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In the exploration of a Cuckquean dynamic, my partner and I have decided that it would be most mutually beneficial to find a cuckold (or hotwife) couple to experiment with.

Are there any simialr age-ranged (+/- 5 years) couples that fit the bill around SLC?
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Not much luck?
Wince looking young man, what’s wrong with the gal in your profile. And will she be participating...
SIMPLEPLEASURES wrote:

Wince looking young man, what’s wrong with the gal in your profile. And will she be participating...


In case there is some confusion with the terminology:

Cuckquean: a woman whose fetish is watching, and deriving sexual pleasure from watching, a man having sex with one or several women
We enjoy being both... 😁
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Sadly we are only a cuckprincess couple. We would LOVE to be a cuckquean couple but, alas, the line of succession is not in our favor.




And fwiw, you might find more than a few people on here that are just a tiny bit skeptical that you aren't just using the "cuckquean" gambit to get around not letting your lady play with others. Oddly enough, we met a gentleman at only our SECOND ever swing party way back in the late 80's who used this, successfully I might add, to get around the fact that it was a couples only party.

He was a single guy who brought his "girlfriend" to a couples house party we attended in Ohio. There was a small group starting to play in the back room and he was really trying hard to get Ms. Evil to play with him. She stopped him and asked where his girlfriend was and he said that she was very shy and usually only liked to "watch" but that I should go find her and bring her back to the room.

I finally found her in the living room, by herself, sitting on the couch reading a book. When I told her that people were starting to play in the back and that she should go with me to see the festivities she gave me an odd look and said, "I'm not going back there."

Turned out she wasn't even really his girlfriend and basically came to the party because he promised that if she did he (a podiatrist) would fix her bunions. So yeah, don't be shocked if not too many people take you up on your offer. Just sayin'....

Disclaimer: If your girlfriend is truly a cuckquean (far more rare than a unicorn!) in the lifestyle then a hearty congratulations is in order and please disregard our skepticism. Unfortunately, we've seen far too many women over the years who were overtly or subliminally coerced into being pseudo-cuckqueans. I know, right? I mean who would even do that? I guess that makes us cuckquean deniers. Oh, and the earth is flat too, bee tee dub.
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Hahaha. Personally I always enjoy your wit Mr. and Mrs. Evil.
EXPLORINGSIN wrote:

Hahaha. Personally I always enjoy your wit Mr. and Mrs. Evil.


And we enjoy exploring sin. What are the odds? We should totally start a punk ska band together. We'll call it Exploring Evil Sin!

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Don't know who you're asking, specifically, but I'll take a shot at your questions if you don't mind.

1- It's not a bad idea since you ARE a de facto single male since your partner doesn't play.

2- Probably not a lot that you can do. Many will still be skeptical despite any verification from your partner. As I alluded to previously, many women may feel overtly or subliminally "coerced" (for lack of a better term) into not being active participants. It's VERY common. One of the things that surprised us greatly when we first started swinging was how often it was actually the guy who, when the panties hit the floor, actually had major jealousy issues rather than the woman.

Here's a question for you. Have you explored, deeply, your partner's reasons/rationale for not wanting to participate fully in swinging? Is it a religious/moral, philosophical, or irrational reason? A true cuckquean is extremely rare. Is there any possibility at all that you could be unintentionally influencing her decision not to play with others?

3- Not that often, but when she does, because there are SO many single males, she pretty much has her choice of the cream of the crop. As a, for all intents and purposes, single male you are competing with a large group of men and anyone who isn't at the peak of youth, fitness, stamina, and, yes, even dick size, is often at a distinct disadvantage.

You may want to consider joining some sites like Ashley Madison or BeNaughty or one of MANY other "affair" sites. You don't technically have to be a cheater (which you're not, obviously) to join those sites and look for other women to fuck. You may even find someone who is open to your partner watching. Also, there are websites specifically catering to the hotwife lifestyle however they are pretty much overrun by single males looking for easy, NSA sex. Just a thought.
Few people fully fit the descriptions we seem to use to define people within the lifestyle. Sexual drives are often almost pure energy and under the spell of erotic arousal, isn’t it sometimes difficult to even remember or understand why we set some of our ground rules prior to engagement? That has been our experience. We are at the point that we both really enjoy seeing each other or hearing about our other half in a state of total surrender to the sex they are having. It is no longer a threat in the least. We have already proven to be each other’s favorite lovers and more. Bring on the sex goddesses and sex gods, we want to see each other writhing and bursting with pleasure! Freedom to fully enjoy is an excellent gift we give to each other!
The two of us have enjoyed almost four decades together as a couple. We enjoyed an extremely sexual monogamous relationship for over two decades while we were raising our children. So, our relationship is center stage, sexually and in every other way. We really enjoy swinging together and when we full swap with others, we very much enjoy sex with each other too. We both have hall passes and we both use them from time to time. At this point we both also enjoy each other’s sexuality vicariously. We do not enjoy anything, or anyone disrespectful. Prohibiting either of us from participation does not sound like fun to us. We both revel in our joint and separate sexual adventures. Cuckold and cuck-queen are just labels, but they muster up some idea of disrespect and exclusion in our minds. Hot wife and hot husband, as we choose to define those two terms do not. Yes, we have had opportunity to enjoy more MFM adventures than FMF adventures. We have and will yet enjoyed both and more for as long as we still have desire and are yet desirable.
we would enjoy it as well though we have never had the experience its something we have wanted to try. Just too hard to find them unicorns.
we would enjoy it as well though we have never had the experience its something we have wanted to try. Just too hard to find them unicorns.
we would enjoy it as well though we have never had the experience its something we have wanted to try. Just too hard to find them unicorns.
Maybe the way to eliminate miscommunications would be to make very specific declarations of intent and desire. Even then people will express skepticism, doubt and yes even judgment. Really, maybe we should not let that bother us. We are going to run across people looking for something that does not interest us. Why should it surprise us that some other people are not going to be interested in whatever it is that interest us?

