So we recently moved to Utah and are enjoying the life here. We don't have any friends where we can share the lifestyle and just hang out.
We would also be up for meeting fun couples to do more with. We have been to a couple of meet up but it seems like everyone knows each other. We had a great host who helped introduce us. Thank you so much.
I guess the question would be what to expect when meeting a couple at a bar as friend's or possibly more.
Sre there any icebreakers? I guess we are super normal with this one side so early on in conversation it more a normal get to know you then maybe more.
Is what I am saying realistic, normal or just have to set expectations.
We would also be up for meeting fun couples to do more with. We have been to a couple of meet up but it seems like everyone knows each other. We had a great host who helped introduce us. Thank you so much.
I guess the question would be what to expect when meeting a couple at a bar as friend's or possibly more.
Sre there any icebreakers? I guess we are super normal with this one side so early on in conversation it more a normal get to know you then maybe more.
Is what I am saying realistic, normal or just have to set expectations.
We're in Ogden. Looking for a couple to hang out with as well.
Meet and Greets have not be to successful for us. Seems like most people have their own little clicks or looking for Ken and Barbie That's not us we or looking for real friendship
We've been to a couple of meet up events and I agree that it seems a little tough to break into the crowd. That's not a knock on anyone -- it's just how people are when they're already comfortable in their groups.
We have run into the cliques before at meet and greets, been a turn off for us as well. We have been hesitant to go to a house party as well for fear We would be the outsiders. We are on the quiet side so it is hard for us break into those cliques. We are looking for friends outside of the bedroom and in. So is going to a meet and greet a good way to meet friends like that?
We have always found that dinner 2 on 2 is best way to meet people and get to know them better. We have met some great people this way and a second date is then easier to plan
We've found that the best approach is to NOT have any expectations. Unfortunately, you can't manage other's expectations. Personally, we just enjoy meeting, hanging out with, and laughing our asses off, with fun, cool peeps that we don't have to censor ourselves around. The whole sex thing, while amazing and, let's face it, why we're all here, is totally secondary to us. But it's sometimes hard to find couples who don't get upset if sexy times don't necessarily happen. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I couldn’t have said it better evildoers. We never go in with expectations. Just go and laugh and have fun.
^ main reason we don't or have not really done dates. Don't want the expectation that Sex is definitely going to happen. We do like to get to know a couple before. But I suppose it could with the right couple in the first date. We've been lucky enough to fall into a group of great people that introduce us to a lot if new couples
Expectations are predetermined disappointments!!
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When you go to a bar to meet another couple for the first time, go with no "sexpectations". Then you can relax and be yourself. Hopefully, there will be enough chemistry needed to go out again with them. If not, just know that it's ok if it didn't work out. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Just don't bad-mouth anyone because it's not necessary and this a small community we play in.
We live in Vegas and enjoy all the meet & greets here. It's true that they can be somewhat cliquish and there some people who are definitely looking for Ken & Barbie. But overall, lifestyle people are more tolerant, nice, and understanding. We try to be nice to everyone that talks to us. When we attend some for the first time, we have to force ourselves to assert ourselves by walking up, introducing ourselves, stating we are new and could use some advice or guidance. If we get one or two telephone numbers before the evening is over, then we had a very successful night. Each time you go, you will meet more and more people.
When you go to a bar to meet another couple for the first time, go with no "sexpectations". Then you can relax and be yourself. Hopefully, there will be enough chemistry needed to go out again with them. If not, just know that it's ok if it didn't work out. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Just don't bad-mouth anyone because it's not necessary and this a small community we play in.
We live in Vegas and enjoy all the meet & greets here. It's true that they can be somewhat cliquish and there some people who are definitely looking for Ken & Barbie. But overall, lifestyle people are more tolerant, nice, and understanding. We try to be nice to everyone that talks to us. When we attend some for the first time, we have to force ourselves to assert ourselves by walking up, introducing ourselves, stating we are new and could use some advice or guidance. If we get one or two telephone numbers before the evening is over, then we had a very successful night. Each time you go, you will meet more and more people.
So far we have found everyone to be super nice and friendly once we can begin to talk.
I think the meet and greets are a bit overwhelming for new people..especially if new in lifestyle. It's exciting but overwhelming.
I think the meet and greets are a bit overwhelming for new people..especially if new in lifestyle. It's exciting but overwhelming.
We like to meet for dinner. We try to find a place and time for it not being too crowded. That way we can talk some. And there is always afterward in the car for more non vanilla talk. We have it in our profile we don't play first date.(but, we have had it happen where all just can't wait.) We like to have conversations in the hot tub also. And even then no one is committed to playing. We like our fun to be with friends that we will go out with in public and play in private. So the more normal the merrier for us. LOL....
What does everyone suggest for couples new to the life to meet people.
We are in 
Here's an idea...
Why don't all the people who aren't already in a "group" set up their own Meet & Greet?
Call it the "we're not Barbie & Ken Newcomers" group.
Why don't all the people who aren't already in a "group" set up their own Meet & Greet?
Call it the "we're not Barbie & Ken Newcomers" group.
Our first event was a Risque Soiree event a few years ago, it was a low key quiz game night. I know they have other meet and greets on Sundays at a cafe, just look on their site for dates. The hosts are aawesome and very friendly, downside for us was there were a few creepy single guys when we went.
Another couple was hosting a monthly game night at their restaurant that was really fun. But haven't seen anything in a few months.
Just remember that a lot of people have a hard time making that first initial contact, what you might think as being stuck up could be them also being shy. Everyone has their insecurities and will gravitate to what they feel comfortable with.
Another couple was hosting a monthly game night at their restaurant that was really fun. But haven't seen anything in a few months.
Just remember that a lot of people have a hard time making that first initial contact, what you might think as being stuck up could be them also being shy. Everyone has their insecurities and will gravitate to what they feel comfortable with.
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Our first event was a Risque Soiree event a few years ago, it was a low key quiz game night. I know they have other meet and greets on Sundays at a cafe, just look on their site for dates. The hosts are aawesome and very friendly, downside for us was there were a few creepy single guys when we went.
Another couple was hosting a monthly game night at their restaurant that was really fun. But haven't seen anything in a few months.
Just remember that a lot of people have a hard time making that first initial contact, what you might think as being stuck up could be them also being shy. Everyone has their insecurities and will gravitate to what they feel comfortable with.
Well said - We have a hard time at the parties "splitting a couple from the herd" - it is easy to approach one couple, but a group of chatty people who already know each other is very intimidating (to say the least)... you sometimes feel like the nerds trying to infiltrate the cool kid table.
As of late, we've found, if we work hard on e-mail and kik/chat we are growing our circle of friends and can hit the parties as a group. When we do, we look for the "isolated" couples and invite them in. win/win!
We wanna cum. We used to be regulars on this site. Went away for awhile. Looking to get out and maybe meet some fun couples.
Meeting new people is easy. Finding a couple where there are common interests and the elusive 4-way chemistry & attraction is seemingly much more difficult. So, join the crowd!
Just don't meet with any expectations or simply make it a point not to play on the first date, then there is no pressure.
Have fun and don't take the LS too seriously. Remember, if you are a couple...and this is a very important point, you always have each other.
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Just don't meet with any expectations or simply make it a point not to play on the first date, then there is no pressure.
Have fun and don't take the LS too seriously. Remember, if you are a couple...and this is a very important point, you always have each other.
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We are very interested as well.... Hopefully something works out for this weekend...
Park city mingle this Friday for new people. See meetup