now for the single men out there. We don't want to offend anyone in our search for the perfect friends. So if you are with someone, and you do nothing wrong, are perfectly respectable, but for whatever reason do not meet the sexual standards of a partner......... how would you, or would you at all want to be told this information. I ( he) am of the opinion that the truth is always the safe bet....... but she is shy and doesn't want to hurt anyone and has a hard time being honest about how much or if she enjoys someone. Your thoughts are appreciated! Thanks all and merry Christmas
We've found that the best way to find/vet single males is by the recommendation of other couples. If you have friends in the lifestyle ask them which single guys met the high standards (whatever they may be...size, stamina, ability to get and stay hard, etc.) you are looking for. Of course a few couples might not wish to "share" their fav boy toys so don't be offended if everyone isn't eager to share with you. They may have had to wade through a LOT of toads to find the small fraction of princes out there and might not think it's fair that you don't want to do it the hard way (no pun intended) like they did.

Alternatively if you find a SM profile you like and they have a recommendation on their profile from any couples you can possibly reach out to those couples and, perhaps, ask them for more specifics about the guy and if they would mind you reaching out to the ones that sound promising to you. Most (but not all) ladies are happy to share the "good" guys with others.

As for telling a guy the truth if he doesn't quite do it for you we would recommend downplaying any specifics and just going with something generic like, "I didn't really quite feel the connection that I was looking for but I wish you the very best."...or something along those lines. Being too specific will often cause hurt feelings and some people will lash out. Hell, some will lash out anyway, no matter how easily you let them down. When they get butt hurt like that we always see it as a red flag and it helps us know we made the right decision cutting them loose.

Good luck! :-)
Hope he doesn't mind..." fitfunnhung" I tried to screenshot his profile.without success....you can thank me later!
I totally get that you should have what you want, but please don’t forget that these are humans and not just pieces of meat that exist to service your wife’s needs. At no point in your description did you mention what the SM wants.

Just my $0.02.

Mr. Gingers