If a woman is really interested in watching her husband or boyfriend having hot sex with other women that’s great. She probably has a preference as to what type of women interest her the most. Maybe it is harder for some women to express their wants? Sexual stereotyping seems to sometimes invade the swinging community's collective social consciousness. Hey we were all and still are subjected to strong social sexual bias and role modeling.

I really, really, really enjoy my beloved wife having great sex with a polite, charming and respectful partner. I like to watch, I like to join in and I like to hear about it later if she plays alone. I like all of that more than just a little. Of course she enjoys sex with a polite, charming and respectful lover and my encouragement makes it that much hotter. If a hot wife knows that her husband totally enjoys and applauds her having earth shaking orgasms while she is experiencing and enjoying another man, woman or couple's bodies that can lead to a lot of joy! We share the experience whether we are there or not when it happens, in our minds we are both always there. It’s sooo hot.

So why is it less probable that woman, even a woman deeply in love with a man would not enjoy him having the same sort of experience. Why wouldn’t a man enjoy it just as much when he is the object of such intense sexual focus?
MKNORTH wrote:

A unicorn isn’t the only option. We are a cuckquean couple and we have met up with a cuckcold couple. That’s a good match


Same here! It is great fun!
DELICIOUS, Okay, I'll bite. I think it's less probable because women, in general (Although I generally HATE generalizations! lol), are wired to be less visual than men. The ONLY reason I brought up my skepticism is our personal experience in almost 30 years of swinging. And while we were not extremely active actually playing all those years we have met and talked to hundreds if not thousands of couples and singles in that time period.

We've seen just about every iteration of kink, sexual preference and proclivity out there and, like I said before, a true cuckquean is quite rare. We've actually met exactly ONE in all our time in the lifestyle trenches. And THAT one was suspect because we both noticed, as we questioned her at length (because we'd never met one before), that she would glance at her husband every single time (we assume to gauge his reaction) before she would respond to something we asked her. Her body language spoke volumes.

I'm not denying that there are cuckqueans out there, just that they're very rare. On the other hand, we've met dozens and dozens of what we call pseudo-cuckqueans who are such only because they either don't really want to swing at all but allow their partners to do it out of some kind of fear and/or insecurity OR they are being coerced, at least on some level. The OP could absolutely be in a cuckquean relationship but Occam's razor suggests that it's often more likely the simpler explanation.

But I totally get (but don't necessarily agree with) how/why some women might bow to their husband's wishes when it comes to playing or not playing in the lifestyle. I also get why there would be considerable disagreement and pushback from those couples when I mention the possibility that they might be somewhat disingenuous as to their true intentions. I promise not to get my 'feels' by anyone (or EVERYONE!) who disagrees with me as long as nobody gets upset that I brought up my skepticism. :-)

Just out of curiosity, how long have you and your wife been swinging and how many true cuckqueans have you encountered?
EVILDOERS wrote:

DELICIOUS, Okay, I'll bite. I think it's less probable because women, in general (Although I generally HATE generalizations! lol), are wired to be less visual than men. The ONLY reason I brought up my skepticism is our personal experience in almost 30 years of swinging. And while we were not extremely active actually playing all those years we have met and talked to hundreds if not thousands of couples and singles in that time period.

We've seen just about every iteration of kink, sexual preference and proclivity out there and, like I said before, a true cuckquean is quite rare. We've actually met exactly ONE in all our time in the lifestyle trenches. And THAT one was suspect because we both noticed, as we questioned her at length (because we'd never met one before), that she would glance at her husband every single time (we assume to gauge his reaction) before she would respond to something we asked her. Her body language spoke volumes.

I'm not denying that there are cuckqueans out there, just that they're very rare. On the other hand, we've met dozens and dozens of what we call pseudo-cuckqueans who are such only because they either don't really want to swing at all but allow their partners to do it out of some kind of fear and/or insecurity OR they are being coerced, at least on some level. The OP could absolutely be in a cuckquean relationship but Occam's razor suggests that it's often more likely the simpler explanation.

But I totally get (but don't necessarily agree with) how/why some women might bow to their husband's wishes when it comes to playing or not playing in the lifestyle. I also get why there would be considerable disagreement and pushback from those couples when I mention the possibility that they might be somewhat disingenuous as to their true intentions. I promise not to get my 'feels' by anyone (or EVERYONE!) who disagrees with me as long as nobody gets upset that I brought up my skepticism. :-)

Just out of curiosity, how long have you and your wife been swinging and how many true cuckqueans have you encountered?


We have been swinging, maybe 15 years? Not sure what year we started. We know quite a few couples where the wife loves to watch her husband as much as he loves to watch her. They both want to have sex as part of their swinging experience. We know fewer couples where she enjoys letting him play with a hall pass, and no we have never really met a couple where the woman only wanted to watch him, and nothing else, and it was not mostly just to please him, rather her own and only burning hot desire. Does not mean it could not happen.
I agree that it "Does not mean it could not happen." but, if we're 29 years in and you two are 15, give or take, and we've met ONE (and arguably, at that) and you none, what is the probability? Your admission doesn't decrease my skepticism.

Look, the bottom line is that people LIE. I'm not saying the OP is lying. But everyone lies...about all kinds of things. Some big, some small (And yes, we would consider this one closer to a little white lie.) And we've found, in 29 years of swinging, that people are even MORE likely to lie to get sex. That's why we're just a little bit skeptical about things like this and about things like STI status (A much bigger lie in our opinion). YMMV
The craigslist personals would have been so proud! Lol

“Does anyone want to be a pseudo-cuckquean?”