Do friendships happen on this website? Friendships out of the bedroom then in the bedroom? Friendships where you have more things in common other than getting naked and sex? Or are we crazy for wanting a connection with who we are getting naked with?
Absolutely they happen. Some of the best friends we've made are from this site. There are some really good people on here.
It seems like there are two general classes of swingers. The 'one and done, "we already have all the friends we need just bend over and take it"' crowd and 'the more friends the merrier, in fact "we prolly won't fuck you until we know you a little better"' group. We fall into the latter group. In fact we're pretty much here solely for the friendships. I mean, if sex happens that's awesome. But it's not our raison d'etre cuz we can always go home and enjoy the hell out of banging each other. YMMV
Some of our best friends are from this lifestyle.
Only six months into the LS now, and this evening we returned from a wonderful dinner and drinks with 2 other LS couples. They were simply fun to chill with tonight because they are nice folks whose company we enjoy
Yep they do :-)
Looking for friends in the LS may take time, but it does happen. This is our quest, like “evildoers” states there are several kind of crowds and you have to be resilient when you meet couples that are ready to play, but let’s be realistic, the final goal of the LS is to have an approved sexual encounter. This is why it takes time to make friends with no initial sexual interaction, there are out there.
Even when you meet couples with your same interests, there still has to be chemistry in order to go pass the first meet. Wish you the best in your journey, you’ll find them or they will find you.
Even when you meet couples with your same interests, there still has to be chemistry in order to go pass the first meet. Wish you the best in your journey, you’ll find them or they will find you.
Well that's the way we like it to be friends as best as far as we are concerned, you do have to meet people and you got to have something else in common in order for things to click. Doesn't mean you can't meet a couple or single person have a few drinks dinner whatever and things click and well off you go naked miss here we come. But it is nice to make friends you can spend weekends with and do things outside of the bedroom. That's just our opinion
Absolutely! We’ve met several amazing couples that we enjoy hanging out with. Keep looking and don’t give up. It takes time.
Its what we would like to eventually happen, we like to hang out more than just a single time in the bedroom. Even though were having a tough time just trying to meet once. :/
Us too. We like to make connections with people. We would really like to be able to go do things together and not have to watch what we say and just enjoy sexy friends.
Sex doesn't have to be on the table. We have met several people that say that they aren't looking for just sex and that they have a great marriage.....then when you spend a little time around them....you can see quite a different picture. We TRULY have a great marriage and all of this is extra curricular and not a replacement. We know that there are genuine couples like us out there. These are the people we are looking for.
Sex doesn't have to be on the table. We have met several people that say that they aren't looking for just sex and that they have a great marriage.....then when you spend a little time around them....you can see quite a different picture. We TRULY have a great marriage and all of this is extra curricular and not a replacement. We know that there are genuine couples like us out there. These are the people we are looking for.
We like the friend connection a lo. Then the benefits of non-vanilla to come.
^^^^could not have said it better Sexyadventure^^^
We have many awesome friends that are in the lifestyle that we get together often with. They are fun sexy friends that you can have a whole different sense of humor around without the expectation of anything more than their friendship. These are friends we trust more than any vanilla friend. We have laughed and cried and seen each other through good and bad times.
We have more lifestyle friends that we go out with and do things than we do vanilla friends. We are always looking for more too
Our most dependable -- the kind of friends that have your back -- are LS friends. We value them a lot! XOXO
We are the same as Wetandhard, more LS friends than Vanilla. Always more fun. Can be trusted and best of all, non judgmental. We can tell them anything and usually do.
