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Being new to the LS and only had a couple of encounters we were wondering some techniques and ideas for helping to make the next step from light conversation to wanting to go play and have fun. It always just seems awkward to make that transition
URIAH wrote:

I learned early on that the best way to get started is to simply take your clothes off. This usually also generates goodwill with your new friends due to their appreciation of and respect for your initiative.

Uriah


I took all my clothes off once at a movie theater... I guess all my new friends there weren't really my friends, it was really awkward during the police escort out of the theater.
Okay I like that it's bold it's showing initiative. Would people think you are getting too pushy right off the bat by that
^^Most definitely

Honestly, a large part of the lifestyle (in our experience) is figuring out what you want and how to communicate that with other couples. Personally, I would not just strip unless I'm sure all 4+ people are on the same page.

They did a few seminars on this topic at Young Swingers Week in Jamaica last week. There were some good pointers there, such as using body language/touch (shoulder is casual, elbow is more interested, small of back is intimate) and gauging reactions. Or giving the other couple plenty of chances to say "yes" either through word or action by opening up opportunities to do so.

One of the things that we like to do as a couple is invite another couple (or single friend, or small group) over to play naughty board games. Turns out you can turn any game into a strip game if you're creative enough, and that's a good way to allow people to ease into whatever their comfort level is. Every gets as naked as they feel is comfortable, then you can start swapping "favors" or "truth or dare" style challenges or whatever instead of stripping once you're as naked as you want to be.
I like URIAH's idea ... I/We have tried that in the past and it worked well ~ Strip poker and other card and board games are fun to start .... My FAV is: get naked in a comfortable setting and start with mutual sensuous massage = so relaxing and arousing ~
Some good advise