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Hi, we're new both to Swingular and to the lifestyle community. We've had several FWB relationships over the years but this is the first time we've tried reaching beyond our social circles to find more like-minded people. Two questions:

1) Beyond attending meetups and parties (which we'll do), what's the best way to find new contacts on Swingular? Since we can't see friends of friends, it's hard to know where to look for people who are likely to be compatible with us. We're also not sure where/how the Swingular community could find our profile. Do y'all have any tips for making our profile more visible on the site?

2) We're extremely new to online dating in general and we're not confident that we've created a profile that's likely to capture the people who really are compatible with us. We welcome any feedback from experienced Swingular users about how we can improve. Don't worry about hurting our feelings. We can take it. :)

Thanks for your help!
I would make your second pic your main pic. :-)
CLIFFNOTES wrote:

I would make your second pic your main pic. :-)


I would like to be the second to second the choice of the second pic, it would make me want to come back for seconds.....
That's super helpful feedback, thank you! Done.

Anything else?
We want to be in the third pic😈
JJSEXYTIME wrote:

We want to be in the third pic😈


Invitation extended! 👯‍♀️🙃
Just a few general suggestions ...

My wife and I are still somewhat new to the LS (since March), and we have found that most couples like to see clear pictures of the two of you together. They don't need to show your faces clearly (which is always nice), we all understand the need for discretion. BTW ..., your pics are very attractive!

"Honest" and recent pictures that not only compliment you, but represent what you actually look like now.

In your profile description, try to write something unique about yourselves. So many of the descriptions that we read look like they were cut and pasted from everyone else's profile. It's nice to read something that looks like someone actually put some thought into what they had to say.
Awesome feedback, thanks Roadmaster! Our pics are 100% recent, honest, and unedited, and we've included some very personal information in our profile. We've wondered whether it's TMI, honestly.
The difficulty of sites like this is they don't capture what will actually connect you to other humans. Traits such as education, lifestyle, politics, shared interests (outside of sex) and the like are all not listed.

People on the sites tend to describe themselves in vague but positive terms that don't tell you much. Things like "laid back", "loves the outdoors", and "shy at first but wild once you get to know me" appear almost universally. Although these things are undoubtedly true--they don't define who you are going to be friends with.

The fact that everyone on here is open to the lifestyle in some form or the other is just a start. You really need to find friends here the same way you would find them in the real world.

All of that takes time and effort. Also keep in mind, some research suggests that as many as 40% of profiles on sites like this are fake. What do I mean by fake? Maybe the wife isn't even aware. Maybe it is a kid who is just trying to get you to swap pics. Maybe it is a bot. Maybe the couple only likes to chat but never really wants to meet. Who knows?

The trick is patience--just like in the real world. It isn't hard to find people to hook up with. But to find friendships that share this special aspect--that is worth the hard work.

Good luck!
Agree 100%, ABC. We're new to this community because we've mostly tapped our existing network of friends (and friends of friends) to find FWBs—the rest of the time we've found people on regular dating sites/apps where people do actually share more about themselves on their profiles. We're interested in quality over quantity, and we're extremely patient. We've never had a great one night stand.
We probably have too much written content within our profile, but you can't accuse us of being vague. It does tell anyone who reads it something about us. We are our own unique form of crazy, as it were! We enjoy it! People will figure out who you really are soon enough, so trying to sound like, or trying to look like, what you think people might want is really kind of silly. We have discovered that people with a really different perspective, and set of experiences can be quite interesting, engaging, refreshing and attractive when they are comfortable being who they really are.

You two look great, sound intelligent and even more important sincere, and comfortable in your own skin. We would say more of the same will bring about all sorts of good things and happy sexy encounters!
It’s good to find a circle of friends within the lifestyle. We find we enjoy the company of most new people that come into that circle. Because we have not really met anybody off the site for awhile. Sometimes I wonder if the messaging on here even works
Like any dating site this is hit and miss. Like the others have said, pictures, profile, and friends help. If you have friends in the lifestyle, that's probably your best way to meet new friends. I know I am the single guy giving advice, but I am single by choice. I have some good friends on here and going to events and out of town with them is how to make the most of it. It's not, in my opinion, how many people you sleep with, but the relationships. More than any sexyal experience, the friendships built are what I cherish.
We’ll take the OP and JJsexytime in the same room. Ready... Go!
Thanks everyone!
Forgot to mention on my other post. That profile pic is straight 🔥. Super sexy. That will definitely catch some attention 😍