Hey ya'll, we joined up hoping to find friends first, with benefits eventually, but so far no go. We may be older but we still like to have fun around town or country. We have recently been released of a family situation and since have come to realize how smallour social circle truly is. We are fun and outgoing, but most of our friends have " retired from the social scene". We are now heading over to Club 90 once again looking for some connections with open minded friends to be. If your interested ... We'll be there. Frank has a beautiful robin egg blue shirt and mine is glitzy red. Hope to meet Someone there. 🤗😘
For us time is an obstacle to socializing. We have numerous adult offspring, and yes we have a few grandchildren, and we have vanilla friends, and we have jobs and do some volunteering and try and fit in some hobbies. We both seem to make friends easily enough, so that we end up doing a certain amount of socializing with people we see at work or in our vanilla world. Throw in the unexpected and there isn't much time left. We have a hard time making everything fit into our schedules as they are now. Honestly, we might disappoint someone, looking for someone they can hang out with every week, if they are looking to have us all to themselves. It seems, that busy people, do well hanging out with people who are also often on the run, and busy associating with other people. That might mean you see these sorts of people, while they are busy seeing other people. For us we are pretty good friends with our family, and many of their friends, and our family members, are pretty good friends with quite a few of our friends, and we end up hanging out. It's often pretty impromptu. It's not that uncommon for twenty people to be at our house having a meal or just hanging out. Our house, is one of those houses people just walk into. If in any social circle, the majority of the people hanging out are not swingers, and swinging would make them uncomfortable, then swinging probably won't happen. So swinging for us is a bit compartmentalized. But yes, we would not mind making a few more good friends, who fit in with our crowd, that also happened to be swingers, and not in everybody's face about it. People we could see more frequently, that fit in with our friends and family, who we could swing with in private. People we could see more of in and out of our clothing. Proximity, discretion and spontaneity are all a big plus.
I have meet a lot of friends in the lifestyles over the years .I would say some of the truest ones that are more dependable than family members. The lifestyles are all about having fun ! It's not uncommon to play one night and say barbecue go to a race or do something with the family the next night. For me it's definitely not all about who my next play date is going to be . Not everyone you meet you will play with .Yet some of those people you don't may turn out to be a friend for life..
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Us too. We like to make connections with people. We would really like to be able to go do things together and not have to watch what we say and just enjoy sexy friends.
Sex doesn't have to be on the table. We have met several people that say that they aren't looking for just sex and that they have a great marriage.....then when you spend a little time around them....you can see quite a different picture. We TRULY have a great marriage and all of this is extra curricular and not a replacement. We know that there are genuine couples like us out there. These are the people we are looking for.
This is us, totally agree... took us a while as a couple to determine what we wanted from this lifestyle, at first we felt pressure that we had to participate and that almost killed it for us. But we have learned that this is our adventure and we are going to approach it on our terms. So right now, we are just looking for fun people to build relationships with and enjoy the freedom of liberating conversations and laughs.
We are new as well and we love to go the social aspects like the upcoming Halloween and past dances as well.
We want to make friends we can travel with and go on adventures with. We are in our mid 40s and look and feel the sexiest (we feel) we have.
Our kids are at home but older and we can go do more things. We love our Weekends!
We would love to find other fun adventurous couples.
Thx
M&J
We are trying to get tix for the Halloween party!
We want to make friends we can travel with and go on adventures with. We are in our mid 40s and look and feel the sexiest (we feel) we have.
Our kids are at home but older and we can go do more things. We love our Weekends!
We would love to find other fun adventurous couples.
Thx
M&J
We are trying to get tix for the Halloween party!
Absolutely they do, we are very fortunate to have meet so many amazing friends while in the lifestyle and do many different activities outside of ls events. Last month over 30 plus of us just traveled to cancun for a week getaway. I truly think ls friends are more loyal friends
We have the most friends we've ever had after being in the LS for 1 1/2 years. Our kids keep asking us how we have so many friends and where we meet them. We usually just say from motorcycling or parties and friends of friends. But seriously these are the best friends we could ask for and we hardly ever do things with our vanillas. 
Happens all the time, patience is the key for us, sometimes life gets in the way but it does happen.
If you are not making friends with these wonderful people that do this you are really missing out